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idk why im doing this its like i cant help myself, its like this..im forcing my self into solitary confinement, where i'd be alone im pushing everyone away but i dont think they really notice im pushing away at everyone i love, my friends my girlfriend even my sister who is the prety much like my gaurdian angel..i dont know whats wrong with me.. i guess i just snapped during school, but im using what sanity i have left to ask whats wrong. i dont have any reason to do this its wierd but i cant help it. its like im addicted to being alone..idk..its wierd i guess in myself i think that the answer to not being alone is by forcing myself to be alone and the less people care about me the less i care about me to, call me an attention whore call me what you want i dont know wtf is wrong with me.but i'd still like some advice. i've considered suicide millions of times and i've attempeted it god only knows how many times. im starting to be convinced that something wont let me die. i know that doesn't make sense, but it does to me...Am I Addicted to the Pain & Sorrow of Isolation?
Your suffering from depression, and to fix it, you have to find out why you want to do these things? Why do you want to kill yourself? Why do you want to be alone? I think every teen goes through depression...Many do, but there's always a reason for it. Why not try to go out with your friends, or sister to the movies? Or you can just go out and have a good time. Being alone is a good thing sometimes, but yeah, your starting to do that alot and that's going to make you more depressed. Instead of being alone, alwayd be around people and just forget about everything and have a good time! It'll work...I used to be soo depressed and I tried killing myself a million times, over things that I now think were stupid. I still get depressed every now and then, but I deal with it, by being with friends, not being alone because it makes it so much worse. *Good Luck...and if you ever want to ask me anything please send me a note. I hate it when people feel this way...*
14/f. I'm really starting to like this one guy, Brett. I don't really know him that well. He's a year older than me. We were in band together for a year in junior high and now were in band again together. He makes funny faces at me and playfully sticks his tongue out at me in band. Is this flirting or is he just being himself. He almost never actually talks to me and he's probably said about 10 words to me in the 3 years that I've known him. Is this flirting or is it just him being himself? He's never showed any particular interest in me but he kind of does this stuff with a couple different girls my age.
I think this guy is just being goofy, who likes to get attention from girls and nothing more...If he liked you, I think he would've said more than ten words to you in 3 years! If your starting to like this guy, why don't you try and start a conversation with him? About your band? Then start getting to know eachother. If he shows you that he's interested that's good, but if he doesn't. No point in liking someone that doesn't like you back, right? There are a million guys out there for you!
Sorry it's long, but I need some help
Okay, no offense to this kid, or anybody out there, I'm just describing him.
There's this one realy geeky, kind of overweight kid (I'm a few pounds overweight too, so nothing against him) Well he likes me, and he does whatever he can to talk to me. I know he's trying to be nice, and his best friend said he liked me, but I have a boyfriend, and he doesn't seem to understand that. Today, we were waiting in the commentary during school, and he came up to me and started to act like a real loser (he's a loner with only a few friends) but he made all my friends leave, and when I tried to walk away, he'd get in front of me. I'm stuck sitting next to him in 1st period, I have tried talking to the teacher, and I told her I felt like I was being sexually harassed, because he has tried touching me, but she wouldn't really liste, because she knows hit too well, and he just wouldn't do that type of thing, so I can't move seats, I've tried talking to an administrator, and everything, the only thing I haven't done was talk to him. I'm not sure if he's mentally challenged, and I don't know how to say anything without being mean, He never said he liked me, but you can just tell, and his friends have asked me if I'd go out with him
How do I get it in his brain, I have a boyfriend, and I DON'T LIKE YOU!! I don't want to be friends, I just want him to leave me alone!!
Your not being rude, he's being a STALKER!!! Since you were nice to him in the begining of the school year and that's what made him like you. Then this time don't even feel bad, be a bitch to him. Give him attitude and ignore him...As time goes by, he'll eventually leave you alone....I hope it works and good luck!
I had a boyfriend named Patrick and the whole time we were goin out, which was about 3 months, he would always ignore my friends because they are country. He would also holla at other girls. When i asked him one night who it was, he told me it was none of my buisness. So we broke up, and he told me he couldnt hang out with me and my hicks. But see, the thing is from Adamsville, Tennessee and i am from Henderson, Tennessee (about 20 mins away) but now he is always at the Finger Square Dance (about 5 mins away from Henderson) and now he is trying to get back with me. did he really love me and whats up with that?
He broke up with you for a stupid reason and it probably did hurt you. Why would you want to give him another chance? Maybe after he broke up with you, he realized that he really liked you and that's the reason why he wants to get you back. If you like him, go with what your heart is telling you to do. Talk to eachother before getting back together.
I have a friend...let's call her "Megan". Megan and I are pretty cool. We hang out at school, between classes and after school on occasions. I have no problem going places with her, spending the night at her place...stuff like that. We're pretty good friends. She just has this really annoying habit of always trying to ruin someone else's good time.
Like, in an argument, when she's wrong and you're right, she'll scramble for any possible reason to say you're still wrong. Or if something good happens to you, she'll always say something to make you feel terrible about it. I hope that makes sense. It bothers me a lot and I've tried telling her it's annoying, but she still does it.
I don't want to stop being friends with her. She's cool most of the time. This is just starting to get to me. Why can't she let anyone else have a little sunshine sometimes? :(
If you already talked to her and she still hasn't done anything to change. Then you should do it back to her! Give her a taste of her own medicine. Once she realizes how it feels, hopefully she'll stop.
Ok so i asked you guys earlier about my bf problem....So im going out with this guy that my dad doesnt like and i feel guilty everytime im with him! its not so much fun! And i dumped this guy that my dad likes and thinks is a good guy to go out with him! Well the catch is that i still have feelings for this other guy! what do i do?
It's not fair to be with someone if you have feelings for another person. Go with whatever your heart is telling you to do. If you decide to break up with your bf now, to be with the other guy, make sure that he has feelings for you too. Instead of loosing both guys at once!
I have pretty dark arm hair, and my arms are kinda hairy. How can I make it look a lot less obvious(without completely shaving it off). help! thanks! i rate!
You can use those hair removing creams like "Nair". It removes hair and it's better than shaving. It won't grow back for another 2 weeks, so it's not like you have to do it all the time. Or. You could get another type of cream, I'm not sure what it's called, it makes your hair less obvious because it lightens your arm or facial hair (or any of those small unwanted hair). Go to a drugstore, you can find them there. Whatever you decide to do, make sure you read the instructions first!!! Hope you find what your looking for and *GOOD LUCK*
hey ummm there's this guy and i liked him and mah friend asked him if liked me 2 but that was like 2 weeks ago and now i dunno if he still likes me wat should i do??i rate!!
Only two weeks ago? That's not really a long time. I'm sure he still likes you. So go up to him and start a conversation! Get to know eachother and casually ask him out! Guys like it when girls aren't shy. So don't be shy and have fun!
okay I have this amazing boyfriend who I know loves me very much.He has already met my mom and most of my familyand they all think he is sweet. I love having him as a boyfriend and of course I would never break up with him but I am so used to bieng hurt by guys that I am so scared that he will hurt me too. He swears that he never will but I can never be to sure of everything. I know he loves me so why am I so scared?Plz help me as soon as possible!I need it bad!!!!!
I am 13 years old and am female!!!!!
Your insecure and scared because you've gotten your heartbroken so many times in the past. That was in the past. Remember that. Just look forward to the future with your boyfriend. Stop stressing. Forget about the past. That was then and this is now. But your only 13, I'm sure there are going to be many many many guys in your life.
my friend has an attitude problem. she'll come to school sometimes and be all pissed off and in a bad mood, and the rest of us have to deal with it. but if we give him just a tiny bit of an attitude, she'll get all mad and say we're all ridiculous and have problems. lately it's really been making me mad, and i'm sick of it. anything i can say to make her realize she doing this, and make her stop??
Maybe she has PMS or maybe things at home aren't going so well, and she just happens to take it out on you and your friends. Try talking to her and asking her whats up? Ask her why she's giving so much attitude towards you and your friends. If she gets mad and pissed off...Than you and your friends, should just leave her and ignore her until she realizes the way she's been acting and comes back to you and apologizes.
Bare with me, this could be long. Ok well it starts off about 3 years ago, I was involved in a roll over car accident and it knocked out 2 of my teeth because i wasn't wearing a seat belt, and I was partially ejected from the car and i was stuck and yadda yadda yadda, it was horrible, and it screwed up my knee so now i've had 2 sugerys no my knee, the last one puts me in a leg brace. Anywho, Then earlier this year, i was involved in another accident(yea i know, if i didn't have bad luck i'd have no luck at all) where the driver and I and all the other passengers were looking at a murder scene when we smashed into the back of a cadillac and the airbags were deployed, and my foot was screwd up so i missed like 3 days of school, blah blah blah, so now it being early october and all this happend 3 years ago and the other one happend near the end of last year, like a year ago. So now we get to my problem. Now whenever I get into a car, I start freaking out because i think what would happen if the driver were not paying attention, so every time I see brake lights, I grab onto something and start to make noises, not quite a scream, and stuff like that, so i was wondering if that was normal after things like that have happend to me?, oh yea, by the way, my dad like to scare the crap at me by going full speed towards a wall, then my whole family laughs as i try to keep the tears in, but i dont want u guys to feel sorry for me, anywho, i was wondering if you guys think i sould seek therapy or something to get over this problem? Because these incedents have made me never want to drive. Should i try to get over my fear by seeking therapy, that is what im asking, if you could help me it would mean alot to me and i will rate you high if i like your advice, thanks in advance
Of course you should get over your fear (everyone has fears). It'll take time though because you've been through so much, but I don't want you to go through your life without ever driving or always being afraid. I think your dad shouldn't do that although he's just joking, you should tell him how you feel about that if it happens again. What you've been through is serious and tramatizing. It's totally normal to feel the way you do. So, if you think going into therapy will help you, what's holding you back? GO! ~GOOD LUCK~
Okay see I like this guy..alot. We talk on the fone almost everyday and sometimes we talk at school. My friends asked him if he liked me but they wont tell me what he said. So i asked him myself and he sed that he likes me in the middle 50% like 50% just friends. I want an yes or no answer from him tho nd i want him to say yes! what can I do?
You can't force him to like you 100% more than a friend. You could hang out with him more, maybe ask him to go to the movies (with a bunch of friends, so he won't think your asking him on a date!) Get to know one another, and you never know, his feelings about you can change! *GOOD LUCK*
ok i like this guy named jamie who is kind of a dork but he used to like me and a lot of people still thing he likes me. i used to think that he was really weird and annoying but now i figured out that i like him...a lot! anyway he is moving to Hong Kong in January so i'm not sure if i should tell him how i feel or not. he's kind of like a geek in my grade so if we were going out i would be thought of as a loser for the rest of my school life. i was thinking that i could tell him on his last day of school but then if he liked me too then i would feel really bad that i didn't tell him sooner. i'm worried that if i tell him that i like him now he'll either a. not like me and tell all of his friends or b.tell me that he does like me but then he would still tell all of his friends and i would be thought of as a loser.please help soon because i really dont know what to do!
First of all...You need to stop caring about what others are going to think of you. It's not fair to you, him and both your feelings. People at school already know you, why would they think your a loser for liking someone that's not so popular? You should tell him, it'll boost his self-esteem and instead of thinking people will say your a loser, their actually going to think your a good person because you show your true feelings. And who knows? Maybe there are a lot of guys and girls at your school who like eachother but don't do anything about it because they don't want to be a loser, so if you do it, many will fallow in your footsteps. What if he leaves without you ever knowing that he has a great personality?????? Try it.
Okay im the starting Varsity quarterback for my high school football team. We have practice 4 days a week and every other saturday from 4 to 6:30. I have also been in choir and all the school plays with mainly leading parts for my whole life, and its never been a problem interfearing with football before but now this year the play practice is going to be every night that football is except tell 7!! (and not every other saturday) I know the choir/play director very well and she wants me to do the play so bad, and my coach asked me about it when i talked to him.. HELP!?!???
Out of the two, pick which one you like best. Or you can talk to the play director and your coach and try to fit in a schedule to do both, but that's unlikey. Just go with what you like to do more.
14/f. I think I have a genuine problem with crushes. I just can't stop crushing on new guys. I like everyone and everybody. My current crush count is around 9 and it just keeps growing. I like all kinds of different guys, and even 2 brothers! I also like 3 of my brother's friends! Is there something wrong with me? Is this normal? Is it possible that I make this stop? I'm so torn.
It is sooooo normal at your age, I did the same thing when I was 13. It's totally fine to crush on someone different all the time. As you get older it'll just stop.
I'm so sorry if it's long....
i am in love. I know it, and I can feel it. I talked to the same guy for 2 years. He lives 45 minutes away and it kills me. i see him almost every weekend, but I suffer through the week without him. It's all I think about .He's all I wish I had. It makes me miserable to be without him. Does anyone else have this feeling? This feeling when the phone rings it just might be him, or when you see his face again you just fall in love all over again? My mother tells me I'm too young to be in love. 16 is just a beginning, she says. I believe love has no boundries. I just want to know, how do you feel your in love? Express yourselves...because I know everyone loves someone.
No one is too young to fall in love. It's something that happens to everyone at different ages. Love can't be explained or described. At times it's the best feeling in the world and at other times it could hurt soooo much! If you love this guy and he has feelings for you. Ask him out!!!!!! Try to do stuff during the week with him like studying ;), or just hanging out if you say you suffer when your not with him. But be careful, if you too see eachother too much, you might get sick of it (even though it feels like that'll probably never happen) or he might get sick of you. It's better when both of you give eachother time to miss eachother because when you do see him after, it feels amazing!
I've known this guy for like 3 years, and liked him on and off for a while. I like him, and just found out he's going to ask me out. What should I do?
You like him? He's going to ask you out? You should be happy. Don't do anything, wait for him to come up to you. *GOOOD LUCK*
Ok..ive liked this guy for awhile now and he finally asked me out. But the thing is he goes to a different school and i barely see him. We dont really talk much either in person that is. So i turned him down. And plus ive been goin thru alot of stuff lately w/ my family. is that bad that i turned him down..my friends think it is..
help
It's not wrong that you turned him down. Your dealing with other stuff right now. You turned him down because you weren't ready. Good for you!
Ok, so I'm a fourteen year old girl and to start off with, I have recently broken up with a boyfriend I had for over a year. I loved him very very much, and still do. He says he still loves me as well, but he moved and I never see him so it's too hard to be anything more than friends. Well recently, I've been hanging out with another guy a lot. He and I are both in marching band, so we see each other a whole lot. Well yesterday, we had a band compeition starting at eleven AM, and the bus got to the school at 1:30AM. Well at the compeition we were hanging out a whole lot, and on the bus ride home he started using me as a pillow again(this isn't anything new) and I subconsciously started playing with his hair. All of a sudden, my hand slipped into his and the next thing I know we're holding hands. See, what I'm wondering is, is it okay to be slowly falling in love with this new guy while I still have feelings for my ex? Is it fair to him? Help.
Your ex will always have a place in your heart, but if you guys can only be friends. Then just move on (i know its hard). You'll find a new love, who will have a part of your heart too...
Ok, I'm getting contacts really soon. The problem is, I have this little fear of things going in my eye. I have practiced so many times trying to put them in, but I always subconciously close my eye and I can never get them in all the way. What am I supposed to do to get over this? I really want to wear these contacts, but I'm so scared putting them in!
I got contacts two years ago because I like the idea of changing my eye colour...And I was soooooooo scared to put things into my eye, I think everyone is at first. But the lady at the store wouldnt let me leave until I learned how to put them in myself. So before you try to put it in, just think "it doesnt hurt at all". Keep looking straight ahead and put them just above your lower lids, then look down and they just automatically place themselves in your eyes...try it!