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Was it really my fault?
So a couple weeks ago I (a girl) broke up with my boyfriend. We had only been dating for about 10 months, but after about 5 months we started fighting all the time so i decided to end it so we could still be friends and wudn't end up fighting until we hated each other.
But, my best is a guy, and we hang out all the time, and now everyone is saying that I broke up with my bf becuz i was cheating with my friend. All of my other friends are convinced of this even though I tell them otherwise and think I am a complete b*tch. Did I make a a mistake breaking up with him? I know he is really upset about it, so is it my fault even if I didn't cheat? and what do i say to my friends to get them to stop accusing me? Plz help!
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Of course it isn't your fault hun! Couples fight, that's what makes relationships exciting, the bad times that lead to the good.. But excessive fighting was a good enough reason to break up with him, especially if (hypothetically) he was hard headed and would just not try and stop or make up or at least accept apologies.
About the best guy friend, what could lead everyone to say you broke up with your bf because you were cheating with your best friend? Do you guys hold hands or hug closely or anything like that? I don't see a reason as to why your friends don't trust your word when you say you weren't cheating, they obviously either want to add insult to injury after the breakup so he can forget about getting back with you, or they want a chance with him.. I mean, whatever it may be, they don't seem like good friends for not trusting you, and they shouldn't be all up in your relationship business like that. They shouldn't be trying to start scandals either. I really don't know what to say as to how to get your friends to stop accusing you, but I'd say put your foot down, and in a very serious tone tell them to back off, that if they don't wanna take your word then they don't have to but to at least keep their mouths closed and to stop gossiping about things they don't even know the truth to. Good luck!
Uniq =]
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I think you did the right thing by breaking up with him. Staying with him only would have made him more attached and harder to let go.
As for your friends, I'm sorry, but they don't sound like very good "friends" for making an assumption like that. You and your best friend need to let them all know that they need to stop talking about you and starting rumors, because it's really not cool.
-Laura (17-f)
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You did absolutely nothing wrong in breaking up with him. If you're not happy in a relationship, you shouldn't feel like you're stuck in it. If your friends believe this rumor, then they're obviously not very good friends. I know it can be hard to deal with, but there's probably not much you can do to make them believe you. All that matters is you know the truth, & if they don't want to believe you, I say forget them & find some better friends.
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