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He has a girlfriend but...
I've known this boy for many years, we went to school together and we tried dating but it never really worked out. Mainly because i didn't know what i wanted back then, but we've always kept in touch. He has a girlfriend, but he always asks to hang out and i know he's into me still because every time we hang out he shows his interest. I never make a move because i wouldn't do that to his girlfriend, but i wonder why he would put himself in that predicament when he knows his girlfriend would get mad. I mean, why would he just not break up with her and try to make it work with me? I guess what i'm trying to ask is should i just tell him we can't hang out or should i make a move and see what happens? Maybe he will break up with his girlfriend and we can try again. what do you guys think? Thanks
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Honestly the guy doesn't even seem to know what he wants, if he actually did have feelings for you he would have left his girlfriend for you. I know its not right to make a move to a guy while hes dating someone else but you also have to be more strict with him about the way you feel tell him whats what, and that he can't be playing around with both of you, at the end of the day your going to be the one who is going to end up hurt. You can hang out together thats not a problem but if he is making a move to you then he is a loser because hes messing around with your head giving some sort of ilussion to your head making you think you would be together.... I think you should talk to him. Or just move on there are plenty of fish in the sea ! and somewhere out there is the one for you.
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Tell him how you feel. It's better to be direct and take a risk. He might be waiting for you to do just that, but won't do anything himself to avoid feeling guilty. Life without risk is boring!
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Hi,
The likely reason why he would put himself in that position of predicament is because guys don't really think about those things. What I mean is: if a guy sees a cute girl, he is more guaranteed to smile at her, wave, or say something before he even thinks about how his gf will feel after the fact. I'm not saying all guys are like this, but most can't help to at least look or flirt a little (even if they don't plan on acting on it later).
He probably hasn't broke up with his gf, for he knows he tried with you and it didn't work out, he wants to see if his relationship with someone else will work, or he doesn't want to hurt her (cuz he is dating her). I think you should not make a move until he is single.
He does think you are a good person (by the show of his actions) and would probably want to try again in the future. As for now, only make small moves such as saying "hi", smiling at him, or asking how he is doing. If you do any more than that, you will start to look as if you are trying to steal him from his girl, which could end up bad for you and him. So, the next time he asks to hang out, you should ask "are you sure that is alright with your gf?". See what his response is and then know whatever you do, you already asked if she would be ok with it (so you shouldn't be haunted by his decision later on).
Make subtle moves, respond when he flirts, and hang out as long as his gf is okay with it; once he starts to see that you both want to try again, maybe he will break up with his gf for you... you never know <3
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I think before you do anything as drastic as telling him you can't hang out anymore or you make a move on him you should stop and really think about it.
If he has been making most (If not all) of the moves and you haven't shown any interest (Maybe a little to none) then maybe he just doesn't know you like him, try this.
Next you two hang out just either ask him
A.)"Do you like me?" Then theres always the good follow up to that question if he doesn't answer right away "Because if you don't, i don't think you should be flirting with me"
Or just tell him that you like him but nothing could happen between the both of you because you wouldn't want to hurt his girlfriend.
Doing either one of those takes the pressure off of you and lets him think about if he wants you or his girlfriend.
I hope this helped (: M~Ŧ
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