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ex-sex
i went out with my ex-bf of 2 weeks for a month. today i went back to his place after school and we ended up having sex. but we both knew what we were there for. we both needed it. i dont know what to think now. he says he only dumped me coz he has trouble staying with one person if you know what i mean, but there has been no one since me. so what should i be thinking right now? he wants to go out again. and i want to really badly too. but my bestie says its up to me but she doesnt wanna see me get hurt.
now dont get me wrong - i wanted the sex today, i needed it so dont think anything like he raped me or anything, ok?
thanks a ton
x
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If you can talk about why your relationship ended the first time and work out those problems, then I would give it another try. If you can't then move on. Don't play around with the whole friends with benefits thing, because you will only end up getting hurt in the end.
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What you should be thinking is "Yeah, that was fun, but I probably shouldn't do it again if I don't want to get hurt."
Friends with benefits relationships can work, but they hardly ever work out nicely with exes. There is just too much emotional baggage, too much miscommunication, too many expectations. So take what ya got, remember it fondly, and if you want to fool around with someone else just because you need it, go for it. But I can pretty much guarantee you if you try to make a casual sex arrangement work with your ex, you will end up hurt somehow.
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If you want to date him again, and he wants to date you again, then go for it.
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No don't go back out with him b/c yes it is rape i agree and you don't need a man like that in your life!
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That's basically a "bootie call" and called a "XXX buddy" relationship.
Lots of people only see each other under the circumstance for "sex." No committment required.
It sounds like he does not want a committed relationship, freeing himself to see and date whomever, but: wants a sexual relationship with you, too.
It's up to you to accept those terms or not.
Are you willing to have just a bootie-call relationship? Do you have feelings for him? If so, kick the relationship to the curb or your heart will get broken as the bootie-calls continue to suck you in.
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