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im 18/f and hes 19/m
so last night i was up late talking to the guy i really like. He knows how much i love cute songs, and he was playing them to me through skype. Some of the songs were so cute that i actually cried cause it felt like it was coming from him... but i know thats my wishful thinking haha >.<
but he did mention some interesting things.
one of these being him playing a song we were listening to in his car that i mentioned i liked but completely forgot what it was called and whatnot. and i was like "i think i said i liked this song" and hes like "you did. i remember alot :P" which actually surprised me seeing as i spent 10 hours with him that day, yet he still remembers what song i liked haha.
the next bit gets even more interesting and confusing....he started playing another song, and after it finished playing he says this :"this song means alot to me atm" and i was like in a good or bad way? and he's like "both. the lyrics are just a big impact. you'll find out someday =]" the song is called pulse- hit the lights. ill post the lyrics here too.
Might be the light bouncing off of your cheeks,
but tonight i've got these urges to taste you like you wouldn't believe
Could be the night with the color of your skin that excites
this isn't love, shouldn't be, I swore it never again
so tie me up, take my pulse
before i lose control
or we could get ahead
go lose it under sheets instead
Cuz we're alone and you know
that I can't wait to go home
and wake up yet again
broken, bloody in my bed
cause with you i fall apart
it's like every single time
i come unglued, don't know what to do
I can't keep up with you
I fall apart
never again is what I said
but tonight your coming over me
I got these scars with a promise to keep and it shows
But with this feeling I'll take it to wherever it goes
and It's all alright if we just take turns on taking it slow
and if it's love, we can speed it up whenever we know
so tie me up, take my pulse
before i lose control
or we could get ahead
go lose it under sheets instead
me and you, all the trouble we could get in to
if this is only but the start of it then i'm hooked
waiting for another dose of me and you(i'm addicted)
help?
Hey there,
I think he is trying to tell you that he has strong feelings for you; possibly that he loves you... the lyrics in this song say that you make his heart beat faster, that he would want to put his feelings into action instead of holding onto them, and that he needs you in his life (addicted) and cannot wait until the next time you talk. I would feel so lucky if I was you, for I believe he wants to be more than friends. When he said the lyrics are "both" I think he was referring to the lyrics saying: "take my pulse before I lose control" (you make his heart skip a beat) and "we could get ahead, go lose it under the sheets instead" which implies having sex. and when he said "you will find out someday"... I think he meant he wants to have the sex, but only on your terms in the future. He must care alot about you and I think you should really let him know how you feel :) Meeting a sweet, romantic guy is one thing, but keeping him as yours... ;)
I've known this boy for many years, we went to school together and we tried dating but it never really worked out. Mainly because i didn't know what i wanted back then, but we've always kept in touch. He has a girlfriend, but he always asks to hang out and i know he's into me still because every time we hang out he shows his interest. I never make a move because i wouldn't do that to his girlfriend, but i wonder why he would put himself in that predicament when he knows his girlfriend would get mad. I mean, why would he just not break up with her and try to make it work with me? I guess what i'm trying to ask is should i just tell him we can't hang out or should i make a move and see what happens? Maybe he will break up with his girlfriend and we can try again. what do you guys think? Thanks
Hi,
The likely reason why he would put himself in that position of predicament is because guys don't really think about those things. What I mean is: if a guy sees a cute girl, he is more guaranteed to smile at her, wave, or say something before he even thinks about how his gf will feel after the fact. I'm not saying all guys are like this, but most can't help to at least look or flirt a little (even if they don't plan on acting on it later).
He probably hasn't broke up with his gf, for he knows he tried with you and it didn't work out, he wants to see if his relationship with someone else will work, or he doesn't want to hurt her (cuz he is dating her). I think you should not make a move until he is single.
He does think you are a good person (by the show of his actions) and would probably want to try again in the future. As for now, only make small moves such as saying "hi", smiling at him, or asking how he is doing. If you do any more than that, you will start to look as if you are trying to steal him from his girl, which could end up bad for you and him. So, the next time he asks to hang out, you should ask "are you sure that is alright with your gf?". See what his response is and then know whatever you do, you already asked if she would be ok with it (so you shouldn't be haunted by his decision later on).
Make subtle moves, respond when he flirts, and hang out as long as his gf is okay with it; once he starts to see that you both want to try again, maybe he will break up with his gf for you... you never know
so im a 16 M. This is wassup. So there is this girl that rides my bus. Im pretty know she likes me because the first time she rode the bus she kept looking back at me. That same day even a friend i was talking to said she liked me cause of how much she was turning back. I think shes cute and would like to get to know he. The problem is i dont know how to approach. I also always get nervous and back out of these situatioms. I know i have alot of insecurities. Any suggestions on an approach. I also havent had the balls to cause i always feel all the girls i talk to are too good for me. I dont think im ugly or anything but im still insecure about myself.also would i seem like a creeper if i just asked her to just sit next to me. That also makes me nervous cause i dont want to seem like a creeper
Hi,
I would start with something as simple as a "hi" in the hallway or when you pass her getting on the bus. If she likes you as much as it seems, I'm sure she will definately agree to sitting next to you. She may come off as a bit shy at first too, for ShE hasn't been able to make a move yet (just the 'looking back'). Do not be turned away by her shyness, keep trying! Start small by saying something when you see her, then just go sit in your spot. Knowing girls, she might say "He just talked to me!" very excitingly to her friends haha. After you are able to say "hi", ask her to sit next to you (which is NOT being a creeper). She will gain more courage to approach you later on (so you don't have to) if you do this.
If by chance she approaches you or you approach her, don't forget to breathe! Try to keep a conversation going by talking about your interests, something you have in common, complimenting what she is wearing, or by just smiling. If you show her you are open to hanging out with her, I'm sure she would be happy to. We are all human. She is not any better than you; give her that chance. It is obvious she already likes you! Yes, we all get nervous, but think: if you put your best effort in the first round, the second time will be that much easier :)
16/f
So I've liked this guy for the longest time. He's 2 years older than me though. We've been great friends for like 2 years.
I've like him for somewhat over a year. I like him when I was with another guy and he always helped me with my problems with him, I eventually broke it off because I clearly wasn't gonna get over him.
We told each other how we felt back in September and it was great.
We can't actually be together since he's two years older than me. I was always at his house since I'm best friends with his sister and close with their family, which is probably why I started liking him in the first place.
Ok, I'm done rambling on..
We talked every day and we were closer than just friends. We kissed once.
He went to college in Jan. and we got into a fight and didn't talk for 2 months since he said he needed time to grow up.
We've been talking alot this month and he apologized for everything.
It was all good but like he talks about wanting to mess around with me when he comes home.
I have the worst trouble trusting guys. I've known him for awhile and we're great friends and I like him alot. I was raped about 6 months ago by my ex so I don't know if my whole trusting has anything to do with that.
Anyway, I would do stuff with him, I told him not sex because I know I'm not ready for that and he gets it. It's just if we do mess around a little, I'm afraid he doesn't really like me and it's just gonna be about my body. It's not that I'm not ready for any of that with him, it's just, I want to know if he really does like me. He tells me he cares and he wouldn't use me, but of course it'd get annoying if I never believed him or trusted him right?
I don't expect him to like me and only me since he went to college because I know he's gonna have dates and stuff and I'm not limiting myself to him either. He's just the guy I've liked for the longest time.
So what should I do? I'm sorry this was long, I had to get it out.
If I talk to him about it again, he'll say the same things so I'm not sure what else to say.
It's mostly about me trusting him. What do you think? I'm probably overreacting.
Thanks so much
Hey,
You should trust your instincts. I know you are probably thinking "duh", but really. If you want to spend some more time getting to know him before you go any further, that is completely fine. You know yourself and what you want out of a realationship. So, if you feel you don't know him fully to be able to let yourself be completely his, you should take that time to get to know him even better. I don't think age is a factor here. It was good that he took the time off to mature for you, that says a lot about him; he wanted to be that responsible guy. You seem mature enough to know that if one guy isn't for you, you will find another and that if you have sex, it will be with someone you will trust/love.
Since you are close to his sister, I would reccommend talking to her beforehand if you do plan on a relationship with him. Anyone who plans on dating a best friends sibling should know that there will be complications between you two unless you sort it out at the begginning OR she is completely fine with you dating him. My best friend dumped me for my brother (without telling me she was going to date him) so from experience, I want you to know she will feel hurt if you start spending all this time with him and not her. Let her know you are going to date him and that you will still make time for her. That way, you can have the best of both of them.
As for the guy, I think you should talk to him. He must have a sweet side if you were able to go to him about almost anything. Let him know that you care about him, but because you are still figuring out what you want in the long run you don't want to rush into anything atm. If he understood that you weren't ready for sex, he should understand why you want to wait before messing around. Besides, messing around can lead to very bad things if he doesn't intend on having a relationship with you/hasn't made one yet. Just let him know you really care for him and you would like time to sort out your life. If he is persistant on wanting sex, stand by your word. Any guy who truely loves you, will wait as long as it takes until you are ready. You are not overreacting at all; you are making sure he is everything you want so you don't make a big mistake (good on you). Trust comes with time. If you spend more of that with him and learn more about what he wants in the future, you will become more connected. Once you establish that, trust will come so easily. Believe me
Me and this guy has been friends for a while, and yesterday he invited me to go to the movies with group of people and he paid for my ticket because I did not have any money and it was a scary movie,
we sat next to eachother and the movie we were watching was really scary, so I held his arm
and then after that i held his wrist and next thing you know we were holding hands. Does that mean anything? or he was just holding my hands too just to be nice? Would you hold a girl's hand like that even if u werent attracted to her? would it mean anything to you? or im just reading this wayy to much? I like him but idk if he feels the same way about me.
Hey,
The fact that you held hands and he didn't move his away, means that he has some feelings for you and he thought it was cute you needed comforting from the scary movie. Guys love being a girls safety. I think part of why he was holding your hand was to be nice and the other part... I don't think he would of held your hand if he didn't care. To me, it would mean that he is attracted to you and he likely wants you to make the next move: so ask him to do something with you.
I don't think you are reading this too much, you are just curious how he feels. You could ask him to another movie (possibly at your house), out for some drinks, or bowling, etc. I do like how bold you were to keep the physical attraction until you were holding hands :) Keep that going when you are with him. Once you let him know how you feel, you will know how he feels even more. Never be afraid to take that chance/flirt. I am positive he will be open to hanging out with you very soon
16/f
i go to a very small high school. probably 100 students max. i was walking in the hall with one of my friends and this guy bumps into me and smiles then my friend gave him a hug since they somewhat friends then as i was walking away he says "i can't get a hug?" with his arms open so i hugged him and started laughing. i'm not quite sure why he even did that. it wasn't awkward though it just left me and my friend a bit confused. any ideas?
Hi,
I think he was just being a nice guy and wanted a hug from you since he got one from your friend. Yet, it sounds as if he was also being a little bit of a flirt; friendly and cute :) If you want to get to know him or talk to him more, next time you see him you could say "what about todays hug?" playfully. I am sure he would give you another ;) He sounds sweet
19 f
i know this is probably a stupid question but bare with me im so desperate haha.
okay so a couple of hours ago i was at tacobell with 2 of my best male friends. i saw this really cute guy there and he kept starring at me. i was so shy and im guessing that he thought maybe one of the guys was my boyfriend.when i went to the bathroom he went also and i really wanted to talk to him but i just couldnt get the courage too. oh btw he was there fixing something i think he was a costruction worker he was about 23 years old/white male. and when i was leaving he was starring at me as if he wanted to say something to me but couldnt, since he was working. when i left i saw him looking threw the mirror glass. and i was so sad cause i didnt get to say anything. i guess my stupid question is how can i find this guy. i know i dont know his name or anything. but hey its worth a try. i tried posting it on craigslist in the missed connection section so hopefully he sees it. any other ideas? any other websites like that? ahh i wish i could find him :( i doubt ill ever see him again.. and i bet hes thinking the same. really wish destiny could help me out a little right now.
No question is a stupid question. I think the only way you are going to find him, is if you go back to Tacobell and ask someone working there if they knew who that worker was. Someone there will be guaranteed to know him and so that would be a good start. Just go up, order something, then casually ask if they knew who that guy was the other day working. If no one knows his name there you could ask one of the supervisors, for they would definately know. If you think thats awkward, you could always say 'I thought I recognized him'. People are willing to tell you if they know why you want to know.
There aren't really other websites that you could post to, but if the first thing I told you doesn't work: I'd try to find out if he works there normally or goes there on a certain day for his shifts (the day you saw him), to see if he comes back. There is the possibility he was only there for that day, but usually workers have a schedule when to be where and so I bet he would show up again/check in. He obviously works in the area, so keep an eye out. If you do see him again or any other cute guy... do not miss that chance! Saying 'hi' can start up a good conversation very easily. I hope you find the guy you are looking for; this is a smaller world than we may think. You are bound to run into him eventually if you chill around the place you saw him. Search within the boundaries
I was sick for a month and a half with a herpes virus on my tongue, and couldn't eat, talk or walk. it's taken me another month to heal and all i have been doing is lying around in my house waiting to be healthy again basically. I feel so unmotivated and find myself crying all the time. It's so hard for me to be positive sometimes and i really, really want to gain my weight back, but i have noo appetite. If anyone has any words of advice on health, or has been through anything remotely like this before please feel free to help me on anything.
thank you so much
Hi,
I know what it is like to be really sick and not be able to eat, talk, or walk. My situation was different than yours, but for anyone who is sick: they should tRy to get better (even if it takes every ounce of you). For if you just sit around waiting for healthiness to hit you, it won't; least not as fast as it would if you gave yourself a boost. I know that you must feel gross, but do the things that will make you feel great. If you get back to things you used to enjoy doing you will see that 'hey, I can do these things still' and become more motivated.
When you are in your house, put on some of your favorite music, read a good book, have a friend visit (they are comforting), do some word puzzles (crosswork, sodoku), or bring out the creative side in you. You could take up a new hobby (beading, crocheting, sewing, baking, scrapbooking, drawing), give yourself a manicure (bright colors would lighten your mood), soak in a hot bath, or even just go for a walk so you get out of the house for a bit; being cooped up all day is not a good mood booster. As long as you keep yourself occupied with things you enjoy, I assure you will barely think about anything that's bothering you.
For your appetite, I would suggest trying a nutritional drink such as 'Carnation: Breakfast Anytime'. Link: http://www.nestle.ca/en/products/brands/nba/index You can buy it in liquid or powder form which only takes about a minute to mix up and since your appetite is low you could drink this throughout the day and not have to worry about trying to eat so much (of course you should eat a bit though). It will help give you more energy to do the things you wish without trying to force-feed yourself (this particular drink comes in strawberry, chocolate, and vanilla). Once you have the energy to get up and move around, I guarantee beginning something small will start you on your way to big changes
When i was in middle school i was molested by my friends dad, and ever since then i have never looked at an older guy in a physical way. I'm 21 now and i work with a 40 year old who is insanley good looking for his age. He showed intrest in me and we've hung out a few times. The first time he tried to kiss me i felt VERY uncomfortable and said now, but each time we hung out i started to like him that much more, so we ended up making out. One night after drinking, we went back to his place and he tried kissing me more but i was tired so i started to pass out. I felt him taking my pants off, and then my underwear and he started to go down on me and then he had sex with me. I was pretending to be "passed out" the whole time, but he didn't know. So what's wrong with me? I think i didn't want him to know i was awake because i didn't want things to be awkward at work from then on, and i may have secretely wanted to have sex with him but didn't know what to do. What do you guys think my problem is? Because i still can't get him out of my mind. I just can't believe i could ever like someone 19 years older than me who technically raped me.
Hey,
I don't think there is anything wrong with you. You just had a rough past and some hard choices in life; this being one of them. I think that you really liked this older guy and didn't want to act on it cuz you weren't comfortable with the situation (when he wanted to kiss you that first time). Even so, I believe you shouldn't of gone drinking with him if you knew had feelings for him. Beer + men = mostly trouble. Alcohol puts you in a different mindset where you are willing to do almost anything... that said: pretending to be passed out tells me: part of you wanted to have sex with him, you wanted it to seem like you couldn't do anything about it, and that you weren't sure of what to do (as you said).
I think that you can't get him out of your mind, for you still have feelings for him. Knowing your age difference and what he did, I do not know if you should be with him. If he thought you were "sleeping" and still had sex with you, what does that say about him? That he didn't care about your feelings? He only wanted sex? You said yourself this is technically rape. Would you want to be with someone who takes control over women? You could keep seeing this guy knowing you like him and had sex with him (pretty much) unwillingly or you could call it off, find someone you like more/is closer to your age and forget this ever happened. Yes, it is possible to love someone who is way older than you. I liked a guy who was over twice my age, good looking and one of the sweetest guys I've met, but in the end I didn't see any relationship that would work beyond friendship. So that is where I left it at.
I think your dilemma is you don't know if you should speak up or keep quiet. Whether you think this would be a good idea/what is right for you is your decision. Just know that whatever you choose will affect your next week, then month and year... make a wise decision
is there a way to get rid of starch marks?
If you mean stretch marks, yes there are ways to get rid of them. You can purchase products in store or online. Bio Oil, Dermatology Stretch Mark Solution or cocoa butter are some solutions. If you apply one of these to your stretch marks daily, they will start to fade over time. I'm sure there are more, but these are the main ones that work effectively. Check out these sites too: http://www.stretchmarksexpert.com/ and http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/health/how-to-get-rid-of-stretch-marks/
If a guy cums in your ass and it gets on your panties && you're scared you might get pregnant does birth control work AFTER you have sex??? I need to know because I took it. :o and I'm only 15 years old so I am not ready to deal with any consequences or complications!!
Birth control can work after you have sex IF you take the right kind. By "right kind" I mean the Morning After Pill. If you just take normal birth control it will NOT work as effectively. There are kinds such as: plan B and Ella. What you have to know is you need to take the first morning after pill (without the birth control you are taking now) within 72hrs of having sex for it to be effective. There will be two pills. The second should be taken 12hrs after the first. So as long as you take the first Morning after pill within 72hrs of having sex you should be okay.
When/if you take the morning after pill, you shouldn't start your birth control (pill form) until you start your period again. Depending on where you live, you could get the pill without a prescription or you may need to get one prescribed from a doctor. If you need to get one from a doctor, say "I had sex without protection and I really need the morning after pill". Be honest and to the point. The doctor will understand and you don't have to be a certain age to get it. Here are a few sites that will help you as well: http://www.nyabortion.com/birthcontrol/themorningpill.shtml and http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/morning-after-pill
Feel free to inbox me if you have any other questions
Ya he knows he did wrong unless he doesnt.
But we had couple of up and downs ya he never asked me out but it was differnt.So he finally talks to me by texting me what am i doing. I have not replied and its been few days. And my fear is that he already given up on me or not much care. But i love him and miss him and. I just want him to talk to me one more time and i will reply.
Hey,
I think that if you want to talk to him so bad, you should of answered his text. Even if it was a week later. He could of been busy with his life or was just thinking about what to do. The point is: you shouldn't think about how much he waited before texting you, you should only think about the fact he actually did text you. By him doing so it shows he was obviously thinking about you/wanting to talk to you and you didn't do anything about it.
This guy didn't give up on you or he wouldn't of made that effort. If you love him and miss him I don't see why you wouldn't reply to him asap. He is likely waiting now to see if you care the same as him. I think that if you wait around for him to text you again; that could be in forever. He already tried his one time. Guys don't like texting a girl without a response for very long. If you truely love and miss him, reply now. Not because you think he doesn't love you, but because you love him
So i've been dating this guy for about 4 months now. He's very sweet to me, unlike any guy i've ever dated. He and I both work together. So does my bestfriend marie. I'm not usually they type to get jealous but i kinda am in this situation. I always see them talking in the store that we work in, whenever it's us three standing there it just seems like he talks to her more than me. I could be over thinking it but im not sure. He has a very friendly personality and i know that he dosen't mean anything by it but sometimes i just feel like he is flirting. I just feel left out sometimes in the situation. I've joked with him about liking her before just to see what he would say and he always says he dosen't like her or even find her attractive. He "likes" almost everything she posts on facebook, and i dont know, maybe im over reacting? Someone please let me know what you think.
I think that if he said he doesn't like her, he doesn't like her. If he did he probly wouldn't admit it or he would ponder the subject when you brought it up. He knew his answer and therefore he was sure. Maybe him and your friend just have more things they can talk about with eachother. Its boring at work sometimes if you don't have anyone to talk to.
Find something you and him have in common and try to make a good conversation off that topic. If you feel left out, mention "hey, I like that too" or "thats cool". Try to contribute to the conversation no matter what. Once you join in, he will talk to you just as much. As for Facebook; him liking her status doesn't mean that he likes her at all. He probably just likes what she is saying. Guys can always come off as flirts, even if they aren't meaning to (not saying there aren't any though). I don't think you are overreacting, I think you are interested in him :) Just try to talk to him by complimenting him or ask him if he would like to hang out sometime. Once you get involved, you will be involved
Hello I am a 16 year old boy and I have been dating my girlfriend for about a month now. I know from a story I heard from her(when we were not dating) that she has had oral sex with a boy she met in Europe. Should I bet worried about STIs if I choose to have oral sex with her...or even making out do I need to be worried?
Hi,
I think, if a person has had sex with anyone other than you.. that you should both be tested for STI's/STD's before you have sex of any kind. Of course you know who you've had sex with, but you never know if/if not the person she had sex with was STI positive.
I would just check to be sure. The odds of her being positive is slim, but would you want to take that chance or be absolutely sure? If you both go together it will make it seem like you aren't just pressuring her to get tested. I would hope you would get checked (along with any person you plan to have sex with) whether you have an STI or not. You never know what you or she might have gotten from any person you've slept with in the past. There can be NO symptoms of having a STI/STD. I wouldn't be too worried about this, but to be safe... get tested.
I made frosting using butter and confectioners sugar/vanilla/ 2 tsp milk. I decided to throw in 2 tbsp cream cheese, now the frosting is so creamy, does not peak when I whip with electric beater. I wanted to use with decorator bag and tip. Anyway I can firm it up and salvage this frosting? Thanks..
Hi,
If you mean "how do I firm it up?", the answer would be: add more icing sugar. Add a few tbsp at a time to make it as firm as you want. If you add too much and its too hard, add a few drops of milk to fix it again. You can't go wrong
I like this guy and I've known him for about 6 years or so but just recently became friends with him.Unfortunately i fell for him. My friend liked him before and although he wasn't rude and blunt in telling her he didn't feel the same way their friendship deteriorated. They talk but no where near as much as before. Now I'm stuck in this situation i don't want to tell him I like him because it will ruin our friendship. The thing with him is not that's he's a player but he is just a nice guy to everyone.I don't think he knows how to just give hints when he dosnt like someone, in other words he sends mixed messages. We talk and text all the time but deep down I think I know he dosnt like me. Should I risk our friendship or stay quiet and try to grt over my feelings for him?
Hey,
I think you should talk to your friend about your feelings with this guy, for risking your friendship would be bad and not acting on your feelings will send you on an endless thinking train. Let your friend know that you like him and you were hoping you could give it a shot. Talking to her will let her know that you want to date him, but you don't want to upset your friendship (she should see that you are being respectful to her feelings by talking to her ahead of time). If your friend says its alright to date him; go for it. If your friend says she still likes him; tell her you would really like the opportunity to try to date him, since she isn't doing anything about her feelings for him at the moment. Be polite, but get your point across (you want to date him).
You mentioned that he already said he didn't have feelings that way for your friend. So, the way I see it: talk to her, let her know you are going to try and hopefully she will support your decision if she is your friend. If she still doesn't support your feelings, then I believe you should give him a shot anyhow and I'm sure you're friendship will come around again (I've been in a simular situation and thats how things worked out for me). Just think: you don't want to be stuck wondering if a relationship with him could of happened; you will want to try to be sure
So, my period ended last weekend. I'm sexually active with my boyfriend, and we noticed that even after a few days off my period, there was still some on the condom we used. I thought it was no big deal, you know, the organ will cleanse itself out when it does.
I also have a slight UTI from I believe the latex of the condom -- it's not a big deal or anything, I've dealt with UTIs before but I'm not sure if this has to do with some ... clots of blood, I think is the right way to describe, in my underwear. They're small and brownish & has happened a couple times this week. I've never had this before, should I be concerned?
16/f
Hi,
I don't think you should be worried. Any small/large brownish clots that you discharge is most likely old blood that is only now being cleaned out. UTI's don't tend to make your blood change color and being sexually active wouldn't affect your period much either. Sometimes you just have an off one due to: stress, change in exercise, or change in eating habits. Unless your period stops completely, brown discharge/clots is pretty normal. Give it time and you'll see it change back
Um ok so there is this guy who i REALLY like and he likes me....we have dated before and i broke up with him before because i was about to become home schooled but then i
Got better grades and stayed.....we are talking bout getting back together but he is scared I'm using him....he said he wants to wait a little longer until we try again.....so should i wait or move on with my life....I really like him and he says he likes me but he also says four other girls like him.....what should i do.....thanks
Hey,
I think you should give him a bit of time, for he wants to figure things out. If you broke up with him previously, he probably has questions now such as: "why would she want to date me now?", "will she hurt me again?" and "do I still feel the same way about this girl?". He has a lot on his mind. If you really do care about him, give him a bit of space, but let him know WHY you broke up in the first place and that it wasn't because of him. If he knows this, he will begin to understand your circumstance at the time when you broke up.
Even considering getting back with you shows that he still has some feelings for you. When he mentions that other girls like him, he is either: trying to make you jealous, explaining that 'if you don't act now I could date someone else', or he was trying to see what your reaction would be to that comment. You should find out if he still cares for you by talking to him and then assuring him you aren't using him. Just because others girls like him, doesn't mean he has acted on thier feelings OR liked them back. Talk to him, find out if you are both on the same page (willing to try again) and then see if you two can make it work. If you really like this guy, give it another shot. If he doesn't feel the same way; move on to someone that does. You never know what could happen and sometimes the second round is even better
age: 33
gender: female
i have been seeing this guy since January of 2011. Two days ago he told me to back off. He said that I follow him around like a lost puppy. I have benn trying to talk to him through text messages. He told me that if I do not stop texting him he would go talk to the landlord about it.
I love this guy a lot. I have done everything for him for the last couple of months. I walked away from my marriage for him. I do not allow no males into my apartment. I even took an HIV test for him.
I wish I could tell him that I am sorry for what had happen in the past. I wish I could be with him once again. He made me happy when I am with him. Now, I feel miserable without him
Hi,
If you have been seeing this guy for a few months already, I would think you'd both know how eachother acts. Texting him alot without any response does come off as a bit attached on your part though. I think you should of sent him only one or two messages saying "I miss talking to you, text me when you aren't busy" and then waited for him to respond before you sent another.
Since he doesn't like that you texted him alot, try to talk to him in person or get someone else to deliver a message for you. Don't text him saying you want to talk, cause that's what he said not to do. You may also leave him a note saying "I'm sorry about my texting. I miss talking to you, please get back to me" and then leave it at that until he replies. If he cares as much as you do, he should reply within a day or so of receiving your message/having a conversation with you. If he doesn't, do not send another immediately; he may just be busy. If he doesn't respond after a long period of time, I would move on. There is a guy for you that will take the time to help fix mistakes that are made. I am kind of suprised you would walk away from marriage for someone different, but it happens.
I have no idea what else came between you two in the past, but whatever it is, all you can do is let him know you are sorry and then give him time to forgive you. I know what it is like to miss someone you care about. He will only forgive you/get back with you if you give him some space and let him figure out himself that you are sorry. Once he figures that out, he will see that you care about him and contact you. Whatever happens, do not rush into things. Take it slow to build that friendship again, feel free to compliment him and let him know you make him happy, but without pushing his boundaries. Please don't let him know you are miserable without him, guys are more likely to get back with someone positive that can carry confidence. If you need: feel free to inbox me about anything in the future
I have a strange thing with my eyes. You know how people can cross their eyes, and how both pupils look down and in? I can do that, but I can also do the exact opposite. My eyes go up and they look out in opposite directions. Granted, it's very hard to notice unless you're looking closely, but it does double my vision.
Is there a specific name for this? Should I be concerned? I've known about this for my entire life, BTW, it's not something new.
Hey,
I know what you mean by "cross eyed" and I have found on the internet what you are talking about. It is called strabismus. It causes your eyes to go outward, inward, downward, or upward. It is a commonly genetic thing and is completely normal in most cases. According to what I have read, you should maybe get it checked out by an eye doctor if it worsens, for you say you have double vision (diplopia). I say 'maybe', for you can 'control' how you turn your eyes and this could just be how you were born (amazing ability to make your eyes wonky :p). Perhaps the more you do it, the more strain too, which could be causing the double vision. There are treatments if it ever becomes a problem.
My personal thoughts are: you've had it your whole life and it must not have affected your sight greatly or you would of had it checked out by now. If its not harming anything, I'd consider it a gift! :p
Heres the site if you want to find out more about what you have: http://medical-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/Cock-eyed