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Hey guys!

So, I'm trying to lose some weight - particularly around my whole belly area. I've been jogging for about a week now daily for about 30 minutes per day (which is kind of more like 'jalking'). I cut down on my calorie intake so it's about 1500 per day with lots of water. I was never a huge over-eater but I could have eaten better and less food. So, the changes to my body are that I'm exercising daily when I wasn't exercising at all before and I'm eating better.

I want to know if this is going to help me lose weight at all. I definatley feel like I'm getting a bit fitter each day as I can jog longer and longer and keep expanding my route. My tummy muscles are the most sore at the moment, feeling as if they have definitely been worked which I'm hoping is a good sign.

In addition, I'm an 18 year old female living in Australia and I weigh about 75 kilos and I am around 5'4 tall.

Since I'm trying to lose weight in my belly area, will jogging be very effective with that? I've read that the tummy area is where you lose weight first so I'm hoping that's true. A part from wanting to be healthier and thinner, I'm trying to lose up to 5 kilos by 4 weeks time. It's a lot I know, I'm hoping it will be at least 3 kios with how I'm going. What do you think?

One of my motivations currently is to fit properly into my birthday dress. It fits but it's really tight on this part just under my breasts. Going the way I am, will I be able to lose say about 1/2 to 1 inch off this area in a month?

Thanks so much guys! :)

I agree with the answer below.

Here is my take on it:

- The target is achievable. 3kg definitely, 5kg also possible but unnecessary (to avoid losing muscle mass).

- Targetting areas is impossible when it comes to fat loss, and very possible when it comes to muscle gain (the latter not directly relevant here, but just to clarify). The only way to lose your stomach fat (or any other) is to lose weight overall. Genetics will determine if one area is emphasised over another. For some people it is very hard to lose stomach fat, while for others its the first thing that goes. Anyway, in that respect, jogging is extremely good because it is an excellent calorie burner. As a cardio exercise it also has countless other health benefits.

- Your plan sounds good but there are one or two things to take into account. Mind your calories as you increase the workload. Without calorie counting, you can just keep track of your weight loss and make sure that it proceeds at a steady, not too fast pace (idealy weigh yourself once or twice a week at roughly the same time of day and in similar conditions).

Thats pretty much it. Good luck.

Well for some reason my skype is not working. i try to sign in but it says that it couldnt connect. then it told me to leave it for a couple of minutes so that it could reconnect. but i restarted my computer and it is still not workin. and its not just me. my boyfriends skypes isnt workin either and it wont connect. Please help!! Skype is the only way i can talk to my bf cause its long distance. thank you so much!! any advice would help me out lots!

Well, we are having the same problems over here as well. So it seems like their system is messed up.

If you need to talk to your boyfriend, what about using another voice messenger like yahoo or google talk or something? Until Skype get their act together at least...

So i've been with my boyfriend for over a year now, i'm only 17 and he's pretty much my first real long term relationship. The only thing is when we first got together he wasn't very attentive and well like most teenage boys clueless about anything. He had a friend that was very romantic and came after me and i had never had that type of attention before and i fell for him. So i cheated on my boyfriend, who i then broke up with so i could convince myself that the cheating meant something, but my boyfriend then pulled his shit together and wouldn't let me just leave and when i tried to break it off with the other guy he threatened to tell my boyfriend everything if i didn't sleep with him, so i did and he virtually left me alone to be with my boyfriend after. It sounds screwed up but it sounds like lesson learned, right? the only issue is i never felt bad about cheating i only felt terrified of getting caught and once i was in the clear from being caught i relaxed and enjoyed my relationship.Now you see my boyfriend is a real goody and i started hanging out with i guess you could say some bad kids, not really bad just not straight-edge and i started feeling really drawn towards this one guy in the group and now we kiss and cuddle and talk a lot. I'm not going to do anything more with him than kiss but still i should be feeling bad, right? it's not that i don't love my boyfriend cause i do (and nobody tell me this whole 'if you really loved him you wouldn't be cheating on him' bull crap. life isn't black and white)

I don't understand why i don't feel bad about the cheating. does this mean i'm a bad person? or like a slut? i'm not sleeping around or anything, i'm not gonna lie most of these cheating things are way more emotional than physical (the first guy was at first but then he threatened me and i just decided i deserved the punishment). can someone maybe provide some insight for me? i just want to know why i don't feel bad and why i don't seem to have 'learned my lesson'?

Well, I would say you haven't learned your lesson because you dont feel bad. And since getting caught is your only disincentive, because you have not been caught.

Now, I am no psychologist so I cant say with certainty why you do not feel bad. Also, I dont know you beyond this question. So the best I can do is throw some questions at you that may help you discover if there is something wrong.

The reason people say that "if you loved him you would not cheat on him" is because love, to most people, implies that they deeply care about the other person. It also implies trust, which is broken irrespective of whether you are caught or not. So, while I do believe that people can make mistakes etc, I also think that regularly cheating on someone, does mean that you don't care as much for that person as you think you do. Otherwise why would you risk hurting them? Why would you not respect the trust in the relationship?

Try answer the question: If I truly love my boyfriend, why am I not afraid of hurting his feelings?

And a quick sidenote in regards to emotional vs physical cheating. It counts just as much. To some even more than the physical believe it or not.

Remorse is something some people cant feel. Others just lack a bit of empathy. Do you normally feel bad when bad things happen to others? Or if you gained something, but ended up hurting someone's feelings? Do you feel bad solely for them? Also, do you normally consider the interests of others on par with your own when you evaluate a situation? If you don't that could be a sign that there is something wrong and I would suggest you talk to a professional. Otherwise it might just be down to maturity (and I truly do not mean that in a condescending way).

Certainly I find the tone of your question a bit chilling because, while you speak about love, I only see concern for yourself.

Anyway, I hope you figure this out. Good luck.

ok,so i've lived in this house with my parents for years but it's embarassing to say how messy it is but for the great or good i will it has multiple piles of clothes in every room due to my sister having to move back in with us which we didn't expect but my sister had a baby and now the baby has to live here as well but the house is a total disaster and i think has contracted alot of health problems i now have to clean this whole place alone.my mom my sister has to care for her child and well let's not start on my dad.so excatly where do i start!?!thank you for ur help -ch

As an expert in messy places (*ahem*) this is what I do:

- Much like the answer below, I go one room at a time.
- First I group everything into piles. I have a rubbish sack with me for that, and then I pile clothes in one stack, books, dishes, etc in their respective piles.
- Then I remove everything that does not belong in that room. The rubbish goes to the bin, things from other rooms are dumped in their room, dirty clothes wherever they go, clean ones folded in the dresser, dishes in the kitchen etc.
- Then I tidy up that room. I try to stick to a system whenever I can (e.g. for arranging books, videos or what not), even if it takes a bit longer. Makes keeping things neat (and adding more stuff to the room from the other rooms you are going to clean later) easier.
- Then I move to the next room, leaving vaccuuming, dusting, etc for last.

Good luck :)

i am m/22 ,i dont musterbate , while i was having oral with my girlfriend i dont have proper erection, do i have any sexual problem

That depends entirely on whether the problem recurrs. A one time thing is nothing and it happens to most guys at some point. If it happens regularly, then you might have a problem and should probably see a doctor.

need something to occupy me during break! what do you guys enjoy?

Well, I like:

Leverage
Burn Notice
Human Target
Big Bang Theory
Chuck
Fringe (though its been so-so this season)

I am sure there are one or two I am missing, but thats what comes to mind :)

i will start fitness to increse my strength and get more stronger, what kind of food should i be aeting and any support as medicament

Hey there.

Can't say I agree with a number of things in the answer below.

First, red meat is not always good for you. Excessive consumption of red meat has been linked with adverse health effects. It should be something consumed in moderation.

Eggs are also very high in fat. They should also be consumed moderately. Egg whites on the other hand are an excellent source of lean protein which can be consumed pretty much as needed.

I agree with the idea of staying away from table sugar. I would also add that you should keep saturated fats low (these are fats found in animal products).

To gain weight you need a calorie surplus. Gaining strength implies gaining weight, particularly after the first few months of training (when the neurological adaptations have ceased). This means you need to eat quite a lot and quite often. Say maybe 4-6 times a day.

To give you specific quantities I would need to know your stats. But in general sample meals could be:
1. Protein source: Chicken, turkey, fish (tuna is excellent), red meat (in moderation), low fat cottage cheese, eggs/egg whites, etc
2. Carb source: Rice, potatoes, whole wheat bread, whole wheat pasta (regular kind is ok too, but whole wheat is better)
3. Fruits and greens (they are carbs too, particularly the sweeter they are, but their primary function is usually for vitamins, minerals, fibre, etc)
3. Healthy fat source: good quality oils (e.g. on a salad), unsalted nuts, oily fish, leafy green vegetables, etc.

Generally a meal should have one thing from all categories above. Sometimes you can get two categories in one (e.g. oily fish being both a good protein and fat source).

In regards to weight lifting supplements, you can use whey protein shakes right after training. I would not bother with anything more than that, and instead focus on getting your diet and overall food intake in order first.

Good luck

Okay i need to get back into shape. but its really to cold outside to do anything. and i got no workout stuff and i cant afford a gym. any suggestions on how to do some simple exercises?

Much better than me trying to explain things, here are some vids...

1 Good overall workout, not too hard, I like the lower back emphasis:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zF84c5lyfls

2 Short quickie workout:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LLVQ-vWVjxg

3 This one looks a bit tougher, but I like the dynamic/power aspect to it but has very little back work. I would use this to substitute exercises in the first workout when they get easy:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j5v11QdtC0g&feature=related

Otherwise just search youtube with various combinations of "workout", "no weights", "full body" (or specific body parts - just remember to train opposing muscle groups), etc.

Good luck.

Hi okay so first of all i live in Atlanta,Georgia and i wanted to know where i can buy water with 300% oxygen. I heard it's really good for your health but i can't seem to find it anywhere. I would really appreciate it if somebody could help me as soon as possible. Thanks in advance!

Hey, the answer below pretty much covered your question, but I wanted to comment on what you implied.

There is no evidence whatsoever that oxygenated water has any health benefits at all. It seems to be yet another popular myth that comes around every now and again - often spurred by the bottled water companies (remember the "you got to drink at least xxx amount of water per day" bs that was so common until a year or so ago?).

Now, if you punch it up you will get websites claiming both that it is a scam and that it has miraculous health benefits. However... the key is to look for sources to these claims. I have found none, no studies, no legimate endorsements by the medical community, etc. And this is pretty much what the other sites claim: that it has been invented based on nothing, and that it is pseudoscientific nonsense.

So, buy it if you will, but odds are its money out the window.

Whenever I break up with a guy or vice versa, they're friends always seem to hit on me a few weeks later. Why is this?

I agree with the answer below. Another reason why it might be specifically your ex's friends that hit on you could also be because they got the chance to know you while you were with your ex. If you had not been with him, they may never have spoken to you or got to know who you are. Just a thought.

16/f

Alright, so August I decided I start off with a change and joined the xc team. I worked my way up to varsity on the way and...didn't really lose any weight. However, I did lose inches. I'm very short, 5'', 34 D, 24'' waist, 28'' hips, and fairly muscular looking...or at least my arms are. The thing is, asides from my upper half being acceptable, my lower body looks terrible. Most of it is toned by now, but my legs, especially my thighs which now, due to a loss of inches everywhere else, look even larger. They're constantly touching. I've joined a tri. team at my school, and I run at least 5-12 miles a day. I bicycle as well. All these things, cardo, that are supposed to DECREASED muscle mass and burn fat, and yet, I still have the legs of someone extremely overweight. I've worked so hard, and am continuing to, but nothings working, and I'm becoming extremely discouraged. Any advice? I don't understand what's going on. Thanks a bunch.

Thing is, most of us have problem areas, i.e. those areas that are very stubborn when losing weight. In terms of fat loss, there is very little one can do except lose weight (generally speaking). Since we cannot target fat loss, we can only choose to gain weight overall or lose weight overall. Genetics determine if one area is emphasised over another.

Now, in terms of muscle, I think you have it a bit wrong. Lots of endurance exercises will build some muscle (albeit a different, less bulky type than more intensive workouts). If you are exercising a lot it can be significant - check out the thighs on a long distance speedskater for example.

Also, they only burn fat as long as you are losing weight overall. Otherwise they are just burning calories, which one can replenish through food.

So, the only thing you can do is lose weight and eventually your problem are will be targetted. No one can say exactly when, but if you are lean everywhere else, I would expect it to be soon. To do that, you need a calorie deficit.

Good luck.

Iam 21 years old and Iam about 5'2 and I weigh 186 pounds and I want to lose about 50 pounds and I want to weigh about 130 pounds which is how much I weighed when I was in highschool I just wnat to know would that be a health amount of weight to lose? How should I go about it?

Well, the answer below is very good. I just wanted to add a few things.

First off, in terms of how much to lose, its important not to be too focused on the numbers (height vs weight, BMI, etc). They are all good indicators, but they do not take build and muscle mass into account. E.g. my lean body weight (which I sadly am quite far from now) would classify an average person my height as overweight, because I am a weight lifter. So, use the numbers to help you track progress, but also rely on the mirror... it never lies.

Now, onto the process:

- Eat sensibly: You need a moderate calorie deficit, nothing too extreme - something that translates to 1 - 2 pounds per week. Eat balanced, healthy meals low on saturated fats and do not neglect protein (particularly if you do any form of resistance trainging). All this is particularly important for preserving muscle mass during weight loss. Poor diets dont do this and it negatively affects the metabolism.
- Eat for what you are about to do, not for what you have just done. Ask yourself what you will do in the next 3 or 4 hours and tweak your calories by controlling your carb intake accordingly. So, eat more of your daily carbs before periods of activity (and hence also more of your daily calories) and less/no carbs before periods of rest (and hence less calories). The other components, proteins and fats, should stay roughly the same. This way you fuel your workouts and perform better.

In terms of exercise, one can do it in many different ways. Whether losing weight or not, everyone should do at least 3 steady pace cardios per week, of at least 20 minutes (for their vast health benefits). This is what I would call the minimum.

The ideal routine would combine weights with cardio. A gym routine where one trains say 3 times a week with weights and does 3-5 weekly cardios is probably about as good as it gets. But again, its not mandatory.

Sports are also great, particulary those that resemble interval training (e.g. soccer is the most effective sport I know).

So, eat balanced, eat less than you need (but not a lot less), follow the advice in the answer below, and start exercising.

Take small steps, find the kind of exercise that suits you, and dont push yourself so hard that you burn out.

Good luck.

14/f
Okay so I pulled a muscle in my upper right leg, like were my butt cheek is.I am a cheerleader an it us very hard to do what I do with a pulled muscle. are there any ways at all that could help heal it within like 3 days? It has been pulled for about 2 or 3 weeks though. Help please!!!!

If the muscle has not healed (or virtually healed) there is unfortunately nothing you can do. Moreover, even if it is almost healed, I still would not use it in three days. Thats a lesson I learned the hard way... straining a pulled muscle before it is 100% healed most often just puts you right back to square one. And the problem is, pulled muscles often give no warning... one minute they are ok-ish, the next you only have one working leg.

Here is an article that mentions some things you can do for these kinds of injuries (before and after):

http://orthopedics.about.com/od/sprainstraintreatment/ht/muscle.htm

But again... its nothing that will work in 3 days.

Hey,
I am in school and I am having trouble's with my friends. I don't know if they're trully my BEST friends or just friends or not even friends. ( I will give some examples)
1 - One friend tell's me when I am doing somethin wrong and she counts all of my mistakes)
2- My other friend says were besties but never hangs with me at school..
Those were some examples.
Please HELP!

This depends on your criteria for friendship. How do you classify a friend? How is that different from an acquaintance or a best friend?

For me, the most important issues are loyalty and dependability. The rest come second, though I will grant you that if someone is really annoying (for example), then it can make friendship very hard.

Now, your definitions might be different, but I would ask questions like:

Whose there when you need help?
Who backs you up even when they have something to lose? Maybe a lot to lose?
Basically, who is willing to pay a price (of a greater or lesser degree) in order to help you out?

For me, anyone else can never be more than an acquaintance - because that is how I define friendship.

The rest I would handle by either accepting it or talking to them and slowly redefining the relationship. Things do change this way... sometimes very very slowly, but believe me they can change.

I have a friend I have known for about 28 years and we had all sorts of trouble. When we were kids he was "in charge" being 2 years older, but when we hit our late teens things got very difficult. But, we both considered each to be "real" friends so we worked it out... with a ton of fights over a period of maybe 6 or 7 years... but we did it and he is one of my closest friends today (and we dont fight at all any more).

Ok, I rambled a bit. What I am saying is that although its hard, it is often possible to change things (if you are patient), providing you think that its worth it. Determining that is based on what you value in a friend.

i have recently started soccer my first time I'm a female young teenager. we have played 3 games (just an idea of how long I've been playing) well i wanna get good at technique and just a better understanding of soccer. if theirs any advice, or websites you can share with me it would be very helpful thank you :)

Youtube is a good idea. Try both soccer and football skills, tactics, tricks, etc.

Beyond that, I would suggest a few very basic things that any beginner should practice.

1. Running with the ball at your feet. This means running while never allowing the ball to be more than a few inches from your feet. So, small taps as you run. Harder than it sounds.

2. Same as above but around cones.

3. Practice trapping the ball. That means getting it under control in one smooth movement. Have someone pass you the ball (both along the ground and at different heights) and learn to trap it so that it lands right in front of you. That usually means using the side of your foot, but if the ball comes higher it can also mean using your chest.

Check these out:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mOrKp_m9R5s
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3lExstvqB9M

Notice in the second vid how the ball lands (for the most part) nicely right in front of his foot... perfectly under control. I cannot emphasise how important this is for any position on the pitch.

4. Basic passing skills. There are many drills for this, but at the most basic level it can be two or three people passing the ball along the ground, back and forth. Learn both two touch and one touch, i.e. one touch to trap and one touch to pass, or passing the ball straight back without trapping.

Beyond this it depends also what position you play. But of course shooting drills are always a good idea, same with tackling, heading, set pieces, high passes, tactics, etc. But what I listed above is a very good basic technique level which will get you quite far. Any decent football player has to be able to trap, pass, and move decently with the ball.

Another thing that never hurts is to watch football on tv and pay attention to why they play the way they play. This can help understand the tactical side of things. And of course, there are numerous resources on youtube and the net in general.

Good luck.

Okay well i have two questions, one im using the sauna waist belt to help lose weight and its helping and all but i think i may be allergic to the material because after i take it off it itches and i have irritation in some spots but i dont want to stop using it what should i do?? And two i heard some weight lost pills are safe and works but idk which ones, i went to walmart and there is a ton of them! Which one should i use??

I researched those things a while back (to check if they actually might work) and came across your problem. Apparently it is not an allergy but a common reaction to using them. Particularly if one uses them too much. Its basically skin irritaton.

I should also point out that the belts are generally regarded as ineffective. This is a quote I mentioned last time someone asked about it:

"The UK Advertising Standards Authority and the United States FTC are two of the most prominent agencies that cited the Velform Sauna Belt ads for misleading advertising in 2005."

Just so you know. It will mainly cause some water weight loss.

I wont touch the diet pill question because I don't live in the US and have no idea whats out there :)

Good luck.

okay so I have a small butt and would like to make it bigger. I would like to know specific info on what to do to make it happen. Www.getabiggerbutt.com offers advice in their book , does anyone have it ? If so, please tell me what the book says ?

I don't know if they are a scam as such (in the sense that they won't honour their money back guarantee), but I would bet my house they are selling a crap product.

There is a typical page format for this sort of bs product which is easily recognisable. Its always a long page you have to scroll before you get to the "buy" button, full of capital letters, exclamation marks, colours, etc. Once you have seen one, you have seen them all.

I am pretty sure their book does not contain any wonderful wisdom that no one else on the planet knows. I would wager that it has some relatively mundane advice, freshly repackaged. But, of course, I do not have the book...

I did notice one thing on the site though. They claimed doing various gym exercises won't work. That is incorrect. Doing exercises that target the glutes will give you a bigger butt. So yes, doing "100" of them wont be very effective, but doing a rep range of 8-12 per set will be.

Thats all I can contribute with :) Hopefully someone here has more specific info.

Good luck.

can you get pregnant if you swallow sperm?

And just to confirm...

No you cannot.

heyyy everyonee!
okay well im 16 and i weigh 153 and i am 5'6". i am not obese but i could loose about 25 pounds the most. i go to the gym and i am not sure if i am doing the machines right and i just dont know how to lose weight because i see no results.

****ALSO**** i am on ADHD medication which decreases my appatite alot so its not that i eat alot so idk what to do!

please help me on finding a way to lose weight fast :) thankss.

I agree with below... fast is usually not best.

First thing first, are you doing cardio? If not, start doing 3-5 cardio workouts, moderate pace, for at least 20 mins each time. You can go longer depending on your fitness level etc. If you do weight training, you can do this afterwards. It can also be done at a different point in the day or on different days.

Second, you need a good program to train at the gym. Weight training is excellent for your metabolism and for maintaining muscle mass. Try as much as possible to avoid machines and stick to actual weights. They are far more efficient and better for your body (the only exception to this is if you have some sort of injury that prevents you for performing specific exercises).

Here are some basic principles:
- Weight training routine should be under 1 hr
- As much as possible use free weight, multiple-joint exercises (called "compound" exercises)- they are far more effective, they are safer (if done right- so do ASK), and they hit multiple muscle groups saving you time.
- If you are a beginner, I would suggest a rep range of 10 to 12 not to failure.
- Train your whole body rather than focusing on parts. This is more effective for weight loss, for your overall health (posture etc), and for your functional strength.

Here is a quick beginner sample program:

Day 1

Squats
Lying leg curls
Bench press
Military press or Dumbbell shoulder press
Seated cable rows
Dumbbell biceps curls
Dumbbell triceps extensions
Abs (your choice - rep range a bit higher... say 20-25)

Day 2

Deadlifts
Lat pull down
Incline dumbbell press
Barbell biceps curl
Cable extensions (triceps)
Abs (same as above)
Hyperextensions (if you lower back is up for it... rep range is also usually higher, but depends on your fitness level)

3 sets on all exercises except biceps/triceps where you can start with 2 sets. About 1- 1.5 mins break between sets.

Both days are full body, just with different emphases. Alternate between them. You can train 2 or 3 times a week but never back to back (since you need recuperation time). E.g. Mon-Wed-Fri.

You can google the exercises or try to navigate through a site like this one:
http://www.bodybuilding.com/exercises/

Thats pretty much it. Good luck.

Today I got in a fight in school. I was obviously the loser, but I have a legitiment reason as to why. My question is just asking if you think this sounds like i'm making up an excuse, or if everyone will agree and think that if it was a fair fight the outcome would have been different.

Okay, so i was walking down the hallway, and she came up from behind me all quiet, the only way i knew she was there was that someone said hi and she replied. she was so close, and next thing i knew she was grabbing me by the hair and ripping me to the ground. my boyfriend tried to pull her off me but a teacher pulled him away, and she was swinging at me, and i was hitting her back, but she was sitting on top of me so i really couldnt move well.

basically i was jumped and it was a complete sneak attack.

In a fight situation, if one person gets the other in a mounted position it is extremely difficult to get out. In professional fights it is usually a fight-ender (providing that the mount is above the other person's waist... i.e. they are straddling the stomach/lower chest area). It is impossible to throw punches off your back (with any degree effectiveness)... even for a professional boxer cant do it.

So, if you were grabbed from behind, pushed to the ground and mounted, it was certainly NOT a fair fight. I would under no circumstances consider that a loss of any kind.

In fact, I wouldn't even consider that a fight. It was a cowardly ambush, nothing more.

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