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Q: srry if this is long but
there is this kid in my school and he is shorter me and not very good lookin but i still lik him alot and no one understands and ppl always make fun of me for likin him and i already went out wif him lik 3 times b4 and he dumped me all the times but i still rely lik him and alot of ppl make fun of me for it and i hate how no one understands mee

how can i get them 2 stopp??
if they say anything to you, cuss them out..if thats not your style..yell at them whatever. Beat them up..get them taken care of so they wont talk crap anymore!

Q: Ok I've got a boyfriend who I love and who loves me but lately he's been really confusing me because he flirts with two of my best friends and it makes me jelous even if he's mine anyway he keeps smoking weed and injects himself with heroin but i don't who if he's telling the truth but he's got little marks on his arm and I'm really worried about him if it's true he could die and I know Id be really upset if he died how can I talk to him about it because he thinks it's cool and his mate does it to
Well first of all, guys flirt with everyone even if they dont mean to. As long as hes not like kissing her/feeling her up..yeah. But if it bothers you tell him to stop! Oh and about the drugs, get him into rehab or something..say your worried about him and that you want him to live and all.

Q: jus b4 i was talking to mi friend online:
the conversation:
me: hey
her: OH HI
me: wuts up
her: n2mmu?
me: n2m
her: KOOL
me: yup
her: look at my pro
me: ok h/o
her: kk
me: its cool
her: ty
her: im not ut friend thanks alot

then she signed off nd i dk what to do.
any advice
lol What was in her profile?? What did it say?? Talk to her about it! and say your confused.. and stuff

Q: how did u get ur colum like that any webs i can go to?
http://www.buddy4u.com/view/?x=safe&u=html+.+help :)

Q: hey, my name is zach, 15 yrs and i'm a swimmer in southern california. THIS IS ONLY FOR PEOPLE WHO KNOW STUFF ABOUT COMPETITIVE SWIMMING. does anyone have any suggestions to gain some speed and drop some seconds off of my backstroke??? i can to 100meters in 1:23. tell me how to get faster.

Hey Zach attack..Umm!! You should go to a community center thingy and ask if there is a coach you can do privates with so they can watch you swim and give you tips. Or just pretend at the end of your swimming thing, a girl will be waiting for you so you could do her ...haha maybe that will speed up your time..and practico makes perfecto..good luck!!

Q: I`m a senior in high school. I`m turning 18 soon but my boyfriend will still be 17. If we have sex after my birthday, will that be illegal?
Yeah because he's still underage. But seriously, how many people follow that rule? You see 13/14/15 year olds get pregnant all the time. So if you want to, have sex..its not like your being watched!

Q: I have a friend named Lisa, and me n lisa just got out of a HUGE fight, and i'm sure shes suprised i forgived her.. well! LISA got into my purse the other day in study hall and took my watch i wasnt feeling good and i kept demanding to get my watch back but she wouldnt give it to me, this is like my favorite watch and it means so much to me everyone hates it but i totally love it .. well anyways i asked her today if she had it and she had like a 5 second break and then finally said. its at my house and i said dude bring it to me then and shes like im not gunna be home tonight i really want it back what can i do to make her give it back i have a pair of pants and a shirt of hers too! so should i threaten to burn them if she won tgive it back thanks!
I so agree with WTF?..really! But first, go to her house and try to get them. if you dont get them then burn her clothes..haha that would be so funny.

Q: How do you put a picture on your column?
Go to profile settings under give advice. Look for "Upload picture of you" and click browse and yeah!

Q: I'm about 5'2 and weigh around 95 lbs..but everyone tells me im really skinny. How much should i weigh if im 5'2?
Around 115 is average for 5'2! Your fine!

Q: I have straight hair (cuz i blow dry it straight) and its about medium length (not quite to the middle of my back). In the front it's angled and it starts just below my chin. I wash my hair every morning and blow dry it straight, but then after a while it starts getting dented in the front where its angled, i guess from putting it behind my ears. But even if i dont put it behind my ears, it still won't stay straight all day. Even if i straighten it that still wont work. How does everyone else get their hair to stay perfectly straight and frizz-free all day? (i especially need help with the front angles of my hair) Any ideas?
Your probably straightening it too fast. When you stratighten the front try taking extra time to straighten it. See if that works! But really its always gonna have a dent in your hair..no matter what. its not like anyone will be like "omg u have a dent..eww" oh and get biosilk!****BIOSILK TAKES AWAY THE FRIZZ IN YOUR HAIR, ITS KINDA EXPENSIVE BUT WORTH IT. YOU CAN GET IT AT SALLYS BEAUTY SUPPLY OR ASK A SALON IF THEY HAVE IT!!

Q: im in 8th grade (13 / female) and well in my gym class this year i have like no one to talk to.. there's the popular girls that somehow have the same class together .. the unpopulars, the geeks, the preps, and some of the jocks, and then there's me .. i dont really fit in to any of those categories (i guess i`m just average) .. well heres the real problem i actually do have a friend in my class, lets call her Monica but she doesnt even look at me, I guess shes embarassed to be seen with me or something cuz the whole class long she hangs out with this girl lets call her Jessica. And well when they hang out together their like all BFF and they really kinda arent .. anyways should i tell Monica or not ( like she knows i want to switch classes but i never told her why) . .what should i do ?

p.s. sorry its so long and kind of confusing
Oh i know how you feel-I was lucky to have friends in gym this year. But last year was like that-I knew one person but she didnt really hang out with me. I would switch classes, seriously. You could try to make friends but switching classes is what I'd do.

Q: heyy! im 13 yr. old girl.. ok so i had this friend and she was my best friend since kindergarden.. we were friends from kindergarden to 5th grade .. then came middle school .. she became somewhat popular somehow .. but she was trying wayy to hard .. anways im in 8th grade now and its only the begining of the 2nd marking period .. she has been mean and stuck up and a bitch to me .. i get upset sometimes (i dont cry but her being me to me hurts bcuz we were friends for so long) and like should i be upset or am i jealous? plz helpp !
Your upset, I mean I would be too. Shes not worth it if she ditched you like that. Just ignore her!

Q: I am a christian and i am having trouble with my youth group my parents wont change churxhes and i dont drive wat should i do
Talk to your youth pastor about it. Tell him/her whats bothering you. And he/she will figure everything out. Or, you can talk to the people in the youth group and tell them whats up. If both dont work out, just go to a church with a friend from school. maybe? I'll pray for you:)

Q: Ok, well I met this guys 3 weeks ago, and we both liked eachother a lot! I felt like I knew his hole life honestly I could of wrote a book on him. In that week we would kiss and make out and the sort and he sort of stuck to me in my heart, well last week on monday we decided to be friends, it was better for him, and I wanted to make him happy, so I agreed, later that day I cried my heart out and the next day too, but never in front of him. We give eachother lots of hugs and we talk on the phone a lot too and i Help him out with his love life too, and I feel like a jelous tention. As much as I wanna be friends, I wanna be a little more too... WHAT SHOULD I DO!
Just be his friend. Thats all you can do. Having a friendship is better than no relationship at all!!

Q: OK...first off im in 7th grade and on the cheerleading squad and its b-ball season and every cheerleader has to make up a cheer to use and i have no idea for words/motions for one...so if anyone has any cute b-ball sideline cheers id be very thankful!!
Hey! ok here are some..I got from varsity.com

x=claps *=pause:

OffenseXShoot for twoxOffense(right diagnal)(pause, bring right arm down to left together like a clap)Score!x--You can use that one for defense too, just say defense take it back, defense go! ~2 pointsXSink it in *(on sink low touch down motion with your right leg out in front and toes towards sky, on it arms in daggers and right leg in liberty, on in arms in clean and feet together.)Round the rim ( on round have your right arm in a T and your left one in candlestick position out in front of you with your feet apart, swing both arms to the left on the, and on rim hit with your left behind your back and right in a T with your legs bent)* Lets win! (on the pause hit a low V still bent and on win pop it up to a high V with legs together then repeat sideline!)~~
RxEBxOUxNDxReboundxxReboundx(half fight motion for Re then full fight motion for bound)
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ShootxShoot that ball(clap on ball)shoot that ball(clap on ball) and score!x

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dribble, shot, shot, take that ball to the hoop, hoop

the motions go... Dribble(move side to side like you dribbling a basketbal) shot, shot(make a gun with one of your hands then make a gun with the other) take that ball( clap pause clap pause) to the hoop, hoop(pretend like you shooting the bastketball do that twice)
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You might be good at football, you might be good at track,but when it comes to basketball,you might as well step back
~~
(_)=Mascot

(_) Dribble
Shoot Shoot
Take that ball to the
Hoop Hoop!
~~
P-U-T-I-T-I-N, put (pause) it in. Just say it at a fast pace and just clap your hands to the 'beat' for the spelling part and for the 'put it in' part,we just do low V, high V, T

Q: i just wanna say thanx to all the pplz tht helped me the otha day. but i didnt get to read the feedbac till like 2 mins ago.. so im gonna do wat u all told me... well today at skewl he flirted with me like... the whole time! in skewl, at lockers, in engilsh ( we r in every class together) it was weird.. it was like he was startin to like me all ova again. n i was on the fone with him yesterday (he calls not me i swear!) n i told him i mite of sprained my knee doin something n he said "yes i can carry ur books"........? im so confused help please!!!!!
I dont know which question you asked but I'll try to help. If he seems he likes you just ask him if he does like you! I think he does like you..so who knows!! Just ask and see what happens. If you like him back, go out

Q: okay .. well there is this kid and hes in my geometry class..that's how i met him and i'm a freshmen and he's a sophmore - well we sit next to each other in class and as the days went on we began to talk to each other and he always will take my pens/pencils/purse/book/notebook and not give it back . or if i'm doing work hell scribble all over my paper - after a while he started tlking to me in the halls ramming me in walls er lockers in a playful way - well, i think that i like him and i don't know if he does or how i can find out .. like it seems like it does and a couple people said they tihnk he does .. but i dunno if it's jst his personality .. so i wanna know how i can find out .. please help *i'll rate *

Freshmen in Geometry? wow..I'm taking it when I'm a Junior..you must be smart. But anyway, I think he does like you. He is totally flirting...and if you like him back..flirt some more and one day ask if he wants to hang out with you at the movies one day with all your friends. Then flirt with him at your little group thing and go from there!

Q: ok my parents always fite about something that i do wrong. I dont no what to do! i get so upset bc it seems like they are goin to split up. How can i tell if they are goin to or not???
PLZ HELP ME ANYONE!~!~!~!
Just because they have fights dont mean they will split up. My parents always fight, and everyones parents does. its normal but if your that scared talk to both of them at the same time and tell them your worried

Q: ok so im a female 14years old im in eight grade and i guees alot of guys find me really attractive well etleast thats what they all say and so i go out with guys alot liek last time i went out with anyone was like 4 days a go and now i want to go out again with different guy but the problem is that there is 6 guys who like me and i flirt with all of them and stuff and like i flirt with like alot of guys but i mean every girl does at some point but i dont think guys like that much so sometimes i lose them bacause of that but like i think i was born to flirt with guys so am i really that bad or am not the only one who does it and is there anything i should change?
Yeah people are going to think your a slut. thats how 13 and 14 year olds think...you can flirt thats fine but stick to one guy at a time for a boyfriend. And if you break up with one, wait a while until you find a new guy..

Q: y do girls stereotype guys so much? I mean, we may think about "stuff" some of the time, but girls always jus automatically assume thats wat guys r thinking about 24/7. And u also always assume that in a relationship, the guy is always wanting one thing and he will always make the first moves towards it. And another thing that bothers me is y girls are such feminist. ok, back then guys were thought to be superior to girls, but now days we r equal. however, lots of girls are always arguing how they have to go through so much pain, or how they have to endure so many more hardships. it really annoys me. And also, y is it always sexist if a guy does something or says something to a girl, but no one cares if a girl does or says something about a guy? i mean, a male teacher can favor guys and not pay much attention to girls, and automatically he is sexist and fired....but a female or male teacher can favor girls, and no one cares b/c no one thinks that is sexist except the guys who are on the short end of the stick. i jus want to know y.
We think of all that stuff because our hearts are always broken by guys. But we still think (well at least I do) that not all guys are like that. Were just scared of losing our bfs! I think guys are stronger, even though we have pain..guys were just made stronger..so yeah i wont fight with guys about "ohh girls are better" but yeah if girls do say that their better and try to fight, their immature.

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