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I think I am fat. I weigh about 116-120 pounds and am about 5"4. Is this overweight?
I don't have like ANY time at all to exercize, I do lose weight, but than I end up gaining it all back on. I can't wake up an hour earlier in the morning because I am already tired as is. I am busy like ALL the time. Does anyone have any way I could lose weight quickly, and wouln't take much time out of my schedual? (link)
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If you are still growing then you shouldn't worry. But let me tell ya, exercise is good even if you don't want to loose weight because it keeps you healthier. I understand if you have no time and usually you survive if you don't exercise. So you can just eat healthy. Haha.
P.S. Muscle weighs more than fat- my cousin is a big guy (but not fat) and he's a football player and I bet he weighs a bit more than his height too, but he's perfectly normal and healthy.
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On myspace this guys I dont really know asked me to be his valentines. And i said yes. But i thought it was sort of just a flirt type of thing. But when I said yes he seemed surpised.
I know this is stupid but..what does being eachothers valentines mean? It doesnt mean going out does it? =[ uh oh. lol (link)
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I hope it wouldn't mean going out. It really depends on what they think "being a valentine" is. But I just think that it is just some small way of showing affection to anybody and they might have been surprised about you saying that (because they hardly know you or something). Don't be worried. If you really want to know, you could ask them.
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This is long...sorry...but if you read this and answer I promise to rate you a 5 and I will be so greatful! thanks in advance for reading this. I have this friend named nicole (fake name) and she has been my best friend for about 2 years. She gets really annoying and is pretty stupid, and my family doesn't like her very much. She doesn't have a lot of money and her parents are completely uninvolved in her life. My parents do everything for her and we get nothing in return. She never really does anything to show she appreciates it and I really don't like that and neither does my family. So recently she's been pretty rude to me. She ditched me twice. At lunch I sit with nicole and kelly (fake also) and 3 other girls who im kinda barely friends with but mostly I only talk to nicole and kelly. well kelly is "popular" all of a sudden to nicole but no one really likes her...and no one really likes nicole because she's so annoying. I know nicole doesn't care about popularity because if she did she wouldn't be so weird and act so nerdy. We're not popular but we're not geeks, I guess we are known as just normal group, except to the geeks we are known as popluar, so i've heard. Well nicole has just been obsessed with kelly and she blows me off or is too busy to hang out with me but not kelly. I have many friends in school, like a ton, but I usually only hang out with friends once every week or maybe even less then that. I only really hang out with nicole. But shes always so busy and always grounded so I kind of have no friends outside of school. I make an effort to hang out with other girls I know at my school but it never really works out, not that they don't like me just our plans don't really follow through. Sorry I'm writing a lot but I wanted you all to understand the background of my question. So here it is...Today nicole got mad at me and I had no idea why and so her and kelly totally ditched me at lunch and sat with someone else and I asked kelly is she mad at me she said no there was no room at the table...when there were plenty. I am so mad at nicole I seriously was about to punch her because suspension was worth punching her. She totally takes advantage of me and I keep going back to be her friend. My parents and bother think I should stop being her friend and there a feeling in me that I want to but then there's also a feeling that's not willing to give her up. The main reason I don't stop being her friend is if I do then kelly wont be my friend and I'll have no one to sit with at lunch and no one to talk to during class because most people in all my classes are popular or totally nerdy and all that stuff. But today seemed like the last straw and I don't want to be her friend but I'm afraid of what will happen. I'm hoping once I start high school I'll make new friends and totally ditch her for good, but thats about 6 months away and I don't want to go with nobody to hang out with during summer if I stop being her friend. I really love her and shes so funny and fun to be around. If I didn't love her, I would hate her and think she is the stupidest person ever, and I would never consider being her friend, if you know what I mean. I love that she doesn't care what others think, but sometimes I hate it because she is truly embarassng and since not a lot of people like her, I think that's why nobody ever calls me to hang out because they probably think I'm just like her. Basically I want to know all of your opinions about what I should do. Stay her friend, ditch her, wait a little longer, etc? Please help I have no idea what to do!!! I will rate you 5 if you answer no matter if I like your answer or not, just because you read all this. By the way, im 14 female. thanks so much! (link)
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I think you should talk to her. If nothing works out then it's ok. Chances are you'll make more friends sooner than you think. It just comes down to what kinds of people you want to be surrounded by and that's just a choice everyone makes. If your friends right now aren't completely comfortable to be around, you should just hang out with them less and search for your niche even if it may take a long time. High school will be much better so just hang in there and focus on school. :)
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Is there any way to lose like 5-10 pounds in a week and a half? I already try to watch what I eat, so I'm thinking maybe exercises or something? Nothing where I have to go out and by something. So that leaves out Pilates and stuff like that cause i dont have the videos or whatever. ((anything for arms stomach legs i dont really care what)) Thanks I'll rate (link)
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There is this whole "lowering your carb intake" thing but I won't get into that. Most likely it will be hard loosing weight that fast. The greatest fatburner though is cardio workouts (jogging, etc.).
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There is a girl I've known for a good long while, and recently I made the effort to get back in touch with her and be friends again. I assumed it was going pretty well, we talk online and go out shopping and stuff sometimes. I do like her, but recently I've got the feeling she is just using me to take her places (into town, to see bands) b/c she's not allowed on her own. If I suggest just hanging out or something, she'll always just brush away the suggestion. If we do see each other we get on well though. I'm pretty much her only friend as well, and it sounds really mean, but I thought she'd be kind of pleased to have some friends.
So what should I do? (link)
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Maybe she's using you, maybe she's not. Pretty unclear, but I think it's not too serious. You probably won't be best friends but she seems like a good friend as of now. Don't be afarid to talk to her about this too. Communication is the key.
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What do you do if a friend threatens to commit suicide, then a few days later they refuse to discuss it any further and insist they were "kidding"? My roommate did this and I tried to get help for her but she laughs at me and says she was "kidding" and I "don't know how to take a joke" but I know perfectly well that she had been serious. I know because the day she threatened to do it, I asked if she was in earnest and she was like, "Yes *sniffle* I feel like...*sob* ...I just want to die..."
And now suddenly she was "kidding." I just don't know what to do about it -- it seems like if I got a shrink to talk to her or something, she would tell the same story to him. (link)
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Whenever a friend is even joking about suicide, it should NOT be taken lightly. They need help right away- make sure you tell a parent/guardian about their thougts or jokes even if they swear you not to tell anyone. It is a matter of life and death. It isn't even normal for someone to joke about suicide.
I hope everything works out. :)
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Okay, so a week ago my English teacher gave our class a big project to work on (that was due today). It consisted of writing a song, making a movie, and writing a paper. Well, last Wednesday I was absent, so my 2 friends ended up making the song. We tried to get together over the weekend, but I couldn't get a ride so the other two just got together and worked on the script. They gave the rest to me and I finished it. The only day we could work together was yesterday, the day before the project was due...so we made our movie and they gave it to me to edit. I ended up getting sick and missing the class it was due in! My teacher is kinda strict on grading, she might say, "You guys should have been ready...sorry." I just really feel bad that I wasn't there today, and one of the girl's moms has already called me irresponsible which makes me feel even worse. I don't know what to do; I believe they're mad at me because they're not picking up my calls or anything.
AHH.
What do you think I should do? I'm going to try to talk to my teacher today about it, but I'm really worried about what I might get. (link)
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Man, that stinks. I think it's the stupidest thing in the world when a teacher gives you something you have to work on outside of class (because it's very hard to set up dates and times with the group).
But you have a right for make up time when you are sick. Talk with your teacher and see what will be happening. It's not your fault so don't feel bad. :)
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im very tiny & skinny .. but i have a little bit of fat on my stonmache that i want to get rid of .. i want to loose about 10 pounds only on my stomache - how and what should i do to loose these pounds?
F/13 (link)
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DON'T loose weight! You don't need to. You are at risk for a disorder called Anorexia Nervosa where people think they are fat all the time and they loose way too much weight and become very unhealthy. It's scary. So learn to accept your body as it is- it's a big part of your mental health as well as your physical health.
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ah ok.. i know this might not be such a "wonderful" question but i've been wondering this for like ever. ok i have big nipples..[i know your like ew..but yea] i feel so self-conscious about them and i hate it! is this normal..does every girl have it? do guys like bigger ones or? i feel like im the only one and it bothers me so much.. ah.
thx for any help! (link)
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Don't be worried. It's not like they are on your face-you do wear clothes, do you? Haha.
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Exercise Plan:
( this is during one week )
atleast 3 exercise videos, pilates or yoga or the firm..mainly for abs
using my gazelle 3 times, 20 minutes each time
walking 1.250 miles a day
and weight lifting every other day, about 15 or 20 minutes ( weight lifting to gain muscle so i lose more calories )
along with healthy eating, but NO DIET!
i'd like to kno any suggestions about my plan
and btw i just got my new treadmill today, and i'm 14 and a girl
thanks a bunch! (link)
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Are you going to be willing to do all of that, long-term? I think that that's a good plan though.
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i want to lose weight in my Stomach my Stomach Hips and the fat a little above the hips how work over can i do to lose weight in those places and can you give me a meal plan where like breakfast lunch snack and dinner thanks i rate 5
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The BEST way to burn fat is cardio (jogging). But are you really fat? Most likely you are fine the way you are and you shouldn't stress about it. But exercise is always good and there are many food guides on the net and books that will not only help you loose weight but stay healthy.
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ok, well every time i shave, when im done, my legs are always really itchy. its not like a rash, but it wont go away. what should i dot to stop this? (link)
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The ultimate answer to your problem:
Use lotion afterwards!
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hey, i'm 14/f and i have a bffe, just like any other girl. But the problem with my best friend is everything i do, she must follow along. Its as if she doesn't have her own life to take after.She basically copys everything i do and if i come up with a new saying she starts saying it like 1 day latter ALL the time. And i even said a few things the other day just to see if she did it, and she did! i said i hate chocolate candys lately, so she took hers and threw them out! i couldn't believe how right i was that she copys but then again i can't help then feel bad. I mean, how do i get her to stop copying me, or even better how in the world do i tell her that she's doing it without making her upset? i told her once in 7th grade, and she didnt talk to anyone for weeks, but she has continued sense then though. its not like it helped. i thought about copying her to show her that she copys me 24/7 but would that really help? Reply pleaseeee i need to know :) (link)
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Ya, this is good and bad I guess. Good- she idolizes you, but bad- she may have such low self-esteem that she can't even define herself and be independent, ya know? Well the only thing you can do is communicate with her even more about this problem. Telling her once isn't enough if she is still doing this. There is a risk of loosing her friendship (it depends on how she percieves all this), so you can tell her or just keep living with it.
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ok how would u like a girl 2 prove she loves u what would she have 2 say and do im desperate im not good at this communication thing i fucked up so yes (link)
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The communication thing- you can start by writing more clearly with things called periods and commas, and maybe then I'll be able to answer your question.
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K so alot of shit has been goin on in my life and i just wana be happy..
what can I do? (link)
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Learning to rebound after bad junk has happened is part of life, it's a life skill. My advice is to (ovbiously) do things that make you happy!!! Learn to forgive the past and hopefully there will be better times.
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So, a bit of a random question here, but why do guys have nipples? :) lol, just something I've always wondered. Thanks! (link)
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I just learned this in Health like.. a day ago. I might be wrong but this is what I heard:
When you are an early-aged embryo you aren't a boy or girl yet (so I guess that body part forms early on, even if you don't turn out to be a girl).
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What do i get my boyfriend of 3 and a half months for valentines day? i can't get him chocolates or a teddy bear. help me!!!!
i can't really spend anything. Would a card be enough since it's usually the guy who buys the gift? (link)
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Maybe a card would do if you can find nothing else to give him. But if you would like to get something, be creative. Maybe even a nice date would be enough.
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