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I'm 22 and have been hooking up with a 40 year old, we've had sex once before but he wants to continue hooking up. Has anyone else been with someone older than them or do you guys think it's wrong??? (link)
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40-year-old guys are the best :)
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I know two guys that I like, but they are so different! One is funny and I have fun with him a lot, but the other is so imaginative and sweet! Who do I choose? The first one teases me, but I know he likes me, but the other is close to my personality, but I blew him off without meaning to! Please help me! P.S. I am pretty young and female. (link)
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Neither. Find a guy who's funny, smart, imaginative and sweet.
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So basically my 15 year old brother seems to be going through what looks like depression. And no, he hasn't been diagnosed, but I know the signs because I've been through the exact same thing and everyone else I've known to go through it. He's been depressed for a while but now it's become worse because now he's showing it.
He's isolating himself, playing a lot of violent video games, writing certain things that a 15 year old shouldn't be writing about him wanting to drink his misery away and how much he hates his life because he has nothing to live for. I get that kids his age play games like Halo and shooting games but in the state of mind he's in, it's not healthy.
My mother has severe bipolar and she's been that way for years now and for a long time, she has taken it out on everyone around her, but mostly my brother, who is now suffering for it. She's in and out of hospital alot for different reasons therefore my brother stays home by himself a lot.
He's not talking to me about it or anyone else. My sister refuses to do anything because the way she see's it, she offered him to stay with her and he said no so she can't do anything. She could at least go see him for a night or two since she only lives 2 hours away..
My boyfriend says not to push..that he'll come around eventually but until then, all we can do is let him know we're here for him when he's ready. And that's what professionals say on forums and whatnot.
I feel like history is repeating itself. I had a friend when I was in school, whom I hadn't known for long but for the time I did know him, we became friends. He was only 17 years old when he killed himself in 2009. Everyone let him be until he was ready to ask for help, they let him "come around" and so no one pushed but when he did ask for help, it was too late because so much damage had been done from waiting months to ask for that help. He saw no way out because he had waited too long and felt there was nothing anyone could do anymore...
My brother is my best friend, and I've tried to be there the best I can over the years given what's happened within our family and all the pain our mother has caused from blaming us for her bad life and verbally abusing us every day when we did nothing wrong. I miss my friend, and I think about him every day, and I can't bear to lose my brother. I've lost so many people in my life to death and other things and now for some reason, life is punishing my brother when he's such a good kid.
I know that whatever happens to mum, he will blame himself. And I keep expecting to hear that she's died, either from suicide or from a physical illness and I don't want her to die, i really dont but what she has done to my brother is so unforgivable. I feel so helpless to help him and I feel like If I do wait for him to come around, that it will be too late and I can't lose another person, especially him. I don't know what to do anymore...I'm so tired from crying every night worrying about getting a phone call from someone saying that something bad has happened to him. How can I help him? How can I make him see that he needs it because he does have reasons to live and people who love him? He won't listen anymore. I don't even know who he is anymore.. (link)
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I think WingYan is mostly right, except for a couple of things. I've struggled with depression my whole life, and I know that when you're a kid, you usually don't just ask for help. So don't wait around for your brother to ask, because it might never happen. Affective disorders (i.e. depression, bipolar, etc.) aren't like addiction where the addict has to want to stop. Do whatever you have to to help him. You might save his life.
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I've known this boy for many years, we went to school together and we tried dating but it never really worked out. Mainly because i didn't know what i wanted back then, but we've always kept in touch. He has a girlfriend, but he always asks to hang out and i know he's into me still because every time we hang out he shows his interest. I never make a move because i wouldn't do that to his girlfriend, but i wonder why he would put himself in that predicament when he knows his girlfriend would get mad. I mean, why would he just not break up with her and try to make it work with me? I guess what i'm trying to ask is should i just tell him we can't hang out or should i make a move and see what happens? Maybe he will break up with his girlfriend and we can try again. what do you guys think? Thanks (link)
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Tell him how you feel. It's better to be direct and take a risk. He might be waiting for you to do just that, but won't do anything himself to avoid feeling guilty. Life without risk is boring!
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im 18/f hes 19/m
i apologize in advance cause its really long but i figured you'll need as much info to help with the situation;
The last 4 months i have become really close with a guy i consider my best friend. I know as cliche as it is, but ever since i was little i told my mum "i want to find the boy version of myself" and i believe 100% that he IS the boy version of me. We both have commented in the past how amazing yet scary it is how much we're alike. seriously even little things and mannerisms of ours are the same, stuff that no one i've ever even met before does. I've never had a boyfriend due to how 'different' i am. I've had plenty of opportunities but i wanted to wait and save myself for someone special. I wanted to find a guy that loved me for my differences, perhaps even be as much of an oddball as me :) But with all my bad luck with past guys it seems as if he's almost too good to be true. which makes me hesitate and want to give up, just purely because it hasn't worked out for me at all in the past, why would everything suddenly work out now? But anyway, in the four months that we have been extremely close, we have texted everyday (not as much nowadays unfortunately :c) anyways he lives about an hour away from me and only recently got his license so it made it difficult for us to meet up before hand due to neither of us having licences...but when we did meet up, even if we only saw each other for a little bit, it would be instant sparks. One time when we met up at a club we were both extremely drunk, and for the first time he kissed me. (we have talked about wanting to kiss each other before, but he's scared of ruining things, as am i) the rest of the night we held hands everywhere we went, and he was constantly cuddling me. we spent 10 minutes just holding each other, we looked like a couple and it felt so natural with him. however i had to leave early. I was so certain that perhaps he had been feeling the same sort of feelings i have, i mean he risked the kiss. Then a couple of days later he texted me saying he wanted to facepalm *basically means he wants to die in a hole sort of feeling like "oh why did i do that"* and i asked him why. he told me that his friends told him he kissed one of his friends that night i met up with him. the same night he kissed me. he started freaking out being like "you saw it didnt you!" and started worrying i saw him kissing this other girl. i told him i didnt, and asked him if remembered ANYTHING else from that night. he told me he remembers walking ages to get home. I then told him that he also kissed me that night, before he kissed his other friend. (i was upset to find out he kissed someone else that night too, doubted that he actually does like me) but then he said something interesting. He started apologising for kissing me and he said to me "totes facepalming...that kiss wasn't meant to happen yet! >. (link)
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I'm a guy, and I can tell you for certain that guys are idiots. I was a total moron at that age and never knew when a girl liked me, no matter how many hints she gave. So you could be the mystery girl, or he could be leading you on without knowing it. The other advicenator is right; you just have to tell him how you feel. He could be planning something, and waiting for a perfect moment that will never come. Trust me, it's better to know if you're the one than to keep guessing. If this guy is smart he'll thank you for it later.
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Okay , so i told you about kyle twice in asking you a couple of questions . So i've come to realize its never going to work , EVER ! im giving up on love , i feel like ' Fuck Love , Im Done Trying ' i don't know what i else i could do to get his attention anymore at all or just with any boy i don't know . . . its like if im not ugly than why won't anything good happen for me my personality is great so why !! i just quit on life i've been feeling that way for a while . . . and you guys are probably judging me not that i care with you perfect little lives . i Give UPP . please don't say talk go talk to a friend no will understand . (link)
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Dudes dig it when you date-rape 'em ;-p
Just an idea.
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am female, 22 y/o & married.
i am working with her, she's a colleague of mine. what confuses me is that she gives me a attitude that i don't know why... i am so confuse now. i am married and i definitely love my husband. i don't know... i have heard that she's into girls and is a bisexual. that's what other people says. am not gonna conclude about that specially that she have a boyfriend already too, which is one of our colleague. i don't know... this lady, i'll name her still maurice... the first time i work there i thought she was nice but then it turned out to me that she was so mean and rude, only to me. what confuses me is that she stares at me most of the time anyway and i've heard that she told someone she don't like me but usually talks about me. i told our manager about it. she said she talked to her, i don't know what she told her, but after that she was already nice to me... now, that was a month before. the other night, i talked to our manager on what's the sign of a lesbian since i can't notice. of course i made an alibi to help me ask her that kind. she said you can't have a hint. you won't know on most of them because you just won't know. i told her never in my life a lesbian made a pass on me. never. i've never been interested on the same sex anyway ( of course that's a lie, ok? because i really think i am falling for her. oh my God!!! ) now, the next day, maurice, started wearing a more bold clothes for her to look like a bisexual enough. i don't know if she did that on purpose or not. and then she acted weird. she was totally change. she became rude to me again, and acts like she hates me. i thought we were already ok!!! now i don't know what to do anymore... she is very successful on hurting my feelings. i didn't liked the way she dressed the other day and is being rude to me again. anyways, let me add this topic too, am not a sociable person really, and i bet she knows that as clear as a water. i don't talk that much to people at work, not only to her but to everybody. oh well, i am trying to protect my relationship with my husband here and my personal life against her. but i wanna stop my affection to her... now am starting to ask if i am bisexual too or not. and i have definitely no clue if she likes me back or not. but at least i wanna know... i know there's no future in this thing between me and her... my head tells me this is wrong, but my heart says different. maybe my head is just playing with me. i don't know. but people, i wanna hear every details from you. thank you so much for understanding. i am so confuse about myself and the things that is going on here (that's the most number one thing i am absolutely certain of).
thanks! (link)
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As a man I say go for it. There's nothing wrong with exploring all of your sexuality. If your husband is cool, he should be fine with it. Whether you let him know or not is up to you, but you might want to take this opportunity to find out about yourself. If you don't, then you could be left wondering what you're missing for the rest of your life. I've had girlfriends who had to explore this path, and it didn't bother me at all, even when they've told me after the fact (happened twice). Most guys think bisexual women are awesome!
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my boyfriend is coming over this weekend for the firstime and my mom embarreses me whenever a new guy comes over what should I do? plus he has a mental illness and he talks to him self what if she is mean to him when he comes over? (link)
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I too have a mental illness so I know what it's like. I've hated meeting girlfriends' parents, because they tend to be a bit judge-y. Just tell your mom why you love him and about all of his good qualities, and hope for the best. No matter what happens, I'm sure that your boyfriend won't hold it against you.
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Well me and this guy plan to have sexx in the summer time and i trust him and all and he even says he loves me more than anything but we are both virgins i was just wondering is it good or bad to to have your first time with a virgin?
Because many of my friends tld me its a bad idea.
So can you help me out? (link)
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Your friends are wrong. Whether your first time is good or not will depend more on the particular guy rather than the amount of experience he has. I think that the connection you have is more important. Probably the best sex I had was with my first girlfriend and we were both virgins. It didn't start out great, though, you have to work up to it. It might take a couple months or so. I was 17 and could go as long as she could stand it, and she would have multiple orgasms for hours. My advice is to have as much sex as you can while you are young. The only regrets I have are the opportunities that I missed. Anyway, if your guy isn't awesome at first, give him a little while. Just don't miss out on it!
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