Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
AIM: mel le disko
Member Since: July 2, 2006
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OK my best friends cousin likes me! He's a junior im a freshman and lets just say i led him on...... badly! so here's the deal! he's cute and everything but i dont like him like that! I might be starting to but i really like this other guy! what should i do in this situation???? (link)
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You just have to be honest with him ; and you can't keep leading him on. The longer you lead him on, the harder it's gonna be to tell him and the harder he'll take it.
Just be like,"I'm sorry, but I really only feel friendly vibes between us ; nothing much more. Do you think we could still be friends, at least?" And see what he says. If he needs to time to think ; give it to him. Let him come to you when he's ready to.
Sure it may be akward at first, it's common between people, but it'll only remain awkward if you LET it remain awkward. Just try sparking some conversation adn talk to him likey ou two used to. Try and get some jokes and laughter in there ; that always eases the tension and awkwardness of things, and sooner or later, things'll return to normal.
I hope I helped.
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well her is wats happening this i am a freshmen and i am going out wit a guy in a lower grade level than me....i kno it seems kinda stupid but o well.....anyways some guy that is in a upperclass asked me out today n i think that im kinda starting to get a lil bit of feelings for him and loose feelings for my boyfriend wat should i do? (link)
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If you feel you're liking this guy and you want to be with him more than your boyfriend ; do both of you the favor and break up with him.
If you think there's someone else you're gonna like more and think you'll have a great time with and have the greater relationship with, why wouldn't you go for it?
Also, breaking up with him is in a way doing him a favor ; it's sparing him later pain of getting dumped, because the quicker you do it, the less emotional attachment there's going to be. If you wait another like 5 months and he's now in LOVE with you, then it's going to be alot harder. Also, if he ever were to find out, cause trust me, people have ways, he'll be hurt to realize that it was kinda just like some pity relationship for that whole time, and you were sitting there liking someone else.
So just break up with him, and see what happens with this senior guy.
I hope I helped.
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ok so i have a housekeeper, but i always feel so sorry for her..well one because she is a housekeeper, a single mother with 2 kids whose husband left her, and she has a lot of different jobs. and because we are a really annoying family..like i feel bad for her because i'm always having her take me for a smoothie or something after school (but i always pay her back) and i'm picky about dinnner,etc... but i'm really nice to her. she's really nice and i dont know i just feel so bad for her..and she can't speak english that well either so we sometimes have communication problems. but my mom is sometimes sooo mean to her like she would start like yelling at her being like "why didnt you spend 4 hours this week cleaning the bathrooms?! this is our promise when you started working for us!? how are you going to make this up!" and omggg its horrible and the housekeepers like on the verge of tears and says that she'll work an extra day next week,but my moms like "nooo that wont make up for this week waht are you going to do!?" and she just keeps pushing it ! you don't even understand how mean my mom is she was like yelling at her .. ughh idk i wish my mom would stop being so mean i was like "mom ill clean the bathrooms!" because i couldnt stand it anymore and my mom got mad at me. i seriously hate my mom i don't understand why she has to be so mean and pushy to everyone..yeah i know she pays the housekeeper but htat doens't give her a right to be so rude? helppp..? (link)
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If you're really getting tired of your mother's attitude, let her know how you're feeling. You should be able to share your thoughts and feelings with your mother.
Just let her know that you think it's really rude the way she's been treating your housekeeper lately, and your housekeeper's honestly trying, she really is, and she's trying to do the best job she can do. It's a very difficult thing working a job and then not being able to communicate well and working all those hours. Just let your mother know she needs to cut the girl a break ; you'll even HELP around the house if all that work really needs to be done.
Also, try talking to the housekeeper. Let her know she's doing a fantastic job and everything, and you're sorry your mother's acting this way towards her and treating her disrespectfully. I'm sure it'll make her happy knowing that you think she's doing a good job so whenever she does get yelled at, she at least knows one person in the house DOES appreciate all her efforts and everything.
I hope I helped.
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ok well me and my gf just broke up and well i really really liked her. well she dumped me because she said that all she saw herself getting out of this relationship was a friendship. and that wasent an excuse because the last couple days she has actually been trying to be a good friend. so im really sad and all being my pathetic self. but then the next day she was telling her best friend that she was having second thoughts bout doing it and that she dosent know if she made the right decision(i got the forwarded message from aim)
ok well my question is
is there anything i can do to influence her to come back to me
i really really like her and i dont want to loose her as a gf (link)
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I think there's still a chance.
If she's having second thoughts, obviously she's somewhat regretting it, which means there's still some hope of her becoming your girlfriend again.
If she says all she felt out of the relationship as friendship, show her you can be a boyfriend, and not just a friend. Just be sweet to her ; hold the door for her, kiss her, hold hands with her, just show her you really care for her, and you're honestly trying to be the best boyfriend you can be.
If she still gets friend vibes from you, just know it's her loss.
But just keep showing interest in her and show her how much she means to you! And don't pressure her into answering anything too soon. Let her gave some time to think about it and think of her feelings and everything.
I hope I helped.
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okay so my best friend was talking to this guy n he liked her a wicked lot n she used to like him but now she doesnt annymore. they never went out or hooked up or anything. she once heard that i hooked up with him but i neevr did. n she told me she thought i liked him but i denied it. now its been a while since that happend n she doesnt like him at all anymore. and ive been hanign out with him a lot n talking to him n stuff n i dunno i think i kinda hve feelings for him. Would it be wickeddd bitchy if i started being more tahn friends with him? (link)
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No, I don't think it would be at all.
She has no emotional ties towards this guy, they have no history together ; if she doesn't like him anymore, I'm sure she wouldn't care. Now if she dated him or something, then she might, and that might be bitchy, but that's not the case.
I would just let her know you like him and just ask her anyways if it's alright with her, and if she cares. ( I bet she'll say no ), and then just let her know you want to date him and whatnot, and just wanted to let her know.
And then just see what happens with him.
:)
I hope I helped.
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I keep pondering whether God is supporting homosexuality, or opposing it. Many of my Christian friends have told me it's a sin to be homosexual, or bisexual for that matter, and according to the bible marriage is between a man and a woman. However, I always viewed it as God would accept you no matter who you are, or what you believe in. I am wondering which side I should take. I am not against homosexuality/bisexuality at all. I am befriended with many of them, and they don't bother me. It's just I am not sure which side is right, and which side I should go for. I need explainations on which side is better, even if it's based on opinion. Thanks in advance! (link)
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Well, in my opinion, it shouldn't be which side is right, it's what side YOU think is right.
Whenever God created us, he created us to be individuals, differnet, unique, with our own thoughts and opinions. So why would he create something he did not like?
Also, if you have no problem with homosexuals, that's your opinion and you have the right to your own opinion. Like I said, God created us to have our own thoughts and opinions, otherwise, we'd all be the same.
I'm not going to say what side is RIGHT, cause like I said, everyone has their own views on what's right, what's wrong, what's this, what's that, but my own personal opinion is just accept everyone.
I hope I helped.
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so my boyfriend and i broke up and it was just a week and my 'best' friend now likes him, should i forgive her or just ignore her?
because she like's my ex - isn't that considered backstab?
;l (link)
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Unless she's acted upon her feelings and has tried making moves on him or is going out with him, then I really wouldn't consider it backstab.
People can't control who they develop feelings for. I'm sure she doesn't want it to be him, knowing what happened between you two, but she just can't help it.
Since she's your best friend, I'm sure she's gonna try and get over it and not act upon anything, so you have nothing to worry about.
If you're stil worried though, just talk to her about it and let eachother know how you feel and what you think of the whole situation and everything. :]
I hope I helped.
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In the olden days before they made pads and tampons what did women do about their period?
haha thankss (link)
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Well, be glad there's someone else out there in the world who wondered this question, cause I found a site asking your question with perfect answers:
http://www.dmt123.com/womens-health/289-dmt123.html
:]
I hope I helped.
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Well, I've not long been out of a bad relationship, and I'm not sure whether I'm ready for another one. BUT, I've become really good friends with another boy, and I found out over the weekend that he fancies me. I really, really like him, but I think I'm just afraid to get into another relationship. What should I do? BTW, I'm 16/f. (link)
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Just tell him exactly what you told me.
Just let him know you really, really like him and everything, but you've currently just gotten out of a bad relationship, so you really just want to wait awhile and ease into the next relationship, so if he could just wait, maybe? If he likes you alot like you say he does, he'll wait. Just spend time together, and flirt to show you still have interest in eachother and everything, and whenever you're ready to date him, date him.
If he's willing to wait, first of all, that makes him a good guy & a keeper. Most guys would just be like,"Pft, whatever" and move onto the next girl.
It's perfectly normal to be afriad, though. It's just going to take some time, I understand what it's like trying to get back into another relationship after leaving a previously bad one. You really do just need to take some time being single, and just getting over the pervious relationship before you can fully settle into the next one. But just remember ; the past is the past, and who knows what lies in the future. This guy could be a great boyfriend, so just hang iwth him and flirt and everything, and like I said.. when you're ready, you're ready. And enjoy yourself. :]
I hope I helped.
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what do you do if your boyfriend cheated on you with your younger sister? (link)
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Easy one here, break up with him.
I know you probably really like him and everything, but once a cheater, always a cheater. And anyways ; it's bad enough to cheat on your girlfriend with like, their best friend or something, but their yougner sister? That's idiotic. That's your flesh & blood.
You deserve someone whose better than that, someone who deserves your time.
I hope I helped.
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hey, i really like Jojos haircut(the singer) and i was wondering what kind of haircut does she have?? thanks (link)
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Um, I'm not really sure what you mean by what kind of haircut, you can't really have a "kind", just a "style", so I assume that's what you mean.
Well I don't know what kind of hair she has now,
but from what I've googled up, she basically seems to just have straight, long hair, with maybe some highlights in it ( cause some pictures she does, and others she doesn't ), and then she has her hair parted slightly to the side.
If you're thinking of getting her hair, then print up a picture you like of her hair and give it to your hairdresser and let her know that's what you want, so she can work from the picture.
I hope I helped.
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OMG THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THE ADVICE YOU MADE ME FEEL SOOOOOO MUCH BETTERx23874897!! ahh thank you again (link)
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haha, no problem.
i'm glad i could help.
you know if you ever need any more advice,
you can always just im me or message me.
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okay so my best friend likes this guy in our school and i like him to but he likes both of us and im scared shell get mad at me if i make a move help!! (link)
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The best thing to do first of all in this kind of situation is talk to her about it. Leaving your thoughts and feelings out and not letting eachother know and talk about it, is only going to keep feelings bottled up and emotions will soon be let loose and that's not healthy on the friendship.
Just admit to her you like him and have her admit the same, and then talk about what you guys think would ever happen if he were to go for one of you? Would you guys want the other to be happy, and accept that he likes the other and move on and continue to be good friends? Because if so, that's perfectly fine cause if you two are willing to accept it that really shows you care & want the other to be happy and that you don't want the friendship ruined. Just whomever he picks, don't rub it in the others face. Don't talk of him, or have you all hang together yet until the other's over him.
But if you think that wouldn't happen and the competition between you twos going to arise and someone's going to get upset and jealous, then he's really not worth it. "Chicks before dicks" & "guys come and go, but friends are forever." Is this one guy whom you'll probably never see again in a few years, maybe even next year depending on classes really worth ruining a friendship where you have a shoulder to lean on, hang out with, share laughs with and just talk to?
So just talk to her about it and both think about what you thinks best for your friendship.
I hope I helped.
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I really like this guy and well I told him. At first he said that he just wanted to be friends, which is fine but lately he keeps saying and doing things that make me think otherwise.
Like this one time we were talking on msn and he had asked me who my best-friend was so i told him, and then he asks "Have you told her about us yet?"
I'm confused by the way he asked that because we are not dating, we are just friends still, like we've been for over 10 years, but he used the word "US".
What does this mean?
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That word "us" could mean anything really in this kind of situation where you don't know what's going on or what he's thinking.
What I would do, if I were you, is just ask him. Best to find out from the actual source. I mean it's not like you're being like,"OMG DOES THAT MEAN WE'RE GOING OUT?!?" You're just asking a simple question about what "us" meant. The next time you're talking to him, whenever you're just talking, bring up your friend and then be like,"Yeah, remember whenever you said "did you tel her about us yet?".. what did you mean exactly, by that?" And just see what he says.
Like I said, it's hard to tell in this situation what he's thinking.
Whenever he said "us" he might've just meant "us" like as in you guys are best friends and he might've just been joking around being like,"Oh did you tell your friend about us being friends and she better watch her spot for "best friend"?" You know what I mean?
So like I said, the best way to go about finding out is just asking him, and he shouldn't get suspicious of anything or think something, you're just asking what a sentence he said means.
I hope I helped.
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whats a pansey or pansie how ever you spell it like when someone calls someone a pansie what does that mean (link)
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whenever someone is called a pansy, they're basically saying that that person is a scaredy cat, a wimp, etc.
like for example if someone were to be playing truth or dare, and they didn't want to do the dare, someone could be like,"stop being such a pansy."
i hope i helped.
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What does it mean when someone says XYZ online? What does is stand for? (link)
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whenever someone usually says XYZ, it means "examine your zipper" because it's open and they're telling you to zip it shut without being obvious about it.
but online?
i have no idea.
i assume it means the same thing.
i hope i helped.
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hey, well I have a boyfriend, and i love him ALOT. you couldnt amagine. I feel different about this boy, i know what you are going to say.. its not love.. ur only 15. I really do love him, i would do anything for this kid really. Lately we have been getting in a lot of fightss. [ we have been toghether for almost two months] and we always get through them.. lol. but he flirts with girls alot and i used to flirt with his best friend but i dont anymore.. i didnt mean to.. he still does and i can feel like i cant trust him that much anymore.. i dont know i can .. but i get worried.. i get paranoied sometimes but hey.. its not my fault should we break up?? please help
xoxo muah* (link)
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That's good you realize it's not your fault. Sometimes with girlfriends they think that because their boyfriends flirting with other girls, that there's something wrong with them ; they have some tpye of fault, and it's driving their boyfriend away, which isn't the case at all.
I would have a serious talk with your boyfriend and let him know what you're feeling. Just be like,"I love you, and you know I love you, but lately, I've been having trust issues with you. Now I'm not looking for a fight, cause I really hate it whenever we fight, but I really think we just need to talk about this. I notice you flirt with girls alot, and I know, I used to do it too, but I really care about you and I've stopped, and it just bugs me whenever you do it. Cause you're an amazing guy and I'm just so worried, you know? You just need to stop with the flirting."
If he gets into an argument about it, which he shouldn't, that makes him kind of a jerk. All you're asking is for him to stop flirting with other girls WHILE he's dating you. But he honestly might now realize it ; he may be a natural flirt. Now I know this isn't an excuse and everything, but it makes it slightly less bad cause he may just be flirting and not realize.
But he sounds like a nice boyfriend so I'm sure he'll understand your concerns and re-assure you that he loves you, and he'll try his best to stop flirting with all the other girls, and I'm sure everything'll turn out just fine. You guys just need to be able to communicate with eachother more and let eachother know what you're thinking & feeling. This is a vital key within every relationship cause if you don't sit there and let them know something's bothering you or what you're thinking and feeling, the relationship can turn mighty ugly.
I hope I helped.
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So I'm a huge fan of the band Tenacious D, and my younger Brother thinks they're pretty awesome too. But Because of all the cursing, out parents don't want him listining to them. I came to the agreement that if i could find songs by JB that did'nt have that kind of language he could listen to it, so Does anyone know any.
I just need to know the names (link)
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Well I personally don't listen to them so I won't be able to list songs for you, but does he have a CD or anything? Because when there's explicit versions of CDs, that's whenever they make edited versions that bleep out the bad language so he could still listen to the songs, but his parents would be alright with it.
Just try searching for clean versions of Jack Black's music and see what comes up. I'm definetely sure you'll find something, because whenever most CD's come out, I think they'll automatically make a clean version along with them for the younger kids.
I hope I helped.
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i need your help please read this.
ok so my friend was doing drugs and my mom and dad found out. so now they wont let me hang with her anymore. she doesnt do them anymore b/c her parents found out and she is now in rehab. so any advice to convince my parents to let me hang out with her is much appreciated. thanks in advance!!! (link)
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Do your parents know she's recieving help?
If they don't, let them know. Just be like,"Mom, Dad, I know you don't want me hanging out with ___ anymore because she was into drugs, but she's getting better now and she's getting help and trying to remain sober. Once she gets out of rehab, after awhile if she's not into drugs or anything, do you think I could still hang out with her? She really is a nice person and everything, and she's a really good friend. And she's honestly trying." And just be honest with your parents and let them know how you feel and how much you want to be her friend and let them know the good qualities about her.
And over time, I'm not sure if you can visit people in rehab, like I don't know if that might effect the "sober" process or whatever you want to call it, but if you can visit her and talk to her, bring your parents along. Let them see with their eyes that she honestly is getting better and have her talk with them and let them know,"Look, I'm trying really hard. It's not an easy thing. But I am a really nice person once you get to know me, and I'd really like to be friends with your daughter still after I get out."
And just see what happens.
And it's best not to bother them with it because they're just being parents who are concerned for you, so just give them time to think about this and make a decision.
I hope I helped.
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I don't know if this is in the right category but anyways. I'm 14/f and I'm bi but I'm not out yet. But my 90% of my friends are gay or bi. But anywhos, I don't wanna come out anytime soon because I'm just not comfortable enough to say I'm bi. But getting to the point. There's this girl...let's call her jane. Well, she's a grade level above me and I really like her. We basically met through our good friend who is gay. But that's not the point. I don't know if she's bi or not. It seems like she has a little interest in girls. But I'm not sure. She gave me an unexpected hug today saying I was great with theorchestra (and oh my, no one cares about the orchestra so that comment was a shocker)
I don't know. I really like her and wanna go out with her but I don't know if she's bi or if she's even interested. Maybe she's just friendly. But I need to know if she is bi or not and if she likes me and what not. I was thinking about making a fake screen name and asking her and telling her that a certain girl likes her..blah blah. Is that a good idea? I'm willing to talk online with anyone who gives me their screen name!! (link)
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That sounds like a good idea, just don't even let your friends know in on that plan though, cause if you even tell one person or if someone finds out who you are, they're probably going to say something to her, and then she'll know you like her ( this is just knowing people from experience and the way the handle gossip, haha ).
But also I think you should just ask her friend who introduced the two of you. Just be like,"I was just wondering, is she bisexual?" And see what her friend asks. And I don't think your friend'll question you, because that could just be an honest question coming from you. I've asked my friends before if a person's bi or straight or what, and they never accused me of liking them or being bisexual ( well, i'm not and they know that but you get the point ).
But sooner or later if you do come out to your friends ( and that's good you'll be able to come out to friends who understnad unlike most would and they'd make a deal out of it ), then you could just tell her and see how she handles it. If you ntoice then she's giving you more attention and is flirting with you, then she may be bi, and she was just afraid to act upon her feelings.
So just take one of those ideas and see how itg oes.
Good luck, and I hope I helped!
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