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Hey im an high school graduate and live in New Jersey where i give advice to all my friends and other people. I give great advice and i wiling to hlp all of you in your time of need. so if you need help remeber: Jazzy Got Da Answer

Jazzy**

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13/f

I hate myself. I look at myself in the mirror and just want to fricken cut myself, but I won't cut, thats just how I feel. I hate how I look. People are like your perfect weight, but I feel like I won't ever be pretty unless I have a completely flat stomach and muscular theighs. I just can't seam to accept myself. I've been told I'm pretty and stuff. It's just I see all these other girls with perfect hair and skin and I feel ugly! Then, I see these girls w/ all these hot guys, and it makes me feel like I'll never have that. I'm really sad. I don't really have anyone to talk to about it. I don't wanna talk to my parents. I only have one friend who I would talk to but he just tells me to go see a therapist or get antidepressants. I just can't seam to feel happy. So my question is, has any girls or guys gone through this and tell me tips on how to feel better. thanks..

honey we all go through it most of us just keep it to our selves. but to make you feel better you have to find what makes you pretty and stop worrying bout what makes the next girl pretty. where all pretty in our own way so take what you have and flaunt it
(make the best out of it)


p.s im on a diet now because i feel this way so your not the only one
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hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and i've been having these weird dreams about my ex boyfriend Donnie in one dream I was meeting him in a restraunt on a date and then we kissed could these dreams mean I steal have feelings for my ex boyfriend?I don't think my mom would like me going back out with him if I do still have feelings for him becouse donnie was kindof a criminal he got arrested last month and he was 18 so I think he's a little old for me,but does these dreams mean I have feelings for him I've had this same dream every day for the past week now please help me in telling me what it means Thanks.

these feelings may not mean you still have feelings for him maybe he's just been on your mind lately.


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I was with a guy a little over a year.
And well, I'm trying to be friends with him but we end up kissing and yeah...
he made a move on me..it surprised me and I'm not sure how I'm supposed to feel.

Is he just using me?

right now i feel the same way. I cant say hes only using you maybe feelings came back but only you can tell if he's using you but i wouldnt put myself in the situation. im in right now and it aint cool


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i'm 19 years old and a female and was sexually abused when i was very yound by a babysitter. i am not worried about this and dont feel it affects me that much and i am quite open with this fact and the people who are close to me know about it all. The problem is that when a guy wants to get close with me i just seem to panic and just feel well out of my comfort zone. especially if its a boyfriend and its sexual. i have had sex in the past and the guys know about it and are very conciderate of it. But yet i still dont know when its affecting me like this. or even if it is that is the reason why. just finding it very difficult to get close to a bloke. i have loads of guy mates which i mess around with alot but i dunno its just so confusing. could you please enlighten me on this if its possible.

maybe you shoul talk to a counselor because this is a problem the only think i can think of is that the guys friends you out of your comfort zone with reminds you of the perso who sexually abused maybe not looks wise but in some way so talk with someone.


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My prom date is the hottest guy is the entire school. At frist I was happy that I was going with him but lately I have been running to a bit of a problem. A LOT of girls like him. So when I'm with him they are like all over him, whenever I'm around them they'll say little comments about him, and they ALWAYS try to flirt with him. He doesn't really flirt back that much wiht them in front of me (but i know he does when i'm not around) but he doesn't really signal for them to stop either. Eventhough the girls are getting on my nerves I'm still going to prom with him. So I want to know how can I deal with this.

in this situtation i know your going to be mad because all the gurls want him but thats why you shouldnt all the gurls WANT HIM. honey you HAVE HIM sojust let it go and have fun. and enjoy life'

Jazzy**

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I don't think I entered this right before, so here it is again...

This is a long one...bear with me!

I have been with my fiance for 5 years. Last year I was feeling a little restless, and needless to say I left him for another guy. About a month later my fiance and I got back together and things were great. Now they are back to the same old thing again. (being treated like crap) And I have been thinking about "mr. fling" a whole lot lately. I think that I may be in love with him. Even though it was a short time we were together, we really connected. I miss him a lot, I dream about him, I really want to talk to him but I know that I can't. We live seperate lives now (him and his girlfriend-and myself and my fiance)

I just need some advice...on anything!!!

Confused 24 female

I think you have feelings for him ( care about him) but your not in love with him you just want him now because your fiance is acting up. what you need to is sit down and have a long serious talk and tell your fiance if he dont start treating you like the queen you are then your gonna have to leave and this time aint no coming back

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ok so im sorry if this seems like a stupid question but it's really bugging me. anyways im 16/f and i have a problem with my body image! i wear size 4 usually in american eagle jeans but just recently i've been able to wear size 2. for some reason i keep thinking that wearing a size 4 is overweight or something. i guess it's because i hear all the time that celebreties should be size 2 or something. can someone please help me get over this cause i think about it all the time!! i rate 5s!!

dont worry about what size a celebrity wears. just what your happy in. just to let you know i know gurls who would die to be a size 4 honey flaunt it you have it

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okay so my boyfriend is a little younger than me and hes not a virgin .. and hes cheated in the past .. but i just found out about all this today from his bestfriend .. so what should i do? .. i really dont like the fact that hes not a virgin .. and he just turned 14 .. so HELP !!


thnks chasity x

ok first you cant do anything about him not being a virgin most boys arent. but just cause he cheated in the past dosent mean hes going to cheat on you trust him and it will turn out for the best.

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well,my friend gets really sad and worried about things she shouldn't get sad over. She is sad and questioning if she will ever find love. She just thinks all the guys out there are perverted freaks. yeah so i tell here she will but she doesn't listen what should i do?

Thanks, Tamia

tell your friend their would besome good guys and some bad ones. when the right one come shell know but dont get sad and depressed over something you have no control of.. I learned that love always come when you least excepted so tell her to stop looking for it.

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im not overweight, but i'm really small. im not even 5 feet tall. i love my height and everything... but the problem is that even though i'm not overweght, it still feels like i weigh more than i can handle because of how small i am

i'm 4"ll
my bra size is like a 34C (which takes a toll on my back)
i weigh like around 110
i just wanna lose 10 pounds. but thers gotta be an easier way. ive been eating right. i drink like 7 water bottles a day. i even got a personal trainer to help me... and maybe there have been results, but i just don't see them. i really really want to lose the weight because its taking a toll on my back... not because i'm overweight but just because i'm so small and i fell like its more than i can handle. there has to be some easier way. thers gotta be like some powerful drink or something that burns calories. any help would be appreciated. thank you :)

honey im 4"8 and my bra size is a 38 ddd o how you think I feel but you can do pilaites to lose wight if it bother you that much


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My boyfriend asked me to go to the movies with him today. The only problem is, when we got there, he got sick and ran into the bathroom and THREW UP !! YUK !!!! Then I just went into the movie and told his friend to have my boyfriend meet me in there. (cuz i didnt know he was even sick yet) He ended up going home without telling me OR CALLING ME !! how rude is that !? About an hour after the movie started he FINALLY called me and told me he got sick and threw up !! I left the movie early and went home.....for like HOURS I was crying in my room !! The most embarrassing part was that, when I got home, ALL MY BROTHERS 10TH GRADE FRIENDS where there, staring at me while I was crying my eyes out in front of them !! What should I do about my boyfriend !?

Kelly 13/f

dont worry about it all you can do is just let it go you cant really get mad at your boyfriend from getting sick but you can telling him next time let you know because that was rude and try the movies next weekened

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hey! i went to this party last night with my best friend :] it was a party from her old school so she knew some people except it got busted by the cops because it was a hotel party and so these guys she knew picked us up (there was like 4 of them) and they were pretty cute but they ALL flirted with her and i was just sittin there like ahh? and she was drunk so she was like huh whats goin on..stop. because she has a boyfriend and this kid madeout with her and this other one wanted to too but she was like nooo! i cant. i just feel so ugly when i am around her. i mean it doesnt help that im like the most shy person ever! and that i didnt know any of them so it was kinda weird but this ALWAYS happens..they always go for my friend..even if she has a boyfriend. i just feel so ugly around her but she thinks she is ugly (yeah whatever) i just dont know what to do!! i know they didnt know me either but it was soo weird and i kinda talked to her about it was she was like ohh well and didnt really say anything! what do i do? i feel so insecure around her but its not her fault she is gorgeous! brown hair blue blue eyes and i have brown hair brown eyes..BORINGGGG! i dont know?!

what should i doo! she is my bestfriend

i will rate 5 for anyone who can try and help

first of all stop putting yourself down because i bet your not ugly. You may not want to hear this but im going to tell you anyway theres somebody for everybody and i preety sure that it wouldcome a day were they like you and not your friend that just the way life goes everyone has their own taste so dont sweat it


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what age can kids start to babysit other kids?

i would say around 13 or 14

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Okay so like I have been with my boyfriend almost 5 months now. I love him so much and He loves me too. We get along great when its just me and him but like we argue alot at school, because he gets jealous easy. What should I do to stop us from arguing so much?

sit down and talk to him and reassure him that he has nothin to worry about so stop being so jealous. Good luck


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I am 14/F and last night I found something that I think is a sore "down there". Should I be worried?

dont panice just go get it checked you can never be to sure.


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sorry dont know what catagory this was. this is kind of embarssing. im a 13/f. i've been on my period for 2 years. and after first period was over i took off my pad and in a couple of hours i'd have moist on my underwear. i dont think its pee. so i keep a pad on all the time. i have to buy pads all the time. i told my mom once. she said it was ok. but please help i cant keep buying more pads all the time. sorry its kind of a gross quesion.

your body is cleaning it's self out but to be sure wont you just go see a doctor

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Okay im 14/f and im about to graduate 8th grade.... well this year has been very stressful for me and i mean latly everyhting has been catching up with me and i think im begeninng to feel the early signs of depression.... i think i need to go to a counsiler.... but i dont know i mean how do i ask my parents to go to a consiler without them freaking out

you can either find a way to tell your prents or you can go see a school a counselor without your parents knowing it's ways you cam handle this with out anyone knowing what your doing

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hey

on monday i started packing my things for tuesday (for school)so i looked for a sports outfit for gym class. but mine was all swetty from last time and i forgot to wash it. so i looked in my moms closet...i opened a box and hoped she has something good to wear in there but instead i saw a fake penis..and a magazine with naked women and men in there. i was really shocked i mean i know that my parents are having sex sometimes but i never thought they take that so serious. and i feel really stupid in this house and i'm not talking to my mom anymore but it's really dump cause usually i could talk with her about everything but now i just dont trust her , cause she lies to me a lot lately! so what should i do?

i'll rate

hey no mother tell their child everything i dont thin your mad at your mom for wht you found i think your more shock

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hey everyone! :]

Im 14 years old and i wiegh 117 pounds : /
im not really fat but i have HUGE love handles how do i get rid of them and how long do u think it will take.

Ill rate 5's for anything!
thanks

the special k diet really works i did it but i did that and the ball (pilaites) at the same time it really work

try it

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I tend to flirt with alot of guys. I think its because Im very un-confident && it makes me feel better about my self but also it opens more opertunities relationship wise. The problem is that If one of them asks me out then it feels weird to me being in a relationship and also the guys get mad at me.

I haven`t been asked out but the guy that I fell deeply for is starting to talk to me again && its making me think that what if I do end up throwing all these other relationship possibilities away plus the friendships i have gaind for him && he ends up just using me or something.

I guess my problem is how do I choose one guy to like. But by choosing one guy what if he doesnt like me && i have no chance with him!

what should I do? I cant stop flirting because I do "like" all of these guys a little bit. I just kno ill get screwd over when one of them becomes serious && end up having a relationship

HELP!

hey younever know what guy is right if we did well never get our hearts broke so you just choose the guy you like the most and then see how it turns out live and learn


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