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And..he took her heart
Ok my best friend (let's call her jenna) went out with (let's call him jimmy) (off and on)for 3 years... they broke up for the 5th and final time (for now) and she's heart broken. This time he for real wants to move on. He blocked her from aim and myspace and won't even talk to her. He was her world for almost 3 years and now he's gone... ok that's her version. The truth is he was a the biggest jerk to her and treated her like crap and she still wants him back and is acting emo about it now.. how can she get over it?
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Sweetheart, listen. If she is your friend, you will be considered about her feelings & be here for her when she needs you most, instead of calling her emo & wanting her to get over it.
I went through this exact same thing with my boyfriend of 2 years, so I know how she has to feel. He deleted me from everything also. & repeatidly used me after we broke up.
It's something she's never going to be able to let go of. Never. It's always going to be in the back of her mind. But soon she'll start to accept it & live her life.
It may take months, years, or maybe a week, you never know.
I'm still not completely over my ex, and we've been broken up for well over 5 months.
But I'm still trying.
My friends helped me out more than anything.
& that's what you need to be doing too.
Just let her know that you have a shoulder for her. And be there for her until things start to calm down.
The first couple months are usually the hardest.
But she'll soon realize that there are other guys out there, whether or not she wants to date them, she can still do better.
Support her. That's all.
& If she ever needs someone to talk to, my e-mail is miss_suzii15@yahoo.com
Tell her to e-mail me & I will talk her through everything, because I guarantee I know exactly how she feels.
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Three years is a long time. You didn't mention how old your friend is but if she is only 16 years old that means she's spent 3 out of the 16 years of her life with this one person. Of course she is devestated. Just listen to what she says and offer a shoulder to cry on. She is unable to see how he treated her because she is on the inside, and at this point will still defend his actions. It will take time to get over a relationship ending, and she will need you. Offer support, and try not to get fed up as she talks about him all the time, and cries over him.
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The best thing right now is for YOU to be there. Be her friend and guide her through her tough times.
Take her out to go swimming, or to the mall and shop. Be her friend and help her forget about it.
She needs to realize that if they were going on and off for 3 years, he treated her like crap... well then they are not a great couple! she need's to move on!!!
Go to some parties and just have fun. Hopefully there will be some guy who will treat her better.
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remind her that she will get through this and be a oood freind fo her tell her how much of a jerk he was and that she doesnt need a person liek him in her life bc hes gonna just keep dragging her down when they break up .... also try to have a girls night with soem freinds to help her get her mind off it . but if she seeems self destructive (ie. cutting herself) tell a counsletr imeediately
hope i helped
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