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I use to watch Amanda Bynes on the Amanda Show on Nickelodeon for years it seems like. I really thought she was pretty awesome. I think I heard not too long ago that she did some shots for the Maxim magazine, which is really weird because I never thought of her like that and never thought she was gorgeous or anything.
Anyway, whatever, I did hear that she announced she had retired from acting on Twitter. Is that true? And when exactly did this happen? I'm reading a few news stories and it seems like they can't get their facts straight about this so can somebody just tell me exactly rather than sending me to yet another page trying to figure out this Amanda Bynes thing? I'm just curious...that's all
And how old is she? Don't you have to be like really old to retire? (link)
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According to Yahoo...
Amanda Bynes stated that acting wasn't as fun as it seemed, She had retired at the age of 24. There wasn't a lot of detail but her last movie was set to be released in September of this year.
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Im 20 and so is my boyfriend, we have been going out for a year and 5 months. Well in the beginning everything was great but about 5 months into the relationship he would say things about girls in the street like "Oh id fuck her" or "Id do her" infront of me, like seriously you can think it but dont say it infront of your girlfriend. So from then on I was self concious about not being good enough for him and thought he was with me because maybe he thought he couldnt get anyone else.
Well time went on and we argued about the things that he said (and he doesnt say things as much anymore) but things still play on my mind, like he would say he would fuck a girl infront of me so what would he do behind my back....
When he says he is going out for a lads night out I feel sick like he would cheat on me, although he has said he wouldnt and gets moody when I suggest that he might. I mean I hear things about lads cheating on 'lads nights out' and when they are drunk. It just frightens me.
Also he added my old best friend on facebook and refuses to delete her although he doesnt know her and has seen her twice but didnt speak to her, I dont talk to her anymore so I dont see why he has her on facebook but we get in arguments because I want him to delete her as I think he fancies her and he says he doesnt but if it causes arguments then why wont he delete her? ALSO he had her number in his phone!! I have her number and he either copied it from my phone (which is probably the case) or he got it from her (I looked through his contacts to ring my sister and saw her name so i deleted it but didnt mention anything to him). It really bugs me as he fancied my other friend from college and actually told me about it and it took arguments and breaking up for him to delete her from facebook. He adds girls he doesnt know just because he thinks they are good looking. I dont do that if I think a guy is good looking!! I just dont know what to do because I do love him but he is sometimes distant towards me, I try and kiss him and he pulls away, I have to ask for cuddles, I have to text and ring him first, he picks on me for being fat and says things about my ginger hair and it hurts although its a joke to him it hurts me and I tell him but he doesnt listen and carries on.
What do I do, I want to stop feeling jealous when he looks at other girls and stop feeling this way. (link)
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This what you've described is not a relationship, It's questionable to whether it's even a relationship at all. You can't trust him, You made that clear in what you said and frankly you have every right not too. If he is pulling away from you when you want to kiss him, Talking about other females in a dirty way it kind of gives you the hint that he might have someone else on the side and I wouldn't be a bit surprise. Your boyfriend sounds like to much of a pansy to even cough up and be straight forward about how he really feels. It's just like it is, He only loves you because he is with you...That IS if he even loves you at all the likeliness of that is almost zero. You are too good for him, He doesn't deserve someone like you and in some ways I think it's safe to say your boyfriend is immature. Someone who is down to business on a relationship does not cheat (I can almost promise you, You are or have been cheated on) Trust, Plays a huge role in relationship along with respect. Your boyfriend doesn't respect you enough to keep his opinions to himself. You need to move on, Cut all contact and keep it that way. Someone who cheats or even thinks of cheating doesn't deserve anyone and most of all he doesn't deserve your friendship either.
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Does braces hurt after they are done putting them on?? My mom is getting me to get braces REALLY soon beccause my teeth are terriable .
Please help ; i am really scared they will hurt afterwarrds ,
And if i get them, what CAN i eat ? ;o (link)
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I had braces for 4 years, After they are put on your teeth may become sore and sensitive for awhile. It is also recommended not eating anything hot or sticky for awhile. Don't drink anything that is too cold, Cold will only increase the pain and most of all no gum. As a former gum chewer..Chewing gum was a big mistake on my part it got all over my braces and it was a pain to get out. Don't panic, The pain isn't anything extreme just a little bit of tenderness for the first few days. I would eat yogurt, jello, salads, pasta...anything soft for the first 3 days.
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Today is the father's day, and it reminds me that i do not have a dad, since my dad passed away 3 years ago and my stepdad that i love lost in touch 7 years ago and i dont know where he is right now, and im really sad because i cant greet any of my dad happy father's day and it is making me cry. How can i feel better?
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I also do not have a dad in my life, I feel your pain.
I don't really know how to give advice to your question, However I just wanted to let you know you are not alone. Spend time with Mom
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13/f
To me death is soo scary. When I was little I would stay up half the night crying bc a thought of death entered my mind. I know nobody knows what happens when we die bc nobody has been through it to tell anybody else. But I have a few theories.
1.) that when we die we just get reincarnated into someone else. That there is a heaven but only for people who truely deserve to go. Bad people go to hell. REALLY good people go to heavn and the people in the middle get reincarnated.
2.) that when we die thee is ABSOLUTELY no heaven and you just poof and your gone.
So can anyone help me. I hate having to wake up in the middle of the night bc I'm crying of watll happen. Does anyone support my theories. Please help. Thx in advance. (link)
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This is a tricky question, Everyone is going to have different answers too but I'll give you mine...
I believe as long as you keep on dwelling over death, It will continue to be bothersome to you. As I speak, We all do think about death from time to time but you just have to except that sooner or later everyone dies. You are young, I can almost assure you that you still have many many more years ahead of you. You shall make the best of lie, Live it to it's fullest.
To your question:
I believe when people die, They eventually over time cross over. I believe the good souls are reincarnated and given a new life. However, Again everyone will have different opinions.
What I recommend is stop thinking about it so much, Life offers so much more than the thought of when our time is up. Focus on your future, The present and how you are going to make the best of it.
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Ok so like iv been hangin out with this guy a lot latly he told me he loves me but he don’t treat me like he does he talks to all these girls we are not dating so he tells everyone we are just f** buddys I already told him I want to be more he said the reason why he hasn’t asked me out is because of all the guys I use to be with but I stoped talking to all of them I don’t know what to do I really want him but sometimes I don’t think he wants me just cuz all the girls he talks to and he is very controlling to me. (link)
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Why would you want to be with someone who treats you like crap? If he doesn't respect you and goes around telling everyone you are his fuck buddy then obviously you are nothing more than just a booty call. My opinion....STOP talking to him, Cut out all contact. He's controlling, disrespectful and rude and he doesn't deserve you.
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My boyfriend and I were talking to each other online last night. He had his webcam and his microphone open. This was the first time that he opened it up for me at home, usually he opens it up while he's at work. Apparently he behaves better at work, in my opinion. He acted a bit different. Anyway back to the real problem. At one point during the conversation I noticed that he had a gold band ring on his right hand on his ring figer. So I asked him why he had a ring on his finger. It took him a minute to write back, on the webcam i saw he was looking around. So he wrote back and told me that it was his grandfather's ring and that he just put it on like 10 minutes ago. Now i also know that he wasnt on such good terms with his grandfather before he passed away, even though he still had respect for him. I also said I guess you must be the same size finger as your grandfather because it seems to fit you fairly well. And he disagreed saying that it was loose on him. So i asked him to hold up the ring to the camera so i could get a closer look. He didnt really do it. He just brushed through his face with his hand a little bit and said did you see it and laughed. I told him i couldnt laugh about the situation as he was. He said come on stop playing, i didn't get engaged. He said, if I did then you would be the first one to know about it because it would be you. And changed the subject like that. But I wasnt ready to change subjects just yet, so i said it looks very shiny too, it lasted good i guess. Or did you just get the ring. He said, no my grandfather gave it to my father first and i got it from him. I still didnt really understand the situation and I told him that. But he said, if you want i can tell you everything in detail, however he said it in such a manner that he made me feel like a paranoid person who doesnt have trust for their partner. So this time i changed the subject even though i was still wondering. So I said say something to the microphone i want to hear your nice voice. He said a couple of words but it was fairly low. I asked him why he was talking so low. He said stop making false accusations and i am not speaking low. So i told him to speak up then. So he talked a bit more and also said i love you. But it was still kind of low. He also had the lights closed if that has anything to do with anything. He started acting kind of hostile the rest of the conversation. A while later i told him i had to step out. We were saying bye to each other when he signed out while i was still saying bye to him. It's so confusing that im not even sure what to ask, a million questions keep popping up in my head. Why was he acting like that towards me after i asked him, was he being defensively hostile about it or was he just upset that i could think of such a thing? And should i believe his story about the ring? How should i handle the situation? Please help. Thank you... (link)
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How has he been acting towards you lately?...Hm I find it awfully weird how you never seen this ring before! (That was a little bit of sarcasm on my part) A gold ring on his finger is extremely suspicious, He was acting weird and taking awhile to reply because you caught him red handed and he was covering his tracks by replying with excuses. If he was looking around, Clearly he is the one being paranoid. Either he is engaged or he is married. No man wears a ring and hides it from their spouse unless something is really sketchy. Give yourself some credit, You caught him. You caught him red handed, His actions also gave it away. Stop letting him fool you, You deserve better. All the clues were given too you, Let this ass walk right into his canines.
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can anorexia stop me from having children in the furter (link)
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Anything is possible, However there could be some serious complications along the way.
Anorexia, Damages your health and mentality therefore if you are pregnant you put YOU and your CHILD at risk.
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i'm a girl, 16. i have a friend, her name is Alexis, but lets call her "LEXIS" for short. Ok, so Lexis has been dateing this guy named Jim for about 4 and a 1/2 months. Well yesterday she found out that he's... he's not the sharpest tool in the shead. she found out that he get's a check for $700 dollars a month. Now she's not a gold digger, not a gold digger at all, she's more of a image person. so last night she called me and told me she was going to break up with him because, she "cant't be seen wit a slow person." I thought that was mean of her but befor i could tell her what i thought her uncle was calling and we hung up. So i talked to my other friend and 50% said that her reason for breaking up with him is shallow and the other 50% said that it was not.
my question is, is she shallow for breaking up with him for that reason, or is that a good reason to break up with a person? (link)
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Yes, I think it is very shallow and wrong.
Happiness is not about money or what someone looks like, How popular they might be in school etc.
Happiness is excepting people for who they are, Being there for one another and enjoying each others company. honesty, respect and trust.
Obviously your friend is not all that mature, but again she is just a 16 year old girl that thinks the world will look down on her for not dating the biggest hunk in school. However, If she continues to treat people this way...Good luck to her for finding someone in the future.
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You just answered my question about the guy who's flirting the one minute and talking about another girl the next...I'm responding to some of your questions...I don't know 100% but I am pretty sure he doesn't talk to his ex anymore. He did at first because he deleted her then added her back on Facebook but I think since then I've talked him in to leaving her alone and moving on. He's deleted her from his Facebook again and removed all pictures of them together so yes, I think he's moved on from her. He hasn't talked about her since the beginning so, while I don't have solid proof, I think he's done with her.
You said since he was talking about another girl that I should test him..how do I test him? What should I look for when I talk to him or what could I ask in an indirect manner to see where his head is at?
He is VERY fliratious but like you said is he for real? Or is that just his personality? He's a very outgoing guy and he's very sociable but I don't know..I have a crush on him already and his flirting only makes it worse. (link)
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The way I would study a man to see if he were into me....
1. Is he push?, Does he talk about sex frequently? Does he listen? Does he seem caring and understanding, supportive of what you have to say? Does he talk about other girls frequently?
If he deleted his ex from his facebook, That is a great sign but if this just recently happened I would give it a little bit more time, As if this had happened a week or so ago the situation would still be fresh. The flirtatious thing I would be concerned about...(I'm not saying this is the case) but if his phone is flooded with girls in it and his facebook is hooked up on flirty comments...You could try to talk to him about how that makes you feel (If you two were to consider dating) ask him to tone it down. I would ride it out and see what happens, Studying him by seeing if he is really into you for you.
If ya need anything just send me an IM I'd be glad to help ya out
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Damn. First of all, I'm sorry this is so long but please read it! I need help/opinions! Guys are SOOOOO confusing.
20/F
There's this guy that I've had a crush on ever since I met him. We had a class together in high school and we were okay friends-- aquaintances. I mean, when we were together in class we had a ball (he's a fun, jokster kind of guy) but we never really hung out outside of that class. Then he graduated, joined the Marines, and was deployed to Afgan. He also had a girlfriend at the time. While he was away, we chatted every now and then on Myspace just the quick "hey how are you?" type thing.
So fast forward about 2 years to present day. He's back from Afgan and he is in North Carolina on base. And now he's on Facebook. My friend sent me a suggestion to add him, so I did and he accepted. I saw on his wall where he was coming home (where I live) for the weekend and we made plans to get together but they never happened. He went to base in North Carloina and to my surprise a couple days later he started texting me. We talked back and forth a bit and became better friends and he was upset and telling me about his problems with his gf and about how he wants nothing to do with her anymore. So half flirting, half being serious I would say things to cheer him up like "You're an attractive, loving guy. You need to date girls closer to your age. (His ex is 18, he's 21. I'm 20..I was hinting towards me. hehe) You deserve better. You'll find the right girl." yadda yadda yadda. Well, I made his day. haha
Since then he's been very flirtatious with me. Shortly after that discussion he was telling me that I should come see him in NC and I told him I didn't have the money and he was like "well, I'd totally fly you out here." He would text me goodmorning and tell me he misses me and how he wants to see me. He told me a couple of times that he was telling his friends about me and showing them my facebook. And we talked on the phone a couple times and one time he told me he just called coz he wanted to hear my voice (of course, he was drinking a little bit that night so maybe it was the alcohol talking?).
Then he quit texting me as often for a couple days until finally he texts me and says "I'm home!" and I was like what? why? and he said "to see you". We hung out that night and every night that he was home (about 5 days) and we flirted it up and everything but he also talked A LOT about his ex gf (she lives in our town too) and he talked about this girl in Colorado that his mom was trying to hook him up with.
This is where I get lost. Why would he flirt so hard with me if he was interested in this girl in Colorado? Like, while he was in town and we were hanging out we really hit it off. We've got a lot in common. We both like to joke and have fun. He even came up with a "plan" for "us" (in a joking way of course). He said I would come with him to NC then we would go to Colorado (his mom lives there) and then we'd get married in Vegas. And I know it's just a joke and it's like haha oh yeah ;) but I mean, why would you say that to a girl you're not a little bit interested in? I don't know.
After his stop here he went to Colorado to visit his mom (and that girl... :[)but he still would text me every day and call me everynight. He introduced me (over the phone) to his mom and told me he was talking to her about me. And then, just like before, we quit texting/talking as much and he came BACK to town one last time for a day before he had to head back to NC.
He told me he really likes this girl in Colorado and that they almost kissed one night but someone's stepdad prevented that from happening. But then he'll say things like he's not sure if he's good enough for her because he's not religious and she is. All the while, still flirting with me but not doing anything about it. I don't know.
And then last night we were texting, having a conversation, and I asked him what he was up to tonight and he never responded. So I finally texted him back about an hour or so later and was like "haha I love how everytime I ask you what you are up to or whats up our conversation stops. haha Were you just bored for those 30 seconds you text me? hehe Must've been waitin on a call from bri (the girl in another state). hehe" I tried to be playful with it because I didn't want to come off as rude or that my feelings were hurt, I really wanted to know why our conversations were always brief lately. He responded, "Awwww no I fell asleep!!!" To which I said, "Likely story. You fall asleep every time? ;) hehe" And he said, "No [insert my name here] you know i love you" (he only put the letter "u"...i can't just put the letter "u" because it's "text speak" ugh.) and I said, "I'm not feelin the love, [insert his name here]. :[ haha nah, I'm just pickin' on ya. I know. :] Sorry I woke you up...go back to sleep. :)" then he said, "I love you!" (again..he didn't type out "you" it was just the letter "u") and I said, "Now don't say that unless you mean it! ;) ;) haha jk. I love you (letter "u") too! :]"
So I don't know. I'm so lost and confused. I THINK he likes me? I don't know. Why is he doing this to me? It's driving me absolutely CRAZY! I try to lower my expectations to just being friends but it's really hard sometimes. What is going on in his head????????? (link)
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It sounds like the guy doesn't know what he wants, He might of broken up with his ex girlfriend but...Do you know for sure if he really did? Although he might want to listen to your kind words and hear what he wants to hear do you have proof that she is actually out of the picture? Sounds like he is playing around to see what else is out there, Honestly...I wouldn't fall for him just yet. Considering he is also talking about another girl I would test him and see whether he is for real or not and by doing so don't give in to him so easily. Making him fight for it, If he tries hard and doesn't seem so pushy maybe he really does like and appreciate you. For now, I'd say this guy doesn't know what he wants, Sure he is flirtatious...but is he for real? ..Study him first
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helloooo. its been a while since ive posted but well im back!
ANYWAYSS!
my best friend's birthday is monday,
but we wanted to celebrate it on saturday the 12.
well.... pretty much the whole weekend :)
soo yeah.
she had the idea to throw a pool party for 15 people & stuff but her mom didnt reserve the place so its not available.. bummerr right?.
i was thinking of a hotel party on the beach but i dont know what hotel will allow 15 teenagers in a hotel room without gettingg complaints. teens... whataya gonna do about them??
soo yup! that's prrrretty much it!
if you have any ideas (cheap preffered if possible please) write back & let me know!
x - banana (link)
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You could rent out a local community hall, No hotel is going to allow 15 teenagers in one room. I used to work at Holiday Inn the maximum of people per room were 4 and that was if you had a room with two double beds.
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My boyfriend fingered me for the first time the other night, but each time before he washed his hands cause i told him i dont want to get pregnant or an infection. Well, Im just worried that something might have got on his hands, which his underwear and stuff was dry. So, I dont think he had any of his body fluids come out. So, is there a chance that the stuff didnt show up on his underwear? Or can it dry quickly? I just worry about everything. If there wasnt anything on his underwear then should we be okay? (link)
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Your fine
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pitbull is throwng up blood and her mouth is white i dont havemoney to take her to the vet what can i do (link)
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Take her to the vet anyways, It could be something extremely serious.
A dog throwing up blood is not normal, She could have swallowed something or it could of been something a lot more serious. See if you can work out a payment plan with your vet. It's a hell of a lot better to take your dog to the vet to wait for something really bad to happen.
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Okay so I find girls attractive and thy make me really hard, but boys me go crazy and get all erotic when I think about it. Here's the thing though....I love to dress like a girl, wear makeup, use nail polish, and also use the tape and tuck to conceal "down below" when I'm in my girly clothes. I find boys to be cute and girls hot. I do lots of kinky things when I masturbate also. I'm very confused about my sexuality, but I feel like a should have a vagina and breasts. My penis and masulinity is cool and all but I wish instead of my penis a shaved beautiful vagina was there. Not to mention the fact tht I want breasts and o have boys inside of me and to kiss me and do things to me. I want to sleep with girls also. What am I? I want a mans hard penis in my asshole, and to stroke his meat but I also want it in my vagina - which I don't have. However, I also desire to kiss and be onside woman and kiss their tender body. What is going on with me?........ (link)
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Because of lack of information, I can't really give you my best advice but it sounds to me that you are bisexual, You prefer men and woman.
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I was recently on a date with my boyfriend. But it was a total disaster. After the date, i ended up feeling sad and like $h!+. He so made it seem like he didnt want to be there with me. He never really acted like this before. All the other dates he was so nice to me and would buy me flowers, etc. But even from the night before, his way of talking seemed like he wasnt intrested in me. Usually he would say things like he cant wait to see me tomorrow and what kind of places do I think we should go, he didnt really say anything of that type. I even said to him i said if you dont want to meet tomorrow we dont have to, maybe another day would be better for the both of us. But he said no i wanna see you i miss you etc. But he sounded kinda sarcastic.
So anyway this date he called me around 1:45 saying that there was traffic and he would be 15-20 mins late, and that turned out to be near an hour. We were supposed to meet at 1:30 but he showed up at exactly 2:30. I didnt like that but I let it slide. So i went in the car and i saw this time he didnt bring me any flowers or anything. But i let that slide too. I didnt care so much but of course it would have been nice. So i'm thinking we would go to the amusement park he mentioned a couple days ago and have a good time, but instead he wanted to go near the water. We didnt really do anything, he didnt talk much to me and i gotta admit i didnt feel like talking back. We just sat on a bench, then he started kissing me in public and there were people passing by. I wasnt too comfortable or thrilled about that. And felt like he did that cuz there was nothing else better to do.
Then he said lets go in the car so we sat there looking at the water a bit etc. Oh my gosh his phone probably rang like 30 times that whole time, he didnt pick any of them up but still. The other times he would put his phone on vibrate and it might have vibrated 1 or 2 times. And while we were near the benches it rang a lot also. That time he told me hold on let me get a water from the car, but i knew he went to go make a phone call he took pretty long too. In the car he left also, he said hold on i'll be right back. And i was looking around trying to see where he went and sure enough he was on the phone. He was kind of far away too i guess coz he didnt want me to hear. Whoever he was talking to...
So he comes back in and says they keep calling me from the diner about the repairs being made. (He owns a diner). So we stayed another 10-15 minutes and after that, he said he should get going and bought me back home. He dropped me off and he's usually like wait one more kiss, this times we just locked lips a couple of times and i left. I didnt even cross the street yet and he started driving away. He seems cold on the date like he didnt wanna be there, of course i picked that up and automatically i showed the same reactions as him even if i didnt want to.
At home we talked on the internet also, and even then he was still cold. He usually says that he had a great time and he loves spending time with me but this time he didnt mention anything about today. He actually said i better get home my fish probably miss me. what like his fish are more important than me. is he trying to say i didnt miss him. is he trying to say i aint even as good as his fish. i dont know whats wrong with him. why did he act so hostile toward me i didnt even do anything. oh also i said im so happy today because i got to see you and spend time with you. and he said something like thats not fair i cant send any smilies from here coz im using a different computer. wtf? I been feeling sad lately.
What should i do. I feel like that flare between us is getting lesser as the days go by for some reason. Also before he used to text me and write me little poems all the time, now he doesnt as much. I still love him but i dont know why hes acting like he doesnt enjoy being with me or somthing. Maybe im wrong but thats the feeling im getting. I am so sorry i wrote so much i know, but thats what happened. Thank you so much in advance for any advice you can give. (link)
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"He was an hour late, He didn't seem interested and his phone rang off the hook"
These are all possible signs of cheating, From what you've describe it sounds like he is loosing/lost interest but doesn't have the balls to say it too your face so instead he is going around it. If I were in your shoes, I'd be suspicious.
Not only are his actions extremely sketchy, but I would bluntly ask him if he is seeing someone else and study his reactions. If he continues to treat you like this, Obviously something is up. NO guy's phone rings off the hook like that unless he has extremely annoying friends or he is hiding something from you. Only you know the answer, You know your boyfriend...but don't assume that it isn't possible. Look at all the clues I just pointed out too you....
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Around 5 to 4 years ago, when I was 12 I let my dog lick my penis twice. I havent done it since then and have deeply regretted it since then. It's recently been plagueing my head because I have this close friend who I care for a lot and whenever she says that I'm amazing and unique I feel bad because what if she knew I did that? Should I feel bad for having her think I'm such a great person even though I did that? Or since it happened years ago it shouldnt matter? I'm a completely different and more mature and wiser person, so should I care about who I am now or what I did? Is she close friends with a freak? Should I be arrested for having done it? She's told me before that she doesnt care about anything I've done and that its not important to her, but everytime she compliments me, I feel guilty. Please help and please answer each question if you can.
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Stop dwelling on the past, As you said it happened 4-5 years ago. As weird as it might sound to thinking you are a bad person over it is exaggerating. Stop letting it get to you, Should you tell her?...NO. I can almost promise you if you do decide to tell her you very well might not get a very positive reaction for it. Let it go and don't ever do that again...It's disgusting.
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14/f
Yesterday, I went to this street festival where their was live music in Chicago. I was dancing and talking to this cute guy who looked 16-17. Later on we started grinding and just having fun. When I had to leave I kissed him and he gave me his number. We were texting and I decided to ask him his age. Turns out he's 21! So I lied and said I was 17 (I've been told I could pass for 17). He says he wants to see me again but I don't think that will happen since I was just in the city for the weekend. It was all in good fun but I feel kind of weird now.. I know we won't be like a thing and probably won't ever see each other again.
I know it's illegal since I'm a minor but what would you do if you were in my situation. I honestly though he was 16 or 17 but found out too late he was 21. (link)
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If you just kissed him and didn't know his real age, Then don't worry about it.
However, If he wants to see you again....IGNORE HIM. For a 21 year old guy to be involved with a 14 year old is not only asking for some serious jail time but stop and think about it for a minute. What in gods right mind is he thinking? HE IS 7 YEARS OLDER. If you two were to get together again god only knows what it could lead too. Ignore him, This guy is weird and it is not normal for an adult to be trying to get with someone your age. It's WRONG
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Ok im 18/female i hate saying this because it makes me feel like im talking about my man behind his back but last night i was trying to wake my man up so that we can go to bed and i tryed to get him up like 3 times and then he told to shut the fuck up like after that and i told him dont tell me that and he said it again maybe 3 more time and i kept saying dont say that and then he got up and pushed me with his chess and said what you going to do about it and walked away in the bedroom then later after i stoped crying i went in the room and we talked but when i thought he was going to tell me hes sorry he told me to give him a blowjob and he pulled his pants down its was dark so the whole time i was doing it i was crying it felt like i just got used he acked like it never happend so the questen is why do i feel like this we have been together for 6 years and plan to marry also i told him this morning and he said hes sorry and hes not useing me and he loves me! so why do i feel this way still sorry so long please help me!!! anybody!!!!
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Hun,
He doesn't love you, He doesn't respect you and most of all he is mean to you. Guys that love someone do not treat them like that. That is abuse and it is very wrong. I agree with Adviceman you need to move out. Men who abuse woman will say anything to get what they want, Here he said he was "sorry" and then wanted you to give him a blow job? About the whole marriage part, You are too young to be thinking about marriage. Most of all, You don't want to marry someone like that, He is an asshole. You deserve so much better than that, Someone who is going to treat you the way you should be treated. I don't care what this jerk says or "demands" for this matter you are not his slave. You need to move out and put your focus on you. Your happiness is NOT with him and he doesn't deserve you. 6 years is along time but time heals everything, I was in an abusive relationship for 5 years and I grew the will power to move on and it was the best choice I have ever made.
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I'm wondering if it is illegal to post someone's phone number on a blog or chatroom or just online without their consent? An ex boyfriend posted my name along with my cell phone number online in a chatroom and I am now getting sexual texts and calls from random weirdos. I was reading that it is a violation of privacy and considered harassment but is there anything I can do to take it to the next level and have him get in trouble for this? (link)
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Yes, It is invasion of privacy and harassment
If you have proof that your number was posted by your ex boyfriend you can go to the police and file a complaint for violation of privacy, If you do not have proof you could go to the police station and try to state your complaint but there is no guarantee they will do something about it however I suppose it wouldn't hurt to try.
The advice I can give you, Try going to your cell phone company and see if you can possibly change your cell phone number. They may charge you a fee but hell it'd be better than all these harassment text messages. If your ex wants to play games, Then play his game by getting his ass in trouble.
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