I like fairies (thus why I am wearing fairy wings in the picture). Good grammar rocks, too. It doesn't have to be perfect but I get frustrated when people completely disregard it. I like every color except pink. I hate the wind. Sometimes, I carry around a little teddy bear I found at an antique store. His name is Robert. I dress very eccentrically. It's not unusual for me to wear a prairie dress one day and a Mod dress (think Austin powers) the next. I don't dye my hair, or wear much make-up. I think it's sad that no one puts any emphasis on natural beauty anymore. I think it's a good thing to be open and educated about sex and other issues that are considered taboo. I have a hard time seeing where homophobics are coming from.
Basically, I'm just some weird teenager in Arizona. If I haven't scared you off already, feel free to drop me a line. -Danielle
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hey i was just wondering: what is the difference between ethics and morality? i've asked around, but people couldn't give me a good explaination, just said it was different. i looked it up and it basically said the same thing. if it is different, how is it? (link)
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I know this sounds kind of weird, but try googling it and throw in 'existentialism' with it. Like "ethics and morality existentialism" and see if you can find anything. When we were studying existentialism we read whole essays on the differences. I'd explain it but I don't think I can word it very well and don't want to confuse you more. ... Hope you can find something!
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okay has anyone else noticed this...
i saw a picture of mary-kate and ashley olsen today, naked waist up.. it looks like theyve had a boob job?
any one know whether this is true? (link)
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I highly doubt pictures of that would be floating around...are you sure someone didn't photoshop it? Some people have way too much time on their hands and can make something look quite real when it is in fact fake.
And even if it was real, and they had a boob job...does it really matter? Is it truly our business?
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Ohk i have a serious question.
And sorry its going to be kinda of long but i would really appreciate if you guys took the time to read this.
i Just watched True life the one about obessive Compulsive disorder. Well alot of the Things those People were doing kinda reminded myself of me. Like not what they would do like count and retouch things because it didnt feel right but heres some things i do.
Thourgh Out the day i make sure all the doors are locked all of them- i dont know why it just bothers me
-Before i go to bed i make sure the doors are locked and the closet on the first floor. When i go in my bedroom i check my closet and make sure my window is locked. Like two days ago i had to make sure my door was locked because i heard something out in the kitchen.
Im afraid of someone coming into my house and taking me. I watch alot of law and order and Csi.
But i dont think that would have any thing to do with it.
-im terrified of needles. When i go to get blood drawn or shots. I start to cry.
-When i see needles on the tv i have to cover my eyes or look the other way. My mom is diabetic and she has to use insulin with the needles i looking at her while she does it.
When i was little i had this dream of me and my friend getting kidnapped by a doctor and he shoved needles in us and i died.
-i Cant throw-up if i do by getting sick or something i won't eat nothing for like the next three days.
-At school with my lockers ill lock them and then check 5-6 times to make sure theres no way anyone can open the locker - I have had my purse stolen from me and my locker broke into before like 3 years ago.
-At work I have to sign off the register everytime i walk away form it. I constantly walk to make sure im off.
I dont really know if this could be ocd. or its just being a strange person. Im 17/f
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I seriously doubt you have OCD. I think a lot of what you have can be attributed to a phobia (like your fear of needles) or just nervous habits. Some of them are a little excessive but I really don't think it's so serious. If you're truly that scared about it though, you could always talk to a shrink. They're definitely better at diagnosing this kind of stuff than we are.
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i have NO clue what to get my b/f for v-day.. he likes skateboarding and hes doing something really really big for me so i want to do/get something nice for him
any suggestions? (link)
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If he's doing something really big for you maybe you could get him a nice new pair of skate shoes? That would be expensive but it's an idea...
If I were you, I'd just look up a skate shop in the phone book and go to one to find something. I'm sure someone at one of those stores could give suggestions, too.
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uhm.... i already had sex, i think 8 times or more but it still hurts, i still didn't feel what they always say when they're having sex..
Whenever i do it with a guy, it still feels like that i'm a virgin...
Any answer for this...? thanks.... (link)
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There might be a few things that you're not doing. Lube can be a big help with these problems. KY is easy to find and is especially made for this kinda stuff. When using a condom (which you should be) you can get the kind that are more lubricated than others. Plus, it's important that you have a lot of foreplay. If the guy goes down on you beforehand, it will make it a lot better. Last but not least, relaxation is key... if your muscles are all tensed up down there, it's going to hurt no matter what.
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im only 13 and im having realllly strong earges for sex... what do i do???
is there somthing wrong with me?
pleaz no "smart ass" awncers... (link)
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Before you do anything that might risk your reproducing, learn how to spell. Also, masturbation is a good alternative. People are supposed to get horny. It happens.
...You said you didn't want smart ass "awncers"...but I gave you a smart ass ANSWER, so it's all good in my book.
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I'm reading Julius Caesar by Shakespeare. Does anyone know a website that has a free MODERN version translation of the book? Thanks! (link)
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Unfortunately, something like that would be pretty hard to find as far as I'm concerned... but sparknotes.com, cliffnotes.com, pinkmonkey.com, or novelguide.com should be of some help to your understanding of the play.
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In early dec. my school had a formal dance. i asked this kid who I kind of liked at the time, but he said no. just flat out no. I was DEVASTATED. So, this month a few weeks ago, i met this new kid who lives in another town (on myspace, but Ive done a play with him so I know hes a real person and really hot) and he sent me messages telling me how BEAUTIFUL i am and that he loved me, etc. etc. Then he gave me his SN. After only a few days of talking he BLOCKED me on AIM, how weird. and gave me a lame excuse that his comp. was broken but I saw his sn on my other sn. I feel rejected, by BOTH these boys and Im 14 and never had a boyfriend or even come CLOSE to it. Please help someone! i feel so bad and rejected. Does anyone know how to cope with this? (link)
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You're letting these guys get to you wayyyy too much. Why do you let these kids that you hardly even know and that aren't even that important dictate your emotions? You're worth a lot more than that. You need to realize your self worth and then guys will start liking you more. Being easily shaken up by a few stupid guys shows you don't exactly have the most self confidence in the world, and a many guys like girls with a lot of self confidence.
Ask yourself this. Would you rather go to the formal with this guy that was just humoring you and stringing you along rather than just being up front with you about not liking you? No, because then it would hurt 10x more when he finally did tell you. Or that other guy... do you really want to be friends with some two faced liar who is too cowardly to just directly tell you the truth instead of block you? No, two faced liars do not make good friends OR boyfriends. When a good guy to date comes along, he won't be a jerk like that. Just wait it out a little longer! Good luck.
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omg. my best friend in the world is being a slut. i mena i love the chick to death but her ex-boyfriend who used her then broke up with her to have "fun" over the break are doing any SEXUAL THING U CAN THING OF. theyve tried haveing sex 3 times but dude. the guy doesnt even like her and isnt planning on even asking her out. and shes inlove with him. hes such a man whore and i told her that she can pick up desises and stuff like that but she acts like she didnt even do anything wrong. i dont know how to tell her to stop without coming off as a controlling freak you know. I LOVE HER TO DEATH but i dont want to yell at her and make it to where she cant tell me stuff anymore. PLEASE HELP! what do i do.
ps. SHES TWELVE. (link)
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All right well whether she's 12 or 22 you're not going to get ANYWHERE with her by calling her a slut. That's just flat out mean, especially when a slut really is a person who's having promiscuous sex with a ton of different people, not just one.
She probably shouldn't be having sex at 12, you're right, but it's her choice and it's her body and you're not the ruler of her life. There's really nothing you can do about it because the more you nag her about it the more she'll probably push you away and become more distant.
Just let her know, when the issue comes up, that you're really concerned and worried about her. You don't want to see her get hurt, which is why you're so upset right now. The more she knows you'll be there for her no matter what, the more she'll start listening to you when you advise her against doing things with this guy. But if you do get to a point where you can do that, don't be judgmental. Just emphasize that you really think he is going to hurt her and you wish she'd reconsider what she's doing.
Edit: Sorry that I didn't tell you what you want to hear but don't expect sympathy when you come back crying that you've lost your best friend for being judgemental and throwing around horribly cruel words like 'slut.'
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You see, this is kind of confusing in my position. My brother Bryan got his fiance Stephanie, I guess you could say fiance, pregnant. The only bad thing is every time I do something that seems okay to do, it's always WRONG to her. First of all, last New Year's Eve, I stayed the whole week with Bryan and Stephanie. We get to the party house, and my other brother Michael and his wife Brandy walk through the door with her younger brother thats my age (Brian), and so I go talk to them for like maybe an hour? So Stephanie gets jealous. She goes off and tells my mom. To make this short, my mom and I ended up getting into a fight that night.
Second of all during Thanksgiving break I stayed with Michael, Brandy, Stephanie, and Bryan. (They moved in with eachother) Stephanie was never home, and when she got home she would always close the door to her room, so I figured she didn't want anyone to go in there, so I just didn't bother. But then she starts sending me messages on MySpace telling me that I'm not talking to her and that she feels left out because I'm not including her! WHAT THE HECK! She sure isn't trying so hard to talk to me! So then on Thanksgiving night at about 10:30. We all got into a fight, Michael and Brandy on my side, and Bryan and Stephanie against us.
So that night I stormed out of the house for about an hour. Everytime I would walk by the door, they were still arguing. After they were done arguing someone finally came outside to look for me. After they found me, we all sat in the living room and talked it out.
(I'm sorry this is soooo long you guys, I just have to get this off my chest.)
Things got better once we started communicating. BUT! After that, New Year's comes along again. So she decides to pull the whole thing all over again!! It's getting very old!
Everyone in my family is getting annoyed by her being all baby-ish and having everyone baby her all the time!
I don't know what to do.
Please help!!!
-Thank you SO much!-
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Okay, here's what you need to do. Since she's the immature one here, you need to step up and show everyone else you're mature (which you sound like you are). AS SOON AS she does something again, confront her. Don't say "hey grow the %$#% up," (even though she needs to) but make sure she knows your side. Say she pulls a myspace stint again, saying you won't make effort. Send her back a message as soon as you get it saying what you said here, "well I wouldn't have known you felt left out because you go in your room and shut the door." and then try to talk to her about it in person, alone. People will start catching on that you're being the logical one and she's just starting drama for no reason. You're not going to get rid of her, it sounds like, so just try not to let her get to you and let her know you're going to stand your ground. Good luck!
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im new to tampons. (i just wore my first one today.) what do girls do at night? because cant you only wear it for a certain amount of hours or something? thank you. (link)
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8 hours is the limit, so many girls just wear pads when they sleep. Sometimes I'll only sleep 5 or 6 hours so I'll just sleep with a tampon in if my period isn't too heavy.
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ok see this is my first time..IM SO TERRIFIED..of using a tampon..i mean whats gona happen? is it gona hurt...is it gona feeel like pressure...please help me (link)
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It won't hurt if you don't stress out so much about it. If you relax, your muscles will relax, and it should just go up pretty easily. It won't hurt unless you push too hard or are just really dry.
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Okay so I've had a cat for quite a while now and lately he has just been bugging me like crazy! He wont eat! No matter what kind of food we place in front of him he just leaves it and then complains some more...I just can't get my head around it and then my parents bug me for not taking good enough care of him. Any ideas on a kind of food he'll really like, and ways to make sure he eats it? (and shuts up?!) (link)
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Take him to the vet. It's not normal for an animal to never eat and is usually a sign of illness.
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well there's this stupid gurl who wants to fight me. she wants to fight me because i looked at her in a dirty way. that's a bunch of bullshit because i always say i to her whenever i see her and she's the one who's always giving me dirty looks! i'm not scared to fight her it's just that i don't want to get in trouble. so what should i do? should i try talking to her? please tell me what should i do?
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Ignore her. Don't confront her even by just talking to her because that will lead to a physical fight. She's being stupid and not worth being friends with anyway, so just stay away from her. Nothing good comes out of fights, so if she calls you a coward or something for avoiding her then who cares?
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Does the phrase "You dont phase me" mean you dont bother me? (link)
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Yes.
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Ok i know it sounds totally weird because im so young (15 very soon) but my boyfriend wants to propose to me for my bday. Hes 17 and i know wont be able to get married for ages and so does he. I think hes still going to propose though. What should I do? We've been going out for 10 months. thanks xx
(Im female by the way...) (link)
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Well here's what I don't get... why does it matter if you're "engaged" or not a few years earlier or something? You won't be able to get married until you're at least 18 so it seems completely pointless for him to propose right this minute. Having the label "fiance" for a couple years longer isn't really going to change anything except put more pressure on the whole relationship. Why don't you try talking to him about all this before your birthday so that there's not some huge misunderstanding? Tell him you love him and will marry him when the time comes but for now it's good to just relax and go with the flow...
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okay well my boyfriend is coming over tomorrow for our anniversary and i want to do something special for him. something sexy that he will like. anyone have any ideas? i rate 5's (link)
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You could always... I don't know... blindfold him as soon as he walks in and tease him... then eventually lead him to the bedroom and rip off his clothes and get really aggressive....whether you remove the blindfold would be your choice. Nice lingerie from somewhere like Victoria's Secret is always a plus if the blindfold is removed... same with dim lighting. some sexy music might work too...
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13/f
Hi,
My boyfriend brokw up with me TWiCE in the past 2 months, and i really still like him.. But i cant get over him and i know he dosent like me anymore.*only as a friend* Im Starting To Like this other kid, that my old boyfriend didnt really like, i dont know if i should date him though?!?! please help.
One More ?...
is it wrong for a 13 yr. old to have sex?
signed,
*soconfused*
Thanks in advance. (link)
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I think if a 13 year old ever has sex, it should be after he or she has dated the person for a long time, like at least a year. I don't think by any means they should have sex after they've just met the person.
I think what you should do is focus on the new guy more, and try to forget about your ex, but don't go out with him just yet. The more you focus on him the more you'll start to get over your ex. Going out with the new guy right now would be bad because you're not done moving on from your ex and he'd just be a rebound. No one likes to be a rebound. It doesn't matter if your ex likes him ... date who makes you happy!
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I can't go to the store and stay there for hours browsing through for books ...so I need titles of books that you think are worth reading and buying. I suppose I'm into fantasy, drama, horror like books. Any suggestions?
9th/10th grade level please. (link)
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Ill met by moonlight and others by that author are good. If you like horror, you'd probably like anything by Stephen King. Some other good books are Speak, Watching the Roses, The China Garden, and the Lord of the Rings novels.
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Okay guys. I need help. I've been suffering from anorexia for about 3 months now. i've went from 140 to 105 in those months. my dad is starting to get suspishious. i need help. i hate anorexia, but i don't want it to go away. i don't know. help?! i rate highh, higher than the sky. haha. (link)
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Think about it this way. You don't want it to go away... but do you WANT to die?
I would hope the answer is no. Anorexia will kill you. If you let this go for too much longer your body will have nothing to feed off of and will...for a lack of a better term...start eating itself. Your organs will start disenegrating and you will look like an ugly skeleton and people will gag when they see you, and then you will essentially rot away and die. This is a really oversimplified way of explaining it but it's still pretty much what happens.
Your dad loves you and wants the best for you. He doesn't want you to be fat, but he doesn't want you to be doing this, either. Think not only of how you are hurting yourself, but everyone who cares about you in the process. How would you feel if your friend was wasting away because she wasn't eating? Shitty.
That said, you need to talk to him. He's there to help you. Tell him that you need therapy, and you need to see a dietician. A dietician will help you start eating well again and will show you how to maintain a healthy weight and not starve yourself.
If you feel like your dad will be ..not understanding at all or yell at you, then please just talk to an adult who seems like they'd be cool about it. They'll talk to your dad for you so that you won't have to have the pressure. Good luck.
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