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I fear I might be gay!
Pls help me, I'm so confused! I'm 17/M, and black. I've always been real popular with the girls and I never questioned my sexuality bfore but now I do cuz I'm very confused about my friend Steven.
He is very different from my other friends who are mostly hiphoppers, he's got spiky, black hair that is long in one side and I think hes gothic - very pale and white, and like real skinny and pretty like a girl. He also has many of his friends wearin' only black.
He is one year younger than me and I guess I've been quite protective towards him all along. I always stood up for him when some of the other black guys wanted to beat him up because he's white and wears gothic-kindda clothes and even eyeliner.
Latey I've become more and more obsessed with Steven and I can't stop thinking about him when we're not together and even think of how it would be to have sex with him?
I know that he's bisexual cuz he's told me, and I think he knows the effect he has on me and it's like it's humouring him. I sometimes get the feeling that he's actually teasing me and I don't know what to do
I try to convince myself that it's just curiousity, but I'm not too sure? I have NEVER been attracted to any other male bfore and I really don't want to be gay! It would be such trouble with my friends, my family, my whole life!
I relly need some advice, and fast!
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Unfortunatly i cant tell you how you feel, its something that you have to feel for yourself, but if you dont want to be gay, then dont be gay (i believe that you can choose) even if you are attracted to men, you dont have to act on those feelings, try to block them out/ ignore them, and only date women. But if you want to act on those feelings, then you should. Do what your comfortable doing...but i do believe that YOU have the power to choose.
I hope this helped! Good Luck!
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Don't listen to Trina_Boo or whatever the username is, because everyone feels attracted to a member of the same sex at one point in their life. So don't worry because that doesn't make you gay! Are you attracted to some girls too... or mainly guys? If you're mainly attracted to guys but a little bit girls you could be bi-sexual because they say bi-sexual people normally feel a stronger compelling nature to the same sex. If he's your first bi-sexual encounter that you think you like, but you've liked girls throughout your life it's probably just curiosity of your sexual preference. But it's OK to be bi-sexual. It's ok to be straight. And it's ok to be gay because you don't decide that. In a couple years you'll either grow out of it or stick with it and depending on whichever you do keep in mind that, it's not a life altering decision and you'll be okay. :)
But I don't think that's something you need to necessarily figure out now because you have a whole life ahead of you! But you probably should consider it in the future. But if you are gay... consider this: Straight people aren't necessarily normal. We're just more common than girls or guys that are attracted to the same sex. Although it is the ideal way of living, you should be fine if you're not straight. If you really have a problem with coming to terms with whatever the facts add up to, see a counselor or a doctor, etc. As for the imagining what sex is like with him, don't worry. Sometimes I question that myself. And I'm still straight. And you're probably just feeling closer to him in some way so that makes you... wonder.
Hope I helped
~ Lauren
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I agree with the second answer. Having a crush on a guy doesn't make you gay. In fact, I think there's a spectrum of sexuality. There's straight on one side, completely homoaffectionate on the other, and in the middle are many, many shades in between. 'Gay,' 'Straight,' and 'Bisexual' are just labels. You are what you are. And so far all you know is that you usually like girls and you're curious about one effeminate-sounding boy. There's nothing wrong with that! Be who you are and don't worry about the categories. Relax. If you do something with Steven, know that it doesn't make you gay or bisexual, all it makes you is a guy who wanted to see what it was like with this one guy.
Sabine
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Don't listen to the other answer. Nothing is for sure yet. As a teenager it is very common to be curious enough to have a crush on the same sex. Do you like girls also, or has your guy friend consumed all of your thoughts? It's possible you are bisexual or gay, so don't try to convince yourself otherwise. You have to be yourself and don't try to hide any feelings you're having from yourself!
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you have to face the fact!! If you are a guy that is attracted to a guy that mean your gay! Im really sorry to tell you this but your gay.If you can't stop thinking about someone that means your inlove since you can't stop thinking about that guy that mean your gay! Face the facts you know it but you need to get use to it!
im sorry for this news but its true
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