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Ok so i have a friend who is like OBSESSED with this guy named ralphy and they used to go out and stuff but they broke up. She says he loves him. Ok so the have sex and i guess this is what she does to try to get him back. I have a feeling they wont EVER get back together because he likes this other girl but isnt dating her because her mom wont let her. Ok so he practically uses her. She doesnt realize it. The gurl he actually likes still hangsout with him and stuff but whithout her mom knowing. My friend constantly tells me she wants to kill herself when she either see's them together or finds out the were together. Im really scared for because he doesnt want her anymore and shes going to end up hurt in the end. Wat should i do to help her out?
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comfort her and show her you care =].
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There's not a great lot you can do other than be there for her. She is obviously upset that this guy no longer wants to be with her but frankly, she needs to get over it and move on with her life. He clearly has done so. The sooner she realises there is more to life than getting laid, the sooner she will be able to live her life again.
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She's definitely foolish for having sex with him still. A guy is more likely to want to get back with someone because of lack of sex. Most guys want sex anyhow. What would possess him to change how things are? He can sleep with your friend anytime he wants and gets to walk away. That is actually a fantasy situation for alot of guys.
Your friend has to see that just because she wants a guy, that doesn't mean she gets to have him. She should stop having sex with him. If she does, i'm sure her phone won't ring for long. Maybe then she will see the real situation.
You are in a bad situation. When a friend is blind to things that are obvious to others it's easy to feel hopeless. I've heard Doctor Phil say this. "The definition of insanity is to repeat the same action and to expect a different outcome." Her having sex with him and expecting him to come back is exactly that.
What you can do is be a good friend. If she needs someone to cry to, try to listen. Be there to hug. Be there to cry with her. If you do that she will at least feel some security. She may also realize what she has here in terms of friends.
I'd think she would probably resent any bad words you use towards her ex. She wouldn't want to hear how she should move on.
When she is rational and talking about negative things, you can talk her up. YOu can tell her how she deserves someone that wants her and loves her and things like that. Say positive things about her and let her be the one to say negative things about him. Hopefully she will come to her senses.
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