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I'm pregnant but I don't know if the guy I'm with is the father. I cheated on him with my ex, along the sametime as I got pregnant. What do I do? Do I tell him that he might not be the father?... he's gunna freak!!!! and how do I tell my mother I'm pregnant.. and I don't know who my baby's daddy is?
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Honesty is the best policy. If you hide this secret it may come back on you. You need to think about yourself and your child. i don't know how your mother is but if she is like mothers should be (supportive) she will help you. Your no longer a child, you are ressponsible for your actions so act grown up, take responsibility and start building your life.
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someone should hurt you badly you 2 cent slut.. you should be living on the streets... with those hooker boots... your a lieing cheating slut and no one should feel sympathy for you.. go sit in a hole.. no one should have to live with whorey sluts like you!
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You're in a bad situation, but if you don't explain it to everyone involved, you're putting everyone else into a bad situation too.
Your mother needs to know you're pregnant so she can help you with arranging medical care - the sooner you see a doctor regularly the better. How best to tell her? Only you know her. Some options are taking her out for a meal, telling her at home, writing a letter, etc. As for not knowing who the father is, everyone involved needs to know.
It's not the best thing to not know who the father of a baby is, but it's better for your baby if you sort it out now. A child deserves to know where they came from. It might mean you have a rough time at the start with everyone involved - but once you decide to have a baby, your priorities have to change. Everything needs to be about the baby.
Talk to a doctor about your options. A simple test done when the baby is born will accurately tell you who the father is. A doctor can also pinpoint when you conceived - so if you have records of the weeks you were with the other guy, etc, you might be able to sort things out before the birth.
Be strong, do the right thing for your baby and yourself, and remember that you aren't alone. Try to find some young mums groups in your area, or attend classes for expecting younger women.
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Well if i was in your situation, if you love your boyfriend, and you think he'll be there for you and your baby, don't tell him you cheated on him.It will just hurt him, and you should do whats best for the baby.
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As much as your boyfriend will freak, you can't keep this from him. You also should think about telling your ex.. Get a DNA test to figure out who the dad is, at least that will clear things up. It may be hard as well, but you have to tell your parents, they may be supportive and try and help you with a few things.. All of this sounds very hard to do, but the advice I'll give you for that is to be strong.. it will take a lot to take care of this baby after it's born so you'll need all the support and help you can get. Getting a job, or getting your boyfriend to get a job is a very good idea..
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Well at least your 18. Cuz then she cant freak out on you because you are old enough. I guess I would persoanally tell i would wait till the baby is born then get a test thing done DNA or whatever and see who the babys daddy is. And if its the x i would tell your man-trix
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Normally I would give a nice, thoughtful answer.
But to this, all I have to say is: You're fucking stupid. Way to go.
I know you didn't ask this question to hear that, but it's all I can say.
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get a DNA test done so you know who the babys dad is..you have to tell him that it might not be his..yeah its bad but you have to tell him..for your mom sit down with her like say mom i think im pregnant..she will understand
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Well, you have to tell your boyfriend that he may not be the father. You should apologize for cheating on him and you MUST keep saying that it was stupid, you were being stupid, it should have never happened, you were an idiot, etc. You can actually get early paternity tests while your still pregnant. I'm not 100% sure about how many months pregnant you have to be to tell, but you can always go to the doctor to find out. And telling your mother is going to be hard. It will be a let down for her and she will be disappointed, also, you're 18 years old which means that you are a legal for everything but drinking, so she really can't force you to do anything about it. You have to tell her oyu made a mistake, because it was. We all make mistakes but some are just bigger than others. A baby just happens to be the biggest mistake but for most people, the best mistake ever. You need to talk to your boyfriend and tell him what you did. And if you say "You know I love you right?" He'll automatically know you cheated on him, because that's what everyone says. Everyone. Sit him down and say I have to confess something, I made a mistake and I regret doing it and I wish I could take it back but I can't, but the baby may not be yours. It will hurt to say it. You have to keep apologizing over and over that you're sorry. But as for your mother, she will be disappointed in you but I'm sure at the same time, she should be happy because a baby is a blessing. I really hope everything turns out great for you. And good luck with everything. Hope this helped.
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OK - firstly, don't panic :) Everything will be OK, you've just gotta think calmly about this. If you don't want to tell your current boyfriend that the baby may not be his, don't yet. Either try and work out who's it is or get an DNA test (your's and the ex's DNA, if he consents).
Do you have to tell your mother you're pregnant? Like, do you want to or do you have to because you live with her or whatever? If you don't have to, then wait until you're ready. If you live with her, she'll obviously notice lol, then you don't have to tell her that you don't know who the father is. Telling her you're pregnant is big enough news!
Lastly, I'd just like to say how brave you are and how strong you must be to be keeping this baby! Most people at 18 would have an abortion and have no second thoughts over it. I think you'll make a brilliant mum, so no worries there :)
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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You need to tell your mom, she has the right to know, your her daughter. She'll probably be upset at frist, but she'll get over and it will start being there for you. As for your boyfriend, tell him that you cheated on him and there might be a chance that he might not be the father. If he really loves you he'll still be there every step of the way. You also need to tell your ex, that he might be the father. Once the baby is born, it'll be best for you to take a DNA test to find out who the baby's real father is.
♥ Krissy
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alright ... you need to tell everybody whats going on before you start freaking out... you need to confront your current boyfriend and tell him you cheated on him ((he should no any way even if your not pregnant)) and then you need to tell your ex that you might be pregnant and it might be his child.. then deal with your mom ... if she loves youo (( im sure she does))) she will help you through it, shell probally be upset but who wouldnt ... so0o0 you need to let thruth out before someone makes a comitment to your baby, when its not even thier child.
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