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Hey, it's Kristen. I'm 17. I'm here to give you advice honestly and straight forward so ask!

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Okay. My friend told me something not to tell anyone. I accidentally told someone though, like it slipped out. She won't talk to me and she told me to tell the person I was kidding and I was just wondering, so I did and now shes like "you're crazy, you're insane" crap like that and it's really annoying but I don't know how to deal with it, because we were really good friends, and I would think she would have been more mature about something like that. Anyway, my question is what should i do about it, there is no way she is gonna let me have my say and tell her what happened and she won't even talk to me. How should I handle this?

I have had this happen before. If you are true friends you can work this out somehow. She can't stay mad at you forever over that. Especially if you just tell the other person you were kidding. Does this friend have internet? E-mail her perhaps or write her a note since she won't talk to you. Let her know you value this friendship and that was a one time thing and how you feel and such. You guys can work this out easily. My friend and I did. If she still doesn't talk to you then shes being a little immature about it. Somehow, if you can, try and confront her in person. Do anything you can to try and talk to her about it without looking desperate or anything. Good luck

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I like this guy. But my guy friend HATES him and i'm so close to going out with this guy but my guy friend says he'll never talk to me again if i go out with him. my friend is begging me to stop liking him but i like him so much! I don't want to lose my friend but i want to gain the guy i like. what should i do?

Well if he is taken than that's a little messed up. He can't tell you who you can and cannot date and if he says he isn't going to be your friend if you do then he doesn't sound like a very good supportative friend. But that's just me. I think if you like this guy you should date him. You can't hold back on something you want just because one friend doesn't like it. I tried doing that and finally did it anyways. My friends got over it eventually. They saw that I was happy. Just if you go out with him try not to make it look like you're rubbing it in and try to keep them away from each other. And try explain to your friend how much you like this guy and that dating him would mean a lot to you and yeah. Work out some plan to make it easy on this friend of yours. Maybe he secretly likes and that is why he is so pissed.. you never know. Good luck with that.

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My mom and I got into a fight last night because i was sick and she didnt want to take me to the doctor. my friend is having a party tomorrow night and i really want to go but my mom says im grounded just because i confronted her with the fact that she is the ONLY one allowed to be sick! He is my next door neighbor and i think i should go anyways! She cant show her butt or we will get kicked out and if she tries to hit me she knows i will call the cops because i have before. Its not fair that because she was in the wrong I cant go. What do you think? I need advice, do i go or not?

GO GIRL, GO GO GO!

xo

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Ok I have this really kewl guy friend and I like him. It's like part of me wants to tell him, but part of me doesnt want to. He's one of the best friends that I have. He's talked my outta doin some pretty shitty stuff. He knows stuff about me that NO-BODY does. I've met both of his parents, and he tells me that his parents like me. And sometimes it seems like he likes me too, but then when this girl(shes my friend and she likes him too,but I liked him first)comes around us, he doesnt act like he likes me. I've like him since August, he knew I liked him then, but then he thought I got over him, but I didn't and I still like him A LOT! and I dont know what to do. Do I tell him or not? And what do I tell him if I do tell him?

I once had a guy friend that knew everything about me and such. Similar problem really. Maybe he acts differently around this girl because he thinks you don't like him anymore. Just tell him. Be like I still like you and I never got over you. I'd probably try and ask him why he acts that way and such. That's bout all you can do. If he knows you still like him and how you feel, he'll prob be a lil different acting. xo

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i just started taking the pill about a month or so ago. i've been majorly moody and emotional. do you think its the pill that has been making me like this?

Yeah. Those pills mess with your hormones and crap. Don't be surprised if you feel the urge to eat a lot. They can do that too.

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Well, My parents bicker and fight about things that they shouldn't. My dad is being a real prick and my step mom ends up in tears. It pisses me off why he has to be a real ass, but I am always told to "mind my own business" or to "shut-up". I get very stressed out and I hate it! It pisses me the F*** off and I have no say in anything that goes on. So, this is the part where you throw advice my way :-/

Been there done that with both my real parents and sometimes my dad and his girlfriend/future step mom. Anywho. You have to put a say in it. Screw then when they tell you to shut up, ya know? Sometimes the most important opinion is the childs. If they see how much this hurts and bothers you they'll try and do something about it more. They must not realize how much they hurt you. If you can't just go out and say it to them write a letter and put it somewhere they both can find it. You need to be heard. It's not right for you to have to hear them arguing. It's bad for a young peoples nerves.. trust me, I know.

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hi im almost 16 and my parents never told me straight up if i can date or not but they know i have anyways i want to bring a guy home how do i ask my mom or should i just bring him or wat i dont want to make my bf feel weird or my parents but this is the thing my bf doesnt speak the language my parnts do he only speaks english and my parents only understand but they cant speak help me out i rate good thanx

You can't just bring him home like that. No way. You never know what could happen. Ask your parents. You are 16 so it's understandable and it sounds like it isn't going to be awfully common for guys you date to speak their language. Just teach him how to say a few things to them to break the ice and have them approve and make sure you ask for him to come over in a nice understand manner. good luck

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what does it mean to pop your cherry? i have heard it tons of times but i never really understood what it meant x3

It's when a girl has sex and loses her virginity. I don't quite know what it is called but something inside of you looks like a cherry and it pops in a way and you get your period or bleed so yeah. You can also pop your cherry from masturbating but that's a different story.

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My mom just moved in with a guy and he has a 13 daughter that I believe is a great person, however I just got out of a mental institution for attempting suicide and depression! I started cutting again and now she is following in my footsteps, I dont want to be a leader in that kind of way, but I cant seem to be able to stop! I want to be a positive influence in her life however I'm just confused! How do I be positive when I'm still a cutter!?!

Hey sis, yeah, I kinda could read a little bit while you were typing this so I know this is your question. Don't sweat it. I'll be there for you the best of my abilities. I love you like blood. And I don't make a huge habit of it, alright?! You aren't influencing me into doing that. I had this habit way before you, alright. Talk to me about if you want, I'll be there to listen. Love you!

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what is masturbating?

That's an interesting thing you have left in my inbox. Well, both males and females can masturbate. Masturbattion is something people do when they feel sexual desire but don't want to have sex. Girls often take their fingers and put them into their vagina and many other things you can look into for yourself. Guys usually put their hand around their penis and rub up and down on it. Although, there are many other ways to masturbate. Such as using toys. And no I don't mean toys you buy from the children section of Wal-mart. These type of toys are found in "adult shops". But I'll let you look into that for yourself. xo*

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What types of paint colors would make a small room see bigger?

Light colors such as pastel colors or baby blue and such. Although, black made my sisters room look bigger and will mine also too. But idk if you're into a black room. xo

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for dark/ medium dark brown hair owuld leik a blonde and cinnamon color highlights look good?

It most defiently would. Go for it! =)

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what would you consider as a slut?? me and my friends act like complete sluts but then they get really pissed off at anyone who calls any of us a slut. ive stopped taking it as an insult when people call me a slut. i don't know what to think! plz help.

There are many definitions for this in the world today. Let's say a girl goes around and kisses this one guy and then kisses another guy after than and continues. That is a small example of being slutty. Sluts tend to dress in a pretty volgar matter, showing lots of skin. If you show lots of skin, it doesn't mean you ARE a slut cause you aren't going and messing around with people that just means you dress in a matter people don't appreciate therefore they call you a slut. A slut is truly just someone who has been around the town before. Is with a different guy everytime you turn around and such. Although, a slut can also be a guy. But people don't tend to give guys the preference slut. xo*

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ahhhh long story
ok this guy ask me out few days before and i turn him down also he got classes with me so i dont kown how can i face him after the thanksgiving break is over so can yall help me out what should i do ?

Sweetie, all you did was say no to him. Just tell him that he's a nice guy but you just don't want to date him and ask him if it is okay if you all were just friends. Why be so worried to face him just because you aren't interested?! There will be other people for this guy, not just you.

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oh gosh i dont konw what to say now.....
ok my friend and i like a same guy he is so fine and all but he can not decided that who does he want to date and all should i quit between him and my best friend? i think i should give up on him and contiuned the friendship between me and my friend so help me out guys

Ya know, my friend and I went through this over the summer. The guy wouldn't make up his mind and my friend lived closer to him anyways. I just let her have her try. I gave up. I was tired of waiting and we are still friends. I figured there would be other guys, and there was. I have a boyfriend now. Just let it go, and let your friend have a shot. If they don't work out, who knows. Maybe you could get a shot later on down the road. Be a nice, peaceful person about it. :) Altho my friend isn't dating the guy yet, they are close to it and I couldn't be happier for her!

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Ok, well, i'm planning to pierce my belly button next weekend by myself. Wut would be the best way to clean it, and which would be the best way to pierce it? (a needle or a belly button ring)

thank you so much-
roxy

Alright, a needle is a good way if you are going to do it yourself, and then after that put the ring in. What you need to do is get some rubbing alcohol so you can sanatize your belly button and dip the needle in there so it is sanatized. Or, you could get a lighter so you can clean and warm the needle to help the piercing. I did it on my sister, and we used the lighter. Before you go poking yourself, get some ice and put it on your belly button and numb the area so you don't feel it as much. Then just start from the top and poke it through. And yeah, this will hurt a little. You might need to numb it more than once and don't be surprised if it bleeds. If you don't finish it and it scabs over, you need to wait until it heals to do it again. And I hope you understand that doing it yourself is very dangerous. You are at risk of infection by getting it done professionally so you better be careful when doing this yourself. Infections can make you sick and such. There is also the risk of hitting the wrong thing and paralizing yourself in areas while doing that. xo**

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Well, there is this guy i like and his bday is in a few days and i dont know what to say/do for him. Any ideas? (and im pretty good friends with him)

I rate high!!!

Well since you're 14, I'm assuming you two are in school, right?! Get some paper and arts and crafts crap and make a sign for his locker saying happy birthday and who it is from, etc. We do that all the time at our skool on people's lockers. Do that and make it cute :) Maybe attach some cute little candy on it. Simple and sweet. xo*

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pleaz help me, i dont no how much it hurts to get you belly button pirced! pleaz help me... i rate high!

Oh, I have mine done. I got it done months ago. I was so scared when I got it done. It does hurt, a very sharp pressure. But see the key to it is, when they are piercing your belly, you need to breathe in deep breaths. Don't stop breathing or it will hurt a lot. I breathed and it didn't hurt. Before I knew it, it was all over and pierced! Don't be scared of it and breathe and stay calm and you'll be good. Make sure if you get that done that you know how to take care of it. xo*

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i don't know what to give my boyfriend for christmas. the only thing i know he's interested in is video games and i don't have money like that. what could i get him with about $20 or $30??

Get him a book with cheat codes for his games. Find out what games he has and buy him a book or two about one or more games. That shouldn't cost a lot if. Get a card for him also. xo*

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My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months. We're getting pretty close. But my best guy friend..who's slept over my house a lot and he's always calling me and always around me..well, now he says that he keeps getting tempted to kiss me and he wants to hook up even if he has to share me. i think its crazy. but i dunno what to tell him. hes really fun and ive had questions whether i like him or not. but i really like my boyfriend and i wanna be with him so bad. what should i tell my best friend?

Welp, your first step is deciding, who do you like more?! I'm assuming your boyfriend, right?! Just tell your best friend. Tell him hey I really like my boyfriend and I really think we have something so if you don't mind could we please just be friends for now and maybe more down the road of life something will happen between us for now. Explain to him how you feel and why you feel this way but make sure he knows that you still want to be his friend. I think you should let him know he can't be trying to kiss you and such and he should calm all that down a little. That isn't fair to your boyfriend. Good luck xo*

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