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My daughter is only, 12 days old. Premium Formula makes her eyes real goppy she can't even open them we are taking a warm wash rag over and over again wipeing her eyes several times about every 5 minutes. I switcher her to Soy milk and she got really bad diarea but her goppy eyes stopped and I was afrid she was going to get dehydrated so i m oved her back and called the doctor and still waiting to hear back from her has anyone expierenced this or no someone that has?
Dear Formula,
Yes, I have seen this before. Keep her on the soy if her eyes stopped getting mucus, that is good.
The diarrhea will go away when her body has adjusted to the new diet. That is not uncommon when changing foods. The important thing to look at is what is in the formulas you are feeding her. Most formulas are made from corn syrup solids or a variation of corn syrup products. This will cause your babies body to do some crazy things. The formula given to infants, like Similac and Infamil, are not good for them. It is hard for their bodies to process, and often times babies that are put on formula in the hospital will end up jaundice and dehydrated within a couple of days.
Everyone knows breastfeeding is best. If you are having problems with your milk coming in, you can buy an herbal tea called Mother's Milk that will promote your milk production to go into overdrive. Look at your local health food store, or on-line. You must have someplace for the milk to go and you must encourage the breast to allow this. You can do this by getting a breast pump, and pump your breasts every three hours, for fifteen minutes at a time. No matter how much milk you get, always add that your babies formula.
I had this problem with my daughter. Her first 15 days of life were on formula. She has issues similar to what you are describing, and was Jaundice and dehydrated after three days. I used the tea and pumped religiously, and she has been on breast milk only for almost three months now.
This is a time for bonding between you and your baby. Having these issues is not helping that situation. Your baby depends on you to keep it fed, warm, burped, and clean. These are the only things, beside love and sleep, that your baby needs.
If you need more mother advice, I am more than happy to share my knowledge with you.
I would not talk to your doctor about your daughter's diet. The doctor is not a nutritionist. The doctor is there for illnesses and check ups. There is nothing wrong with your baby except the food she eating. Your best bet is to avoid anything that is not organic. Read labels and avoid anything containing corn syrup, high fructose corn syrup, MSG, Modified Food Starch, and Natural Flavors.
Your baby's system is new, and still adjusting to the foods you are giving her. When you change her diet, she will either get constipated or have the runs. It is ok to give your baby water. So if you fear dehydration, give her water(Do not use Pedialyte, corn syrup is the main ingredient).
The so called experts say that formula and breast milk have all the water a baby needs. However, I would not put too much faith in what they say regarding a baby's diet. Everything needs water to live and grow. You should give new your baby water as often as possible, but do not substitute it for food. My rule is that before one feeding during the day, I let my daughter drink a little water before she eats. I usually do not let her drink more than a half ounce. I do not want her getting full on water.
If you are unable to get your breast milk to come in, feeding your baby goat's milk is better than giving her formula. Although, you need make sure the goat's milk does not have corn syrup or corn products in them.
I hope that I helped give you some more options than what you have been given already. Check out a diet known as the Blood Type diet. If your baby is a certain blood type, she may be allergic to soy, or the formula, or even the goat's milk.
Good Luck. I am here whenever you need me!
Hello i asked a question about a month ago about my husband leaving for Afghanistan and how i was super emotional. He leaves in a few weeks and I've been noticing we've been not really fighting but arguing a lot more than we usually do, even about little things. I feel like I'm the one disagreeing more and in a sense causing the start of the "fight" Can anybody explain to me why this is happening? I know you don't know our relationship but we've always had a very strong and open one. Its just these past couple weeks everything is building up on me, stress, emotions etc. why am i taking it out on him? I dont want to fight with him as he leaves :( Somebody help!
Hello Fighting more with my Husband,
What you are describing is a natural reaction to fear of something. When couples are short on money, they fear being unable to pay the bills, so they fight more. It is the leading reason couples divorce in the US. So your reaction to him leaving is normal. He is probably dealing with a greater fear of leaving than you are. He is the one that is going to be putting his life on the line for our so called 'Freedom'.
I have told you previously that you need to focus on being his stable foundation. I explained to you that being a military wife is no easy task. Buck up and be a woman, after all, you are adult enough to get married. I believe you are adult enough to handle this!
He only has a few weeks left. Treat him as if he were a king, and bow to his every desire before he leaves. When you feel the argument coming on, stop it before it starts.
You are the woman, his wife and you control your household. You are the one that will keep the house running while he is gone, and while he is home. It is you who will provide that comfortable serenity, a place he can relax, and get away from the outside world. Do not make his last few weeks miserable for him. Don't give him a reason to want to leave, or stay away. Do not let him leave with memories of you fighting. He will have days and nights to miss you, and if all he remembers is the arguing, other women will look better to him.
He may love you, but if a man feels abused or neglected, they will find someone that will make them feel the opposite. He is going to be away for a long time right? His visual memory of you will fade after a few months over there, and if all he remembers are the arguments, you are in trouble. You need to have some sexy glamor shots taken and make sure he keeps them in his wallet. Then you need to be his concubine until he leaves. Trust me, you need your bonds with him to be extra strong before he leaves. Think of it as a shield of protection against faded love. He is going to be spending days and nights with other military members, some of them are women members too. You need to have a positive impact on him before he leaves, and remain a positive and dominant presence in his life while he is away.
Taking on his chores is that part I told you about being a tough job. Make a list of the things you need to do for him and get them done! You can handle this, I know it! Trust me, I am an Empath.
Good luck! You know where to find me!
hey i'm 19/f and my husband is being deployed to Afghanistan next month. I've started to notice that as each day progresses i get very emotional about everything. I think about him being gone and i cry and i cant stop. It's just odd because I've never been this emotional before. I mean i can figure out that its because its getting closer to him being gone. Is there anything i can do to make myself not cry all the time? Its hard to keep my mind off of it.
Thanks and i rate!
Dear More Emotional,
I know it is hard not to think about it. Something so 'up in your face' can never be far from your thoughts. Right now, you are scared. Not just for him and his safety in a war zone, but scared of living each day separate from him. Not knowing what he is doing, where he is going, or when. Not being able to tell him you love him whenever you want. Waiting by the phone for a scheduled call because they only get so much free time. Having that part of you missing can drive you insane.
My advice to you is to get a dog, keep waking up, and live each day as his honest, loving, and devoted wife. Wait eagerly for his calls and send him treats when you can. Think about how much you love him, not how much you miss him. Think about the next time you see him, after being apart for so long. Spend your time planning his homecoming. Think about what you will wear for him that night. Arrange something extra special for his homecoming. Remind him of how proud you are of him, how sexy you think he is, and how much you want to jump his bones.
When you are not focusing on his return, focus on yourself. It is important for you to get out and get sunlight everyday. Go to the gym and get in total shape so you are prepared for his homecoming. Being a military wife is hard work. Get involved with the ombudsman and see if there is anything you can do to help while he is gone. They can always use extra help from the spouses, if anything, they can hook you up with other spouses that feel the same way you do. If you absolutely cannot live without your husband at home, go see a base Chaplain. They can move mountains!
Cosmic Advice for More Emotional comes from The Resurrection
Let this happen naturally. Do not fight it. Fighting it will only make you more depressed. Accept that he is going to be away for a long time. Your understanding of this event will deepen, and you will accept it. You are about to embark on a new way of thinking as you enter a new cycle in your life. Do not fear this change. Good things will happen.
It seems that the Cosmic advice is telling you that you will be fine if you just accept your life right now and not to fear change. You will emerged enlightened, informed, and have a new look on life. After all, this will not be his last deployment. Get used to it!!
My biggest advice is, do not dwell on this. You will end up depressed and unhappy. You chose to marry him, he chose to join. This is the life you chose, make the most of it! I have been in your shoes, I was a Navy wife for almost 10 years. So I know where you are, and where you are going to need to be in order to live that lifestyle. You need to be his rock, his solid foundation in a world of chaos. He is getting ready to put his life on the line for you and I. How do you think he feels? Remember that the next time you start crying, and how unselfish his act is. Be proud, not depressed.
I wish you luck, and I am always here when you need me. Take care!
Alright so theres this boy I have known since I was in 1st grade, We have been best friends ever since until this one day me and him got really close and we looked to other people as if we were dating and we went to this place called syms hotsprings, we went swimming but we were with all these other people two and we got dared to make out. I said okay not thinking it would hurt our friendship. after we were done playing truth or dare we were fine we sat by eachother and stuff we talked, in the way home i sat with him and this other guy and we just talked and stuff but then a week later at school he didnt talk to me I acted as if everything was fine but he wouldnt talk to me so or even make eye contact with me.. all I am asking is how do regain that friendship to where we are cool again! can you give me some advice. Please. =]
Dear He was my bestfriend now what are we?
You say that you have been 'best' friends since the first grade. Then you should be able to ask him straight up, "Are you mad at me for some reason?" If this guy is worth the friendship, then stop wondering about it and ask him. If you love his friendship, and he loves yours, as long as you are completely honest with each other, there should be no problem.
I do have to ask if he has a girlfriend? Maybe a new girlfriend, someone you have not met, but is jealous of your relationship with him. There are so many possibilities as to why he would not make eye contact with you. He could be ashamed of what happened between you, and not sure how to handle the situation. The best thing is to talk to him about it. Call him, text him, write him or e-mail, anything that communicates your concern for the distress your friendship seems to be in right now.
This is the best advice I can give you, based on the information you have given me. I almost want to say that there is something missing here. Did you hit it off with another guy while your friend was witness? Maybe he likes you for more than a friend and is embarrassed, or feels threatened by another guy.
The only way you will find out what's up, is to ask!
if you have sex with someone bigger then your boyfriend.... can they tell?
i have been with this guy for 3 years and made a drunk mistake with someone else who was alot bigger then my boyfriend. so he fits perfectly inside me...can he tell i cheated on him the next time we have sex?
i heard you could.
Hello, Can They Tell If You Cheat When...
This is an important question. The answer is yes! At least for a little while after the encounter. A man you have been with for three years knows you well enough to tell the difference. At least we would hope so anyway.
Your 'vagina' may be elastic, and return to its shape, but each encounter leaves it a little looser than before. That is why if you were to look at women who are porn stars or have just had more than their fair share of sex, you will see worn out gear.
Trust me, I had this very same thing happen to me when I was only 19 years old. My boyfriend at the time was gigantic. The largest man I have ever seen to this day! The guy I cheated with was drastically smaller. A few day later, I had sex with my boyfriend and he asked me who I had slept with and where he lived so he could go kill him. I asked my boyfriend how he found out about my 'mistake'. He said, "I am your lover, I can tell when someone else has been in you."
I would wait to have sexual encounters with your boyfriend for at least a week or two if you choose to live a lie.
Your 'vagina' will return to the size it is normally used to. You say this other guy was bigger, and fits you perfectly. That implies that your boyfriend is too small for you, and you think the other guy's penis is perfect for you. Maybe you want a man with a bigger penis. Whatever it is, you must be honest with yourself and your boyfriend.
Do no believe anyone who tells you that a man you have slept with for three years will not notice that you have had sex with a man larger than him!
Now that we have that out of the way. I think that you need to ask yourself "why" you made the mistake. If you were happy with your boyfriend, you would have been strong enough in love to not have a moment of weakness.
What is your communication level with your three year boyfriend? Why were you drinking without him around?
If you loved him, you would have remained faithful. True love will keep you from noticing other males, even when in a drunken stupor. So you need to be asking yourself why you did this, instead of wondering if he will find out. You bet he will find out, and when he does, not only will you be a cheat, but also a liar.
I think it is time for you to re-evaluate your relationship, like a three year audit. Are you happy with him? Is he the one you wish to be with for the rest of his life? Are you willing to hide this secret for as long as you are with him? If you had the opportunity to have sex with the other guy again, would you?
That is the biggest problem with people today. No one thinks before they act. They act and then deal with the consequences. He will find out. Trust me.
Cosmic Advice for 'Can They Tell if You Cheat When?'
Come clean. He knows you have a secret. The High Priestess tells us that this is an unknown time for you. She tells us that being honest is the best thing, even when the information is dark. This experience is a message for growth, so listen to it, learn from it, and have faith that things will turn out for the best. Most importantly have faith in yourself. You will emerge from this event with the gift of insight.
Trust in yourself, make good choices, and spread the smiles! :)
I hope that you find happiness, and remember, I am here anytime you need me. Good Luck!
me and my boyfriend are allllways bored at my house... what can we do besides sexual things.. like wrestle, etc.
OK, here's what you do!
Have your boyfriend lay down on the couch or sofa or bed. Clothed or naked, whatever you want. This isn't sexual unless you make it sexual.
Go to the kitchen and get a dinner plate out.
On the dinner plate place these items:
One small chunk of fresh garlic
One teaspoon full of honey
One pickle
One dab of mustard on a spoon, not a lot
One fourth cut of a peanut butter and jem sandwich.
Now, your boyfriend should be laying down. He cannot see what you have on the plate. So blind fold him before you bring the plate in.
In this order slowly feed these items to him.
Do not let him hold them, you must feed him.
Give him just a bite of the p b & j sandwich.
Let him chew it up and swallow it. Then give him the dab of mustard followed immediately by the pickle.
Let him chew this up.
Then give him the garlic, let him chew it for a moment but tell him not to swallow it and then put the honey in his mouth. .
See what kind of journey this will take you on...
Get a camera and take pictures of the faces he makes and them have him describe each taste and how they made him feel.
Have him do this to you as well. It is not exciting but it sure is funny to see some of the faces that we make to different foods.
Have fun.
hnstymtrs
Im dating a guy who is cousins with one of my closer friends they talk about me and i know they do, because she feels that we shouldnt date anymore we've been together for almost 2 years (few more months to come) but my bf feels that i've stolen him away from her like i hog him to much & she feels the same way. I dont want them to think that. Im not heartless i think family is important so why'd i want that for them right? i want them to know that i do believe its important that they still do see eachother, I want to write her a letter explaining that i do think its important they hang out, spend time together, u no? So could you help me get started with a letter or tell me some things to put in the letter?
So sorry it has taken this long to get back to you. I have been away for a week.
First, I cannot stress how immportant honesty is. Just simply start your letter like this, or something like it!
Dear Friend,
I understand how you feel about me hogging your cousin. Please understand that I never intended for this to happen. You are welcome to hang out with us anytime. I am not keeping him from you and I am certainly not trying to steal him. He has been my boyfriend for 2 years and you are my close friend. Besides it is up to him who he wants to spend his time with. I think family is important. Honestly, if you are upset because he spends too much time with me, then maybe you should tell him that. I love the both of you and want all of us to be close friends. You guys should hang out and talk about this if it upsets you that much. I understand how important family is. You also must understand that he has been your cousin your entire life, you have had your entire life to get to know him. I have barely had 2 years. We like each other and end up spending a lot of time together. As a result you feel like I have stolen him.
(Honestly how can you steal something that is not yours to begin with?
I'm in a bit of an awkward possition. My girlfriend and I have recently been doing some exploration with our bodies and have stopped using condoms all together. A few days ago I found out that she wants to have children and that she doesnt want to wait till we're out of high school. I've also heard rumors from my friends that she's planning something. I want to know if, well, its alright to have children at a young age.
ALL of the advice you have gotten so far has been great, from insightful columnists. So I will try not to repeat what they have said. Keep this in mind. What happens is not the point, it is how you deal with it that counts.
I know girls who have had babies and finished highschool. They jugle school and family, much like I juggle work and family. Babies are long hours and hard work, but well worth it. My regret is that I was 25 before I had my son.
There are some cultures that encourage young girls to get married and pregnant before they are 14 years old. They also have have ten wives, 25 chilren and their very own communites.
Maturity comes at different ages. I have known 16 year olds with more maturity than any 30 year old.
The question is ARE YOU READY FOR THIS?
9 Months of; "OH, I am so fat! GO get me some ice cream."
You must be careful. I do not know how moral your girlfriend is. She may have ideas to get pregnant even though you do not want it to happen.
Let me save you 15 years of learning from bad relationships. "I've also heard rumors from my friends that she's planning something."
First, you are listening to rumors instead of just asking her the truth.
Second, If she is the kind of person who would plan something, why are you with her?
Your best bet is to back off and not have sex with her until she grows out of this phase. And you know she isn't going to try and trick you by poking a hole in the condom. (I had it happen to an ex boyfriend. E-mail me sometime and I will tell you about it)
Here is an idea!
Find someone that has a newborn baby. See if they would be willing to make arrangements for your girlfriend to care for that baby for 48 hours every weekend for a year. She would have to stay friday night, all day saturday, saturday night and until 5 pm on Sundays. She would have to cater to the baby's every demand while the parents took a break from the exhausting demands of a new baby.
This would give her a taste of what it would be like as a young mother to take care of a baby.
You should try it too!
Anyway, here are some sites I think that you would benefit from.
Birth control methods go here!
http://www.knowmycycle.com/birth-control-method.aspx
Information on how to control your orgasms, so that you do not release inside her. Go here!
http://sivasakti.com/articles/tantra/orgasm-art26.html
Good Luck!
My boyfriend is getting the magazine Maxim or whatever. I've seen it but it always has pretty ladies on it. I dont want him looking at like a magazine that contains stuff that no girlfriend would want a boyfriend to look at such as naked people and what not. Cuz that just makes me self consious & fight to be even more prettier so i dont feel so ugly & compared to those girls.
Please just give me details on whats in that magazine, it'd be must helpful!!
http://www.maximonline.com/index.aspx
This mag is a mens mag. Most of it is sports, sex, beer, girls and more sports.
Ignore the photos. They are all sterotypical anyway. Those photos are doing their job. Getting people to buy, buy, buy. And drool, but mostly to sell the magazines.
What ever you do, don't make a fuss over it. You will become an outsider to his relationship with the magazine and he may seek someone who won't be jealous of a book.
You, me and 50 million other people do not and will not ever look like those girls. Get over it!
It is a part of life. What your boyfriend is doing is harmless. Sit down and look at the magazine when he gets it and ask him to point out what he likes about it? Instead of being jealous, read the articles. You may find sports and fitness tips to help you trim up or lose weight. It is not just all sex. Take a look at it more before you judge the book by it's cover.
If you are not having sex with him, this is probably a good sign that he is ready.
Let me know what you think of the magazine after you have looked inside it, and read some articles OK. E-mail me if you want to.
Thanks for picking me to help out. I hope I gave you some helpful tips.
Until next time,
hnstymtrs
alright, well. i was raised in a catholic family. we go to church every week, pray before we eat, the whole shibang. i believe in God, and love him,, but i just dont feel that "fire" for him that i think i should. how do i get it? how do i know if i really am "saved." i just really want to be close to him and to start living for him, not just myself. HELP ME!
Dear I'm Drifting,
Seems to me you are starting to figure it out on your own. Some people live their entire lives without questioning it!
That fire will burn hottest when you live for yourself. Living your life while you are alive IS living for him. Just make the most of your life here on earth and you will have lived for him. Voluneteer at the local dog shelter, or old folks home. Help your friends and family with projects. Be courteous, honest and gentle.
Do not cheat, steal or manipulate others.
If you feel that you must attend church to get saved, then you will be attending for a very long time. Being saved is not something someone else can do for you. You must do it yourself. No one will save you, but you. We were given life not granted life. It was a gift not borrowed. What we do with it is completely up to us.
In order to get close to anyone, you must first get to know them on a personal level.
You have the internet at your fingertips. Do some searches, put everything that your religion has taught aside for few moments and read outside the bible. Find out what kind of man Jesus was. Find out about his secret love. Read about the passion in his life and WHY people followed him. Read about the life he had that no one will tell you about.
Keep this in mind when you decide to believe the bible's teachings: In every translation there is always a margin for error. Many people can disagree but if they want to, it is their right.
Simply existing and going in the same direction everyone else is going is not living. Break away from the flow and figure things out for yourself. Stop letting other people tell you how to be saved or love him. Change the way you see things and your path to him will make itself very clear. Keep faith in love and family. Live your life. It is the path he has set you on. Do extra ordinary things, not just extrodinary things but extra ordinary things.
Never stop searching for information. No matter what. Keep learning.
Try this for starters.
http://petragrail.tripod.com/answers.html
how do you summon your inner demon?
Summoning your inner demon is exaclty the same as finding your inner self. It takes hard work, dedication and a passion for success.
To summon your inner demon you are going to need leaderchip abilities, enlightenment and a website!
Go read or listen to 'Rich Dad, Poor Dad' by Robert Kiyasaki get it at richdad.com
Then listen to 'Lead the Field' by Earl Nightingale.
Get this one at nightingale.com
After you have read or listened to these at least once each, then spend some time thinking about a catchy name for your website. Come up with something good. A name is what draws people to your site.
Once you have thought of a great name ask yourself this: Am I ready for my inner demon? If your answer is yes, then e-mail me with your thoughts on the above lessons.
Good Luck!
f/13
hey this is embarasing to say (and i'm not sure if it's normal) but i got hair everywhere on my body. Not jsut where girl grow hair when they get puberty but on my face like the cheeks, my back, my whole front, everywhere and it seems kinda nasty and wrong because i htought only boys have hair everywhere but sometimes i'm confused of my sexuality because i'm pretty sure girls don't grow hair everywhere like me. I'm practically a monkey now! which products should I use to get rid of hair in certain areas? i shaved my public hairs but it's always red now and irrating. i heard about people putting hair removing cream (whatever that is) but I don't know if it can rip or wreck my skin of I wax since the skin there is sensitive and delicate
You say you look like a monkey? Thick hair, literally? It is not totally unheard of. Congenital generalized hypertrichosis (CGH) is an extremely rare disorder characterized by excessive hair growth on the face and upper body. It has been dubbed "Werewolf syndrome" by the popular press.
Here are some helpful sites:
If you look like a wolfman go here!
http://www.accessexcellence.org/WN/SUA05/wolfman.html
Just really hairy, go here!
http://www.shopinprivate.com/inabexbodhai.html
Alternative hair removal, go here!
http://www.nevershaveagain.com/default.aspx?source=overture&word=lhr23
Do searches syourself on google or yahoo.
You have access to the internet. There is a vast amount of info right at you fingertips.
Best wishes! Good Luck!
Hello, I dated someone for 6 years of my life... little did I know it would be the best 6 years of my life. We broke up for a variety of reasons but mostly because neither of us was in the right place for the type of relationship that was required. About 6 months later, perhaps less, my partner decided she was ready to move on, and started dated someone else. I was completely crushed but still wasn't ready to date her again. So I sat back while she dated this girl whom I knew was totally wrong for her and I kept trying to improve on myself. In the meantime they were up and down and finally I decided to disclose how I felt. That seemed like a great idea at first because she was receptive to the idea so I thought and said she'd give us a chance only for me to come to find her not really giving any of her heart to me. She put in what was necessary to appease me but no emotional feedback. Sex was inadequate at best, and it felt more like having a relationship with your worst enemy then it did the person you've loved with all your heart for years. I was hurt but tried to move on and have been dating an incredible woman. Only this woman lacks one things, she's not my love. Now, my ex is newly single and I can't help but feel everything for her still. She says she was still hurt by our break up when we tried again and hadn't yet got passed that. She says she has forgiven me now and loves me but doesn't know if she'll ever feel the same for me. It's painful yet I don't run away, I stay and endure. So what do I do? She's the love of my life, do I walk away and just hope and pray there is more for me? Or keep trying because if she is the love of my life how could you just give up on that?
I agree with illdomybest. Very good advice there.
6 years is a long time to be with someone.
Have you been with this incredible woman for long? She will never amount up to the 6 years you had with your ex. Until you create better memories with this woman you are dating.
Continue with your self improvement. It sounds like it was working. You attracted an 'incredible woman'. She deserves all your attention. Stop focusing on your ex, or you may end up running this other woman off.
Just think of the last encounter you had with your ex. She has given her heart to someone else. She feels she has to forgive you for something. Not good, even if she says she has forgiven you. Anyone can get past anything they want to, bottom line. She just doesn't want to get past it.
Why can't she get past it?
I wouldn't sign up for that class. Why does the earth orbit the sun? Why does the sun rise in the east and set in the west? WHO CARES!!
The earth will orbit the sun no matter what.
People change and they move on. There is nothing you can do except learn and continue to move on.
I was with my husband for 8 years. I died when we divorced 6 1/2 years ago. I have this gorgeous little boy as a result of my marriage (photo on column).My boyfriend, who I love 100x more than I ever loved my ex, and I have been together almost 5 years now. Yes, you can love another as much if not more than you did the last woman. It is possible to love again and more passionately than you did before. I am living proof!
My advice to you:
GO. Do not stay. Make the next 6 years better than the last 6 years. Make new memories and soon you will see there is more for you!
Good luck!
I'm torn and at a loss. I'm very close friends with a married couple. The husband has become like my brother. He's very protective of me and has been there for me more than I could ever ask for. I go to church with him, his wife, kids, and his parents. Well, a little over a year ago me and my fiance broke up and I got into the whole partying scene with his wife. One night, this guy was over at their house and she was prancing in front of this guy in a short tshirt and thongs. I ignored it. Then at this party a month or so later, a bunch of us were playing poker and it turned into strip poker. I quit, but she continued playing (she was the only woman playing). She was sitting in a guy's lap and the only thing she was down to was her thongs and cowboy hat. I felt this alone was cheating. Well, things went a little further that night and she told me that her and him kissed. But I feel it may have went further than that. They continued calling each other for a week or so after this happened. I urged her to stop. She'd admit that it was bad, but she would continue. So, I backed off and got back in church. This summer we started hanging out again, and before I know it - I'm pulled right back into the same situation - knowing and seeing her mess with this guy. I've recently found out that she's been with a few more guys that I know. It's so hard for me - I want to tell her husband so bad because it's unfair to him. But I've vowed to stay out of it.
More bad news...I've fallen for her husband hard. Feelings I've never felt before, I'm feeling for him. Sometimes the way he looks at me and talks to me - I feel he may feel the same way. My mom believes he feels feelings for me also but he's trying so hard to make his marriage work. His mother has made comments to me and my mom before that she wishes he would have met me before his current wife because he would date me in a heartbeat. I've backed off from him because I know I don't need to feel the way I do. But he'll call me or will come see me and I just break down b/c it hurts so much. I just dont know what to do. Can someone help me and steer me into a direction that's right? I don't feel I'm in a position to be a homewrecker...
I completely agree with Ahnee! I have had similar situation happen to someone I know. Except, she was not in love with the husband. She was just very close friends with him and his wife.
She tried staying out of it, but before long she was pulled into the web of lies that entangled her friend's wife. She could not take it any more and cut off all contact with her friend's wife. This made the husband think and he ended up catching his wife making regular trips to another city just to have an affair with some guy.
BUT she now does not see either of them. The woman blamed her for the husband finding out and the husband hated her for not telling him.
I think that if you vowed to stay out of it, then you should stick to your vows. Yet, another part of me thinks that honesty is the best policy. If you decide to tell him what you know, he needs to understand how torn you are about all of this. You want to stay loyal to both friends, but how can you when one wants you to keep secrets.
Personally, I think it would be disrespectful to keep this from him. What his wife is doing is wrong and she will keep doing it unless someone forces her to face her demons.
Ultimately, you should do what you would want someone to do for you in this situation.
Good Luck and Keep me posted.
My first boyfriend and I recently broke up. It's weird being single but I'm moving on. The problem is, there are absolutely no guys that I like. I'm in my senior year of highschool, have a job, lots of single friends and no guys have caught my eye! I know I should focus on me and be independent, but I'm used to being interested in many guys. How can I meet new guys and where? Should I even be looking for someone right now, or let someone find me?
Do yourself a huge favor and spend all that free time reading as many books and listening to as many audio books as you can on becoming financialy literate. You are almost out of highschool. You have a job so you know what it is like to work for your money. Learn how to make your money work for you before you take on any relationships.
Most americans think that their house is an asset. The are misled. They think that the car is an asset too. The truth of it is this. Most americans are in debt because they spend all their money on liabilities (ANything that takes money out of your pocket) Instead of spending money on Assets (Anything that puts money in your pocket)
In other words my business brings me money, therefore it is an asset. My house takes money from my account, there for it is a liability.
Take care of yourself first. everything else will just happen!!
Does anyone know of any cool online communities or message boards out there that has like fashion, beauty, celeb gossip, general chat, etc. Or any place to connect with people that is cool and fun. I'm 22 so I want to stay away from teen type places.
try visiting www.honestwealth.smdatesite.com and give the 7 day free trial a go. See if that community has anything of interst to you.
Hi. I'm Thai. male. Let's go straight to the point.
I've known this girl for about a year since we first met. She's good looking. lots of guy are trying to chat her up as well. I can tell that this girl is somewhat flirtatious, but I really like her, anyway. We were in good relationship for a while as she called me and went out with me a lot. Then four months ago, she became very different. She didn't pick my call anymore (sometime she cut the line). She completely ignored me. Her reason was because I lie to her (I did not, honestly). Let me tell you a story. I was about to pick her up to her house. My car ran out of battery, so I couldn't get her on time. that was when she started to ignore me. she beleived that I lie to her for some reasons. Then We lost contact for about three months.
I started to call her again. She told me she doesn't have boyfreind yet. we went out for dinner yesterday with one of her freind. Things seemed to be OK. Today she give me a call. Surprise!
I wonder what's happening now? Is everything getting better again or just flirting over and over? I'm kind of lost. I don't know where I am. what's she thinking?
Just additional info. We barely went out only 2 of us. She always brings her freind with when we went out. Dosen't sound good to me.
ANyway, any suggestions are apprecitaed.
Razhie nailed the bulls eye. Very well put. I agree. If she has all these guys wanting to get with her, you can be sure that is how she sees you. Just another guy. Bringing her friends along keeps things safe. For what reason, who knows. Don't sign up for that class. Who cares why the sun ruses in the east. It always has and always will. Do not spend to much time on why things are.
There are more deserving girls out there. You are so focused on this girl that several better girls have already passed you up. All because of this girl. The one that has already given you a hint of what life would be like if you were with her. Doubt, mistrust and drama. Not to mention all the other guys constantly there for her attention anytime you are not around. Don't go there.
Focus on you and and when you least expect it, the girl for you will turn up.
Take care!
i just thought id let you know that i found out that B was talking about me to my boyfriends best friend who i am very good friends with. she told him even more lies about me. what should i do?
I know I suggested calling her bluff in front of everyone. But, after careful deliberation with me, myself and I, we think that the best thing to do is just ignore her!! Have everyone ignore her! Asking her to prove it may just feed her fire, not to mention pull you into her web. Nope forget what I said about that.
The most important thing to remember is to keep being honest with yourself and everyone around you. The more honest you are with everyone around you, the more obvious her lies will be.
Do not waste your time worrying about what she is trying to do. She is digging herself a hole, you will see. Karma is the mother of all punishers.
If your friends and boyfriend fall for her games they will soon learn what she really is. If this happens, the only thing you can do is forgive them when they come to you realizing the error of their ways. Do not get caught up in her web of lies. It will ruin you. Just keep your head up high and do not let her ruffle your feathers.
I know it will be hard. Most liars are convincing and practice a lot. Stick to your morals. Stay honest, insist that you really do not care about what she says because it is all lies. Do not dwell on her. Just spend more time with your friends in non public places. This will increase the bond you have with them and make it harder for her to invade your world.
In your life, there are going to be people like this B person. Some of them are very good at what they do and you would never know they were that kind of person. The only thing you can do is not sign up for that drama class.
Just keep telling your friends you are not signing up for that class. When they as you what class, tell them, "I am not signing up for her drama class. Lying is immoral and wrong."
Some large corporations use the same tactic she is using. To beat the competition they throw out little bits of information about the competetors product.(in her case it is lies about you). This is to create confusion with the current consumers. Causing some of the consumers to change brand names. (most see that switching was a bad idea and change back) While it also causes loyal consumers to remain faithful.
Her lies are scare tactics to confuse you and your peers just enough to rattle your cage and maybe steal a few friends. The truth is, if she could make her own friends she wouldn't need to steal yours. But, what can you do. Feel sorry for her. She has to lie to get people to notice her. Do not sign up for that class!!!
Stay Honest, Stay True and your friends will see the truth. Keep me posted!! Have a smile :)
To your feedback
Someitmes knowing is harder that not knowing. I understand not wanting to know. What makes you think he cheated on you? Have you asked him if he has cheated? If so, do you believe him?
My best advice to you is just to keep your head up and focus on you. You have probably heard this a million times, but here goes. Men will come and men will go. They are a dime a dozen. The good ones are few and far between. I was with my x husband for 7 years, he cheated. I caught him on the phone with her. They were telling each other that they had a great time together and couldn't wait til she came out to visit him. She was telling him that she loved him and missed him. She also hoped he wouldn't get into trouble with his wife, at that point I spoke up so they both knew I was evesdropping. I left my husband that very afternoon. We are no longer together. That was 6 years ago. Best thing I ever did. My shortest relationship was 1 year and 8 months. I have had some good relationships. I have had some bad relationships. You can never tell about a person unless you live them for a while.
If your boyfriend has cheated on you , he is not worth your effort. You should learn this lesson and move on. A part of growing up is learning lessons that are taught to you by the greatest teacher of all; LIFE. Life has taught me more valuable lessons than any, book, class or lecture. One of the lessons we learn is that love hurts. Another lesson we learn is that not everyone is honest and trustworthy. The only thing you can do is keep your eyes open to the signs. Life throws those out there too. We normally do not pay attention to them. Most of us are too busy worrying about other things.
On the other, keep your eye out for trickery, but remain truthful. I am not around him to tell you if he is lying or not, but some of the signs can be found here :
www.blifaloo.com/info/lies.php
Just keep to your morals, get good grades and learn about financial literacy. Schools teach you how to do a lot of things to survive in the real world. Financial literacy is not one of them. Most of our population works for money because they are not taught how to make money. It is left up to the parents to do that. Mine never did, and It has taken me to the age of 32 to realize that I lacked the one skill needed to survive, how to bring money into the house. If your parents have not taught you financial literacy yet, you better ask them to.
If they cannot answer or tell you that you have to work a job to make money, then you should read 'Rich Dad Poor Dad" by Robert kiyasaki.
Stay in touch OK!!
Tammy-hnstymtrs
over the weekend a girl lets call her B asked out my boyfriend. she knows that we have been together for over a year and she asked anyways and then she made up lies saying that i was calling her and IMing her when i dont have her number or screenname. what should i do
Well, what does your boyfriend think of her? Does he think she is lying?
Sounds to me like she is a drama queen, who has the hots for your man!
Make sure your man is not interested in her. Put your mind to rest there. If he is not at all interested in her then you should just keep insisting that she is a liar and leave it at that.
If your man is interested. You will be able to tell if he is. He will seem distracted or pre-occupied. If this has happened then you nedd to take action. Catching someone in a lie is the best way to exspose them and end this whole mess. Basically, make her look like an ass, right in front of your boyfriend. Try not to lower yourself to her level in the process. Stay honest. Liars often tell lies to cover up lies. She will hang herself, you just need to give her a bit of rope.
Try asking her to prove that you IM'd her or called her. Tell her that if she cannot prove it then it didn't happen. See what she comes up with.
Good luck and remember, talk to your boyfriend first. Tell him that you are going to ask her for proof and see what she says. Put her on the spot. Better yet, have your boyfriend ask her right in front of you. Keep me posted!
ok so my girl said that she was on the pill so we had sex and i came inside of her, but then she told me she had been nin the sominican republic and been off the pill, so now we're real worried that she might get pregnent. now i came inside of her, but she was on the pill before that and she has both highly heavy and irregular periods. so im hoping that cut the chances of pregnancy down, is there anything else we can do to cut down the chances of pregnancy. and please no lectures. just help. we're real scared
Stuff happens, be prepared, www.abortbypill.com
The morning after pill, or an abortion pill is often used when accidents like this happen. Use the internet to do searches for this and you will see you have many options for preventing this from happening again. Do not leave it up to your partner, stay prepared yourself.
To your reply, thank you for giving me a rating, but I am not here for rating. Please look at my answer more carefully. I specifically stated "if this happens again". I did look at the date, I also read the other answers that you had gotten from the other advicenators but thank you anyway. I just thought that you could use my advice in the future as well. Take care!