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friend!!
i need your help please read this.
ok so my friend was doing drugs and my mom and dad found out. so now they wont let me hang with her anymore. she doesnt do them anymore b/c her parents found out and she is now in rehab. so any advice to convince my parents to let me hang out with her is much appreciated. thanks in advance!!!
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You should have your parents and her parents get together and talk about this. Tell them why you still want to hang out with *her*
If that doesn't work...tell your parents that you would never do drugs and if *her* starts again will tell an adult right away.
If that also doesn't work, ask your parent if you can hang out with *her* after rehab.
If nothing I have said before works then tell them you are totally responsible and would never take drugs
HOPED I HELPED
*Flaggal*
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You might consider trying to arrange for the parents to meet - yours and hers. Naturally, your parents are concerned about you and don't want you hanging out with someone who is involved with drugs. If they can see that she also has responsible parents who are doing everything they can for their child, then maybe they will relax a bit.
However, you're going to have to live with the fact that your parents will not entirely trust her. Don't expect to be able to go stay out late with her or anything like that. Basically, you're going to have to be completely on the level and make efforts to avoid even the appearance of doing anything wrong.
You will need to tell your friend, in the presence of both sets of parents, that you will not cover for her if she should backslide (tell your friend in advance that this is your position). And you have to really mean it! Essentially, you will promise to rat on your friend if you catch her getting high, and she has to know that you really will do it and that this is fair warning. If she's sobered up now, she must realize that her life could be at risk and that you will be looking out for her, not trying to get her in trouble. Finally, tell them that you don't think it's right to abandon your friend just because she's made bad decisions, especially since she is now trying to correct them.
This will be a big responsibility for you, by the way. You may need to serve as a positive example. It goes without saying that you need to avoid any "experimenting" yourself if you are to help your friend out; that goes for even the minor-league stuff, like pot or alcohol. It's possible that YOU might be able to handle dabbling in such things a little, but a person in rehab cannot and must not be tempted.
I hope you can succeed, because I think your friend will need people like you. Good luck.
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Your parents are right to be concerned, as it is clear that when a friend does drugs, it is more likely that the other friend (you) may too. However, since you said that she has stopped and if she is serious about getting/staying clean, explain to your parents that you are trying to be there for a friend and help her through this time. I too had a friend on drugs and tried to be there for her, I was not successful, but that doesn't mean that you can't be. Voice your concerns with your parents and don't give them a reason not to trust you. Good luck.
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explain to them that she is getting help and that she hasn't pressured you into doing the drugs. lots of my friends smoke but they have never tried to get me to do it. have a talk with them.
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Do your parents know she's recieving help?
If they don't, let them know. Just be like,"Mom, Dad, I know you don't want me hanging out with ___ anymore because she was into drugs, but she's getting better now and she's getting help and trying to remain sober. Once she gets out of rehab, after awhile if she's not into drugs or anything, do you think I could still hang out with her? She really is a nice person and everything, and she's a really good friend. And she's honestly trying." And just be honest with your parents and let them know how you feel and how much you want to be her friend and let them know the good qualities about her.
And over time, I'm not sure if you can visit people in rehab, like I don't know if that might effect the "sober" process or whatever you want to call it, but if you can visit her and talk to her, bring your parents along. Let them see with their eyes that she honestly is getting better and have her talk with them and let them know,"Look, I'm trying really hard. It's not an easy thing. But I am a really nice person once you get to know me, and I'd really like to be friends with your daughter still after I get out."
And just see what happens.
And it's best not to bother them with it because they're just being parents who are concerned for you, so just give them time to think about this and make a decision.
I hope I helped.
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