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I don't want to ruin our friendship
I like this guy and I've known him for about 6 years or so but just recently became friends with him.Unfortunately i fell for him. My friend liked him before and although he wasn't rude and blunt in telling her he didn't feel the same way their friendship deteriorated. They talk but no where near as much as before. Now I'm stuck in this situation i don't want to tell him I like him because it will ruin our friendship. The thing with him is not that's he's a player but he is just a nice guy to everyone.I don't think he knows how to just give hints when he dosnt like someone, in other words he sends mixed messages. We talk and text all the time but deep down I think I know he dosnt like me. Should I risk our friendship or stay quiet and try to grt over my feelings for him?
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Dear I don't want to ruin our friendship,
It's really difficult to keep a friendship after this sort of liking:), but it is possible. Tell him that you're not really sure yet, but you think you might like him, and if he feels the same. i know this seems like a big deal, but to him he'll like that you're so blunt and to the point. Men are simple creatures. So simply ask him, if he doesn't at least then you will know
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say your true feelings.
you only live once.
take risks.
isn't it better to know the truth? than to hide in fear of losing something?
if i were you, i'd definitely tell him. its a 50/50 shot he says yes or no. take the risk.
if he says no- whatever. brush it off your shoulder and be PROUD that you had the COURAGE to do something so BRAVE.
let me ask you this.. out of all the things you're gonna have to face later in life, this is so simple and easy. how are you going to face bigger issues in life, if you can't even face this little issue?
are you seriously going to stay a little scardy cat the rest of your life? or are you going to start to learn and experience how to become brave?
you know that clique saying "practice makes perfect"?
well apply it to this situation. if you practice being brave a lot, then one of these days you'll be so brave that you can face ANY issue out there :) being brave is one of the best qualities a person can have! be proud to be brave!
also, if he says he doesnt have feelings for you.. don't let it get to you. know that you're who you are. you can't please EVERYBODY.. but you can please yourself :) if he says no, who cares! you can find someone who WILL love you.
and hey.. there's always a chance he could feel the same way.
oh and 1 more thing- guys find girls very attractive when you're brave and nonchalant (nonchalant=don't care if something bad happens. always looking on the bright side. not letting anything bad get to you and always staying positive) guys love that about girls. so if he says no, wear your heart on your sleeve and show the world that 1 little issue like this WONT bring you down :)
go getttt 'em !!!!!!
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Hey,
I think you should talk to your friend about your feelings with this guy, for risking your friendship would be bad and not acting on your feelings will send you on an endless thinking train. Let your friend know that you like him and you were hoping you could give it a shot. Talking to her will let her know that you want to date him, but you don't want to upset your friendship (she should see that you are being respectful to her feelings by talking to her ahead of time). If your friend says its alright to date him; go for it. If your friend says she still likes him; tell her you would really like the opportunity to try to date him, since she isn't doing anything about her feelings for him at the moment. Be polite, but get your point across (you want to date him).
You mentioned that he already said he didn't have feelings that way for your friend. So, the way I see it: talk to her, let her know you are going to try and hopefully she will support your decision if she is your friend. If she still doesn't support your feelings, then I believe you should give him a shot anyhow and I'm sure you're friendship will come around again (I've been in a simular situation and thats how things worked out for me). Just think: you don't want to be stuck wondering if a relationship with him could of happened; you will want to try to be sure <3
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