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Q: I;m 14 an I Have had a few boyfriends but the thing is i cant stay that long with them when ever i see them or they want to even just talk to me i get weird and break up with them but heres the weird thing when we are not togther i can do anything hold hands kiss hangout talk without getting weird but once i know where togther i get weird. Whats worng?

its normal i mean for some girls i had the same problem. until i meet my current boyfriend you have to find a good reason why you cant break up with them. things will get better it takes time and the right guy

Q: f/15

I had this one REALLY close guy friend, Jason, who I had been friends with for three years. Recently we told eachother that we have stronger feelings than 'just friends.'

Since then nothing had happened between us and I was okay with that but I REALLY wanted to kiss him. So last night we were at a party and when he arrived I kissed him. It was shortlived since it was just a 'hello' kiss, but it was our first (and last?).

Five minutes before this I told one of my best friends, Ann, that I liked Jason a lot. Ann has a boyfriend.

Just after I kissed Jason, so did Ann. We had been drinking (Jason hadn't) so I thought it was kind of funny and she only kissed him on the cheek.

About thirty minutes later Ann, who was NOT drunk, said 'Jason, I want to kiss you' so she kissed him on the cheek again. As she was pulling away Jason started to make out with her and they frenched for about 30 seconds. I was shocked but blew it off. I was SO turned off by what Jason had done and he looked at me right after he did it. I don't know what was going through his head.

I quickly left the room and tried to forget about what I just saw. I was shocked that Jason would do that.. and shocked that Ann would too since she knew I liked him.

Once it came time to go back to my house (Ann was sleeping over), Ann and I were saying bye to everyone. Then Ann went up to Jason and they french kissed and it was obvious that he likes her now. I couldn't even look at him, nevermind say bye, I was disgusted.

Should I ever talk to Jason or Ann again? Right now I am telling myself not to be upset (since that never helps anything) but I need to make a decision. I don't know if I should even continue to be friends with Jason. Plus, Ann cheated on her boyfriend by doing that but Jason doesn't know she has a boyfriend.

If I stop being friends with Jason I will probably lose 20 friends since he is always hanging out with them and I won't want to be there if he is. And he is usually the one to invite me to be with them. I have a lot of other friends since I'm one of the 'popular' girls but I really like being with them (I get straight A's but that gets boring so I like to party and drink with them.)

I am thinking of forgetting of what Jason did and if I run into him at another party I could be like Ann and make out with him and then he could like me again.

Sorry that this is SO long, advice is greatly appreciated so thank you so, so, SO much. :)

i dont think you should lose your friend ship with Ann over a guy you should talk to her about it and find out why she did it. tell her it hurt your feelings a little. remind her of her boyfriend. and with jason. you should ask him if he just said he had feelings for you or he ment it. be like at the party the other night you sure didnt show that you had feelings for me since you were all over my best friend. try to find out whats running throw their each of their heads. good luck

Q: My boyfriend and i has been together for two weeks, and we had dry sex with our clothes on. His penis had touched my vagina, but we had pants on, he wore boy shorts and i wore my sleeping shorts, and i wore underwear and he wore boxers under his shorts. So then, the question is am i pregnate? im scared as usual about this. I havent gotten my period yet because it should be coming soon, if it doesnt come yet, I don't know what should i do. Am i pregnate? Please help me !

hello sweetie. you could just be stressing about it. whitch could make your period come later. or even skip a month. Wait it out a little long couple weeks. hen if your period still has not yet came. go and buy your self a pregnancy test.

Q: heyy [=.
I'm about to go to my boyfriends house tommorow, and we're finally going to be alone. Can you give me any tips on what to do to turn him on a little bit? Thanks

A few tips could me. while you guys are making out you let your hands wonder. his will tend to do the same. dont me like nervous just stay calm it makes it more fun. after a while of letting your hands wondering and making out you tend to both be "horny" so from there do what want. dont let him force you into doing something you wont want to do.

Q: OK first off i've never been on a date before. Tomarrow, I will be going on my first date and I'm extreamly nervous. I have no idea what to do. We're going to a movie and than out to eat. I hate eating in front of people, so I'm horrified. Please tell me what you do on these types of dates. For example, during the movie do you just sit there and watch it? Or what? I'm so confused, and nervous it's crazy. So please help! Also, what are some things I can do to be less nervous? I need to know before later Sunday night! PLEASE HELP!

♥ Lisa

alright. during the movie: if he puts his arm around you rest your head on his shoulder. if he stares into your eyes stare into his and if you think its the right time( you will know when the time is right) lean in for a kiss. during diner keep the conversation going you dont want an akward silence. eat slow ifyou feel embarssed. good luck and have fun

Q: I really like this girl but i dont know how to ask her out
Also how to should I seem cool to people everyone thinks I emo when i aint should i be emo?
But how should i ask her out

you should ask her out in person it means so much more. maybe give her flowers then be like these are for you and i was wondering if you would like to go out with me!

Q: So, basically.. in my school, our group is thee 'mean group' you know, the plastics. Thats what everyone calls us! & well me & this other girl sarah, well last year, we decided to start hanging out with them , because they were always so nice to us. So, now like this is like, something how it would be, if I IMed them..
me:heyy
one of them: hey
me: whats happenin?
one of them: ehmagawd, first off.. i just found out that so&so she thinks she can be friends with us & that she is! hahahaha how funny is that? oh & do you wanna go up to the country club with me today? i didn't know you were a member! whatsherface told me! oh & guess who likes me .. oh & did you know, that nick got captain of the football team? oh yeahh.. how does it feel to be captain of the cheerleading team? i guess you two will be dating now, huh?

& thats what they alwayyss talk about. either what boy likes him, which girl is a loser, & how rich they are. & like, i wanted to get out of there group really bad, me & my other friend. & like one other girl. like, the only one they dont talk behind anyones back, is me. they think i'm there leader. & supposly, one of thee other schools,everyone knows who i am, & this one girl said, that like.. i rule there school? i dont even flippin go there. so before, when we were new to the click, we could get out easily.. but now i dont know how, without them completely destroying our lives.

what do we do ?!
kthnxs

hey well i think it would be easy because you dont have to be friends with some one you dont want to be friends with. you seem like a nice girl so start talking to someone that think isnt worthy enough to be in the "group" or just tell them you dont like the way they talk about people.

Q: I'm a pretty girl, I'm not trying to be cocky but I'm proud of my looks. When I'm out hott guys check me out, wink, smile, or wave at me all the time. However, the only boyfriends I can get are losers. What do I do?

not saying you do or anything but dont go out with guys because of there looks. date them because of there personality thats what i did and im in a great relationship he isnt the cutest guy but hes sweet, funny, etc good luck

Q: Okay- I'm 13/f and I know a boy who is one of my best friends and I really like him we had a relationship before but it didn't work out - we were like....9 so of course it didn't but I'm starting to get the feeling that he likes me. Like he stares at me until I look at him then he looks away- or hes always defended me but now that his cousin has come down to visit (he's not to nice) when he gets mean he defends me as much as I defend him- and he is starting to stand next to me when i around- he blushes when I'm around- when I sleep(his sister Is my BFF) over at his house(we all sleep on the floor its like a normal thing at their house) he tries to sleep next to me(blush)-and when we talk he looks deep into my eyes and acts like I'm the only thing in the world that matters. Do you think he likes me and Is to shy to ask me out? Because I'm to scared ask him.

yes it sounds like he likes you. but if you would like to no for sure bring it up in a convo. ask him so who do you like? or just tell him i like you. and i was wondering if you would consider going out with me? good luck

Q: I don't feel the same way about my boyfriend anymore. In fact, I feel that its time that we ended our relationship. There seems to be a catch, however. We haven't seen each other much this summer, but we do talk on the phone almost every night. I don't know if its appropriate to end the relationship now, or wait a couple of weeks until school starts and we see each other every day again. What should I do? Wait it out, or say whats on my mind?

if you feel as if it should end but you have a feeling that you shouldnt end it wait it out a little longer. until your sure that you want to end it because of not being able to see each other. good luck

Q: ok, well..theres this boy that i like and i dont know if he likes me, we used to lived next to each other and we used to hang out EVERYDAY but, thne he move and now i only see him at school, but we talk on the computer and we call each other reguarly, and he acts normal around me and when someone else is there with us he acts different. He had a girlfriend, but my friend told him that I liked him and the next day he broke up with her, my friend says he likes me, but i dont know, cause it's been a week since he broke up with her and he hasn't asked or acted like he likes me, and the day he bokre up with her, he said "so your going out with 'blahh' and i said wat? and he said wrong person, sorry...does that mean anytything?! does he like me?

how does he act different around you when some one else is there? Talk to him about it bring up the subject so who do you like now a days. or even just come out and tell him i have a crush on you. good luck

Q: Ok so i have this friend...and I think he's bulimic. I saw him eating the other day and when he was done...he threw up and it looked like he made himself throw up.

What should I do? Should I confront him about it? Tell someone? Both? Please help, im really worried about him.

you should talk to his parents. if this happened at school notivifying a school nurse or guidence counsler will help as well. make sure to make it clear your not positive and tell them what makes you think he is Good Luck

Q: My friend has tried to kill herself many times because she thinks shes ugly. I tell her shes beautiful but she won't believe me. People make fun of her and say shes ugly, but I told her its just because they are JEALOUS. I feel if I post a picture of her on here, and I want to know if you guys really think shes ugly. Honestly, I think shes really pretty but she thinks I'm just saying that. Do you think she's pretty? http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=viewImage&friendID=21583599&imageID=983295681&MyToken=72866b2d-41b3-4a0f-89b8-e84a24a369a8 I'd mostly like guys to answer this because most of the time she tries to kill herself is over guys, but girls can give there opinion too. I need a lot of answers so I'm going to rate everyone who answers. She wants me to help her change her appearence so if you think anything needs to be changed like her hair or whatever just tell me, and I will try to help her. I don't want her to die, so please answer as soon as you can!

i think shes pretty maybe getting her hair styled a little more. and some color to her hair. maybe some make up.

Q: My boyfriend and I started to have "dry sex" a few days ago. We only had underwear on and he started to get really rough and then actually cummed. I think a little might have gotten on my underwear and then when I went to the bathroom, I bled a little. What is going on and what are my chances of being pregnant?

wait it out a little you might be just be stressing. im sure you are but after a while take a home pregnancy test.

Q: My 6 year old daughter recently started saying she wants to meet her real dad (he hasn't seen her since she was two years old except for a brief chance meeting at a friends house a two years ago.) I'm not sure what brought this on, except that I just had another baby with a different man, and he and I share custody, so maybe she's feeling a little jealous that her baby brother's dad is around but hers isn't. I'm no longer involved with my son's father, but we are civil for our child's sake so it isn't like he could be a father to her. But I need to know- do I call my daughter's father and make him have a relationship with his daughter? I don't know what to do, or what to say to her.

I think you should call up her real father. talk to him about it see if he would be interesting in spending time with her. like for a weekend or every other weekend. if he says no sit down your daughter talk to her telling her. that her father isnt a bad man he just doesnt want to be apart of this family. explain to her that alot of kids dont get to see there father. and shes lucky to have your dad as a father figure to her. good luck.

Q: ok, well i have 2 brothers 1 of them is a twin with me and we share a room. The second one is always an asshole and never leaves me alone, my twin and I are about to lose our heads!!! We try letting him in are room and work things out but he is so anoying! we are all about the same age 13-14 the ass hole is 14 but we dont get along! You know how when you say that you hate your mom or dad or sibling, well i really hate my brother! Ive hated him my whole life! What can i do to resolve this issue?

your brother probly feels jealous. because you and your brother are probly alot closer. and you are always going to fight with your siblings i fight with my brother every day. but try talking to him and when he gets annoying tell him you think he is getting annoying Good LUck

Q: My life pretty much sucks all thanks to this one girl Linda. This is why ; In 3rd grade she took my #1 best friend away from me. Soon, I got over it. Now all thanks to her I met this guy Paul. I can hardly even stand him. Because May 30, we went out, and then he broke up with me 5 days later. I was crushed. July 21, he fell back inlove with me. [Again], 5 days later he broke up with me

Here is the worst part. Today was Linda's party. I tried and tried to loose weight, but my stupid body is to fat. Anyways I went to her party. Amy was there. Amy is really pretty. I really dislike Amy. She was like "ooh, i hate fat people, thats discusting" infront of my face. Paul was there. Paul did not speak to me at all, but he kept starring at me. He is really cute.

Linda's away message [on aim] said she`s going to the movies with Amy and Paul. They were making fun of Paul before.

Sometimes I feel like there is noone to talk to but god. I don`t know why that whatever I say everybody thinks it`s pointless. It has a meaning to me.

Anyways my mom doesnt seem to care about me, at all. But im fine i guess. My father passed away about 5 months ago.

I woke up today at 1. By 2, my day was ruined. Well, I imed Paul, and he blocked me. I was talking to Tyler & Tyler was like now he knows your fat.

Well guess what the 1st day of school, [Aug. 15] I am going to wow everyone. They are going to wish they never made fun of me. Nobody knows how bad I feel. It seems like nobody on this planet loves me. Also, I feel like I cannot trust anyone. Anyways, I fouund out Paul & Amy made out in the movies for 30 minuetes. Oh, how I wish i was Amy. Kyle said Linda was hot. I have to agree with him. Everyone is hot, but me. I am deffently going on a diet. =]

Right now, I don`t know how I feel. All I know is like I hate Amy. Yesterday and today were the worst days of my life. Right know it seem as if my mom hates me. Whats new? I really need to improve my life. One day im going to snap.

Right now im pretty cheered up. Guess what! Paul hates Amy! After she made out with Paul she made out with other guys. Paul apologized to me.

THIS WAS IN MY JORNAL EVERYTHING UP THERE.

Now this is just me typing. Everything seems to be so confusing. I feel unloved by everyone. Please do not recommend conseling. [sp?]

Sorry it was so long. !

When i was around in elementry school and 6th grade. i was cubby and wore glasses. i wasnt pretty i never had a boyfriend until i was in 7th grade. but i still had my close friends who supported me. but heres my advice. join sport teams i did base ball, basketball, track, soccer. its alot of exercises. and good for your body. eat healthy like salads with out alot of salad dressing. fruit, vegies. exercise every day. i no its summer and hot out side so wake up early and run a little by time you will be able to in crease the amount you run. stick with the friends you have tif they dont support you they arnt true friends. eat smaller serving sizes. Good Luck! i belive in you and i no you can do it. never think neg. Sorry So Long.

Q: Okay so basically this summer i got in a fight with all my friends and now i only have one friend which is my best friend. but i want more friends for school. how do i make friends??
I want friends that i can relate stuff too.
please help ill lovee youu forever like seriously

alright one friend is better then no friends. your lucky to have a best friend. the same thing happened to me this summer. i only have my best friend and my boyfriend. plus his sister. but things will get better trust me. its harder to make friends in the summer unless you go to a community center and meet some kids up there. or wait till school starts and just be friendly to people and talk to them you will find out more about them and figure out if you would like to be closer friends with them it takes time to find good friends. Good Luck!

Q: My best friend is an every sunday, church and really religious parents, and i took her to a party and she met a guy. She has only told me her secret, but she has already missed two periods! She might be pregnant and she really needs to tell her parents, but she is so afraid of how they react. If she is pregnant, she wants to keep the baby, she doesn't beleive in abortion or adoption, but she is afraid her parents will make sure she gets rid or the baby.

PLEASE HELP MY FRIEND AND I!!!

Your parents cant make you get rid of the baby. im pregnant. My parents found out on there own but my dad bought be a home pregnancy test. it came up positive. she should try a home pregnancy test before she talks to her parents. if it shows up positive tell her to tell her parents she would like to go to the doctors and have it doubled check. good luck!

Q: 15/f
About a year ago my boyfriend and I went against our better judgement and I ended up pregnant. So now we have a baby. It's put a real strain on our relationship. At first we argued over abortion, then adoption,and finally I ended up giving in and keeping the baby. We've been trying to share the responsibility this summer, but since the baby lives with me he doesn't understand my feelings, even if I try to tell him. The baby sometimes stays with him for a week, but apparently that isn't enough. Whenever he's around me all he seems to care about is the baby. Yesterday we had the oppurtunity to hang out alone and mom would watch the baby... but my boyfriend declined. I'm around the baby all the time so it's really irritating. Does he care about hisson more than me now? What's going on?

im actully glad you asked this question im 15 and pregnant and i have been worrying about this alot. i think he doesnt feel as if he is much involed in the babies life. tell your mom you would like to sit down and have a talk with him so she can watch the baby look him in the eyes make sure he is staring you in the eyes and tell him you feel and tell him how much you want your twos relationship to work out.. good luch sweetie

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.