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Hi. I'm Thai. male. Let's go straight to the point.
I've known this girl for about a year since we first met. She's good looking. lots of guy are trying to chat her up as well. I can tell that this girl is somewhat flirtatious, but I really like her, anyway. We were in good relationship for a while as she called me and went out with me a lot. Then four months ago, she became very different. She didn't pick my call anymore (sometime she cut the line). She completely ignored me. Her reason was because I lie to her (I did not, honestly). Let me tell you a story. I was about to pick her up to her house. My car ran out of battery, so I couldn't get her on time. that was when she started to ignore me. she beleived that I lie to her for some reasons. Then We lost contact for about three months.
I started to call her again. She told me she doesn't have boyfreind yet. we went out for dinner yesterday with one of her freind. Things seemed to be OK. Today she give me a call. Surprise!
I wonder what's happening now? Is everything getting better again or just flirting over and over? I'm kind of lost. I don't know where I am. what's she thinking?
Just additional info. We barely went out only 2 of us. She always brings her freind with when we went out. Dosen't sound good to me.
ANyway, any suggestions are apprecitaed.
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Razhie nailed the bulls eye. Very well put. I agree. If she has all these guys wanting to get with her, you can be sure that is how she sees you. Just another guy. Bringing her friends along keeps things safe. For what reason, who knows. Don't sign up for that class. Who cares why the sun ruses in the east. It always has and always will. Do not spend to much time on why things are.
There are more deserving girls out there. You are so focused on this girl that several better girls have already passed you up. All because of this girl. The one that has already given you a hint of what life would be like if you were with her. Doubt, mistrust and drama. Not to mention all the other guys constantly there for her attention anytime you are not around. Don't go there.
Focus on you and and when you least expect it, the girl for you will turn up.
Take care!
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My best advice to you is that if you are looking for a serious relationship, look elsewhere.
I can't tell you exactly what is going through her mind, but I hope you can tell that her expectations and your own aren't quite lining up. This idea she had that you lied to her is the largest and most glaring problem, especially since she responded to that by shutting you out for months. If you think that was bad, imagine how she would have chosen to 'punish' you for this perceived transgression if you had been dating.
Her bringing her friend is certainly not good; it means you two weren't being honest with each other about the nature of your relationship and what you wanted and that she wasn't taking it seriously.
But do yourself a favor and stop worrying so much about what she is thinking or feelings. She sounds like a rather confused soul, as quick to flirt as she is to judge. (Maybe even more then a bit of a drama queen?) Instead, think about what it is you want. If you actually want to pursue something with this girl, make that very clear to her. Don't give her any room to weasel around the issue or lead you on.
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It sounds to me like she's scared of what will happen when you two are alone maybe she just isn't ready for a relationship, you should both have a long discussion about how you both feel and where you should go from then on and you must both be totally honest.
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If you ask me, she is just being a player. She is just flirting with you until she can find someone else, but just to be safe, i would try to confront her about it, but then again, I'm not the one in the situation.
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