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>> Born and raised in Brooklyn, NY but now residing in Pennsylvania

>> 22 years of age and in college. Graduated with an Associate's Degree in Medical Administration, now working with a laboratory as a jack of all trades customer service rep, hoping to pursue a higher degree in the healthcare field.

>> Taken since 11.25.07

>> Have been on this site since I was in 7th grade. You do the math lol

>> Very open minded so don't be afraid to contact me for advice

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advice

so, im 17/m, my girlfriend (17 too) and I have been going out for almost a year and 3 months now. She's my first girlfriend, but really love her.

A few weeks ago we were on our way back from some back-to-school shopping in the city and she asked me how I felt about having a girlfriend when i was in college, (we're planning on going to different colleges next year and she wasn't sure how to feel either). I freaked out, had a meltdown and told her all kinds of things i had thought about, but never acted on. Like how she's my first girlfriend and how I wasnt 100% sure of how strongly I loved her, since I havent been with anyone else. After getting back to her house, we talked some more and cried alot and decided to just be friends for a while.

I got home, felt terrible and didnt sleep at all that night. I still loved her, she never did anything that annoyed me or made me love her any less. I texted her how horrible I felt that morning and we decided to meet and talk that night.

We were back together again within 24 hours. I had never felt better. Instead of leaving her house crying, i practicaly skipped to my car and happily waved goodbye to her as i drove away. I thought we were all better.

That was a few weeks ago, and now she's telling me that she's afraid to love me because i hurt her feelings when we broke up. She did the same thing when we started going out because her last boyfriend broke up with her and made her feel terrible. Ive been working as hard as i can, spending as much time as i can with her. I guess i cant really blame her because i freaked out so badly, but i want to make us work again!

I'm running out of energy trying to love her and getting no love back. Last night she gave me a handjob and wouldnt even look me in the eyes. i felt so detached...

Is there any way to fix what we have? or was our relationship doomed all along since she's my first? What can i say or do so that she knows i love her even though ive never had anything else?

Hi!

As I read your question I couldn't help but think about your question's title. Yes, many people do not stay with their first relationship because they may be inexperienced, not know what they want, or want to have fun with other people. But they way you described your girlfriend sounds like she's a very lovely person, and if she has patience with you I'm sure you're just as lovely as she is. I don't think you two should fall apart, you guys sound wonderful, and I know that it gets tiring trying to make her happy and receive nothing in return. She may be hurt, but I don't see a reason as to why she shouldn't return any love. I think it's pretty clear that what you're doing is letting her know you love her. Tell her that you don't need anyone else but her, that with her, you've learned how to love, and that you thank her for that. Tell her that with her by your side you're as happy as you could ever be. I mean, write down EVERYTHING and just show it to her. Let her know that you don't want to be like her ex, that you want to be her only one and that she won't ever have to worry. Girls want to be reassured over and over and over (not all in one day though, over time) and they want to feel safe and secure in their relationship. Everything must be mutual, sex, love and affection, and so on. For now, you two need to have a serious talk. Affection is more important than sex, and if she's depressed or deeply sad I don't think sex will cheer her up, only your love and affection and attention. Be sorry that you hurt her feelings, and let her know you didn't mean to.. Let her know you want to fix evrything but with her help. But also let her know that the way that she's acting is upsetting you too. Let her know that you love spending time with her and that you want to make her happy, but that you feel like little is being returned. A relationship consists of 2.

I hope I helped, and I wish you guys good luck!!!

Uniq =]

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so me and my crush were streaking (yeah i know, it's like not right or whatever) but it was in his backyard hahaa. anyways so it was the first time he seen me naked and i don't have the biggest of boobs. i have like a 34b..

and i have a good body, i'm in shape. it's just self-conscious about the boobs thing. well me and him were at our friends house and my friend was like he's talking dirty about you! and then i was standing there in like a tank top and i could hear him doing gestures to his friend about me but i didn't know if it was good or bad.

i'm really self-conscious he thinks i have small boobs. he didnt say anything. i know he wants to get with me and thinks im really hot but my boobs look bigger because i usually wear a push up bra.

i just don't know if hes talking good about me or not!?

by the way i'm 19/f

Hi :]

I'm pretty sure he has no problem with your boobs. 34B isn't bad, it's better than having breasts that are TOO big which can cause problems and sag a lot (although it happens eventually). Here's the thing about guys, they are all visual. They won't care whether they are a 34B or 34D.. As long as it's on good looking person and it's BOOBS. Lol. Hypothetically, if you two were to get together based on really liking eachother and not just on looks, I believe he would appreciate you and your body just as he'd appreciate the person you are and how you treat him. Some guys are like this, but remember, boys will ALWAYS be boys so they slack off a bit sometimes. Bottom line, i don't think he's talking about you in a bad way. And if he's only concerned about your looks, I don't think the relationship would last. I say, look for a guy who likes you inside and out :D

Hope I helped,
Uniq

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I am SO incredibly afraid of bugs. Any type of bug can really freak me out. Usually I end up crying and feel like I am going to pass out. I end up with wanting to throw up, too.

I know most people aren't so afraid of insects. I mean, my fears goes as far as harmless bugs like butterflies. I simply do not want their legs to touch me. It freaks me out to even think about their legs crawling on my skin.

The most I could come up with was a fear since infancy, as I was taken to the hospital because I had SO many insect bites on me. The doctors just informed them that I was more allergic than most people to these bites and needed to be kept away from times I would come in contact with bugs. Of course, I don't remember ANY of this, but I do remember growing up and having HUGE welts on my body from where a bug had bit me. They usually hurt and itched so it was terribly confusing.

I grew up always wearing long pants, usually long sleeved shirts if I could manage it, and practically bathing myself in OFF bug spray.

I still have this fear though and was wondering if there was a way to overcome this or if it was something I just have to cope with for the rest of my life. I've dealt with it so long now. It's really embarrassing, especially when it comes to be dodging butterflies and stuff that I KNOW is completely harmless.

Any advice? Even if someone is like me, knowing I'm not alone in this is very helpful...

Hi :]

Well, no, you aren't along. Along with you and Nat, I, too am afraid of bugs. I hate butterflies, I could be walking down the street and I'll cross to the other side to avoid one haha... And I agree with Nat, a lot of people think we are being childish and drama queens but they really don't understand :/

I'm sorry for not being able to give you advice, considering the only thing I can do is relate to you... I literally don't like any bugs. No roaches, no lady bugs, NOTHING. And I hope that one day we can ALL cope with this fear, because I know, just as much as you, that fears and phobia's interfere with many lifestyles. Good luck!!!

Uniq =]

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I really want to tell my boyfriend how much he means to me but I'm really nervous about it. I suck at expressing my feelings and I don't want it to come off as something forced, you know? I just want to let him know that he means a lot to me and that I, well, love him.
I mean, I know he might not feel as strongly about me as I do about him but that's okay with me right now. We haven't been going out too long so I don't expect him to say, "I feel the same way about you!" I just feel like I should tell him what I think about our relationship and how I feel about him...

Is it a bad idea since I'm not good at talking about my feelings or is it something that is ok?

Hi :]

No, it's not wrong for you to want to tell your boyfriend how you feel about him. Although it's quite common for guys to fall in love slower than girls in a relationship, I doubt he would feel offended in any way towards your feelings about him.

Believe it or not, in my opinion, the way you worded the two paragraphs actually sounds like the way you can express your feelings to him.

You can start off by saying, 'I just want you to know that you mean a lot to me'. Tell him that you're a bit shy and nervous because you don't want him to think you want to hear the same from him, you just want him to know how you feel.

You didn't mention how long you guys have been going out exactly, but I realize that many couples jump into the whole "I Love You" thing REAL quickly. Like, next day quickly o.o
So the fact that he won't say it yet can mean 1 of 2 things, he's not ready for a relationship, or maybe he's waiting for the right moment, the moment where he means it with all his heart. My boyfriend was the same, he wouldn't say it until he felt he really meant it. So no worries ;)

I don't know what kind of guy your boyfriend is, but most guys would feel like you're adorable for being shy and nervous about telling him how you feel, especially if it's as deep as you're making it sound lol. Just make sure you know what you're gonna say. Maybe write him a poem or a letter expressing yourself? Because if you laugh too much and choke, they'll think it's a joke or you made it up along the way, that it's not something you really feel.

Good luck!! And I hope I helped

Uniq =]

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I have the latest version of Mozilla Firefox. I have many bookmarks and some of them are private, such as prep sites for standardized tests that I don't want my friends to see when we're on the computer. I always hide the left-side bookmarks list, but everytime I start typing in the addressbar or press the little down arrow next to the star in the addressbar, a LOT of my bookmarked links show up with a little gold star! It's REALLY annoying and frustrating. I tried going through the list and deleting, but they just refresh and show up again when I open a new window or even a new tab.

How do I prevent my bookmarked links from showing up in the drop-down list in my addressbar in Mozilla Firefox?

Hi :]

Maybe this can work?

Try going to tools, then options, then privacy. And then:

Choose: Firefox will never remember history from the drop down list

and

When using the location bar, suggest: nothing.

Hope I helped

Uniq =]

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ok, i'm 17 and going to be a senior in high school, as anyone whos been my age and in my situation knows its the most stressful time, haha. i'm trying to pick out colleges, worry about affording college, deal with saying goodbye to friends who are leaving for college along with saying goodbye to my boyfriend of almost a year whos going to college 3 hours away.
I just feel like everything is completly out of my control. like, alot of my friends are leaving, my boyfriends leaving, my parents are constantly on me about college and work and everything and i just feel completly alone. i dont know what to do to make it better. i just feel like my life spinning out of control and i cant get back into control of it. any help i would seriously really appreciate.. thanks guys :/

Hey :]

Well I understand, I'm going to college this fall and senior year definitely hit me the most. As far as friends, I hate to tell you this, but most of your high school friends won't last... I've seen and heard that those who you meet in college are most probably the ones who will be friends with you your whole life. If it's any consolation, there's always Instant Messaging, phones, texts, etc. About affording college, you can apply to financial aid (FAFSA) and make sure to visit or e-mail your school's college counselor A LOT for any questions haha because that's what they're there for.

The reason your parents are on you is because they want to see you succeed in life. No offense to anyone, but most parents want their children to have a career that makes money, so their children won't starve to death, end up homeless, or work their butts off in the future making minimum wage. So for now, just let them know you have it ALL under control, show them, and maybe they'll back off but remember to not slack off lol...

If you and your bf love eachother, I believe visits and texts/ phone calls can work out... "Love knows no boundaries", and I believe it... You will miss him, vice versa, but if you two plan to spend the rest of your lives together, you just have to think of how you will have your whole lives to make up for those years of college spent apart, although during free time he can visit... just make sure to let him know the relationship should be monogomous ;) unless you two decide to break up

I think for now, build memories, make em last, cherish them, and take pics :D

All this stress can be overwhelming, but take it one day at a time, enjoy life and trust me it will all be worth it :D

Good luck!! and Congrats :D :D :D

Uniq

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There is the creepiest bug in my house. it is black & yellow. i think it may be a beetle, but i really know nothing about bugs so i don't know. on its back is the yellow & it looks similar to a W. but it also has other little lines, but when i looked at it, i thought it looked like a W. does anybody know what this is????? i'm scared to kill it, because it has yellow.. and isn't yellow a warning sign its dangerous or something??? i heard that somewhere... what should i do? anybody know what it is??

Hi :]

Im not a bu expert lol but could this be what you're talking about?

http://cedarcreek.umn.edu/insects/newslides/024106112001apd.jpg

but the black and yellow one appears to be in the genus Megacyllene that includes the locust borer, Megacyllene robinae. Cerambycids sometimes emerge from firewood brought into houses, and occasionally from untreated lumber as well.

Hope I helped!!!

Uniq =]

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Can you discrbe the years of clothes, like what was in style in the

20s
30s
40s
50s
60s
70s
80s
90s

Thanks!!

How about showing :D

20's- http://www.sparkletack.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/flapper.jpg
http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://students.umf.maine.edu/mccormka/public.www/history/images/Flapper.jpg&imgrefurl=http://students.umf.maine.edu/mccormka/public.www/history/frontpage.html&usg=__7NzoJlHZPN8X-BxcFcKOrZLj-QY=&h=650&w=510&sz=32&hl=en&start=1&um=1&tbnid=NATBcSayNwnlzM:&tbnh=137&tbnw=107&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dflapper%26hl%3Den%26sa%3DG%26um%3D1

30's-http://thinkinpictures.files.wordpress.com/2007/06/g-chanel-by-manrayl.jpg
http://www.gizmodiva.com/entry_images/1008/17/fashion_show_2.jpg

40's-http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3029/2538903705_cd2a9bcd92.jpg?v=0

50's-http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3285/2619072526_868630e47f.jpg
http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3400/3205699284_79b1ce7812.jpg

60's- http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2036/2055445125_e44fd151f6_o.jpg
http://www.blogcdn.com/www.greendaily.com/media/2008/02/vintage-clothing-style-1960s.jpg

70's-http://www.plaidstallions.com/images/spacehooker.jpg
http://img2.moonbuggy.org/imgstore/stylish-70s-fashion.jpg

80's- http://www.rad80sfashion.com/images/member1.jpg
http://www.thegreat80s.com/images/80s-Fashion/madonna-clothes.jpg
http://www.dailypress.com/media/photo/2009-06/47635820.jpg

90's-http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2198/2148677760_2feb029554.jpg
http://www.fashion156.com/blog/495-2.jpg


hope I helped :D
Uniq

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Hey, my names Jessica I'm 15 and I'm a sophmore in highschool. We have a lot of clubs, but I'm not intrested in any. I want to start one for Breast Cancer Awareness. Its basically to support people with breast cancer and to raise money for them. Does anyone have any ideas to raise money and to get people to join the club? Also, what do I tell the activities director so she can aprove of this ? Thank you in advance (:

Hi :]

Well I honestly don't know, but if I were in your position...

To raise money you can do bake sales, sell candies or lollipops that are pink, maybe make some ribbons or order ribbons specifically that are for breast cancer awareness. Hand out flyers and maybe if you know any friends who have a band you can get them to play a gig to help you out, charge a few dollars to let people in and make sure they play good haha... I mean anything that is fun, entertaining, delicious!! Perhaps you can let people know every cent goes to raise awareness...

To get people to join the club I would start off with friends and teachers... I would tell them what the club is about, why I want to start it off, and the benefits. Girls can get more educated on how to conduct a self breast exam, etc. Also, maybe if you can get a counselor or a teacher who can help give advice to those who may have breast cancer or knows someone who does, etc, can help students out. You know, the club can be a success if people knew these things. GOOD LUCK!! And let me know if everything goes great

Uniq =]

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I probably have the biggest breasts in my grade but, I don't like to show them off because of this weird red pattern that resembles claw marks located around my breasts.. is that because they're growing too fast? Is it permanent?

Hi :]

Yes it could be your bra that's too tight or it could be stretch marks. If they're not flesh colored then that means they are brand new or recent. Did you notice them a while back or are they new? Because the way you described it as 'claw marks' sounds like stretch marks. Hope I helped!

Btw, they're not growing too fast, they're just growing lol it's more common than you think... And stretch marks usually are permanent but I'm sure they're not that bad... I think when they are the color you mention you can actually buy things to help them clear out but I can't tell you whether they work or not since I haven't bought them.


Uniq :]

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my boyfriend sent me a text saying, "btw really random but you have the sofest lipes ever created"

... hahaa so is that good ?

Wow, how sweet LOL

Of course thats good :D

Uniq

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So a couple weeks ago I (a girl) broke up with my boyfriend. We had only been dating for about 10 months, but after about 5 months we started fighting all the time so i decided to end it so we could still be friends and wudn't end up fighting until we hated each other.
But, my best is a guy, and we hang out all the time, and now everyone is saying that I broke up with my bf becuz i was cheating with my friend. All of my other friends are convinced of this even though I tell them otherwise and think I am a complete b*tch. Did I make a a mistake breaking up with him? I know he is really upset about it, so is it my fault even if I didn't cheat? and what do i say to my friends to get them to stop accusing me? Plz help!

Of course it isn't your fault hun! Couples fight, that's what makes relationships exciting, the bad times that lead to the good.. But excessive fighting was a good enough reason to break up with him, especially if (hypothetically) he was hard headed and would just not try and stop or make up or at least accept apologies.

About the best guy friend, what could lead everyone to say you broke up with your bf because you were cheating with your best friend? Do you guys hold hands or hug closely or anything like that? I don't see a reason as to why your friends don't trust your word when you say you weren't cheating, they obviously either want to add insult to injury after the breakup so he can forget about getting back with you, or they want a chance with him.. I mean, whatever it may be, they don't seem like good friends for not trusting you, and they shouldn't be all up in your relationship business like that. They shouldn't be trying to start scandals either. I really don't know what to say as to how to get your friends to stop accusing you, but I'd say put your foot down, and in a very serious tone tell them to back off, that if they don't wanna take your word then they don't have to but to at least keep their mouths closed and to stop gossiping about things they don't even know the truth to. Good luck!

Uniq =]

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My name is Natalie, I am 17 years old and in the beginning to myn9th grade year I dated this guy named James. We were on and off and I listened to other people and it just messed up things for me and him. Over the time I started to fall in love with him. We decided to go back out his first year of college and I was a high school junior, of course it didn't work out because Of our schedules and then months later we had this big fall out and he blocked me from facebook and I deleted his number. In April I think I started feeling guilty because I did treat him like he was nothing and I do love him so I apolgized and he told me that his mother died and he was sorry too be aide life was too short to hold grudges. So we went back to being friends but I still loved him and wanted more but I realized he was dating someone else. I told him anyway and he told me true love never dies and he still loves me. It's like I want him to be happy but I want him to be happy with me. Am I being selfish?? Should I leave him alone?? What should I do??


-Natalie

Hi Natalie :]

No, you are NOT being selfish by wanting him to be happy with you. It's only human considering he confirmed that the feelings were mutual.

I agree with Trauma: If he really loves you, he will leave the person he's dating to rekindle the flame you two had. A decent man will not lead you on, causing you to grow deeper in love with him to the point where you can't take it, to only have him tell you he can't be with you because of his girlfriend. I know that you must really love him after all this time, but whatever you do, don't mess up his current relationship. Just let it all unfold. Don't make moves on him, don't flirt with him, because it would be unfair to his girlfriend who wouldn't have a clue as to what her bf would be doing.. You guys can be friends but try and keep it at a friendly level only. And the day he tells you he's single, go for it :]

Good luck!

Uniq

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I feel like an outsider sometimes with this. Like I absolutely love death metal, heavy metal, and various other kinds of metal. Then I can deeply enjoy country, pop, punk, and rap. I like everything and people call me weird because I like metal, like Chimaira and In Flames kinda metal, then switch the song to pop like Taylor Swift, or Katy Perry.

Is this weird? What do you think?

Hi :]

I don't think it's weird at all. Personally, I enjoy people who have a variety of tastes when it comes to music, people, etc. I tend to be like that as well. I listen different kinds of music and people might not like it but I do :D

Uniq

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Ok!! Well I just broke up with my boyfriend!! And about 5 minutes later after we broke up he called me beggin me to take me back!! And I Love him But im talkin to another guy right now that i've been with before!! I dont know what to do PLEASE HELP ME!!!

Hi :]

Well that's pretty quick. I'm guessing that prior to the breakup you and this other guy were reminiscing about the past or something? Well Bahaima is right, you can't have both lol. Why did you guys break up? If you really love your bf you'll give him a chance, unless he did something horribly wrong then I understand. I mean, don't feel obligated to get back with him, just follow your gut feeling. Give him a second chance or re-kindle romance with that other guy you've talked to before. good luck :D

uniq

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Alright. So I'm a 16/F and this is what happened. My boyfriend and I were at a party the other night and we ran into trouble. There was this one other guy there (we'll call him J) and so J, me, and this other girl were just chilling on the couch while my boyfriend was off playing pool or something. So J takes my hand and starts leading me away from the couch and I'm just kind of like okayyy... because I mean, I didn't really know this kid too well but I was just like whatever, he probably just wants to get some food or something. Well he starts taking me back towards this room and I stop outside the door and I'm like "What are you doing?" and J says, "Come in here with me." I started babling like an idiot "What? No, my boyfriend- I- huh?- why?" and he leaned in real close, put his hand on like the small of my back (because I was trying to back away) and whispered "It'll be fun just come on." Weeeell, as you can guess, this looks a little shady. I mean, this guy is still holding my hand, he's whispering in my ear, got his hand on my back, and we're standing in the doorway of a dark room. Which is GREAT timing for my boyfriend to look over and see us. So my bf storms over and he's like "What the he** are you doing?" And I had already pulled away from J but J shoves me behind him and is all like "What's your problem, dude? I'm a little busy right now." Ha, yeah, let's just say that REALLLY pissed my bf off. He gets all up J's face and says "Yeah, with MY girlfriend. Now get the f*$@ away." Well, I myself would walk away right about now, but J's got the doorway blocked so I'm kind of just standing there like a worthless bag of poo, trying to get out when, oh goody, J makes it worse and said something like "Well your girlfriend is obviously a slu* if she was about to come in her with me" and before I could say "I wasn't going in there with you!!", my bf punched J in the face. They start getting into it right there, and a few other guys pull em off of eachother. They both got a little beat up, and the girl throwing the party got all pissed and was like "Get out of here!" So yeah. We got kicked out of the party... I felt HORRIBLE. I mean, like, I just felt so bad. I know I wasn't the one getting into the fight, but I just felt really guilty. Not for getting kicked out of the party but because my bf had like a blackeye and gosh, I just feel horrible, I feel like its all my fault. I mean, like jeez. I apologized like a million times to him, and his parents because they were all "What happened!?!" and ugh. I just feel so bad. My bf says its no big deal and he doesn't get why I feel so guilty but he got hurt and I feel like its my fault. What can I do to make it up to him? Am I being stupid for feeling like this?

Hi :]

I'd feel guilty too but I mean, it's not your fault you were in shock as soon as you found out what "J" was trying to lead you into... I'd probably react the same (except the holding my hand thing lol). It's not wrong to feel guilty, but I'd say take care of your bf lol. Make him feel better, treat him nice, kiss his booboo's, he stood up for you! Just be there for him, make sure he heal's well and be the best girlfriend you can be :]

Uniq

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Hi. I am a sixteen year old girl and a junior in highschool, and I have kidney disease. All of the guys that I like that ask me out, dump me as soon as they find out that I can't do some of the stuff that they can. Also, I have two brothers in Iraq and an ill mother. Whenever a guy finds out any of this he'll avoid me. It makes me mad, but am I being stupid? Is it too much for a guy to handle? The only thing that would directly effect our relationship is that I can't do anything really vigorous. I'm not a sad depressed person either. I'm normal and very happy. Am I being unreasonable to ask for a guy to like me? I would really appreciate your input.

WHAT?

Ugh, these guys must be out of their mind lol. Obviously, they're not mature enough to even handle a relationship in general. OF COURSE you're not being stupid. In my opinion, the guys are the problem, not you hun... I don't want to say look for an older guy, because there are many guys who are 15, 16, etc that are more mature than most, but I would say look around. Don't involve yourself with someone just because you think they're cute and they like you back. Get to know this person, become their friend, dig deep into them, and if they seem like they can accept you no matter what your situation, then go ahead and give it a try. No one is perfect, but you can find someone close ;]

Uniq :D

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i had recently started a new school and i have problems making friends. it's not that it's me, it's just i'm very shy & the gurls won't even give me a chance. I'm frineds with most of the guys, but like i said i get pretty bad vibes from all the girls. they act as though they are too good to hang otu with someone new. what should i do?

Hey :]

I agree with steph, I rarely get along with girls hehe.. I am definitely one of the guys about 98% of the time. And the way that you describe it seems as if you are one of the chill girls who are willing to make new friends no matter the gender. And if these girls are acting snobby or stuck up as if you're not good enough to hang out with, then just forget it. You don't NEED friends, you just need yourself. But friends are a plus... If you do want to make new girl friends, then I guess you should ask the guys if they have friends who are girls or girlfriends, so that you all can hang out together. You know someone, who knows someone, who knows this other person, who.. well you get the idea haha. Just be yourself, smile, be friendly and Im sure youre not the problem lol.

Uniq

P.S- I'll be your friend lol send me an inbox :D

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ok, i cant get my past out of my head. ive been through alot of shyt in my life.
heres how it starts:

when i was younger my mom took me out of state away from my dad. my mom tried filling my head with crap like my dad was going to kill us if he finds us. and so i didnt see him for about 9 years.
before i saw my dad:
i lived in shelter after shelter, never in a stable home.
my mom use to beat me when i was asleep and awake, everyday i went to school bruised up...one day i got tierd of my mom beating me so i hit her back and she called the cops(this happened twice)
i always got in fights at school(i always won(just sayig) and i got suspended for it. one time i punched this chicks face in so bad, her parent pressed charges(the charges droped because the chick moved away). i always skiped school and class.
I use to make my self throw up...not because i didnt like the way my body looked, but because of some of the shyt that happening.
when i was in 5th or 6th grade i almost died...i kept getting strip-throat and it turned into mono and both sides of my neck were swollin' litterally the size of tenis balls, i went to the hospital...i was in there for about a month and a half they gave me some meds and then i had to goback cause i had a servere reaction i was in the hospital again for another 2 weeks or so...

then i moved in with my dad and all seemed to get better!!!:)

that pretty much it...
i cant get all this shyt out head...
help me!!!
what do i do???? im desperate for the right answer to make me not think about my past!!!

HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi :]

Well wow hun, you had alot go on in your life, it's not a surprise you look back on it. I'm sorry for all that's happened to you as a child, considering no child should have to go through the types of things you've gone through. On the other end though I'm assuming everything has changed around (???)... I'm hoping you're doing better in school, that you're not causing yourself to throw up anymore, etc.. Because it's unnecessary, you know?

Well to answer your question as to how to get these things out your head, there's many ways :D

I also had drama as a child, but I used music and poetry to express my feelings and feel better. Lol I'd take my CD player and blast that music out my headphones, ignore everything around me and just focus on how meaningful music lyrics can be.

Poetry was my passion, because I am a very quiet and shy person, so talking to someone was out of the question. I would put all my heart, my soul, and my tears onto that piece of paper I was writing, which got me alot of recognition from friends when I eventually got the courage to show a few.

Also, you can talk to people. Counselors, close trustworthy friends, dad maybe? Talking does help, crying helps too but I'm not sure if you like letting it out that way.

Eventually with my poetry and music and other interests, I got over the bad moments and just look forward to my future which I hope to succeed in and I hope that someday you'll feel the same way too :D good luck!!

Uniq

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okay. i have this really kute boyfriend but we have been through our ^s & downs and he thinks we need tew go fast and im not comfortable with it wat should i do?

Hi :]

And yes, I agree with everyone else. If you aren't comfortable with going at the pace he wants to, then you guys need to either balance it out or break up. First of all, right off the bat it sounds like he just wants to go fast so he can get past kissing and whatnot, to make it somewhere further that can leave you feeling regretful, angry, and robbed. He just doesn't seem like a guy worth being with... Any guy who likes you AT LEAST, should respect the way you feel whether it benefits him or not.

What should you do? Talk with him. Tell him with no smiles, or jokes, that you want to take it slow, and if he's willing to respect your decision then more power to you two! But if he keeps insisting, then cut him loose, there are plenty of other exciting people to meet :D

Uniq

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