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Q: my class rank is 77 out of 864
what percentile am i in?
like top 20..?
top 15..?

and if you could explain how you got it, that would be fantastic =]

i'm not exactlly sure but my guess is by dividing it
864/77=11.20 so i guess 15 percentile if you round up.

Q: okay well if you are a guy. im warning you anyways. lol ok.. here I go.
So then sometimes my chest doesn't hurt. there pretty much small.. I'm 13/f and i dont wear a "Cup" bra yet. but thats not my problem ( even though i am a bit self concious bout that), it sometimes just itchh really bad. and i think sometimes i see like a scab or something on it? is that normal? Thanks.

yeah its normal. it's just itching cause your skin is streching because your boobs are growing. the scab could just be from you scratching. it's normal.

Q: 17/female
thing is..... I Like this guy and I know he likes me aswell but we are just 2 totally differnt people!
for a start I really hate people smoking around me and he smokes. but he said he would stop for me!
Another thing is... he drinks alcohol every weekend and am not really like that!
I wont bore you with all the details but these kind of things are putting me off him, should I forget it and go for it?
please answer my question :)

honestly, if you are going to make him change for you then i don't understand how you like him. if you like him enough to date him you shouldn't expect him to change. it wont last if you do expect it. if you can look past the things you don't like and don't let it bother you then things could work but if not then it won't last very long.

Q: So yesterday, pretty much this morning, around 12:30-1:00 I had sex with my boyfriend. I lost my virginity to him and I don't regret it. We had a little to drink and then just ended up making out...and one thing lead to another and we had sex. It wasn't to painful and didn't realize that I had bled until I took a shower this morning and noticed my clothes. So yeah, we didn't use any protection but he said not to worry he didn't cum. I'm kind of nervous but not too worried about it, I just really don't want to get pregnant. We had sex for about 5 mins only; maybe evben less. Do you think I should get the morning after pill or am i ok?

even if he didn't finish he could have pre-cummed.
pre-cum has sperm in it and it is very possible to get pregnant from that. i suggest you get the morning after pill because by the time you realize you are actually pregnant (if you are) it will be too late to take it. and it won't hurt, better safe than sorry.

Q: i just noticed a little bump on the inside of my vagina lips, the fleshy part. first it didnt hurt much but now its hurting alot.
could it be just an infection or can it be something serious?
i asked my mom and she said i shouldnt worry but i dont know. could it be an STD?

yes it is possible that it is an STD but it can also be many other things.

if it isn't an STD it isn't too serious then and it should clear up.

I suggest soaking in a bath make sure its clean down there and then put some neosporine or peroxide on the bump.

Q: My mom just won four tickets to anywhere in the world basically. But we're not sure where to go. I want to get out of the u.s, so nowhere in the u.s. I was thinking Germany, somewhere in Europe, Australia, or England. Where are some cool places in those areas or what are some other cool places to go? I think the tickets are for a week or so, and we can go to one place for a few days, and then fly to another place, as long as its in that week or whatever it is. So what would be a really cool vacation? I dont really like beaches, so i dont want a place where i would just sit on the beach all day. I want to be out and doing really cool, memerable things. This is kind of a once in a lifetime thing for us, so i want it to be something i will neverrrr forget=].

thanks!=]]

hey!! i just came back today from europe. i went all over.

I really liked
Barcelona, Spain
London, England
Zurmatt, Switzerland
Munich, Germany
and Bellfast, Ireland

Q: ok so everytime i get near my kitten she bites me alott. and really hard. i dont know what to do. liek if i just want to pet her she'll just bite me really hard out of nowhere. she doesnt liek me. and i try to be nice to her. like she trys to control me. how can i let her know that i want her no be nicer, and that im the boss? thansk alottt.

there is a product called bitter apple, its a spray (for training) if she tries to bite you spray some on your finger and put it in her mouth
she will hate the taste but it works. make sure you be consistant with it

Q: Hey! I was wondering, what are some really cute and flirty perfumes? Also, can you tell me where i can find them. Prices arent an issue, as long as its under $100.

my boyfriend always tells me he loves these perfumes i wear:

Paris hilton
love spell-victorias secret
pure seduction- victorias secret **** fav!

Q: How do you do this hairstyle

http://entimg.msn.com/i/gal/HilaryDuff/Duff_Hilary19538_4001.jpg

except her hair is supposed to be in a ponytail??

another example is in the video of Fergie's Glamorous

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Uahw5BU9N8

it has it at 3:15 where she is on the phone, on the plane.

how do you do that hairstyle and whats it called?? thanks

what i do is first take the section of hair poofed up and put it back in a pony tail then i put two bobbypins in (criss crossed like an X)

then i take my hair and hold it in the back (starting where the pony tail is and with my other hand push the bobby pins forward to create the poof, if that doesnt work take the ponytail out and try to loosen your bangs up for the poof.

Q: ive been going out w/ my boyfriend for about 7 months, and im still a virgin. i have been thinking about losing my virginity to him a lot lately,and he's a virgin too. so, does it hurt badly when you lose it? or does it depend on the guy? any info or tips would be fine!

it didn't hurt me, not only does it depend on the size of the guy it mostly depends on the girl. it depends on your tolerance for pain. and it also depends on how tight you are. i suggest lots of lubricant and going very slowly at first.

dont forget to be safe

Q: I have the best husband in the world i love him so much.....but there is one BIG problem he abuses me....he hits slaps pulls my hair elbows me pushes me....but there is another problem i love him to much to leave him i love him so much so leaving him is not an option....what should i do?
Broken hearted and torn

I have to be honest. If leaving him isn't an option then there is no way anyone can help you. The abuse WILL NOT stop, it WILL NOT get better. If anything it will get worse and he will become more violent. People will start noticing marks like bruises or cuts, and possibly broken bones. Soon your life will be a huge lie saying "i fell down" or other lame excuses as to why you have those marks.

If your husband really loved you he would never hurt you. He charms his way with you because thats what all woman abusers do. They are all charming so you will stay with them, and not tell anyone, so they can continue to harm you.

If your really broken hearted and torn then why do you stay with him. Right now you could be in a caring and loving relationship with some one who REALLY loves you instead of someone who just says they do.

If you don't leave him now, he will end up getting less tolerant to stuff you do. Even if its a slight look you give him that he doesn't like he might just end up punching you in the face. From there it will get worse, and you will have to step on glass around him, never knowing what is going to make him strike. You can be dead one day because of him.

Q: how much will it hurt to get my nose pierced?
and about how much will it cost?

and this might sound akward but i dont know how else to say it.. is there anything i can to to "prepare" myself for it? like if i pinch my nose will that be hoe much it will hurt?

i didnt think it hurt at all
only a little sore after
n itchy, just take advil
about 20 minutes before
you get it done

on a scale of 1-10 10 being the
worst pain it is probably about
a 1 or 2, and i have a really low
pain thresh hold.

usually the labor is free(you should
pay them a good tip) and the piercing varies
in price my diamond was $50.00

Q: im just starting to grow breasts and im starting to get pubic hair. 2 days ago i felt something wet in my underwear so i went to the bathroom and it was this white stuff. its really starting to annoy me because it wont stop leaking. its sort of stopped now but is this normal?
thank you bunches

welcome to pueberty
these are the BEST
years of your life.
NOT! It's gonna be
rough, you will go
through changes your
body is not used to.

For your discharge
problem use a panty
liner =]. It is
really annoying but
there is nothing you
can do about it.

If you have any questions
my screen name is OHFAKEASMILE.

Q: ok, i have gf but everytime i make out with her i get an erection, and it bothers me because i keep thining it might rub against her or something, is there a way to prevent this?

i actually like it when my boyfriend and i are making out and he gets an erection, dont be ashamed it makes things more fun ;D

Q: hey lol i just read your answer with the pranks.. i think the hair dryer one is HILLARIOUS and i so want to do it but one thing will the baby powder ruin the hair dryer at all? haha because i dont really want to buy a new one if it does.. =P

No it won't it will blow most of it out and if there is any left in there it's just like it's dust collected from the air. i did that about 3 years ago and my hair dryer still works

Q: Ok here's the deal. Me and my friends are going to be seniors next year. To start the summer off we are starting a fun war. The rules are
*No one can get hurt
*Nothing can get damaged or cost money to repair
*Everyone has to find it funny even the person you're doing it to.
So far we have stuck caution tape on cars and Saran wrapped them. & wrote War in blue tape on a friends drive way. can anyone give me any other ideas of what to do. According to those rules? Btw it doesn't have to be to a car. Thanx =)
the more responses the better!!

Habanero Pepper Surprise (before you do this prank make sure noone is allergic)
1) Obtain a small hypodermic needle and syringe
2) Fill it with Habanero pepper extract or hot sauce.
3) Inject extract or sauce into your roommate's fruit, vegetables, cakes, ice cream, and anything else you can find that's edible.
This will make them "happy". Additionally they will be scared to eat anything in the house for weeks, including snagging your food for a quick bite.

Ketchup Packet Prank Surprise
Using 2 ketchup packs, (the type used for carry out fries). I laid one on top of another and rolled the bottoms up together like you would a tube of toothpaste. This creates a double sack of ketchup for the assault.

Using a pin, poke a hole in each one near the exposed end seam on the outer sides. Now you have a ketchup pack that will squirt in two directions at once.

To set this funny prank in motion, place the premade pack below the foot under a toilet seat. The unsuspecting victim will sit down and get shot in the "nether regions" as well as creating a scary discharge into the toilet.

Car Whistle Prank
Take a long, narrow potato (one that will fit well into an exhaust pipe) and drill a hole in it long ways. Then rig a whistle in one end or find one of those long, thin whistles and stick it in the potato hole. Potato goes in the tailpipe. When the victim gets in the car and starts it up they'll wonder where the hell that noise is coming from!

Blow-Dryer Prank
Here is a good prank that played on my sister. What you do is take baby powder and you put it in someone's blow-dryer. When they turn it on, they will get a head full of powder. It is a great laugh.

if you want more just ask

Q: I want to pernamentley straighten my hair, but my mom won't let me. I am planning to pay for it. My mom still won't let me because, as she says, you will look like a wet muskrat, just like everyone else with stick straight hair.

But I am getting a haircut, and it will be shoulder length. My hair is EXTREMELY poofy, no matter what kind of shampoos or serums I use. When I straighten it with a straightener, which takes about an hour and a half (which I don't have time for) it gets really nice and silky, and the poof disapears.

I think I really need this: I only wear my hair down when I straighten my hair, which is about four times a year. Otherwise I wear it in a pony tail, which makes me feel like a tomboy.

How do I convince my mom to let me? I am 16 by the way.

i dont really have an answer for your question, this is just my advice incase you do convince your mom.

i would think twice about getting your hair straightened i did it once and i ABSOLUTLY regret it. My hair ended up breakinging so i had really really really short hair (like boys length hair) on the crown of my head and it was really noticeable and it stuck straight up. My hair ended up getting even more frizzy.

Q: Me and my friend want to hang out tonight when she gets off work. shes not in the mood to go walking around because thats basically her job. so no mall or anything.. what is there to do that doesnt require much walking ( and other than a movie ...oo yeah and we dont have cars so our parents have to take us =[....quick advice would be appreciated shell be home around 7:15!

play cards
sing kareoke
do each others nails/makeup/hair
make a scrap book
listen to music
take pictures

thats all i can really think of
hope this helps and have fun =]

Q: ok my cats are weird. They drink from the toliet. Even when I have given them a fresh bowl of water, they would rather drink out of the toilet. Is there something wrong with them? should I stop them from doing it? If so how?

Nothing is wrong with them it's just what they prefer. It's like prefering to drink from a glass rather than a plastic cup.
Of course there is a way to stop it. Put the toilet seat lid down, common sense, that simple.

Q: How old do you have to be to get a drivers permit in the state of Pennsylvania? I've heard many different answers. Is it true you can get it 6 months after your 15th birthday?

Let me know

Thank you.