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&Hearts; Lauren
So its almost my sweet sixteen && i have no idea what i want to do for it. I havent had a bday party kinda thing in over 5 years. I wana do something fun && cool but most of my friends would just wana drink for my bday && stuff like that..
Any ideas on what to do!?
Maybe you should invite different friends that don't want to drink if it's that much of a problem.
You could go walk on the beach at night after a party, if it's safe in your area
Hire a DJ and have a party in your backyard or basement
Stay overnight at a hotel
See a movie
Go to a restaurant
Or all of the above!
Whatever you wanna do, just make it something to remember for the rest of your life that you can look back on and be able to say "Remember the time..." etc. Maybe you could go out of state just to go do something stupid like throw a coin into a wishing well... lol. Stupid... but fun. Or maybe you could go to a concert? Something you'll never forget! Or maybe if you have your friends sleep over at the hotel you should top the night off with truth or dare questions like this:
Dare-"Pretend to have an orgasm."
Truth-"Did you ever feel attracted to a member of the same gender?"
Happy sweet sixteen and have fun!
&Hearts; Lauren
well like the last time i got my period was december.
but i also lost like 30 pounds since sept.
could that be why?
cos like im not anorexic, so why is my period gone and when will i get it back?
Periods are irregular for the first couple of years since you have your first period. Also... dieting throws the regularity cycle off. So maybe try to fix that.
Good luck!
There's really not much else to say about it...
~ Hope I helped
&Hearts; Lauren
I really want to find the name of this song and who it's by.
It starts out with a girl rapping and then a guy starts to sing. He says something about her being out of his league in the chorus and then the girl raps through out the song.
I really need to know!
Please help!
I think you mean She's Like The Wind by Lumidee... maybe not??
Hope that helps!
&Hearts; Lauren
okay so im 15 yrs old, female, 5'3 and weigh almost 110 pounds. my family and friends tell me im perfect. but i really dont believe them.
for a while me and one of my bestt friends went belimic for a while. like a long couple of months. but then after mega results we stopped knowing it was WAYY wrong. then we just started exercizing regurally and eating better but then every now and then i get this HUGEE urge to puke up what i just ate. usually i overcum that urge by working out but sumtimes it just takes over.
i know its wrong. but it just feels so right after. it just really gets to me fast. i think i need to lose wieght again adn i dont know what to do. please jsut give me a few alternet things to do other then pursue this bad and VERYY nastyy habit. like tips or ideas to lose weitght fast but not wrong. thank you for caring. :]]
Sorry but you don't need to lose weight. You're underweight actually for a 5'3, 15 year old girl. Keep in mind that, Belimic girls have throat damage later. REALLY BAD! So I would definately stop if I were you. Later it will damage your galbladdar (what makes you throw up) and your vocal chords. So think of that and more future health problems whenever you feel an urge, 'kay? Another thing that might help you would be to develop a new hobby or something. Eat grapefruit to stay healthy (it burns 10 calories a grapefruit and keep in mind that one pound is 3500 calories) and stay away from carb diets. They're un-safe, risky, and harder. If you puke it all up, you'll be skinny for the time-being but later it will catch up to you. When you don't eat your cells build together because the disgestive system gets confused and has to build together to stay at a good weight. Since it's confused it stores together fat cells until you start eating again and it takes longer to get back to a healthy weight. So don't risk that happening, m'kay?
Stay away from sugar because it builds up fat. But one dieting myth is the fact that if you eat foods late at night you'll get fatter. Not true! So enjoy your healthy weight and if you absolutely MUST feel free to use those tips.
Hope I helped
&Hearts; Lauren
I am so shy and really nice to everyone at school. i go out of my way to makes others happy everyday. The other day i found out that people were calling me a slut and saying that i flaunt myself too much. I have 38Ds and i am 14. it's not that easy to hide them!!!! It doesn't make it any better that in gym we have to swim. I don't get how people can call me a slut when i haven't had one boyfriend or had my actual first kiss
Pfft...
Jealous girls make me sick. That's who they are. So don't worry and DON'T try to hide them! If you got it, flaunt it, hun. Don't care what they think, be who you want! They're just jealous. So ignore them or even embrace the comments if you want because you know, they're not true. Just look them straight in the eye and say "Stand aside or follow." 'Cause you did nothing wrong! You know the truth so who cares what they think? There's this girl at my school, Molly. And she's insanely jealous of me and it drives her crazy and she acts so weird by it, it's amusing. So be glad you have something to be jealous of and let them go through their phases, lol. It will pass.
Hope I helped
&Hearts; Lauren
Im 5'3 and weigh 130 Some of my friends will be like yah ur kinda fat and i try to let it go but it really hurts. I have tried to go on diets and work out but what ever i lose i gain back like double it sucks I FEEL SO FAT! PLEASE HELPO ME!
Too fat!
Hun, you're not fat! Your body is perfectly porportioned and you're not overweight so don't worry. Your friends are just comparing you to them, alright? So there's nothing to worry about. And it's normal for girls to compare themselves to their friends etc. because they don't know what to think of themselves. So they base their opinion on what other girls look like. So don't try to change your weight or anything else about you that they won't accept. It's their problem. What kind of friends are they if they say those things? I advise you to accept yourself as who you are and nobody else! It's okay. You can have your opinions and they can have theirs... but I think you should get some friends that would at least be honest with you in a NICE way.
Hope that helped
&Hearts; Lauren
i'm having a quiz on adverbs tomorrow
and i suck at them! i can't tell the
difference between an adverb and other
parts of speech. i can do the ones that
end in "ly" but if it doesn't end in
"ly' than i'm screwed.
how can i tell if it's an adverb? does it answer the question when or who?
Alright well don't worry! You'll be fine because I have the advice you need =)
Ok so...
An adverb is basically an adjective that describes the way someone is doing something. Like this:
"Clara walked her dog as fast as she could." The word that describes how she was walking her dog was 'fast', so that would be the adverb. Here's another
"Rick reluctantly took his information forms." The adbverb would be reluctantly because it describes the way he was taking his information forms. Try this one:
"Nancy answered all the questions on her test that she knew so she could get to her next class on time." In that sentence there wouldn't be an adverb because it doesn't mention how she did it. Notice that, on your test there MIGHT be some numbers that don't have adverbs in them so watch out for it. Here are a list of some adverbs to watch out for on your test:
Fast
Quickly
Slowly
Fairly
Reluctantly
Terribly
Poorly
Badly
Greatfully
Hesitantly
But also keep in mind that most of them MIGHT be the 'LY's so you really can't be that bad off. And even if you do bomb the test like... for example get a 30? It would only count for 3/10's of a point. And you can always bring it up, depending on how your teacher grades, and if you can retake it, retake it! Maybe go in for some extra help if my advice didn't ring any bells.
Hope I helped
And don't give yourself ulcers over it =)
&Hearts; Lauren
Dreadlocks - my latest 'craving', you could say. There's this girl in my uni who has it and it looks amazing on her.
I was just wondering how it's done...I know someone who'll do it and stuff but I wanna know how. Also, will I be able to wash my hair? And after how long will it start to get all loose and weird? And are there any negative consequences (like the 1.5 million different fleas found in Bob Marley's hair)?...
I admit I'm a hygiene freak (must wash my hair before 24 hours are over between each wash)and I just want to make sure I won't do something I will regret.
Thanks for your time.
=)
To get dreadlocks what you have to do is this:
NEVER wash your hair
When you get up in the morning try to knot your hair over and over and make it frizzy
Every day the same stuff and it's pretty gross so if you're a hygeine freak I advise you not to do it.
But if you ever change your mind once you get to a certain point you can NEVER change it! So make sure it would look good on YOU too!
I hope I helped
I`m really sick and can barely walk, but my mom won't let me stay home from school tomorrow unless I have a fever. She's letting me have the thermometer, but i have to have a fever by tomorrow. so, any help?
its the electronic kind you stick under your tongue.
Put the thermometer under a flashlight for 15 minutes
Eat soup before she takes your tempurature
Go in the bathroom && leave the shower running until it gets really hot in the room. The lower you stay, the hotter you get
Hope I helped
The shower water really works!!
♥ Lauren
I have come to the point where I cant write, concentrate, derive pleasure from anything, have difficulty remembering things, have blurred vision, eyes seriously hurt, sometimes have severe headaches, most of the time dont know what I am talking especially with my elder brother. I have nt got father and mother I live my elder brother and his wife since 6 years. I am 26/M an MBA had a successful career but now since six months things have been deteriorating. I cant bear it any more. Plz tell me the easiest way to commit suicide which hurts less and is quick and doesnt make much of a mess.
Are you kidding me??? I'm not going to give you ways to hurt yourself! I'm going to give you reasons why you shouldn't. Go ahead and rate me a 1 if you don't like them, but I don't want anyone to hurt themselves. Your life is more important than a dumb rating!
I know life is hard, but when people your age are depressed, they can't see through it. I was once but then I was glad later I didn't harm myself! Life is great, it's a gift. I know so many people who've felt suicidal. My cousin's boyfriend killed himself because she dumped him. Everyone felt TERRIBLE! And guilty. My other cousin's boyfriend felt the same way, but he didn't kill himself yet. AND one of my old best friends almost killed herself too. But let me just ask you this one question. Why do you care if it hurts? You must appreciate yourself somewhat or you wouldn't care. Don't take your life for granted, killing yourself is just as bad as killing someone else! It's a sin too. Don't do it. There are people there for you. GET HELP! Professional help. People love you.
15/f
Well, the past week has been soccer tryouts and when we ran i was always last. (and i kinda have a low self asteem) so that didn't make me feel good. and i think the only reason i made the team was because i'm a goalie, where on the team the only goalies are me and someone else. and then right now i just want a specail guy just to talk too. i mean i don't really think i want a boyfriend i just want a guy to be there for me when i'm down and just tell me i'm beautiful. and i've been stressing with school because all my friends are super smart and i kinda feel that i need to be smart too. because right now i'm like 180 out of 430 something where as my friends are all in the ranking from 80-1. and i don't know just right now i've felt unhappy almost lost. i mean i'm happy i'm on my highschool soccer team but then most the time i'm like man i hope coach doesn't make us run too hard because i suck at running. and then with the whole boys thing i feel left out cause again most my friends have a boy to call at night. and then school..ugh. but i don't even know if anyone can help. but i just feel so lost right now and unhappy and again i just don't know. so if anyone has suggestions on what to do or anything please. i'd be thankfull for any advice.
First of all, don't worry. Because you're not alone. I have a smart group of friends, myself and all they do is brag because I'm not the smartest girl in my classes. But that's beside the point. So anyway...
I'm basically in the EXACT same situation as you! I used to have a low self-esteem and it sort of depended on guys liking me or paying extra attention to me so I didn't feel as bad. But you don't need a guy! What you need is a night out to yourself. You know what I mean? Like just fun girl stuff YOU love to do. You won't have to worry about those smart girls or guys that expect you to be smart too. Maybe go to a spa, the mall, see a movie, etc. Dedicate the whole day to yourself! Maybe get your nails done or something? If you feel bad about the whole soccer agenda maybe google a couple of tips on how to improve or run faster. I'm not good at running either, so you're not alone... Lol! So basically to lift your self-esteem all ya gotta do is look in the mirror 1500 times a day and say "Damn I'm hot" 1200 times, you know?Just kidding. You just have to think about how lucky you are to be YOU and view other peoples' points of view and respect their opinions as well as your own. If you feel lost then talk to somebody. 'Cause I don't think God is planning to send a really nice boy down from Heaven to compliment you every day, Lol.
You need to go to people, don't wait for them to come to you!
~ Hope I helped, Lauren
Okay on Friday I had about 5 friends over, and well we drank a little. And everyone passed out except me and this guy. And he was kinda all over me, trying to kiss me and stuff. And I passed out and when I woke up we were cuddling I guess you could say. But now I feel totally violated. I mean, nothing happened between us that was "bad", if you will..'Cause I'm pritty sure I would remember. But I don't understand why I feel this way? 'Cause it was only cuddling right? Why do I feel like this? Is it normal? Is there something wrong with me? Help. =(
You THINK you would remember it, but you may not. My 6th grade teacher was at a party once a long time ago and she was so drunk she was passed out unconscience & vomitting. She said she doesn't remember A SINGLE THING! before then. It's pretty sad.
Only cuddling? Not necessarily. But I wasn't there so I can't tell you that. You could've been having sex as far as any of us know including yourself. It may not be the most likely possibility of them all, but consider it anyway.
You feel this way because you're practically giving yourself ulcers so don't get so worked up about it. Yeah... it's a pretty big deal and you need to get to the bottom of it but a health crisis isn't what you need at a time like this. You feel this way because you were drunk and confused, and you feel violated. I'd be worried if you didn't.
Yes these feelings are normal
And no there is nothing at all wrong with you. Just cut back on the drinking and maybe avoid that group of friends you were at the party with, sounds like a dangerous bunch. Bad influences, I mean... I'm sure they're great people and it's not fair for me to judge them by what you've said because I don't know any of them but maybe re-think the friendships there.
~ Hope I helped, Lauren
hiiii.
well i just want to know if u guys think this is okay.
well my boyfriend and i have been dating for about 2 months now. and well he tells me he love me. isnt it kind of early. i say it back but i dont know. I really doo like himm a lot i think i love him. but do u guys think we should be saying this already. plizz help me. Im confused.
Ehh... I dunno if it's true or not. No one can tell you what you feel because only you can experience it! But I think it's way too early... that's like picking out a wedding cake on the first date or something. Sorry, lol
I guess what I'm trying to say is you should probably wait to say "I love you!" because two months of dating just doesn't cover much. By that time, you know what makes each other tick, what makes them laugh, and what makes them happy. But you don't really know much else. So the next time he says it, if you feel that emotion come right out and say it! Be open. But if you're really not sure then talk to him about it. He'll understand if he really loves you, so you have nothing to prove. But... then again there are several ways to view this situation, either view it as too soon (like I did) or say that love has no time limits or goals to reach for your emotions... which also makes sense but it takes more time I would think to really fall in love. But anything can happen... but there is a big difference between liking him a lot and loving him. So think it through and make sure you know. And trust me, when you're in love you just KNOW it. You don't have to come on to advicenators to ask opinions.
~ Hope I helped, Lauren
This might seem gross but ever since i was a little girl I've had discharge and now its gotten really bad and I have a bad gross odor to it
I've had the odor since 6 maybe or even before that and I'm 14 now.
I'm afraid to douche just because I'm really uncomfortable with it and I think I should go to the gynecoligist now that I'm over 13 but I guess I've been a little self conscious about it but it something it really wrong with me I should go
Could this be an infection or a serious problem?
Wash for a little longer, but don't douche it. That can cause un-natural infections because the vagina has its own natural way of flushing the dead cells out of your body-discharge. Discharge is just a sign that you're healthy and normal and everything is working just fine! As for the odor, maybe put a little patch of deodarent on the outside of your underwear if it's unbarable or see a doctor. I probably wouldn't go too far with the whole deodarent thing... but your choice! However a strong odor isn't a very good sign from a book I've read. But then again in most cases I assume it can be fine. So consult a gyno for that one!
Good luck
Pls help me, I'm so confused! I'm 17/M, and black. I've always been real popular with the girls and I never questioned my sexuality bfore but now I do cuz I'm very confused about my friend Steven.
He is very different from my other friends who are mostly hiphoppers, he's got spiky, black hair that is long in one side and I think hes gothic - very pale and white, and like real skinny and pretty like a girl. He also has many of his friends wearin' only black.
He is one year younger than me and I guess I've been quite protective towards him all along. I always stood up for him when some of the other black guys wanted to beat him up because he's white and wears gothic-kindda clothes and even eyeliner.
Latey I've become more and more obsessed with Steven and I can't stop thinking about him when we're not together and even think of how it would be to have sex with him?
I know that he's bisexual cuz he's told me, and I think he knows the effect he has on me and it's like it's humouring him. I sometimes get the feeling that he's actually teasing me and I don't know what to do
I try to convince myself that it's just curiousity, but I'm not too sure? I have NEVER been attracted to any other male bfore and I really don't want to be gay! It would be such trouble with my friends, my family, my whole life!
I relly need some advice, and fast!
Don't listen to Trina_Boo or whatever the username is, because everyone feels attracted to a member of the same sex at one point in their life. So don't worry because that doesn't make you gay! Are you attracted to some girls too... or mainly guys? If you're mainly attracted to guys but a little bit girls you could be bi-sexual because they say bi-sexual people normally feel a stronger compelling nature to the same sex. If he's your first bi-sexual encounter that you think you like, but you've liked girls throughout your life it's probably just curiosity of your sexual preference. But it's OK to be bi-sexual. It's ok to be straight. And it's ok to be gay because you don't decide that. In a couple years you'll either grow out of it or stick with it and depending on whichever you do keep in mind that, it's not a life altering decision and you'll be okay. :)
But I don't think that's something you need to necessarily figure out now because you have a whole life ahead of you! But you probably should consider it in the future. But if you are gay... consider this: Straight people aren't necessarily normal. We're just more common than girls or guys that are attracted to the same sex. Although it is the ideal way of living, you should be fine if you're not straight. If you really have a problem with coming to terms with whatever the facts add up to, see a counselor or a doctor, etc. As for the imagining what sex is like with him, don't worry. Sometimes I question that myself. And I'm still straight. And you're probably just feeling closer to him in some way so that makes you... wonder.
Hope I helped
~ Lauren
hey i was wondering if singing loses some calories
cause when i went to japan and went to a kareoke place, i started singing some songs like mariah carey. and if showed me how many calories i lost.
Can you really lose calories by singing?
Ehh... singing isn't really an exercise but you can burn a couple of calories doin' it. Not many to make a HUGE difference but it contributes to results. It depends how long you were singing for... I would guess maybe 30-60 calories for a couple of hours? Depends if you're dancing too. An hour of dancing with it would maybe burn 250-350; so if you're looking to lose weight by singing alone... good luck. You may not be so successful. But dancing will help!
thanks, but do you know what to do when this message comes up? i keep getting this and clicking close or ignore doesn't change anything.
http://img88.imageshack.us/img88/7044/eughfp3.png
Unfortunately it means that your computer does not meet the system requirements... so maybe try it at a friends house or something? Good luck!
wat hair color will look good on a filipina girl with black eyes and yellowish beige color of face?
Black.
How do I tell my bf that I don't want to have sex with him? I don't want him to be hurt..
You don't wanna hurt him? Don't you worry about that! Just tell him you don't. And he should accept that whether he wants to or not, he's gotta be there for you and understand you.
Tell him like this:
"Umm... I'm sorry but I'm really not ready. And you don't want the possibility of a baby turning into a clinging birden to you, do you?"
It might kinda freak him out depending on how you say it, but it's worth it!