ok this is gonna sound sort of weird but lately i feel like i cant control anything really i cant control my heart or the way i look or the way i feel or any of that but i can control how much i eat im 5'6 going into 8 grade and i weigh 102 pounds and i just want to weigh 98 idk why but 2 me thats how i feel i should look so i just stopped eating basicially i mean its 2 and i havent had anything to eat today ill probally eat a little bit but not alot and i always feel like im getting fatter and stuff i just dont want to look like me anymore... i hate the way i look but idk why i feel like this i have the best boyfriend i could ever ask for great friends great family i guess i just feel like i have to be perfect for everyone and i think thats how everyone wants me to look so thats what im going to do i guess should i weigh less than 98? how much weight should i loose?
The minimum healthy weight for a person of your height is about 115. You should probably go talk to a doctor or counselor about this.
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15 female
i meet this bout a week ago and he came over to my house on Saterday and meet my parents...and he asked me out when he came over...the best thing is that he was the 1st guy to come to my house meet my paretns and ask me out in person...so i was pretty happy bout that...well i really really like him alot...i maen i know its not to the point of love...but he says that he mite love my but it's to soon to tell..n i think the same thing...but we never get to see each other cuz we go to diff skools we...but we both see each other almost every weekend...would say its going to be a good realtionship...??
Not rushing things is a good sign. It shows maturity. A love relationship based on friendship ("We like each other and we like hanging out") is more likely to be lasting and healthy than one based on passion ("OMG I like loooove him so much I need to be with him alllll the time").
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One of my friends said that her parents thought people who attempted suicide or thought about killing them selves were crazy- and i said that i thought that to, and then my friend said that when people have depression they cant help it so they just kill them selves..i didnt believe it..but is it true that you cannot control ur self when ur depressed? i mean isnt there something u can do about it --HelP * i RaTe hIgH
Depression is an illness. It has to do with an imbalance of chemicals in the brain. A depressed person cannot help his/her condition any more than a cancer patient. There are treatments available for depression, but, like treatments for cancer, they are not always successful.
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This might sound a lil weird.. but im 15 and i was wondering when is the best age to start having sex?
People often start having sex before they're emotionally mature, which can cause a lot of problems. I can't tell you when you'll be ready, but what I CAN tell you is to get your ass to Planned Parenthood if you're even thinking about having sex. You can get free birth control if you're under 18 (or you can get it through your health care provider, if your parents are cool with you going on the pill).
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i have a friend from school who is petite and very underweight (by society's standards) but she sees herself as "fat" & no matter what anyone tells her she still tries to loose weight. shes only 80 something pounds! shes one of the skinniest people in school, and we're 15... and im scared it might become into an eating disorder. her parents want her to GAIN weight because she's so tiny for her size and can get hurt in sports. what can i possibly do or say to her because i've tried so many times...? (ps her parents are concerned and know about this, and they told ME to talk to her about it because she wont listen to them!)
This is beyond something you can do on your own. She is definitely sick and needs professional help. What you can do is continue to be such a wonderfully caring friend. Ask a doctor or counselor what you can do to help her. But tell her parents she needs to see a doctor.
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Ok, I'm 13 and I get really bad depression. I've had it for like over a year now. I forgot what its like to actually have true happiness. And I know most teens go throug this, but mines pretty severe. Like I never want to do anything anymore, I just dont care, I hate life, And most of the time I just feel like dieing. And like ver since I got it, its screwed up my life. I lost all my friends and havent really had any in like a year. It seems easy when people just say "start making new friends" or "find an activity you like doing" or try to be happy or whatever, but its so hard. I don't know what to do about my depression. Please help?
This isn't normal teenage moodiness you're going through. It's definitely clinical depression. Tell your parents what's been going on and ask them to take you to a doctor. If they're not supportive, talk to a school counselor/psychologist and s/he can help you out and convince your parents you need help. I've been in treatment for depression for many years, so if you have any more questions, lemme know.
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well I'm 14 and I just had a baby and I don't know what I should do like should I keep braist feeding or sumthing I'm so confused I'm only going in 9th grade and it's really hard for me to take care of my baby when my parents aren't around I love my little girl so much her names Zoé but the father doesn't love her or want anything to do with her what should I do I need help??
Breast feeding is healthier for your baby, and it's free - unlike formula. But you need a lot more help than I or anyone on this website can give you. Find services in your area that help out teen moms. There are classes, daycare, support groups, etc.
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hi. i am 13 years old, about 5 foot 6 or 5 foot 5 and 112 pounds. am i overweight??
Dear God, no. Have you ever heard of BMI (Body Mass Index)? It's a formula that determines if you are at a healthy weight for your height. A BMI between 18.5 and 24.9 is healthy. A 5 foot 5.5 (I averaged the two heights you gave me) person weighing 112 pounds has a BMI of 18.4. You are actually slightly underweight. There is actually a different way of calculating this for children and teens, but I assure you that the results would be similar. Until a doctor tells you you're overweight, don't worry about it. According to the BMI, a person of your height is a healthy weight until s/he hits 152 pounds, so keep eating all the pasta you want. Also, as hard as it is, remember that the beauty standards presented in magazines and other media are unrealistic and often unhealthy.
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i feel like i'm going into depression.. my life seems like its getting worse everyday! i lost my b/f recently n nothing seems right! i will NEVER cut tho! but i dont no.. what should i do?
You may just be in a "slump." However, if you experience four or more of the following symptoms most of the time for more than two weeks, you may have clinical depression and should seek professional help:
1. Noticeable change of appetite, with either significant weight loss not attributable to dieting or weight gain.
2. Noticeable change in sleeping patterns, such as fitful sleep, inability to sleep, early morning awakening, or sleeping too much.
3. Loss of interest and pleasure in activities formerly enjoyed.
4. Loss of energy, fatigue.
5. Feelings of worthlessness.
6. Persistent feelings of hopelessness.
7. Feelings of inappropriate guilt.
8. Inability to concentrate or think, indecisiveness.
9. Recurring thoughts of death or suicide, wishing to die, or attempting suicide. (Note: People suffering this symptom should receive treatment immediately!)
10. Melancholia (defined as overwhelming feelings of sadness and grief), accompanied by waking at least two hours earlier than normal in the morning, feeling more depressed in the morning, and moving significantly more slowly.
11. Disturbed thinking, a symptom developed by some severely depressed persons. For example, severely depressed people sometimes have beliefs not based in reality about physical disease, sinfulness, or poverty.
12. Physical symptoms, such as headaches or stomachaches.
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ok..my BF and I have been together for 10 months TODAY! and like in these 10 months hes told me he loved me 2 times...and the first time he told me was on the fone and i go..are u sure...and he was like yeah..and i go oh..and he goes ur not gonna say nothin back? and i go i dont think u know what ur talkin bout..cuz we had only been goin out for 2 months then! and then like when it got to us bein together for 7 months..he told me again..i was sitting by him and we were cuddling..and like he jus looked at me..and said..my name and said i love you..and i juss smiled..and he said it again..both times i never replied..cuz i was scared..im scared to say if i love him or not..how do i know? and how do i know this is the forreal way he feels? Well i want him to tell me it again..cuz i wanna tell him i do too..
You don't have to wait for him to say "I love you" again for you to say it back. Just tell him! Today! Explain that you didn't say it before because you didn't want to throw the word "love" around flippantly - that it means a lot to you and you wanted to be sure before you said it.
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me and my boyfriend give each other oral every now and then. well he recently mentioned something about me shaving my pubic hair. he said it would be sexy and easier to perform oral on me. i dont know if i should, it would grow in thicker and darker and id have to shave it all the time. i wouldnt mind it tho probably... what do you think ?
Don't feel like you have to shave for your boyfriend (would he shave for you?) However, a little trimming around your girly parts might make for easier access during sex play. Personally, I wouldn't suggest shaving it. It's itchy, it chafes during sex, and it's really hard to be completely stubble-free. And stubble is just not sexy, and will be uncomfortable on your boyfriend's face when he goes down on you. But if you do shave it, it won't grow back thicker or darker. If it does, it's because you're still undergoing puberty and your pubic hair is getting thicker and darker anyway, regardless of whether or not you shave it. It may also seem thicker because the ends of the hair was cut by a razor, and will be blunt on the end instead of naturally tapering to a point.
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i'm 13 and i want to find a job to raise money. is there any places i can work at? i rate realli high! but there is one problem..i love babysitting..but there isn't many people i know with younger kids. so besides babysitting..what else?
Pet sitting/house sitting
mowing lawns/yardwork/shoveling snow
paper route
If you have any special skills, like sewing, woodwork, or computers, you can freelance
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I am starting college in September, seeing I will be meeting a whole bunch of new people and not knowing that many of them. Any ideas of how I can get a lot of friends?
I'm assuming you're living in a dorm. Always keep the door open when you're in there.
Stop by and say "hi" to everyone in your hall. Feign interest in how they decorated their room.
Host silly get-togethers: slip notes under everyone's doors that say "Hungry Hungry Hippos Tournament - 11pm tonight in room 278."
Keep an open mind. Just because someone isn't like your friends at home doesn't mean the two of you won't get along.
Join clubs and study groups.
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Can anyone give me Ideas? I want to get my boyfriend a gift and I'm all out of ideas!!! Some info that might help you is he is kinda in the middle of punk and prep not in clicks or anything he is 17 and we have been dating for 7 1/2 months. I want something thats cute and shows I love him but does not but cost a lot of money~ Please help me out~
Take him out to dinner somewhere fun/unique, like one of those sushi restaurants with the little conveyer belts :)
For a cheaper and sweeter gesture, you could whip up a meal for two at home.
Decorate a frame and put in a goofy photo of the two of you.
Buy a really neat belt buckle on eBay (I have a Darth Vader one - shhh don't tell).
Make him a duct tape wallet (contact me for instructions or just Google it).
Socks or boxers with a goofy design.
Browse the knicknacks and books at a thrift store for something weird/silly.
Make him a mix tape/CD.
Crochet/knit him a scarf - it's easy to learn
A toy from his childhood that's still fun for adults - Lite Brite, Hungry Hungry Hippos, etc.
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Hello, i am an 18 yr old grl dating a 28 yr old guy. See i have this thing with me not going to have sex till marriage which is not a bad thing... right? well my b/f knows this and knows my limits.. but see everytime we get alone and stuff he always tries to stick his dick in me. He almost did about hmmmm should i say 5 TIMES!!!!!!
Its not easy to remain abstinent but i tell you what its not FUN EITHER!! Its like your head is telling you go for it and grab the fuckin condoms but yet your heart is like wait a fuckin min. do you really know this guy or is he just using you for sex?? see the 17th is our 5th month anniversay
but yet i knew him for a few months before we started dating. so my question is to you all is what am i supposed to do. He promised me he would never do it again but yet he said that last time. I told him hes lucky b/c usually its like a baseball game 3 strikes your out!! but yet i've given him 5 chances so far and this is the last chance. So what should i do?? let him try and screw me or what?? See I love him to death but as you can tell i am not ready yet! I need help and need it bad! Plz someone help me.. i really need it!!
He doesn't respect you, and considering the fact that he is ten years your senior he has absolutely no excuse for behaving so immaturely.
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this question is for my friend:
my boyfriend is so sweet. he'd never cheat on me and he never acts Interested in another girls or stuff like that. do you think he could be gay? because he doesn't seem to be interested when girls are wearing skimpy clothes on tv or pictures and id ont think he looks at it on his own. but he gets horny around me. i don't think he is but soemtimes i wonder.
"he gets horny around me."
I think that answers your question.
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Ok i got my period and i have really really bad cramps. i had such bad ones that i threw up 4 times and i had just taken medicine so i threw it up. Also when i sleep i wake up like every hour because it hurts so bad. What is something i should take or do??
I used to have cramps like that, and birth control pills worked wonders for me. My cramps are tolerable, my periods are lighter and more regular, I have fewer breakouts, and there's also that wonderful little side benefit of not being able to get pregnant. However, you have to take them every day, not just when you're on your period, so you may find that to be too much of a hassle.
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School is starting soon and that means yearbook pictures! im so nervous mine is gonna look bad...is there any way to like practice to make sure u look good or what?
Wear a dark-colored shirt, and nothing shiny (including shiny make-up)
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I dont understand how all these younge kids come on here and ask for love advice and say how they are in love and "falling" for people. I dont think you kids really know what your talking about. Maybe instead of saying love so freely you all should start saying lust. thats what it really is.
It's an abstract concept, and less mature people have problems understanding abstract concepts.
Anyways, despite that I didn't post the original question, this crochety old maid wants to respond to some of the other commenters:
"Things are alot different now since you were young, so you wouldnt really understand how things work in our relationships"
I would love to know how teenybopper relationships have changed so drastically since I graduated from high school four years ago.
"I don't think you understand things now-a-days and what its like to be in our shoes at this time."
I've BEEN in your shoes. I've already done the whole "he treats me like shit but I still LOVE him!" routine. I've said "We'll be together forever and ever!" more times than I'd care to count. It's frustrating to see people repeat the same mistakes I've made.
"maybe you should stop trying to put a damper on young love and realize that you're an idiot, just let things be what they are."
"Let things be what they are?" If you had to spend your days counseling teens whose lives were ruined by pregnancy and abusive relationships, you'd be "trying to put a damper on young love," too.
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Ok i failed a regents in june and i dont get the math. i ve been pracicing all summer and now on the pratice i can get up to a 75 . thats no good enough for them But i dont care ! i treid to tell my parents but they wont listen ! it not like i need it to graduate (its math b ) i dont know what i can say to them to make them understand that id be happy with a 75 n the retake??
"I worked really hard for this 75 and it really hurts my feelings that you're not satisfied even when I've done my best."
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