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My Best Friend Has A Problem
My best friend is an every sunday, church and really religious parents, and i took her to a party and she met a guy. She has only told me her secret, but she has already missed two periods! She might be pregnant and she really needs to tell her parents, but she is so afraid of how they react. If she is pregnant, she wants to keep the baby, she doesn't beleive in abortion or adoption, but she is afraid her parents will make sure she gets rid or the baby.
PLEASE HELP MY FRIEND AND I!!!
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Your parents cant make you get rid of the baby. im pregnant. My parents found out on there own but my dad bought be a home pregnancy test. it came up positive. she should try a home pregnancy test before she talks to her parents. if it shows up positive tell her to tell her parents she would like to go to the doctors and have it doubled check. good luck!
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Go to a thrift store or whatever and buy a pregnancy test. Don't tell the parents until you are sure she is pregnant. If she is somewhat young... like 14 or 15ish, then her period timing may just be off. I have had mine for 3 years and mine is still always off timing. If she is pregnant, tell the parents for sure. You will need to because they will see her tummy grow eventually, and when the baby comes they will sorta know that she had sex.
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-brittany
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hey, well make sure she is definately pregnant before telling her parents. take a pregnancy test or go to a hospital to find out. if she is pregnant, you have two options. 1. if her parents dont believe in abortions either then i think she should tell them. because in that case they would let her keep the baby. but if she still wnats to tell them about it even if they believe in abortions then she has to sit down with them and talk with them about the whole thing in a civilized way. 2. dont let them find out until its time to have the baby. you can usualy hide that your pregnant by wearing big baggy clothes. i dont recommend doing this tho. the option 1. is much better. but its you guys descision.
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Ok, first of all, your friend MIGHT not be pregnate. The first thing your friend needs to do is, get a home pregnancy test. That is the only way of finding out for sure, without going to the doctor. If she is pregnate, take her to a clinic, they will have lots of ways to help her out. And your friend shouldn't worrie about her parents. If they are religous, then they will love her no matter what. If they try to make her give up the baby, simply tell her to tell her parents that she dosen't believe in abortion or adoption. They will listen.
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She needs to be sure that she is pregnant. She needs to got o a free clinic that offers support for young pregnant women. They can give her inforamtion and help her find a way to talk to her parents. She doesn't have to worry about them telling because it is illegal. It is Dr. Patient confidentiality. If she doesn't want to go there then she just needs to sit and talk with her parents. They can not force her to give up the baby. It is her body, her baby and her decision. If they threat to kick her out then all she has to do is call child protective services and they can have her immancipated so that she do what she needs to do to get on her own. For her and the baby. Either way she needs to tell them. i was afraid to tell my mom when I first got pregnant, i was only 15 so I was scared she was ganna kick my butt. I didn' tell her untill I was about 7 months along. I didn't start showing till then. She was upset yes but what could she do about it. It happened you can't change it. But when she went and thought about it and cooled off she was more mad at me for not telling her sooner. She had missed all the exciting things about being pregnant. No baby shower, ultra sounds all the grandma stuff. They will be upset yes but they get over it.
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First, make sure she is pregnant. I don't know how old your friend is, but her periods might just be really irregular. Did they have sex without a condom or any type of birth control? If yes, then there is a possibility of pregnancy. Go to Walgreens or some other type of drugstore and buy a pregnancy test. They are really easy to use, directions will be included. Either that or go to Planned Parenthood if there is one near you. The people at Planned Parenthood see teenagers like you guys come in every single day with problems like this, so don't be embarassed to go.
If she finds out for sure that she IS pregnant, she is going to have to tell her parents. Just think about it, how is she going to hide a big belly from her parents? How is she going to support the baby once it is born? She just needs to tell her parents that she needs to talk about something. Then sit them down and just straight out say "Mom, dad, I'm pregnant". That's probably going to be the hardest thing she will ever have to say, but she can do it. She needs to tell them that she realizes that a consequence of having unprotected sex was a possible baby, and she feels that she is willing to take on the responsibility of a baby with their help. She also needs to tell tham that it is HER baby, and there is no way she is going to get an abortion or give it up for adoption. If her family is really that religious, they will want to keep it anyways. It's going to be hard for her but she will get through it!
GOOD LUCK!
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Step one: She must confirm, beyond doubt, whether she is pregnant.
Step two: If she is pregnant, she must own up to it. Sex has consequences, and she must now deal with them.
Since she is part of a religious family, she might consider going to her minister first. He will keep her confidence; it is his duty to God. He will also strenuously insist that the right thing to do is to tell her parents, and he will point out (rightfully) that she won't be able to keep this a secret for long. She can ask him to be there when she does tell her parents, if she is afraid of how they will react.
I suggest that she reconsider her stance on adoption. You don't mention her age, but I assume that she is a minor or her parents wouldn't be as much of an issue. She is therefore not prepared to raise a child. Adoption is not an evil thing; it is a means whereby she can ensure that her child doesn't have to suffer for her mistakes. It is a responsible choice.
Incidentally, she also has a responsibility to tell the father. It's his child too.
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That's good to know that she'll want to keep the baby if she is pregnant and she will need you to support her 100% since her parents will not.I'm sure you will and you're a good friend.As far as the parents wanting to get rid of the baby tell your best friend not to let them,your friend would have to move out in a safe place,make her parents understand how much she loves that baby,that abortion is killing an innocent baby, hopefully they'll understand, and be willing to accept that baby in the family.There are support groups for pregnant females that your friend could go to so I strongly suggest she visits one of those and they'll give her a lot of info on pregnancy which she will need if she turns out to be pregnant.Good luck!
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The first thing you need to do is get an early pregnancy test. If you need help with that, you can go to a clinic like Planned Parenthood if they have that where you live. It's free, confidential and they will help her.
If she is pregnant, she definitely needs to go to her parents asap. I wouldn't go to the parents unless she is sure she is pregnant first.
Her parents may freak out at first, but they will get over it. If they are religious they won't make her get an abortion and probably won't make her give up the baby. Even if they try to force her to give up the baby, I beleive that (in certain states) she has the right to choose even if she is a minor.
If she is NOT pregnant, first you need to thank your lucky stars...then go to that clinic I mentioned earlier and get some birth control! Planned Parenthood gives free and confidential birth control!
I was a young mommy (my son is 8 now) and everything turned out fine for me. It's possible!
Good luck, and stick by your friend...she needs you now!
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go buy a pregnancy test and get your mate to take it.
how old is she? cz if she is young then her periods can still be irregular like be normal then stop for a while.. n just go back again all scoo wiffy like.
if she turns out to be pregnant. then the wise thing would be to tell her parents.. but if shes scared there are thngs like a family planning centre or liek the americans hav plan parentood.
they can help her with her parents
good luck with the test. and its quite common these days. so dont let her be ashamed or any thing liek that xxxx
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