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when to tell my feelings
I just want to know when it is the right time to tell him my feelings? I know deep in my heart i am in love with this man. At the same time i am scared to tell him how i feel because, i don't know how he feels about me in that way any way. I am afraid to tell him because i dont want him to get scared and leave the relationship. At the same time it is killing me not to tell him.
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Sometimes we are scared to tell people what we feel because we are afraid of the reaction we get from them. Yet you know if you've invested time and love into this person they would understand that already. When you do tell him and if he reacts diffrently ask yourself if he is really the "one." The right person willknow and respond back knowing that you are the "one."
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thats the same for me..like you have the fear of rejection or something..but you have to tell him..just make sure you say something if hes like not talking to you or something kind of ruining your friendship
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You may not ever find a 'perfect time', but you can probably come pretty close to it - anywhere that isn't in a toilet or while he's watching an important football match would be good, lol!
It doesn't matter when you tell him, as long as you do. He might say yes, he might say no, but at least you won't be left asking, 'what if...?'. Just don't lay it on too heavy all at once, or you might scare him away. Start by asking him out for coffee or dinner - the 'L' word tends to freak guys out!! :P
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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To be completely honest, it worries me that you aren't more secure about this. I get the feeling that you want to tell him this only to hear it back. Take a deep breath and let the relationship take it's course. If you are with the right person, you shoudn't worry so much about him leaving the relationship.
Well if you think you are just both thinking the same thing, then don't be afraid to tell him! But just say it casually like, "I love spending time with you!" If he scares easily,then a casual approach is probably best. GOOD LUCK!
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First, I see a tiny problem here. Unless it's a friendship (and I'm guessing it's not), what kind of a relationship are you in that the guy's going to be "scared," or worse, "leave," if emotion gets expressed?
It sounds like already you're giving the guy a bit too much freedom if you're letting him get away with not treating your relationship seriously enough to be ready to deal with something like this. So before you go dropping the bomb, take a while to work on things with the two of you and get your relationship to the point where it's a serious issue - where the two of you are both admittedly in it for the goal of finding love. If he doesn't want to do that, then there's definitely no way he's deserving of your love (and probably doesn't feel the same way about you) and you should consider letting him go.
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Well I really think you should tell him. I know that I went threw that once and I never told the guy and now he has moved on. All because I was afraid of what he might have thought. So that was a big mistake right there. So I really think you should tell him. From you saying you love him with all your heart and stuff, it seems like he has to be a very great guy. So go out there and take a chance babe and see! I would love to know how this turns out so let me know.
-hanna <3
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I read this one time in an advice column... a girl wrote and said "we've been dating for x number of months, when should I say I love you?" the reply was "when you are saying, I love you too"
get it? It's hard when you care about someone so much, but it freaks the guys out. So just let your caring actions lead you and he will know that you care and eventually realize that you are an outstanding chick!
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