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My mission on Advicenators is to be honest. People lie when they answer because they want to be rated high, but I think people ask strangers on Advicenators things because they want an honest answer.
My alias is Farren, and I'm in 9th grade. I think I'm mature for my age, but that could just be self-dilusion. I believe that everyone is in some way self-dilusional. So yeah, ask me a question if you want.

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Hey. Alright, this guy really likes me and no one has ever liked me like that before..people keep telling me to go out with him because he likes me and even if i dont like him, i should just "settle." Well, yea, um, i don't think thats right and im curious what your opinions are on that. Plus i really like this other guy but it would never work out for different reasons, and the guy thats likes me is sort of experienced and im..not..i want to save all my firsts for someone i really like. Should i just settle for the guy who likes me? Is it stupid to wait for someone i really like?

No, no, not stupid at all. I gave away my first kiss in a stupid spin the bottle game with my friends, and I regret it so.
Besides, it's just a waste of time if you don't like the guy, and we all have people we like who don't like us back, he'll get over it eventually.
Wait for someone you at least like, that way it will be special!
-Farren

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is it ok to wear abecrombie aeropostale'and old navy together if it matches my friends say no but i was wonderin
HELP,
~FaShIoN CrIsIs~:>

It's okay if you think it's okay.

In my opinion, your friends are being stupid. Clothing is clothing.
-Farren

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QUICK!! does anyone know what the two little theater masks are called?

Comedy and Tragedy.

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ok first of all im not going to amifat.com or any website like that bcuz i dont trust them, i'd rather get advice from real people my age etc. so don't tell me to go to any website.

I've always been really skinny. People always think im anorexic and all my friends are like where do u put ur food? But i dont get my period every month probably because of it so i don't know how healthy my weight is. I'm about 5'6 and weigh about 103. Do YOU think thats healthy. Some of those crazy sites have told me it's not, and i wanna no what u think. thanx

I'm 15, 5'4 and about 125 lbs. and I'm about average...I think that's really thin, but probably not to the point of anorexia. Make sure you're getting enough vitamins and stuff, and enough variation in your food. If you're getting the stuff you need, you'll be fine.
Pray for ya hun.
-Farren

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ok so my x-best friends ruined my life for the past couple months n now they wanna be friends again.. do i say yes n get hurt again or hold a grudge?? or neither... HELP!!

Forgive them. Forgiveness is good for the soul. Unless they're really hurtful peoples, then you shouldn't hang out with them again. But if they've changed, and things seem alright, you'll find that you'll feel better if you are the mature person and forgive them.
I'll pray for you hun.
-Farren

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hey my best friend is acting weird and i think she ie jelous that i am hangin out with one of my old friends b/c he old group of friends are bein mean to he and ignore her now and i try to talk to both but my b/f is never their when something happens so wen me and my other friend are talk about it i think she feals left out b/c she dosn't no wuts goin on wut should i do???

First off, PROOFREAD YOUR QUESTIONS BEFORE YOU SEND THEM, I mean, it's hard to understand what you're asking.
I think you should just talk to your best friend friend and explain the situation, and talk to your new friend and tell him to talk to his friends and to make them stop being mean to her.
So yeah...work on your grammar hun.
-Farren

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i really thought that i "loved" my boyfriend and we were going out for two weeks, but we really rushed into it; both physically and emotionally. I've never had a real serious boyfriend before, so its a pretty big deal to me. I never let the relationship fail, even though hes not the best boyfriend, i can't trust him, and i don't get as much out of the relationship as i put into it. but now he doesnt want to go out right now, so were on a break, i know he just wants to hook up with other chicks but he says that he will come back for me or whatever, i still like him, but i really don't get why hes doing this to me, the main question is; if he wants to get back together, should I? why or why not... please help !

No, because he's hurting you. If he needs a break after only two weeks that's not a good sign, not good at all.
And, he probably just wants the physical-ness, if he's really how you say he is.
Anyway, I'll pray for you hun.
-Farren

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ok, heres the deal, ive been 18 for a month or 2, and heres the deal, im kinda sexually advanced, except ive never actually gone all the way. and ive always been proud of this...untill now, and its freaking driving me nuts, like i all of a sudden have to have it. and this is unbelievably unlike me cuz ive always been the upright goody goody that everyone can always depend on. so for the love of god, somebody give me some advice!!!!!! plz ladies, i need some advice

You better not be having none of that premarital sex young lady! J/k...uhm...wait for love, or you'll regret losing it to someone else when you find that person.
Temptation may be great, but you'll be happy when you find that right person if you hold out.
Hope I helped.
-Farren

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hie um..yea i lyke muh bf alot but i lyke muh ex-bf ALOT more...i guess yoo can say i still...love him.. ne-ways...muh bf is so sweet...and he calls me and talks to me more then muh old bf...and he says and shoes he reallie lyked me...then muh old bf said it butwas a lil to quiet to shoe it or to call me...in over 2 months he never once called...but we talked quite a bit... whut should i do? break up wif muh bf? even thoe im not going to get another chance wif muh old bf?please help meh out... thanx fer ne-one who helps and/or attempts helping me..

You should break up with your current boyfriend just because he doesn't really deserve that. Your sort of wasting his time, if he really likes him and you're considering breaking up with him for someone you won't get another chance with I don't think you like him enough to be dating.
I feel bad for the kid. Oh well.
-Farren

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ok,i have a friend named ian,and another named jason,,their only my guy friends until i found out ian liked me,,,!!!then he started to flert with me alot & jason knew that i didn't feel comfortable with ian,,,so {not to make ian jealous}jason gave me a necklace that said ''friends'' he had one that said''best''
ian got jealous...alot..what do i do?????

Talk to him about it. If you aren't comfortable with him acting like that, tell him you aren't.
It's the worst when you have a guy friend who you hang out with a lot, and anytime you flirt with a guy they come over to check what's happening.

Make sure he understands you are still his friend, and that you aren't choosing Jason over him. That can make him feel bad if he thinks that. So yeah, just tallk to the kid.
I'll pray for you hun.
-Farren

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I'm really shy, and I know that guys like outgoing girls. Whenever a guy i like talks to me, i dont know what to say. A lot of times i end up saying something stupid. How do i get myself to open up more, or atleast get guys to notice me, even if i am shy?

Be patient. Eventually, you'll make a friend who you'll begin to like. If you become friends first, then you won't be as nervous.
Just be patient, the right guy'll come along. You shouldn't change your nature to get guys to notice you, you should wait for the one who notices you for who you are.
I'll pray for ya, hun.
-Farren

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Theres this guy, and he told me he loved me but i rejected him because i didnt know what to say. I didnt see him for a year after that, and over that year i realized that i loved him and missed him SO much. I swear i didnt go a single day without thinking about him. Now im going to school with him but hes not in any of my classes (but sometimes i talk to him in the halls) and i still love him. What should i do? Do u think hes mad at me for rejecting him? Do u think theres a chance he might like me even though I rejected him? And is there a chance he would ask me out again..even though i rejected him last time?

You probably won't get another chance, unless he really deeply loved you or is stupid.
But here's an interesting question- Do you love him now because you know you can't have him? Did you not love him before because you knew you could?
Maybe he'll forgive you. Just talk to him about it and tell him you're sorry.
I'll pray for you, hun.
-Farren

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Ok, i like this guy, he's not in any of my classes but i see him in the halls all the time. I really want to get to know him but i am VERY shy, what should i do to???

First of all, to Spike: yay for Donnie Darko!

Okay, down to the matter at hand, first thing you need to do is check if any of your friends know him and could introduce you. If you have no one, then you must abandon your shy nature and say hello to him. Smile and laugh and maybe pick up a conversation after school, when there's more time, saying something like "Oh hey! You're the guy I met today!" and continue.
Last resort, follow spike's advice.

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ok..there is this guy at my school and ive liked him a pretty good while..everytime i see him i my heart starts beating fast and i like melt..well there was this church thing that i went with,with my friend and he was there!! we went to an arcade and we was flirting with me and after that we went to arbys and he was flirting some more..is that a sign he is starting to like me..and if he is i dont know what to do cause he just broke up with one of my good friends and i feel bad if he asks me out and she still likes him..should i like him or should i just say no if he asks me out?

Most likely he likes you, unless he's the type of guy who just has lots of girl(space)friends.
Talk to your friend about it, explain how much you like him.
After that, weigh out what's more important to you, depending on her answer. Your friendship with her or a relationship with him?
Anyway, if she's a really good friend she would realize that she didn't fit with him, and maybe you do.
So yeah, but just talk to her first.
Wish you luck with the guy.
-Farren

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me and my boyfriend have been together for a few months now but weve known and liked eachother for about a year...well we r really close n i decided to tel my parents about him and ive met his parents n stuff already...well 2dae i went to the movies with him and his family n his dad brought me home n dropepd me off and my bf walked me to the door...well my mom was like
"OH CAN I MEET UR PARENTS??" n my bf was like sure..and he walked her to his car...and i was like NO mom omg i cant believe u!1 and now i feel stupid! im scared to talk to him now bc im scared he mite think im a loser or watever for having my MOM go meet and talk to his parents and me standing ther having a lil fitt....wat can i do? idk im so embarassed im like not wanting him to call...=\

Don't worry about it. All girls are like that at some point in time. He'll understand. And, just learn from this experience, don't be overly embarrased about your parents, it just makes you and the parents look bad, or funny. But yeah, I wouldn't worry about it, I've done that many times too, but I've resolved to stop. I mean, it's not like you can control your mom, so you shouldn't be embarrassed by her actions.
-Farren

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Alright, I'm a 13 year old female, in the 8th grade. There's this guy I really like... he's smart, gets way good grades (like the only guy I've liked who gets better grades, haha) athletic, nice, popular. I could go on, but let me get to the point. I've liked him for about 2 months now, and I keep thinking he likes me. I've heard 2 people say he does. So a few days ago, lots of my friends found out, since we were playing truth or dare, and everyone was like "Aww, how sweet you like so-and-so." And most of them seemed to think that he likes me too, but I'm not really sure anymore. Today at school one of my friends who found out totally wanted to tell him I liked him, and then I saw her go over and talk to him... She said that she had asked if he liked me, and he said yes. I was like, in a sarcastic way, right? But she said no that he was serious. I find that hard to believe though. So then she said he should ask me out and he's like, why, so I can face rejection again? And my friend was all, well maybe. Ugh I was sorta mad cuz she pretty much made it obvious I like him. I'm just wondering what I should do.. should I tell him I like him or what?!! I'm just worried that if I do he won't like me back and then things will be weird between us. And if he does like me, and we decide to go out.. well that worries me a little bit too because I heard that he's sort of perverted, he just doesn't show it as much as other guys. And the only thing I've ever done is hug guys. I'm willing to go as far as kissing/making out but I think my parents would freak if they found out. Arrgh.. please help! Sorry it's so long.

You don't hafta worry about physical stuff until you're actually a couple and you've talked to him about it. I think you should tell him you like him, and then see what happens. The worst that can happen is you stay friends. There's nothing to be afraid of, besides, it's better to know than regret never telling.

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I'm 15/f ... and I liked a certain guy last year... and once i was talking to him and he totally crushed me, he said he wanted to go out with me, and then told me he was just kidding. Well he went out with another girl. Well I thought i would never have feelings for him again since he was so mean. Well yesterday he broke up with this girl, and I still have feelings for him- strong feelings. What do I do?!

Ignore them. Even if you want him, it might be unhealthy. You shouldn't go out with a guy like that. Unless you want to be used and abused. I think you still have a lot to learn about life. Do anything to get your mind off him, or find another guy who might actually like you back and treat you nice. If you go out with this guy, you'll end up regretting it.
-Farren

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17-F I've hung out with this boy Chris twice this week and we like each other but whenever he trys to kiss me I pull away. I have kissed him but I dunno I don't have any desire to do it again. This past summer I was used by this other kid. Since then I haven't wanted to do anything with anyone. What do you think is the reason I don't feel comfortable with Chris?? I do really like him and I think he's getting frustrated with it.

You're still getting over what happened to you before. Talk to Chris about it, tell him what happened and why you're acting the way you are. It might just take some time to heal.
I'll pray for you hun
-Farren

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Well my boyfriend is acting really strange...well he always act like he doesnt want to do anything with me i always have to make the plans...he doesnt call me....he doesnt ask to meet me places accept for at times that is really not a good time...and i call him all the and he doesnt pick up unless i send a text message saying PICK UP YOUR PHONE...and i think that is very unacceptable i dont want to take up tooo muck of your time but please help HELP

Talk to him. If that doesn't work, break up with him or deal with it. Sorry hun, but you can only change people so much. And if this is "strange" and he's not usually like this, then he may be cheating on you and spending time with someone else.
I'll pray for you and your boyfriend.
-Farren

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okay recently i had this boyfriend who i thought was my everything. well everything was apparently nothing at all when i kissed someone else so now i am broken up with my boyfriend and the other guy my parents never want me to see the other guy again but we both really like eachother. We arent going out right now bwcause neither one of us want a relationship. Oh yeah and i have liked this other guy for about a year.So i have liked him b4 i met my boyfriend. I am 13 years old and a female!Plz give good advice!!!!!!!!

Your 13-years old. You aren't mature enough to have a boyfriend, you might call them "boyfriends", but when you get older you'll see. Oh yeah, don't want boyfriend problems? Stop being a whore and stay with one guy.

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