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Q: i am having a birthday party so0o0on wat r good pary ideas? i am turning 14

A limo picks everyone up at your house, you go to a nice restraunt, eat lunch/dinner, have the limo pick you back up and drop you to your house for dessert/ice cream and so u guys can chill?

Q: i love my exboyfriend more than anything in the world. we still do stuff together like hang out, kiss, and all that. but i wish he was mine again. the reason we broke up is because his bestfriend made fun of him that i was younger than my ex, he got tired of his nagging friend. but still. WHAT SHOULD I DO?? i rate 5's!!

Talk to him about how you miss him! And he shouldent be listening to his friend..thats messed up. Just tell him to forget about his friend and if he really likes you, that he will go out with you. Soo yeah amke him choose..his friend or you..he obviously still likes you so..

Q: My husband and I were talking the other day and he said that if he died he would not want a funeral. I was shocked. Of course he should have a funeral, it's a great way for family and friends to say goodbye. I feel it is more for the family of the deceased anyway. He disagrees, and is shocked that I would not respect his wishes. Who is right here? And if he did die, what are we as a family suppose to do? I would like the love and support of my faamily.

I think that a funeral should be held because as you said, its a way to say goodbye. But you should respect his wishes, just as if someone said they wanted to be cremated they would get cremated. Maybe you should just talk to him about it and say his family needs to say goodbye but dont argue. if he still doesnt want one-then dont force him. But ask him to give you reasons why he doesnt want a funeral.

Q: Hey Sherry, its Sherry. I'm really bored because no one is asking questions..what do I do?

Thats a good question. I dont know!! I hate when people are not asking questions..sooo annoying..oh well!!

Q: This is a question to all advicenators: What makes you want to give advice to other people?

Because I'm bored, and theres nothing else to do online. But other than that, its good to know your helping people..because sometimes the people dont know what their talking about and if I didnt help them, they would be in deep crap =D!

Q: I feel lately that I am a fake Christian. I say I believe in Jesus, God, etc., but I just am not very knowledgable about Christianity on the whole. All I know is, when I'm talking to God, or the few times I go to church, I am very happy, because I do know that God and Jesus love me. And my family - they all believe and everything, we're just not the most religious people, I guess. But I realize that we need to truly accept Jesus into our hearts in order to enter Heaven, and I don't even feel truly like I've done that yet. I've never brought it up with my family, but I really want all of us to get to know God and Jesus so that I can expect to meet them in Heaven, because this is kind of a priority. But how do I do this without basically saying, "Okay, here we go, we are going to believe in this whether you like it or not"? I know that sometimes people get kind of offended because they think I force my ideas about religion upon them... Sorry for the long question - I rate!

lol Spike!!!

So you want your family to get closer to God? Well thats easy, just tell them when their all together that you feel God is telling you that all of you need to get closer to God. Maybe even ask your pastor for help. And about you questioning whether or not your saved..talk to your youth pastor or pastor about that one too. They'll pray, read the bible, talk with you about it! I'll pray for you, but for now pray and read the bible...there is something in there that will help you out!

Q: i have a quick question..i just upgraded my advice column to a paid account and under Column Settings it says "the option to creat styles has been temporarily disabled" does this mean i can't make my advice column all prettyful with like cool mouses, music videos, etc? I RATE HIGH!!~* thanks!

Well first of music videos are not allowed but you can still put them in under "Profile settings" You can do anything HTML in your "profile settings" under bio info..go to http://www.buddy4u.com/view/?x=safe&u=html+.+help and yeah!

Q: oK..I'm 13 5'4 and about 98 pounds..I used to be skinny and stuff but now I'm starting to get a big belly. I run and do situps and drink water and try to eat healthy and everything, but I starting to get larger than I should be. Any ideas on how to keep a flat stomache and stop gaining to much more because I used to see myself good now Im huge. sorry if thats kinda long.
~please help

Average weight for 5'4 is 120!! Your 98..do the math. Your fine! But keep running, do crunches, eat healthy and stuff..keep that up and youll keep your weight!

Q: hello,

right now, i am in 8th grade algebra. my teacher, is very different from my others. i guess she is a pretty good teacher, but on the third day of school, i asked her a question and she made a total fool out of me, because i didn't know something that she would teach after a few months. since then, i've been scared out of asking her numerous questions. my friend in the class is trying to get me to ask questions, but sometimes i just can't, because she is always so intense on you when you get something wrong. does anyone have any advice to overcome my fear, and actually clearing up some math problems i don't understand? thank you.

Talk to her one day after school and say "Hey Mrs ___ I sometimes want to ask you questions on math, but ever since that one time I asked and you got mad, I've been scared" She'll probably say sorry and you can talk and stuff and everything will be ok..you can even come in after school and ask the questions..so yeah good luck

Q: hey! where can i get those little iconish pictures for my site? like some cute, girly ones? Thanks so much and i rate 5's all around!

Hey! ok try these: www.xanga.com/icongirl www.xanga.com/xiconsx www.xanga.com/cute_iconz www.xanga.com/cuteeicons www.xanga.com/xawesomeiconsx http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=xxICONZxx4xxYOUxx www.xanga.com/yummy_icons

Q: ok well there is this guy named "bob" and well bob told me that he liked me but before he told me that he couldn't have a girlfriend cuz he's not allowed. anywayz he siad he liked me and then told 2 of my friends that he likes me so now 2 of my friends know and they're saying "o how cute and that's really weird he's your friend and he likes you i wouldn't know how to act" well i started thinking i don't know how to act around him and i really need help!! so can you please tell me if i should ignore bob or just act the way i did or just say hi sometimes but don't be as nice as i was so that he doesn't think i like him? please help i don't know how to act anyway helps!

Act normal. Why would you ignore him?! Hes your friend isint he? Just because he likes you wont change anything..just have fun and talk to him. If you ignore him you'll make him feel bad...just tell him you dont like him like that, and that you like him as a friend.

Q: My friend and I hatw this teacher and as a joke we made this odd screen name and sent him e-mails. It was the worst dissoin of my life. I sent one that was like "I hate your class I am so glad I am in highschool now". But my friend HATES that teacher so she sent and e-mail like" teacher you hurt me so the hammer is coming down...have fun in hell" I didn't mean for it to go this far. Now the police are in his room for a long time like every day. Thankfully I deleted that screen name! They made an anousement on the intercom about it and ever since I have been shaking and I am so scared/screwd. If I get caught it wont be for the one I sent, it will be for the one my friend sent. I was thinking of sending an e-mail to my teach saying like sorry it was only a joke but I'm not sure... help! I am so scared but I know for sure I am not going to tell any one but I need to know what to do!

You should both email him. They'll track the email and find your IP address or something..they have ways of finding out. You both will probably get in trouble but its nnot like you'll be in jail for 20 years. The worst that could be done is a lot of community service hours. So you should both email him.

Q: ok there are 2 guys one is my ex bf and the other is this guy that broke up with his gf for me and well i broke up with my bf bc i thought i really really loved the other guy. and i found out they both like me and i like both of them and now kinda regret breaking up with my bf and like some of his friends and my friends are sayin i was stupid, but then others are sayin i was smart for brakein up bc they think its really obviously i like the other one more, and im just sooo confused...... please help.

Who do you like more? Dont listen to other people-its what you want, and what you think. But yeah, think about it..was breaking up with him for the other guy what you wanted to do? Its done and over with sooo yeah! Sorry if I didnt help much, but no one was answering so i wanted to answer..=D!

Q: my little sister is 8 years old and she just got sick today and no one is going to be home for a week so we cant get to the hospital but she has a temp of 103 degrees and its not lowering at all, does anyone know anything i can do to help lower it or make her feel any better? thanks!! (I rate on how well you answer)

Well, for now make sure she stays in bed and is warm..make sure she eats soup and all that stuff that you eat when your sick. Take her temp reglalry and if it gets higher than 105 I'd call an aunt/uncle/neighbor or something so you could go to the hospital. But right now you should call your parents and tell them whats going on!

Q: I'm sorry if this is a little long...

There are three of us, me and my two friends that I'm going to call Keri and Amber.

The last few months Keri and Amber always are partners with each other for everything and leave me out, they never wait for me, and then always ignore me in many of the classes we have together. I took half an hour to tell Kari how I felt about it on the phone last night and today Amber came up to me and asked me why I was mad at them. I got really angry because I spent half an hour explaining why I was upset, and then she says to only remembers half of it, and I started yelling at her, because it doesn't seem like she cares about how I feel.

My question is what should I do about it, and am I overracting about it?

Thanks

Maybe you should try telling both of them again If she act like they dont care, I would not talk to them anymore. Because it seems like they dont care..it seems like they have eachother and dont want you..but screw them cuz your prolly better than them..just find new friends

Q: Does anyone know any sites to buy stuff for ur room? Like cute selfs..clocks, anything cute! I already now bpteen or watever and wake up frankie. Thanks

www.target.com or www.walmart.com

Q: Have any of you guys tryed to spray on tan where you stand in the thing and it gives you a tan? If so does it work good and better then a tanning bed?

My friend did it and they said it works awesome and that you dont have to risk getting cancer or anything...

Q: Sorry if this is long. Okay i'm a 14/female and have a slight problem. I met this guy Greg at a party, and really liked him. So we talked alot and got close and ended up going out. But about a week later I broke it off because things wern't working out but I still had feelings for this guy. So one day we were talking on-line and we were joking around about having sex. So I was like "Yea i'd bang you any day!" And he calls me and was like "Are you serious?" and me being stupid I said yes because I didn't want to look dumb. So one day I went to his house and was going to tell him I was joking and all but he was peer pressured me into doing it. After that we promised each other we wern't going to tell anyone. And he was like "well I would like to tell my friend Joe" so I was like okay. So the next day I went to school and Gregs ex girlfriend comes up to me and was like did you fuck greg? and she told me that the rumor was going around and so I talked to Greg and was like why did you tell everyone and he was like "i'm sorry I didnt mean for everyone to find out" Like cheap whiskey I bought his stupid lies! So then we were friends and ended up going to homecomming. While at H.C he tells me that he loved me and everything but didn't want to go out with anyone at the time. So I was just like okay and we were just friends. Well I became good friends with a girl named Leah who was also friends with Greg. So I was talking to her (not knowing she knew about me and Greg) until she brings up what happened between me and him and she tells me that he lied to me nd wasn't a virgin! So i confronted him and he said that it was true so I was mad. and i also found out that he lied about toher thinfs too. So we deicded to not talk for a week... his dumb idea so we havent talked for some time but the thing is I stil like him even though he's caused so much pain in my life. Like the rumors I had to hear going around school and geting made fun of. I see myself getting very upset at what other people say to me like some times I come home and just cry. I started cutting my self and always find myself thing about suicide and I dont know if this has anything to do with this but lately i've been REALLY tired and falling asleep in class when I go to bed around the same time every night! I really need to get over Greg and his lies but I just dont know how! I'm emotionally attached and need to know how to let go and i'd appreciate advice! Thanx babes!
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-Kristen*

hey, umm look you'll get over him TRUST me..i thought i wouldent get over this guy, cuz i "loved" him and after a few weeks he was no big deal...you just need to find new guys to like..and just keep on teling yourself that he was just using you and he hurt you..

Q: In school, I always feel like people are judging me. Only the popular ones though (because I'm not popular, I'm just average). I always watch what I do, to make sure it's something the popular kids would "agree" with (I guess?). It's not that I want to be popular (because, believe me, I really don't), but I just want to feel comfortable around them. It's kind of a weird topic, but I want to get it off my mind. I hate not being myself and I want to stop, but it's hard. I want to know your opinion on this. Thank you so much

Do what you want, popular people will always judge you no matter what. So do what you want...you shouldent try to change just for them. I mean, you said you didnt even want to be popular..so why are you trying to get them to accept you?

Q: hello!!!!!!!! im just a girl whos making a screen name (my weakness) and i need help making it!!

i want it to go kind like this: xll something x3 llx except fill in something for something and it can only be 5 letters!! i was thinking "dream" but i dont know about that xll _____ x3 llx yeah do u got the point? Actually i dont care as long as it has the xll vibe thing goin on, or just anything cool!! i dont really need the x3 so..whatever! HELP ME!..Umm girlies help me with this, but i dont want anything like "cutie" or "angel" or "hotti" you know because im none of those!! i guess im like 35% weird, 30%ghetto 20%, punk, 15%emo! haha girls with good screen names help!! you can IM me on the screen name my friend made me..pressandsealx