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My boyfriend is getting the magazine Maxim or whatever. I've seen it but it always has pretty ladies on it. I dont want him looking at like a magazine that contains stuff that no girlfriend would want a boyfriend to look at such as naked people and what not. Cuz that just makes me self consious & fight to be even more prettier so i dont feel so ugly & compared to those girls.
Please just give me details on whats in that magazine, it'd be must helpful!!
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My boyfriend's former girlfriend was IN maxim. She was in it for two years as their model for a fitness column. Talk about wanting to kill yourself. But according to him she didn't really look like that. I mean I'm sure he's trying to make me feel better but honestly, some of the girls are hot and some aren't that hot. She was in it like 7 or 8 years ago so the standards were probably not as high as now. But don't think that those girls are "unattainable" because my boyfriend is awesome and he dated her for 5 years and now he's with ME. And I've never tried to model or anything. I'm sure that I could if I wanted, I mean I'm an actress so maybe one day I'll be in it haha. But honestly it's not like being a super model or a victoria's secret model. THOSE girls are "unattainable" types. Maxim, not so much. I mean do you see who they put on their hot 100 list? They have to fill it up. Also, Amanda Bynes and other actresses were in Maxim who aren't really that pretty. So just think if you were famous for something, and they liked you, they'd put you in it and all the photos are retouched. Like I said, she didn't look like those photos, and whether he means it or not and whether she's prettier than me or not, I've seen pictures of her regular every day, and she's cute but I wouldn't look at her and say "WOAH you should be in maxim".
Don't sweat it.
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Well. Maxim is by far from a porno magazine. It's basically just a magazine with the perfect combination for guys. Sports, cars, and girls. All rolled into some fabulous package. I understand where you're coming from that you dont want him to look at that because it makes you feel like you have to strive to look like them, but it shouldnt be that way. He's with you, not them. Nor will he ever be with them, lol. Guys just like looking at things that they cant have, and like looking at pretty girls half nude on the hood of a car. Psh, I dont know what they get out of it but its nothing to be concerned about. You shouldnt feel like you have to be in some sort of competition with them. If your boyfriend didnt think that you were pretty enough, good enough, nice enough, sweet enough etc etc, he wouldnt be dating you, now would he? You have nothing to worry about dollface. Plus, the girls in those magazines have their faces painted on for them. Their so incredibly fake, along with their body parts :). I dont know about you but I would much rather want to look real, then like some fake bimbo on the cover of a magazine.
He's a guy, though. That's whats to be expected I guess. I wouldnt worry too much about it. Just be who you are, and dont strive to compete with them, it isnt worth it.
If it really upsets you though and you dont want to take my advice up there then I suggest bringing it up to him. Maybe sit him down and tell him that it really bugs you that he feels the need to look at magazines like that (although maxim really isnt provokative). Try to come to a basic understanding with one another, and then go from there
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If your boyfriend cares, he'll respect your want's and needs and stop with the magazines. My boyfriend used to look at stuff like that, but he stopped when he met me. If your boyfriend dosen't stop, he dosen't really care about your needs. Just talk to him about it, if he cares he'll listen.
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There is nothing in that magazine to be worried about. I felt the exact same way about my boyfriend reading it, but I looked at a few of them and most of the magazine is entertainment articles about movies and new cds, cars, basically guy stuff. Sure the girls on the cover are pretty but the magazine is actually pretty clean, with very very little nudity.
Kate
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Men are visual and they like to look at women, especially attractive unattainable women. There isn't full nudity in Maxim really - it isn't Playboy at any rate. Your response to him reading this magazine says a lot about your own self esteem. You think other men are attractive, right? But that doesn't mean you think your boyfriend is unattractive, does it? So why does him finding other women attractive have anything to do with how attractive he thinks you are? It has more to do with how attractive you think you are (or aren't). If he's reading these magazines non stop, I think there might be a problem. But if he reads them once or twice a month, I wouldn't sweat it. Try finding a men's magazine without pictures of attractive women in them!
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Tell him how you feel. He wont know unless you do. If all he wants is one magazine thats just being a guy, thank your lucky stars he doesnt have thousands like mine does. My man is an addict. That is incredibly hard to live with. This is simply a guy thing. Just like we like to read cosmo and others, they have an instinct in them to be a guy. I promise you it has nothing to do with you or his disinterest in you.Tell him and Im sure he will reassure you of that. Take care hun.
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This mag is a mens mag. Most of it is sports, sex, beer, girls and more sports.
Ignore the photos. They are all sterotypical anyway. Those photos are doing their job. Getting people to buy, buy, buy. And drool, but mostly to sell the magazines.
What ever you do, don't make a fuss over it. You will become an outsider to his relationship with the magazine and he may seek someone who won't be jealous of a book.
You, me and 50 million other people do not and will not ever look like those girls. Get over it!
It is a part of life. What your boyfriend is doing is harmless. Sit down and look at the magazine when he gets it and ask him to point out what he likes about it? Instead of being jealous, read the articles. You may find sports and fitness tips to help you trim up or lose weight. It is not just all sex. Take a look at it more before you judge the book by it's cover.
If you are not having sex with him, this is probably a good sign that he is ready.
Let me know what you think of the magazine after you have looked inside it, and read some articles OK. E-mail me if you want to.
Thanks for picking me to help out. I hope I gave you some helpful tips.
Until next time,
hnstymtrs
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