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Age: 24
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Since getting married, my husband and I make love around twice a week but i have a secret. I can't enjoy it cos it hurts, like, a LOT. Weve tried lubes and i always get turned on so its not cos of that but i dont know what to do. Its ruining our sex life and thats tough cos were trying for a baby.
Please can someone help us? Im so worried about this. I just want it to feel good but it hurts so much that it makes me sore for days afterwards. Please, any advice for us! (link)
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Go see your doctor, it isn't normal and could be a sign of an infection. Left untreated, some infections can ruin your chances of fertility. Even if there isn no infection, most of the time these issues are easily resolved under doctors advice and there is no reason for you to have to feel any pain.
Once more thing: Cos=because.
Try it!
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how much harder are AP classes than? honors? (link)
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It's much more in depth and detail oriented. If you have the option of taking them, do so. Colleges aren't all that impressed with mere honors classes but love AP students.
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i am 13, 14 on friday; about 5 foot; i weigh 110. i know that i'm not fat, but i'm self consious about my thighs and also, i have a pocket of fat in my lower stomach area. i'm looking to lose 15 pounds. anyone have any diet/excercise plans?
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Don't be silly, 15 lbs would be way too much for you to loose. I'd say 5 lbs at the most would be ok. All you have to do to loose that would be to cut out soda and soft drinks and replace with water.
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OK, So I've read a article about not douching. It says that it takes longer for women to get pregnant and even when they do they have a higher chance of having a etopic pregnancy. Also it stated that you can get bacterial vaginosis (Kind of like a yeast infection) easier. This sucks after reading it because I ahve always douched. I don't ever FEEL clean until I do. Which is once a week or week and a 1/2. Can I empty the contents of the bottle and just use water? Is that any less harmful or about the same? (link)
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Get out of the habit, it doesn't make you any cleaner and causes a lot of problems for many woman. It just serves no positive purpose. I understand about that clean feeling, but it just isn't good for you. Start cutting back until you have completely stopped. Water isn't really all that better, it still can upset the balance of microorgansims that need to be in your body.
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My best friend (who is 15) is dating my younger brother (who is also 15). Sometimes I feel left out because I'm 18... But I just found out that my brother had sex with her. I really don't know what to say. We are a Christian family. I should tell my parents, probably. I just don't know what to do. What if my best friend gets mad at me? (link)
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Why would you tell your parents? You should counsel them on birth control options and let them know that you don't think it's a good idea to keep up the activity but that's as far as you have any right to go.
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I am looking for this electronic game that I can't remember the name of it. It's a teen game where you have this purple phone and you call a bunch of guys and ask them to come to your mom and sometimes they'll say Yes or no. I keep thinking it's something along the lines of, "Phone date" or something, I looked this up and it's not coming up with it. Does anyone know the name of this game?
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No, it's Dream Phone.
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I think one of my friends might have stolen my camera when she visited us on vacation. I asked her to put it in her purse, because I didn't have mine with me. She has already gone back, but the last thing I remember was giving her my camera. I called her, and have been harrasing her, even trying to guilt her about it. I even went to the store we went into that day, but NO ONE has seen it. What should I do? It's been about a month, and my parents won't let me get another one because its my fault its gone. (link)
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There isn't much you can do but learn a lesson from this, be careful who you trust as your friends.
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Ok here goes im 17 theres this guy that i dated awhile ago and i cant seem to get over him and we always end up goin back to each other to mess around n stuff but i want more than that and i finally told him how i felt and he said that he wanted to be single for the rest of the summer because he has a bet with his dad which he does because i talked to his father... (im really close wit his fam) and he said that we will decided what we are gonna do when school starts again but im sick of waiting im scared that hes not gonna wanna get back with me... he says he does but i dont believe him... ive waited around soo long and i dont kno what to to help
17/f (link)
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If he wanted to be with you then he would be with you. People do what they want to do, so if you aren't together it isn't because of any bullshit bet, it's because he just doesn't want to.
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I just got my period today. It sucks because these cramps are killing me and I feel like I want to die. What can I do so the cramps don't hurt as much? I know they sell pills or medicines or something but I don't know where they sell them or what they are called. Any excersizes or something I can eat? The only thing I know about is a heating pad, which I'm already using and it's helping a little bit, but not much. Any help would be appreciated. (link)
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Regular old tylonol or another over the counter medication is all you need. The heating pad is a good idea too.
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okay..so i have a bit of tummy fat..and i went to a party wtih allgirls and my 2 friends kept looking at my stomach and didnt say anything..idk if they are really my friends or what..i thought they were.but i mean i dont know. having this lower stomach fat i have been self conscious about my whole life. any advice is helpful!! thanks! (link)
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What is the big deal? They didn't even say anything, they just looked at you? Of course they are going to look at you if you have an obvious problem. If you are so self concious, then do something to change what you aren't happy about.
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I just got a speeding ticket a little while ago but the cop was just the biggest jerk ever. He pulled me over after I entered the highway, telling me that I was speeding on the ramp. Wtf is that? I was accelerating so I could catch up with the drivers on the highway, WHAT YOURE SUPPOSED TO DO!
The speed limit on the highway was 70mph but everyone was going like 85 (crazy Houston drivers)so going up the ramp I was going 77 (what he told me) and he pulled me over! I didn't argue with him too much because I didn't want to get in trouble but should I try to fight it? I mean, yeah I was over 70 but only to keep up with the traffic. So fight it or just pay up? (link)
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If you go to court they'll almost certainly decrease the fine and drop the points, but that is if you plead guilty. Fighting on the other hand, requires laywer like manuvers and arguing in a court setting (some people even hire a lawyer) about why you aren't guilty. This will likely backfire on you because you'll annoy the judge with how much time this takes, and they probably won't care about your excuse. then, you may get an ever larger fine. It really isn't worth the time and energy. Just plead guilty yet give your explanation and you'll be fine.
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Ok well I'm getting 2 teeth pulled out tomorrow, because they grew in sideways. And it's not like a normal dentist visit, it's kinda a surgery. So they said I had to drink CLEAR LIQUIDS only the whole day. (Clear- not meaning see-through, but like no milk, kinda like a watery substance) All I can think of is Koolaid & Tea.... Can someone else help me think of something? (I need to know tonight, because I am getting the surgery done tomorrow at 6:00 AM) (link)
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I've had to do this many times. Try chicken broth, yellow colored jello, yellow colored popsicles, yellow colored italian ices or snowballs, clear juices and sodas. Yellow is the best but the rule is no red or purple or blue food colorings.
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I'm watching my friends kitten from saturday to wednesday. I'm going to have to keep it at MY house. I have to feed it, play with it, and all that stuff. How much should I charge? (link)
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Are you kidding? You shouldn't expect payment for watching a friends pet, especially a kitten (which are comparably low maintenance- compared to a great dane or the like). They should offer you money or bring you a gift when they return, but if they are your friends then this is a gesture of kindness on your part.
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Ive been told that you can still be preg. even if you get your period.. Im kinda scared because ive been feelin sick for a week now and i get dizzy and the only think i can think of is that i may be prego because on the 1st i had unprotected sex. but i got my period so is it possible to get your period n still be pregnant (link)
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Yes is possible, yet rare. If you are worried then take a test.
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My husband and I are divorcing over the fact that I wasn't a virgin when we got married, 5 years ago. Back when we were dating, I'd cheated on him and fooled around with another guy. I hated myself for it so I couldn't bring myself to tell him. Now one of my friends told him and he got so mad. I'd tried to explain why I didn't want to bring it up, but he was too hurt to care. We've tried to talk about it several times, but it only made both of us hurt worse. So now we're getting a divorce and we've agreed not to see or speak to each other anymore, which sucks because we know we're still in love with each other. It's just too painful... As if that's not bad enough, I just found out I'm pregnant. What the hell do I do? I don't know if I could contact him even if I wanted too. I'm scared. Please give me words of wisdom! (link)
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You have to tell him about the baby (assuming it's his) but never ever expect to get back together or build a relationship for the sake of a child. It leads to nothing but unhappiness and resentment, between you and your husband and you child will feel this as well as they grow up. I'm sorry your marriage is breking up, it must be so hard, and the baby will make it much harder. Maybe you guys can work it out, that is certainly possible and optimal, but not just because of the baby. Have you considered seeing a counselor?
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OK, can anyone give me their personal experiences or advice about knowing if someone likes you? Yes, I did google "flirting" and I understood all that. but, the person I am talking about is my best friends husband. He has done all those things they gave me in knowing the signals, but, at the same time, for some reason I dont think he likes me in that way. He teases, jokes around, stares a little, touches and even sometimes makes sexual comments. The thing is, how can I tell if he is being flirty or just friendly? Thanks (link)
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The question is, why are you spending so much time obsessing over this?
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i'm 15, i way around 115 pounds, i'm a size 3-4 in jeans, i think my butt is way too big for my body, i have a bunch of stomach and thigh fat, and i'm only 5'2. sometimes i feel like i don't have enough confidence or self esteem because of all these issues i have with myself. i'm 5'2 with a big butt, i no that sounds funny but i need to get rid of it. if i was taller then my butt wouldn't look so big. but i'm short and i have a small head plus my legs are HUGE and i'm a size 4 in jeans! please give me some advice on how to lose weight as fast as possible especially in the stomach, butt and thigh section thank you (link)
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If you are a size 3-4 you do not need to loose any weight. Big butts are what it's all about, why would you want to get rid of that?
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I live at a horseback riding stable and my mom is an instructor there. I have these friends and everyday after they are done working at the summer camp they come up to our house and eat lunch. Some days it feels like they just are my friends so they can come to my house. for the majority of them i know thats not true. And then they are always asking if they can eat or have something of ours and i cant exactly say no. A couple times in a row they have like cleaned our house because it is a little messy and they just clean it but they are really rude like oh we have to do it its to gross i cant look at it anymore,kind of rude. so then it makes me feel really bad. So my question is what do i do? They are being rude,esspecaily to my little sister. she is 12 (most of ther ages, im 14) but she is easy to pick on. how do i stand up to them and any other advice you have would be great (link)
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Don't have them over anymore, you could talk to your mother about polite ways to tell them no, but I would just say "No, I'm not going home today" after practice and contiue this until it is no longer expected that they will come over.
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i started taking birth control pills and i was wondering when its safe for my boyfriend to not use a condom? (link)
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1 month, and the pills will me at their maximum effectiveness.
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this is prolly stupid but ok well i got my period tonight & usually it lasts 6-7 days although there has been a couple times when its only lasted 4-5. umm i really need it gone by monday, or at least a very light flow by then... anything i can do to make it stop/become much lighter by then ? im going to a waterpark, & tampons are NOT an option soo ya. help ? (link)
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No, that's crap. You can't control it unless you take and use a specific Birth Control pill in the right way.
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