Um ok so there is this guy who i REALLY like and he likes me....we have dated before and i broke up with him before because i was about to become home schooled but then i
Got better grades and stayed.....we are talking bout getting back together but he is scared I'm using him....he said he wants to wait a little longer until we try again.....so should i wait or move on with my life....I really like him and he says he likes me but he also says four other girls like him.....what should i do.....thanks
gr8fruit answered Friday March 11 2011, 10:28 am: Hey,
I think you should give him a bit of time, for he wants to figure things out. If you broke up with him previously, he probably has questions now such as: "why would she want to date me now?", "will she hurt me again?" and "do I still feel the same way about this girl?". He has a lot on his mind. If you really do care about him, give him a bit of space, but let him know WHY you broke up in the first place and that it wasn't because of him. If he knows this, he will begin to understand your circumstance at the time when you broke up.
Even considering getting back with you shows that he still has some feelings for you. When he mentions that other girls like him, he is either: trying to make you jealous, explaining that 'if you don't act now I could date someone else', or he was trying to see what your reaction would be to that comment. You should find out if he still cares for you by talking to him and then assuring him you aren't using him. Just because others girls like him, doesn't mean he has acted on thier feelings OR liked them back. Talk to him, find out if you are both on the same page (willing to try again) and then see if you two can make it work. If you really like this guy, give it another shot. If he doesn't feel the same way; move on to someone that does. You never know what could happen and sometimes the second round is even better <3 [ gr8fruit's advice column | Ask gr8fruit A Question ]
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