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I have this problem, I really like having guy friends, and I can do stuff around them, like be my stupid self, and they can act the same. But if I start dating one of them, I get all shy. I hate this. What can I do to change it? (link)
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Rememeber you were friends first. They all like the way you are so why change? The person your with wants you for you and if you act differently it will make them think differently about you. Be yourself. Live life to the fullest.
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Me & my friends played a prank on this girl in my school that was picking on me, and she turned us in. Yesterday, I wasn't in school and the guidance conselor called all my friends down to the office, turns out EVERYONE was sayen I did it, even my best friends. I did do most of it, but not all of it. & I admitted to it. Are they real friends? (link)
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Confrontation with friends usually resolves certain issues. Tell them how you feel about what they said and that they should have stepped up as friends. Your true friends will admit and apologize. The others will run.
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This is an odd situation. Just for a little background info, I have a boyfriend. I've been dating him for over a year. Valentine's day will be 15 months.
Okay, I just got the lead in the school musical, and I have a love interest (duh). My love interest is a guy half the girls in the choir have had a crush on (except me, lol). That isn't really the point, just a bit of background.
My problem is this: We rehearsed, and we ended up practicing a scene in which we kiss. I didn't feel bad about it yesterday, but today I feel like...awkward, and wrong, and like I was cheating on my boyfriend, but it wasn't me that consented to the kiss, it was my character. My boyfriend knows about the scene, but he doesn't know we actually kissed yet. I was gonna talk to him about it today but he didn't come to school.
The thing is, the director thinks stage kisses look fake, and refuses to use fake kisses. So it was real. But I feel soooo bad about it. I shouldn't, because I have no feelings for the guy, but I do.
Any advice for me? (link)
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Sorry I did misinterpret what you said. Basically you are feeling bad about kissing this guy because you feel like your cheating on your boyfriend. Don't! If your boyfriend is an understanding guy than he will know that you love him and when you are acting on stage let him know that you'll be thinking of him.
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my boyfriend asked me to makeout with him and i dont want to but i dont know the right way to tell him and he keeps asking me what should i say that woudlnt hurt him??? (link)
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Communication is very important in a relationship. it's important for you to tell him how and why you feel that you don't want to make out with him. if he cares about you enough he'll understand.
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i know this guy really really well im good friends with him and there arent really "any other guys" if you saw my school you'd understand haha but i made this guy sound really bad he's not as bad as he sounds (link)
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It's not me you need to convince about this guy. It's yourself. If you see the good in him them cultivate that and work from there. just remember to see yourself with this guy years from now whwthet it's friendship or more and if he's worth being or hanging with. This is a decision you need to make and realize if this person is worth having in your life or are they and will they continue to bring you down.
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Hello. Im asking advice today for a stupid little problem i have, but im not sure if there is any way i could control it. If im in school, or with my friends, or whatever (by the way im 14), when they mention "mom" or "dad", or "family", my eyes start to water and i just about cry. Not the "WAA-WAA" kind, it is just the red face, tears coming down and stuff, no squeaking or any of that crazy stuff. I cant say anything about parents or anything. When i talk about my family when someone asks, my voice gets shaky and i choke, and it makes me very uncomfortable because crying in front of the class isnt really a fun interest. I cry because my family has...problems. I just feel like i want either them or me to die. I feel like i hate them so much. Its not some "im mad at them because they took away my cell phone" kind of thing. Its more of a love issue. Im seeing a therapist but that is not working, she's not changing them. Well, in a nutshell, whenever someone talks about their parents, and when i talk about mine, i cry. Umm, i hope someone can help me with this, if its possible. Thank you. (link)
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First of all no problem is stupid. It's just complicated. You are going through a struggle in your life that is hard for you to cope with. Some people try to put a wall of misery around them to null the pain. You have to look at the positve things in your life like your friends. Next you have to be happy with yourself. Maybe there is a best friend of yours that you can talk to. Sometimes therapist have a way of psycho- analyzing and trying to tell you what to do. Maybe you should try talking to your parents yourself to let them know what you are struggling with. Changes should be made by you not them. If they are not willing to accept you for that then focus what you need to do to keep builiding your life and head towards a positve future. Take advantage of the positive resources you have now like your friends and other family members you feel you can trust and be there for you. Crying is just releasing the pain you are feeling. It's better to cry and release then hold and botlle up inside and break you.
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I just want to know when it is the right time to tell him my feelings? I know deep in my heart i am in love with this man. At the same time i am scared to tell him how i feel because, i don't know how he feels about me in that way any way. I am afraid to tell him because i dont want him to get scared and leave the relationship. At the same time it is killing me not to tell him. (link)
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Sometimes we are scared to tell people what we feel because we are afraid of the reaction we get from them. Yet you know if you've invested time and love into this person they would understand that already. When you do tell him and if he reacts diffrently ask yourself if he is really the "one." The right person willknow and respond back knowing that you are the "one."
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Hi,
I was wondering if anyone knew of a brand of women's stick/solid deodorant or antiperspirant that won't melt in the heat. I usually use Tom's of Maine, but it melts. I want a stick to shove in my trunk for when I spend the night out unexpectedly. I tried rock deodorant, but it doesn't do anything for me.
I live in place that gets to be about 120 degrees Fahrenheit in the summer, plus humidity.
Thanks.
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It's true that other deodorants are made that won't melt but we need tgo take into consideration what you are use to. The best way to do it is stick the deodorant in your purse and keep it ready for you for when you get ready to leave. It's better to put it on indoors than to have people watching you put in on in your car.
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my boyfriend is really sweet and thoughtful of what he does. so before he kissed me, he asked if it would be ok. and i said it would. so now he wants to kiss me. but the only thing is...it's my first kiss and i don't know how. please help. it might sound kinda stupid but i need to know how. thanks in advance! (link)
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The best way to learn is to actually watch people do it. Sometimes on television or if any of your friends that you trust are kissing their boyfriends can give you a demonstation. The best thing to do is be honest with your boyfriend and see if he can help show you, if he hasn't before than you two can watch your friends and practice. The first kiss is important but not the crucial one. It's the tender ones you cultivate and you will know which ones are those.
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my top lip is bigger than my bottom lip. i dont know what to do about it and idont want to get surgery done because im only 14 years old. and im sorry but i am not going to the doctors either. so any advice on making my top lip a little bit smaller? thanks (link)
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Be happy for what you've been given. Don;t look at this in a negtive manner but more in a positve one. Tell everyone that your lip is as sweet as you are that's why it's big for sweeter kisses.
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Ok i like this girl and shes soo freekin fine..i want to ask her out but i dont have the balls to...cause i dont even think she likes me..i mean were friends and all but i think that if i do and she says no that, that could mess up our relationship...what should i do? (link)
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The question you need to ask yourself is that do you like her because she's fine or does she have more to offer. If it is more than you as a friend are obligated to show her that and make her realize that you are the right guy. Don't be afarid because fear can make you lose self-confidence. Let her know how you feel and give her reasons why you think you would be good together. Flowers and candy are sometimes good initatives to add to the conversation when you make her feel like it's worth it.
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IM 14 yrs old and i have a pretty bad life. Im not suicidal or anything. Ive had a pretty bad past. My brother andrew hurts me he will kick me in the stomach and ribs and yell at me and it got so bad my mom called the cops. He threatend me and my moms life. I called him in detention (kids jail) and he said there was nothing to be said to me and he wants nothing to do with me and he will never find away to forgive me or forget. Now he is being senet away. my mom is never home. I told her we need some serious talking to do and we need to talk It took a long time to come out of that shell and tell her that. She just told me she has to go to her boyfriends house. I was shocked. She leaves me for her BOYFRIEND. When her own daughter needs help! I was in treatment i was sent away for 5 months. Nothing really changed over that. Im not a virgin the only reason why is because i feel thats the only thing that makes me feel wanted. Just to be "loved" for that period of time. I was thinking of the long run. Now my friend offered me to live with her for as long as i needed. To sort things out. Me and my friend had some pretty ruff times we actually we're best friends but i screwed up and that ended it but she was still there for me. So she offered a home for me. Shes not into that stuff sex, drugs, or drinking. Im trying to get away from that but its hard. Like i said... i feel like i belong then. SO how do i tell my mom that i want to just not leave her but i need a break. For a bit. my friend said that we could get both of our moms together and me and her would sit down and we would talk it out. I dont want my mom to think she is a bad mother i just need a "mother" figure there for me that i can talk to. And wont leave on me when i need help. So help me please. This is and maybe a change of life. (link)
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Sometimes we are afraid to escape our current lives to see what is truly out there for us. It's amazing that you have such a friend who cares for you like this. Communication is very important in relationships when it comes to family. You are not telling your mom you don't lve her by doing this, you are just telling her that you want to better your life and thsi may be the way to do it. Don't give up on yourself but take your mistakes in life as learning lessons to better who you are as a person. The best thing about you is you have that right to make that choice. Let it be the right one. Do what will make you a better person and that will add and multiply to your life. You don't need to sleep with people to accept you. Your best friend accepts you and one day there will be the right guy who will accept you for you. Believe in yourself and others will as well. You know what is right so just do it.
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okay so i like this guy and we hang out alot and when we do i always feel relaxed and feel confertable but when ever we hold hands or sumthin my hand always start to sweat! and i dont kno wut to do! its gross! i mean im embarrased to like hold hands with him now! wut can i do? (link)
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This is a good chance to turn a negative into a positive. First tell him why you are afarid sometimes to hold his hand, then tell him because he makes you hot. He won't be grossed out but happy that he can get you like that. where you go from there is up to you.
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well.. im now 15 and im srating to be i guess u could say more."active" with guys and i really want to get rid of the hair "down there" and i shave it all off but when i do even if i use a lot of shaving creme and a good razor it leaves razor bumbs and bleeds and then theres stubbles the next day!! so should i try to wax.. i mean i would but i don't want my mom know and if i aske dher to buy me wax she would ask why? anyways i need some good advice on the best way to make it smoothe (link)
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there are other products that they sell that can be less irriating. Otherwise get a part time job and go get waxed.
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I'm pregnant but I don't know if the guy I'm with is the father. I cheated on him with my ex, along the sametime as I got pregnant. What do I do? Do I tell him that he might not be the father?... he's gunna freak!!!! and how do I tell my mother I'm pregnant.. and I don't know who my baby's daddy is? (link)
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Honesty is the best policy. If you hide this secret it may come back on you. You need to think about yourself and your child. i don't know how your mother is but if she is like mothers should be (supportive) she will help you. Your no longer a child, you are ressponsible for your actions so act grown up, take responsibility and start building your life.
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Okay there is this guy I like ALOT, and all of my friends are like he likes you too! and i was all excited about it and today one of his friends walked up to me and was like are you mad at him? and i was like no why would i be? and he was like ohh and so me and my friend were like well if he thinks im mad at him i should be right? so me and her wrote this fake note and it was like hey... man im so mad at him how could he be so childish i thought he was more mature than that... and at the end of the note it said -lol- jk im not really mad at him. but he didnt get to the end of the letter and he looked like he was going to cry, and he folded up the note and threw it at us and he sat there silently for like 45 minutes and when the bell rung he usually has this posse of pple surrounding him and today it was just him and his best friend and his friend was like dude we were just joking about you being mad at him and now you really are? and i was like no we were joking too and he was like well than go explain that to him and he just looked at me like i was stupid and said "and you expect me to belivev that i read that note i mean if you're mad than why dont you say something, i mean what was i thinking liking you i knew you didnt really like me..." and i was like wait yes i do and he kept walking! how can i make this up to him? please help ill give good ratings; sorry its so long! (link)
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You should find out if he has any special interests like sports or maybe favorite foods. Also cards wouldn't hurt. Also maybe just going up to him to tell him how you feel wouldn't hurt. The more you prolong it the more distant he will be.
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I hang out with a big group of friends who used to be really nice. My boyfriend and I split up and now our whole group of friends is kind of split down the middle. I don't talk to my ex and he doesn't talk to me and it's really uncomfortable. I still have friends there but I find being around my ex hard and most people there seem bitchy now. I would go and make new friends but there isn't really anyone else that I get along with or click with. What should I do? (link)
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Sometimes you need to confront people to make them understand the issue at hand. Your relationship with your boyfriend has nothing to do with your friendships. It should not come between you all. Make them understand just because the relationship between you and your ex is not there doesn't mean your frienship should die. Let them understand that it didn't work out but that you don't feel uncomfortable around them so why should they feel uncomfortable you.
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I know this might make me sound desperate but here I go. Sorry if its long too. Well on Friday night me and my boyfriend got into a fight because he pretended some chick named Kayla called him and told him I was cheating on him, so I called him stupid because he wouldn't believe me. Later on that night he told me that he was joking and none of it was true and he made it up just so he could find how much I really loved him, and he broke up with me. But, of course we started dating about 10 mins after that. On Saturday he called and asked if I called him and hung up, which I didn't so then hes like ok whatever bye (Apparently he didn't believe me) & hung up. So I called him back to see what was up with that, and he was being mean so I hung up. Then he called me back and hung up, and I did the same and so on and so on. We did this for like 5 times each. Then he called me back after I hung up with him that one last time and said it was over. Does that even sound normal?? Is he an idiot or what? Also, what's a fast way to get over him. Because he meant allot to me, and if he asked me out right now I'd probably say yes, and I don't want to because it makes me look way desperate. THANKS (link)
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Sometimes people are overwhelmed with insecurity. It seems as if he has trust issues and questions you on your way of life. The question you need to ask yourself is can you see yourself with this person for a long period of time. Does this person make you a better person and vice versa. If you are not happy now are you ever going to be happy. If not here then somewhere else. Date and see if there is someone who will be with you for you if it's not going to be him.
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Hi, I'm a 14 year old, girl Freshman. Recently this guy moved to my school. He is a Senior and he rides my bus on the way to school and from school. After a few weeks of being here, he started to talk to me. He got me to write him notes and I only like him as a friend. But quickly after that he began asking personal questions like, "Are you a virgin?", "What have you done with guys?", or "Do you want another guy to do that to you?" He doesn't want me to go out with any other guy. He wants me to go out with him. It is getting really annoying. He is the most perverted guy I have ever met and everytime I wear a skirt he is always peeking up it! I can't stand him! Now he wants me to sit in the back of the bus in the morning so he can do stuff or whatever. I said, "No!" of course and made up an excuse. Then yesterday he told me to skip 3rd and 6th period at school so he can 'do' me ith the bathroom. I am only a virgin and he is 18 I think! I don't know what to do. I tell my guyfriends and they say 'smack him', but I'm not violent.
Please help! This guy is so annoying. I don't like him anyway. He does drugs, smokes, and drinks. He is not my type and he has sex with all these girls! I don't want to have sex until I am WAY older! What should I do? Will this turn into something bad later? Thanks for the help! (link)
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If you feel violated by what this guy is doing then you need to tell someone. If he sits in the back you need to start sitting in the front of the bus. But if he keeps bothering you, tell a supervisor. Don't let him scare you. Take action.
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about a month ago, i asked how to tell my best guy friend of 7 years Fredo that his evil blood-sucking cant-wait-till-the-full-moon vampiress of a girlfriend Lupitalili was going to dump him. the advice was great and it all went well, but now i have a new dilemma: i just recently realized that i have the HUGEST crush on him! what he hell do i do? this is a different kind of crush because we're really good friends...JUST really good friends (who by the way established that with each other and everyone else a couple of years ago). if i tell him, he wont totally freak out like maybe other guys, but things will defenitly be different, and i cant risk our friendship. telling other guys i like them is one thing, BUT THERE'S A TRUE FRIENDSHIP AT STAKE! I cant just hide my feelings for him either, because, like i said, this crush is just...different somehow. what do i do? there's also a whole bunch of girls who are like in love with him.i always thought of him as a brother who i couldnt love anymore even if he really was MY OWN FLESH AND BLOOD. having a crush on him changed a lot of things going on in my mind and will change a lot more on everyone else's. what do i do? (link)
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Sometimes it's hard to be around people who we want to be with so much. Distance is the key. Don't disappear completely, but make yourself a bit gone for a while. If he questions it, then you'll be able to tell him and see what his reaction would be. If he doesn't make a move than you know he doesn't really care and you can concentrate on your life in finding someone who will appreciate you. Now if you are someone who can't stay away from him , then tell him now and let him tell you how he feels. Let him know if he doesn't feel the same that's fine but you still want to cultivate the friendship.
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