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Sp far I have to deal with the pain......
Once I knew she doesnt feel the same about me I started to feel that knife in my heart. I had in me for 8 years and I still cant get over her...she is my best friend and I see every other weekends. How do I get over her? People say be busy (I go to work and still think of her) People say meet knew people (When I do I feel like I am using others to get over someone)
People say move on (when and how?)
I guess I have to deal with this...
PS I told her I felt and she says she not feel the same. we are still good friends and we do hang out alot with our friends too.
I am basically her only friend she hangs out more often she has other friends too but we hang out more and with my other friends also. I cant just leave and not be her friend it is unfair to her.
Bi/f/20
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Normally when people get over someone it is because of finding someone new or by hating the former object of their affection. Meeting someone new doesn't seem and option and it's apparent that you don't want to hate this girl. I do think you should cut down your time together. Every time you see her you will relive all of this.
You still want to mourn everything and have emotions to get out. Set a time frame to how much more you will let yourself go through this. "I'm going to mourn for the next 2 weeks and that's it." In that time, write down all of your thoughts, cry, think all that you want to. But have a date set for a new start. This gives you a chance to vent. This gives you a chance to think. Plus it lets you visualize an end to the suffering and a new beginning. People with addictions offer use similar ways to start fresh. It should help with your situation as well. But go through your time of mourning and the last night of it, think of how the next day a fresh start. When you wake, just keep telling yoruself that it's a new beginning and fake it it for awhile if need be. I know it sounds silly but if you can pretend to be positive it makes you positive in time.
You've been through alot. There isn't much worse than having an unrequited love. I've been there and I know you have no easy task. This can be overcome though. It takes time, but you can't keep thinking of what could have been. You took your shot. Alot of people never take it. Alot of people never get to say what they feel or get to have that moment. You did well. Having that kind of courage is going to allow you to find the one for you down the road.
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Ok, well i know its hard but you gotta get over her. Its been 8 years and she doesnt feel the same way. Being with her alot is hard, its like when your with her, shes got you, and you cant let go. Be busy, but not like anything that comes up. Find a hobby, read, do a sport. Dont meet someone to use them, but meet new people and be friends. You have to have a little healthy distance, but dont cut her off completely, that would be unfair to her, and you wouldn't be friends. So find a hobby, that has your full attention; meet new people to be friends; and give this girl some healthy distance. I hope my advice helps!
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