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what are under skin pimples?
i heard something about a hot rag , does that get rid of acne?

It's when the dirt and oil gets trapped underneath your skin and forms like a red bump. It doesn't have a head on it so its really hard to pop. Sometimes holding a hot washcloth on a pimple will make it easier to pop, but popping them isn't good for your skin.

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How can you stop having a panic attack? How can you make it go away?

NO links, just advice

I find it helpful to focus on something else. I do this by counting backwards from 100 by 2's. It really helps me calm down.

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Does anyone know of any websites where I can find a sexy (adult) french maid outfit?

Try

Http://www.loverslane.com

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Ok my best friend (let's call her jenna) went out with (let's call him jimmy) (off and on)for 3 years... they broke up for the 5th and final time (for now) and she's heart broken. This time he for real wants to move on. He blocked her from aim and myspace and won't even talk to her. He was her world for almost 3 years and now he's gone... ok that's her version. The truth is he was a the biggest jerk to her and treated her like crap and she still wants him back and is acting emo about it now.. how can she get over it?

Three years is a long time. You didn't mention how old your friend is but if she is only 16 years old that means she's spent 3 out of the 16 years of her life with this one person. Of course she is devestated. Just listen to what she says and offer a shoulder to cry on. She is unable to see how he treated her because she is on the inside, and at this point will still defend his actions. It will take time to get over a relationship ending, and she will need you. Offer support, and try not to get fed up as she talks about him all the time, and cries over him.

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15/m
riiight i need a bit of advice, girls your the only people who can help. i love my gf to bits but she keeps like having loads of mood swing i know the period n all that but its not that:S she keeps having loads of mood swings and everything is ok with her family and all that i dunno what it is. so girls do you get like this at times?? and if so why:S its personal yeh but i could realy do with the help. thanks very uch:)

Sometimes girls have a hard time explaining whats going on. She may feel like you wouldn't understand, or that you would simply brush it off and say "That's stupid". Don't take it personally if she takes it out on you, she just can't help it if you happen to be the one who's there when she has a meltdown. Maybe she's just stressed because it is the end of the school year, or maybe she is fighting with a friend. It's okay to ask what's wrong, just don't push her to talk. Tell her that you will always be there to listen to her if she needs to vent.

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What are some good ska bands? Ones that, by listening to, i could get the idea of what exactly ska is.

Also, does reel big fish count as ska?

yes, Reel Big Fish counts as ska...
Streetlight Manifesto
The Skatalites
The Toasters
Sublime
Big D And The Kids Table

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in "the circle" what are they smoking? like are they lighting insense(SP) or somthing because they always get f______ed up and i dont know what there on

They are smoking pot. The producers of the show didn't want the viewers to ever really see them smoke, because they thought that they would be promoting it then.

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17/m

I started having sex w/ my gf, but i thik she might be faking her orgasms. how can i tell?

It is kinda hard to tell, but if she is she is really only cheating herself.

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soo i have a few questions about hair colorin. if you can only answer one its fine but yeah.

1- i put some navy blue semipermanent dye in my hair. then of course something came up and i need to get it out =[. it says it lasts 8-10 washes, so if i were to wash it a bunch of times in a couple of days [i know, bad] would it get it out?

also,
2- im a natural blonde, but friday i got the underlayers of hair permanently done brown, and i love it! i kinda want to see what i look like with solid brown hair. is there a one time wash out hair color that i can use to test it out? a good brand etc? also how long do i have to wait before i get touch ups or whatever, because actually i would like to go darker on the dyed part anyway...


friday was my first ever time experiencing dying my hair, so yeah lol any help is appreciated!

Okay, If your hair was blonde when you dyed it blue, it will be extremely hard to get out even though it is only semipermanent. They do make some type of shampoo to take color out of hair, but I don't know how well it works. Another option you have is to go to a salon and have them bleach your hair and dye it back to your natural color, which is damaging and expensive or since you mentioned you wanted to be one solid color, they might be able to dye over the remaining blue in your hair. Keep in mind that once you go darker it needs to grow out, or be bleached and then dyed to make it a lighter color.

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What does it mean if a guy SAYS he likes you and flirts with you and stuff but constantly teases you and basically makes no effort to continue the relationship further?

14/f. =]

It means he likes you, but doesn't know if he likes you back. And yes, I know...it is incredibly annoying.

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i hope people can help as much as possible. =)

i`m makin a video on windows movie maker.
i know how to put pictures on there but music oh my am i havin trouble. i have no idea how to download//upload music. so please help i want a song on the videos i`m makin one for myy best friend that died && myy aunt. so please guide me through.

i also want to put them on a dvd type thing && i don`t know what kind of disc i`ll need or how to do this. so if you could please help that would be amazing. i know it might be alot of work but please i want to have this done for familyy

For music you go to File, import into collection, then find your song from your computer. And click import. You do this for each song you want. Then you select the song from your collection and drag it to the audio/music timeline.

To save it you can go to File/ save movie file, and follow the wizard. You can it on a regular CD-R

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what is a jersey dress? when i search google images there are so many dresses that look different. is there a good site that shows you what is what? like what are flares and the difference between them and bellbottoms?

Jersey is a type of material, which is why all of the dresses you saw looked different. And Bellbottoms are extremely flared pants,usually jeans, which were popular in the 90's.

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I have this project in one of my classes, and we need to do a survey with 100 people. me and my group already have about 20, and i thought it would help if I could just ask people online too for answers. only answer for one candy, and for "other" dont say what candy it is, just say "other".

Nerds
Skittles
M&Ms
Gum
Hershey's
Snickers
Twix
Reeses

THANKS! :]

Other

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hi, im 15/f and never been on a date. I guess you can say that i'm shy, and not good at talking to people. Even with my best friend i don't know what to say. When im walking with a guy 1 on 1 (such as a future date) i don't want to walk in silence going...hmm, this sucks....i want to be able to hold a conversation that isn't awkard....help??

The funny thing is that sometimes when you meet someone who you are a really good match with is that you ALWAYS have something to talk about. Which is a good thing, when you first start getting to know someone. Some advice of what you could talk about is...well him. Everyone loves to talk about themselves...after all it is what they know the most about. If he is wearing a band shirt ask him about the band and what other types of music he is into. Or if you are eating some where see what he ordered and say something like "Wow, that is my favorite food" or "I've never thought about trying that" Remember that the other person will probably want to know about you too, and don't be afraid to tell the truth either.

Kate

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Tonight my mom saw me trying to scratch my back. I had a terrible itch. She came over and scatched the itch on my back for me. And in a teasing voice said: ech, you are so bony; Should I be upset or just ignore it. She said it a kidding way.

I wouldn't be too worried about it, since she said it in a teasing way. Its not exactly fun to be teased but she wouldn't intentionally say something to hurt you. [Imagine my surprise when I sat on my ex-boyfriends lap and he told me I had a bony behind, I was taken aback a little but he didn't say it to be mean] Besides some people are just naturally that way. I'm the correct weight for my height but when I bend over, you can see my spine going up my back. It doesn't mean that I'm too thin. My mom always says that too, but everyone's body is different so I don't worry about it.

Kate

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I need your help deciding what the ideal menu for a public dinner would be.

Not knowing what would be the best dishes to serve is making this an impossible task.

If you will tell me your favorite foods, or point me to your favorite recipes, it would really help a lot.

You can list as many things as you like. They don't have to be fancy things at all. I am all about the comfort food baby! :)

This will be a mixed group of people so I would like to have something for everyone.

Cooking for a banquet is not as hard as trying to figure out WHAT to cook!

Everyone will receive feedback.

Thank you!

P.S. If all that was a lot to digest, pun intended, here is a summary: Please list all your favorite foods.

Mac and cheese
Baked Ziti
Chicken fingers
Salad
Fruit salad

Pizza
Cookies
Brownies

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15/f & boyfriend is 17/m. - sorry this is pretty long.

well i'm extremly confussed. my boyfriend matthew and i have been dating for almost 11 months. the beginning was AMAZING, seriously, great. now things are just falling appart. i [guess] you could say i have a temper, but hey, who doesn't? just sometimes small things annoy me. they do for him too. he's extremly demanding and a VERY jealous person. i am too, but oh well. for those reasons neither of us talk to the opposite sex. whatever. i'm fine with that. it's just that during the summer i'm gonna be so bored. i don't really talk to girls anymore, i don't care about that either because they ALL screwed me over. he recently just started wokring at a landscaping place & works REALLY long hours. it drives me crazy. 7:30-7:30 pm. [usually.] and whatever i guess i'll have to get over it. but those fights we get it [when we do,] are terrible. so much name calling, and so many things we don't mean are said. it's times like those that make me think. i mean i KNOW i love him, but sometimes i just wonder why i put up with it. i really wanna stay with him and everything, just things need to change. for instance he gets mad at me when i cry because of family reasons, doesn't really help me. i'm not trying to sound controlling and self centered i just i guess i expected him to be there for me. oh well. we see eachother EVERYDAY. we used to from 3-8 ; now it's like 7:30-8:30, and weekends constantly. i don't know but he's coming over today and i need advice on what to talk to him about. how do i explain that things aren't the same and things need to change.

sorry if this question didn't make a whole lot of sence. i just am extremly confussed and don't have anyone else to talk about this too.

thanks in advance. :]

This is pretty much what I went through with my ex boyfriend. It's almost as if I could have written it myself. He just may not be the type you can go to. My ex never understood either, he would always say that he was there from me but didn't really know how to comfort me. The truth is most boys really don't know what to say, becuase when guys are upset they just deal with it and girls tend to dwell on things.

Of course things aren't going to be the same. It's been almost a year, people change, you are two compeletly different people than you were when you met. And thats okay. You just need to change your relationship to life's demands at this momment.

I promise you that if you nag him about how you don't get to spend time together you will lose him. most guys cannot handle that sort of pressure. Just work around your schedules and make time to see eachother. If there is a week where you can't see eachother, just deal with it, but don't complain about it. It will only make him feel gulity and stressed.

Good luck and feel free to drop one in my inbox if you need more help

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How di increase my stamina ( ability to run for a long period of time ) ?
Any information will be helpful thanks! Any websites relevant will also be helpful! Thanks!

You have to bulid it up slowly. You just need to pace yourself and run a little bit farther everyday. Even if you just start out being able to run a single lap around the track, if you work at it and everday push yourself to do that last lap you will build your stamina up.

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hi i have to make a cd for a book report with songs that have to do with the book...does anyone know any rock/alternative/acoustic songs that have to do with the book Lovely Bones?

I've actually read the book...but it was like 4 years ago so I tried.

Cherry Monroe - Gone
Muse - Time is running out
My Chemical Romance - Helena
Taking Back Sunday - What's it feel like to be a ghost

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i went out with my ex-bf of 2 weeks for a month. today i went back to his place after school and we ended up having sex. but we both knew what we were there for. we both needed it. i dont know what to think now. he says he only dumped me coz he has trouble staying with one person if you know what i mean, but there has been no one since me. so what should i be thinking right now? he wants to go out again. and i want to really badly too. but my bestie says its up to me but she doesnt wanna see me get hurt.

now dont get me wrong - i wanted the sex today, i needed it so dont think anything like he raped me or anything, ok?

thanks a ton

x

If you can talk about why your relationship ended the first time and work out those problems, then I would give it another try. If you can't then move on. Don't play around with the whole friends with benefits thing, because you will only end up getting hurt in the end.

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