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I'm a mom of two, who has had her share of problems, and likes to help others with their own. I love helping people, and knowing that I can make a difference. I can't help with everything, but I'll always try to make people smile and just feel good about themselves. I've had more than my share of family drama and problems; what with my parents coming from two different and clashing cultures. I've also moved around a lot and had to deal with changing schools and all the trauma of making new friends and fitting in. I'm good with questions about friends, relationships (love, family..you name it), tough decisions, technology, and other weird random questions.I'm a great listener, but I make sure to understand both sides of the story as well.
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Okay so, I don't know what's wrong with me. I've never had a boyfriend, and I've never made out. Lots of boys like me, but for some reason I can't bring myself to go out with them, even if I like them back. It feels like I'm scared, I just don't know why! I'm also nervouse 'cause I've never made out before, and EVERYONE thinks I have..so maybe that's SOME of it, but it can't be ALL of it. Also, when I like a boy, I'll talk to them and then they'll end up liking me..then all of a sudden when we're close to going out I don't like them anymore! I don't get what's wrong with me! I've hurt some boys because of it, and I hate it. I hate that I can't have a boyfriend 'cause I'm so weird about all this stuff. What's wrong?! How do I fix this? I'm so frustraited and nervous about this. It makes me upset. Please help! Any advice at ALL will help!
Theres nothing wrong with you, your most likely not ready yet to have a boyfriend, and thats perfectly fine. My first boyfriend was when I was 19 and in college.
I remember I used to feel weird too. But thats only because it seemed like everyone around me was dating, and I felt like I should be too. When i met this guy, i was ready to date, and most of the nervousness was gone (i was still nervous, but not like before).
so don't rush yourself into something your still not comfortable doing, you'll eventually be ready. :)
what is a good free catalog that you can send for by mail. for some up to date and cute ,feminin,gypsy or victorian, vintage looking clothes,jewely,hair accesories..that arent extremly expensive. i dont want a catalog that you can only view on line. i want one that will actually send you a catalog. dont say gypsy rose i already have it.
I recently got a magazine in the mail for a store called Body Central. It has some really cute things in it. some shoes, jewelry, and some really cute clothes. the website for it is bodyc.com, if you want to check it out. :)
also Victorias Secret has some really cute clothes, expensive, but cute.
Okay, the only jeans that I have...ripped tremendously. They were the only jeans I had. So, I told my mom about it and she said that it would be about 2 months before she can be able to get me a new pair of jeans. What the heck am I gonna do for two months with no pants...in the winter. My mom also said that she talked to our school guidance councelor, and she said that the counselor was rude about it. So I don't know what to do. I'm screwed!
Could you maybe borrow a pair from a really close friend? or like the others said try finding a job, something that would get you money fast...i think babysitting would be your best bet. you could get like 5 dollars an hour, babysit for 2 or 3 hours and you've got 15 dollars..go to walmart or a thrift shop and buy yourself some jeans. :)
What makes the perfect kiss?
the perfect kiss, is a kiss that is shared with the perfect person.
this is a pretyy weird question,but i need help,FAST!
well i just got my period like 2 days ago & i was wondering how do you poop when you have it.
I've tried but it hurts a lot. & i just get scared. now my smotach hurts & i dont know if it's becasue of the cramp or dirahha.
i justed wanted to know how to poop i mean it hurts really bad.
thnkss
you shouldn't be having any kind of trouble like that. go talk to your mom, or your doctor, and have this problem checked out.
Hi, Im 15 I was thinking I would wear a mini jean skirt, brown leggings, brown uggs, a redish low cute shirt with a pink tank top under the shirt. I would wear this to school. Do you think this sounds ok to wear or is it to weird. If you think its weird can you give me advice on how to make it look cool.
wear flats for the shoes...change the red shirt color to something else. pink looks really cute with brown..soo keep the pink tank top. and like the others sed red and pink do not go good together. maybe a brown shirt with a pink tank top..or a pink shirt with a brown tank top...or a white shirt with the chunky bead necklace as someone else suggested. but no red please...and no uggs.
my family wants to move, weve been in the same house about 11 or 12 years, and we just want a change. i always was against it because i didnt want to leave my friends and school, my brother didnt really care it seemed, and my parents decided not to move because of our education and stuff. but i honestly dont like any of my friends anymore except like 2, so we are getting the house ready hopefully to try to sell by next summer. i know of a lot of my friends who have moved and changed schools and loved it way more. also my mom and sister changed schools in high school and it was better for them. however i know of 2 of my guy friends that hate it at there new schools and dont have many friends. as long as i talk to people and try to meet people and stuff, i will most likely make friends right? i know nobody can predict if im going to make friends, but i mean like, from any personal experience, is that the best way to make good new friends? and how do i stay out of the wrong crowd (aka smokers..etc)? i want to basically start over and pick the right people to be friends with, because my decision where i live now, was not that great. obviously you can tell, ive never been the new kid ever. ive gone to the same elementary, middle, and high school that everyone follows. so i would appreciate your help a lot. i dont want to move hoping it will be a great change, to just be let down and stuck with it. thank you so much =] by the way im a freshmen if that helps any!
i've moved a lot! and of course the best way to make friends, is to talk to people and be yourself. about trying to stay away from the wrong crowd, you just have to follow your gut. and also just be yourself, because trust me when you start being someone else, you will end up in the wrong crowd. i know from experience. by being yourself, you will find friends who share the same interests as you, and hopefully find long-lasting friends you can relate to and depend on.
good luck with the move! :)
I ate like 20-30 jelly beans in 1 hour and now i keep on getting pink bubbles in my spit.. it like gurgles and comes out. its happened twice. ugh is this normal? is it cuz i ate too many at once? why?
ummmm...this is going to be the worst advice ever..so sorry in advance, but I've eaten that many jelly beans in that sam amount of time, and thats never happened to me. So maybe just try drinking some water?
My boyfriend really wants an afgan throw. I wanna get him one with our names embrodered on it. I've checked a whole bunch of customized sites and can't find one. Does anyone know a website where I could get one? Perferably $130 or less. Thanks!
aww thats a sweet gift... heres a website that I get a lot of my personalized stuff from.
http://www.personalizationmall.com/Search.aspx?searchstring=afghan&did=4586
hope this helps! :)
I got my first period like 3 days after my 10th birthday, and even then my period was wacko. then it lasted like 1-2 weeks, till i got medication and it lowered it down to about 4-6 days. but the thing is that i can never be prepared! i got the period on the 21st, and then some months i'd have it, then some months i didnt, then it got back okay, and now its okay too, but sometimes i get killa cramps (take medication) and it never comes on the 21st like it first did! whenever that day comes up im like 'get ready..' and then like it comes randomly on other days, like now i just got it like yesterday, the third of december, like 2 weeks after the 21st. sometimes its in the middle, or end, or beginning.. its whacky. is this normal? or should i see a doctor.. AGAIN. and im 13 years old.
Its completely normal, and your period rarely ever comes on the same day of the month. EVER!
Im 20, and I think only twice it came on the same day of the month. so if you got it the 21st and the next month you got it the 30th or two weeks later thats completely normal.
I need to choose a book written by an american author by friday and I have no idea what I want!
I'd like to read a good romance book (I wanted to read The Notebook but somebody else got it before me) or just something interesting, I guess. Nothing too long and nothing too obscure, because I'm going to be researching the novel and the author so if I can't find any information on them, I can't write the paper.
So if someone could give me some recommendations, that would be great. And maybe a little bit about the book you're recommending. I'm mostly looking for good romance novels but I also like mystery, thriller, whatever. Just something interesting.
Thanks!
i was going to suggest The Wedding as well, but it's kind of a sequel to The Notebook, and if you haven't read the Notebook and plan on doing so then you should probably choose something else.
here are a few other books by him that I enjoyed:
A Walk to Remember
At First Sight
The Guardian
me and this guy are good friends...i tell him things that i only tell my best friend,and he tells me stuff that his best friend dosent know...but now he wants to go out with me...i think i like him...but i'm not sure...and i would feel bad turning him down cause he broke up with his girlfriend to ask me out...so,what should i do?
You obviously trust the guy, and feel comfortable around him. Those are two great things to base a relationship on. And, also love doesn't always have to be at first sight..which I feel is what your basing your feelings for him on. correct me if I'm wrong, but I get the feeling that because you don't feel that "butterfly in the stomach-fireworks in the air-melting heart" feeling you think a relationship wouldn't work. that feeling goes away...and what your left with is either a really great person whose company you enjoy or some idiot you can't stand. haha
I'm not saying yes have a relationship with him...altho that is what it sounds like; I'm just saying give the guy a chance. He obviously likes you a lot, and you like and trust him too (if you didn't you wouldn't be telling him your secrets).
lemmi kno how it goes.. :)
At work we have this bulletin we decorate for each holiday. The manager asked me to decorate it for halloween. I am but i dont really have any ideas. I work at cvs and we have the basic decorations like the lights and cottn cobwebs and etc. I can sort of draw. Please give me any ideas you can come up with.
thank you
oo decorating is fun...heres my idea...
draw a diagonal line from top left corner to bottom right corner, and color the top black...with a full moon. and put a witch on a broomstick flying past. the bottom half color it a yellowish-orangish-brownish color...and put like a black cat, and a jack-o-lantern...and then around it as a border cobwebs and maybe a few fake spiders..
:) i have other ideas too, if u dont like this one..
okay well about 8 m,onths ago me and my closest friend got into this huge fight that last about 7 months. well when school started we realized that we had a alot of classes together so we starteed talking again and then i did cheerleading and one of my other friends made the team with me. the other girl that i got into a fight with absolutely hates her but i want to be friends with both of the, && idk how without the other person getting madd
I was in this same situation in high skool...my best friend was makin me choose between her and this other girl (who she didnt like). I chose to befriend both of them...it ended with my best friend not talkin to me for 3 months, but she eventually got over it, and decided it wasn't worth losing my friendship.
never give up the chance to make new friends...thats what helps us grow into better, stronger people. :)
I have fallen for this man that i have known And crushed on for over a year. We worked together(he quit yesterday). I guess you can say he pretty much lead me on.When we worked together He would flirt constantly with me, throw little things at me, when i went on lunch break he would call the store on his cell phone and call me to the front of the store just to talk to me(i didnt realize it was him calling until i got up there) And i would spend the entire lunch break talking with him. He actually listened to every word i said and acted like he cared. Now that is why i have fallen for him.
Problem is hes 27 and im 17. He has a girlfriend that pretty much hates me(im guessing). I saw his girlfriend today and she gave me a reallly evil look. She doesnt know me outside of work.
Im really confused. I hate the fact that he quit because i absolutely love working with this guy. Not only because i get to see him but because hes the only person i work well with.
thank you. sorry its so long.
i know you said dont tell you to back away, but would you honestly want to be that girl? imagine if u were her...
Age on the other hand doesn't matter at all, as long as both ppl are mature enough.
but as for him...he doesn't seem like a very nice person. I say this because he flirted with you, and led you on when he already had a girlfriend. no decent guy would do that...
just try and forget about him (i kno how hard that it trust me), and someone a million times better will come along.
ok it's hard for me to talk about this but i have been trying to fix things up in my life and i'm doing pretty good but everytime i be nice to my sister or not be annoying to her she says i'm beeing more annoying then i have ever been and she says that when i dont talk to her and i'm trying to change and be better you know do better in school gain my parents trust and everything but it feels like no matter how hard i try no matter how much i change it's never good enough now i know some of you are going to say why am i changing but i'm doing it o my sister wll stop hating me so much and people will start trusting me more like my parents they think the reason i'm on the computer so much is because i'm talking to guys that are prolly 35 and a convicted sex affender but i'm not yea i do get on alot but thats only to talk to my friends cause we move alot so i have friends from all over and this is just really bugging me it' feels like i'll never be good enough for anyone so whats the point in trying right??? why am i never good enough for them??
Im curious, because your situation sounds extremely familiar...
14/f.whenever i try to fall asleep, it takes me FOREVER to fall asleep. even if i'm tired i still can't seem to fall asleep. i always remember all of the things that i forgot to do at night. i just can't seem to turn my mind off. i also can never seem to get comfortable. help! this is driving me crazy!
my college professor was talking to us about this, and he suggested something that happened to work for me and a couple others in my class. get a notebook, and 5 or 10 minutes before you sleep just write down everything that comes to your mind, that way you will have gotten all your thoughts out and hopefully will be able to fall asleep without your mind running non-stop.
Good Luck! :)
and if that duznt work, then maybe go to a doctor, or sumtimes tylenol PM works.
ya when i saw one of my old guy friends that i havent seen in 2 years we were just chillin and stuff and we were jokin with eachother like old times and when i was on the phone wit my 2 best buds they were sayin that he liked me and i started to laugh and i asked them what made them think that he liked me and one of them said did u see the way he was actin towards you and im was sayin that he has been always like that towards me and i wouldnt believe them because hes one of my good friends and i really didnt listen to them and i dont want him to like me so i dont know what to believe but i know for sure he doesnt like me that way but what should i do anyway?
I had the same kinda thing happen to me, and what i did was tell him straight out what my friends said, but in a joking manner. I was like .. " Can you believe _____ & _____ they have this crazy idea that you like me?!" and then by his reaction I could tell it was true. I was in the same situation as you (not wanting him to like me that way) so asking that way let me know whether it was true or not, but at the same time let him know, in a way that wouldn't hurt him, that I could never see him as anything more than a friend. He just laughed it off with me, and now hes happily engaged and we're still best friends. Im also really glad I went about it that way, because there were no hurt feelings, and not too much awkwardness. Hope that helps, and you never kno maybe hes the perfect guy for you (in my case he wasn't...but u never kno)
13/f.
Im getting contacts in a couple days (monday) and i was just wondering if anyone can tell me anything about them. IS it hard to put them in? Can they actually like slip down in your eye where you cant get them out? how long can you wear them? What will I have to do when i go to get them? Any tips or anything would be greatly appreciated. Thank you. :)
I remember when i first got contacts. It took me about 2 weeks to get the hang of taking them out. getting them in was a piece of cake, but it wud take hours for me to take them out. don't give up though, because no matter how longs it takes you will get the hang of it. I know they say you cant swim or take showers with your contacts in, but I've done both. the only thing is when you're swimming keep ur eyes closed or where goggles, otherwise your contact cud float out of your eye (which wouldnt be too good). You really shouldnt sleep with them in, but if you happen to fall asleep dont worry about it too much. Your eyes will only burn for a short while and your contacts will feel very dry (its happened to me once or twice).
They cant slip into your eye or anything, although sometimes it mightr get stuck in your upper eyelid, just close your eye and maybe rub your eyelid, and it shud come back into place.
Oh and nu7mber one tip...always make sure your hands are clean and your nails are short...scratching your eye is VERY painful.
im a 15 year old girl and im around 5'9" and 150 pounds.. is that average? i have a little pouch in the front that i HATE so im gonna lose weight soon but what would be the average weight i should be?
Your weight is normal, but if you do want to lose weight than make sure not to go under 135 lbs. If you do you'll end up looking really skinny, and that is just as bad as being overweight.
Also I dont think you really need to lose weight to get rid of the "little pouch" in front, some sit ups or curl ups might do the trick.