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Okay, here's where it starts... about a month ago, I hurt my foot on a friend's trampoline. I think I hurt that tendon (sp?) at the bottom of my foot. It hurt so bad. Now my foot is fine, but if I walk long distances, it hurts really bad! It doesn't really do that if I run (Unless I run a lot in a short period of time). Could I have messed up my foot somehow? And if so, what can I do? Thank you in advance! (link)
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If you have damages a tendon or muscle in your foot, they take much longer to heal. Have you tried going to the doctor? If not then when you know you are going to walk lond distances try wearing some kind of bandage support and the right footwear.
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My brother died 2 weeks ago and I really don't know what to do. I lived with him because my mom died 3 years ago and my dad used to beat and rape me. He was more like a father than a brother to me and I really don't know what to do. I've been staying with my friend until I get a foster family and she is always asking me if I'm ok and I'm really not. I don't know what to do with myself. I even tried drugs and I've been drinking a lot. I just want to kill myself and I'm so scared of what's going to happen next. I love him soo much and he was pretty much all that I had and now he's gone. I haven't even cried because I just can't, does that mean that there's something wrong with me? Why can't I just cry like normal people do when something happens to them? I really think that I'm a horrible because I can't even cry for my own brother. Please help me (link)
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Don't worry that you haven't cried yet-it's perfectly normal. It will happen at some stage but because your body is probably in shock still it won't happen yet. By drinking and taking drugs you are numbing out the pain and emotions you are feeling and trying to make them go away. It might help in the short time but honestly it will make the healing process take much longer. I am so sorry to hear about your brother and what you have been through. It's cases like this when you have to think about the positive things your brother brought into your life. Imagine if you never had a brother in the first place. For the time he was with you he tried to help and make you overcome your fears and problems and try and bring the positive things back into your life. Try and think of the great memories you had with him and the fact that he would hate to see you being upset. Is there anyone you can talk to about the way you are feeling? There are usually counsellors to talk to when these kind of things happen. When you move to your new home try and remember all the fantastic memories and perhaps think of this as a new start. I hope I have helped x x
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i've been getting headaches alot and really i mean ALOT!...ive had 3 today and ive been having them like everyday. does anyone know what could be the reason? (link)
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Two reasons I can think of are if you spend a lot of time in front of the computer and secondly are you drinking enough water? If you feel sluggish then that could be the reason-try drinking up to 2 litres of water a day.
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i want to get colored contacts, but i don't need glasses. I want regular ones, not ones for costumers/parties etc. I went to acuvue 2 colors and they have some where the prescription is "0.00 (plano)".. does that mean no prescription? and where can i find non-prescription colored contacts? thanks. (link)
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I think you actually have to go to an opticians ans everyones eyes are different shapes so you need to get them measured
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i want to dye my hair out of a box as opposed to getting it done professionally. is this a bad idea? (link)
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No but if I were you I wouldn't go drastc like from dark to blonde as it won't work Try a subtle colour first and even though you don't think it will make a difference I promise you it will. Get a friend to help you too so she can see you are getting the dye in the reight places and not missing in any bits! Loreal is good. Highlights also make a big difference and sometimes look better that dying your whole head one colour
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is there anyway u can naturally make ur breast bigger with out stuffin a bra?
i rate high (link)
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I think there are some excercises you can do but look on the internet and see if it can help-I'm sure there are certain foods you can eat to help too.
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this might seem a little gross but, i was wondering what is a discharge? and what is too much? if someoen was getting it for about 2 years shouldnt they get their period by now? arent you supposed to get it soon when you have that? -- thanks (link)
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Every girl gets this-it is perfectly normal. I don't know how old you are but you usually get your period around the same time as when your mum got it so ask her if you can. You are growing up and this is just a normal phase at the moment.
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ok..i'm definetly not sexually active but when i was little i didnt know better and im a girl but i kinda had sex with a girl.I'm straight but I was only about 7 when it happened.I'm 14 now so how would I know if i got HIV or something? Would I know by now? (link)
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You won't have HIV. Unless you know her parents have it and have passed it on to her then you are fine! When you are little you haven't a clue about what is right and what is wrong so stop worrying-you'll be fine! x
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i don't know if i'm bi or not. i like guys but lately i've been attracted to girls too. i found out this girl was bi and now i'm really attracted to her and i like alot of other girls. but not just any girl, i only like really pretty girls. i don't want to be bi and i defnately can't tell anyone, that's not even an option so don't bring that up. so am i bi? tell me more about this. (link)
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At some stage in everyone's life you do get slightly confuse and question your feelings. what your are feeling is totally normal and you have nothing to worry about. I f you really feel you think you have feelings for this girl then could you talk to her? If she wasn't bi would you still have the same feelings? Sometimes it takes something like a kiss for you to realise how you really feel. Don't worry
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what are ANY other signs of pregnancy other then sore boobs, and morning sickness??? (link)
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I'm not 100% sure but I think things like a slight change in your appetite, mood swings, trouble sleeping and feeling generally unwell.
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What amount of sperm is needed to be in a female in order for her to get pregnant? (link)
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Any amount can be enough to get her pregnant. If you are worried about this you can buy a morning after pill which can be taken up to 72 hours after you've had sex.
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random question, but if you marry your highschool sweetheart right after senior year and before college, is that a bad thing? like will that cause problems with being married and going to school at the same time?
and basically is it bad to just get married at that age in general? is it hard to handle money, buying homes, etc?
because I really want to ask my beautiful girlfriend that I've known my whole love to marry me, but I don't want it to cause problems. (link)
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There's nothing wrong with asking your girlfriend to marry you but that doesn't mean you actually have to get married immediately. By waiting to actually get married, you will be able to save money and have the perfect wedding, and have some time being able to live together first.
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I can tell I'm starting to get a cold, and I'm going away in a week for a couple days. I don't want to be sick while I'm away (I'm going to a conference thing) and I was wondering if there's any way I could fight this cold off before Thursday.
Thanks! (link)
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Try drinking loads of water, get early nights out and try not getting too stressed as that will bring you down - mineral and vitamin supplements can also help but once some colds are in your system there's not always a lot you can do about it.
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Ok my hair just always feels so... i dont know like not as nice. Like everyone elses hair is so shiny and like reflects the sunlight. Its just so silky. Mine just feels more yucky i guess. Mine isnt like that. ugh. DOes anyone have any good suggestions like good conditioners or anything? THANKS SOOO MUCH!! I really need help! Ps. I take a shower every day if that helps (link)
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Pantene is RUBBISH. To begin with it works but after a while and especially because you are using it so often, it is putting a film around your hairs and not letting nutrients get to it. Try using a product like Tresemme which are really good. Try having a trim if you haven't had your hair cut in a while and also with your new conditioner, put loads on, wait for 5 mins and then rinse out as then you will be giving it an intense treatment.
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Well for the past year and a half or so, we've been working on re-decorating my bedroom. Right now I have one of my bedroom walls a hot pink colour and the rest are white. I wanted to accent my room with lime green, so that there wasn't so much pink. I'm painting my closet doors in that sublime green colour with hot pink stripes down the middle of each of them, but I wanted to add more green into my bedroom. My idea was to put some sort of design in the corners of my walls like right at the top where the corner of the two walls meet the ceiling. My only delema is, I'm stumped as to what design I should use in those corners. Does anyone have any suggestions as to what the design should be in the corner? I'm open to any ideas! Thanks! (link)
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Simple things like hanging pictures on the wall and painting the frames green could work. Also try getting a green lampshade, rug or duvet cover?
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i have no problem with working out, its just that i cant eat right, which trows everything out the door. during soccer i lost about 10 pounds just from running a lot and not changing my diet, but i didnt like to eat that much so i didnt. in my family i probably eat the most healthiest besides my dad. and diebetes(sp) runs in my family and i might get it... i just have problems with dedicatiing myself to eat healthy.
im 5'4 and about 148 pounds (link)
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Are you drinking enough water during the day and eating your daily recommended allowance of 5 portions of fruit and veg a day? Sometimes when you think you are hungry you are actually thirsty so by drinking the 2 litres you are cutting out some of those hunger pangs. Also try and eat your dinner by 7.30 and not to have too much carbohydrate with your dinner. If you go to bed on a full stomach then you will not be able to fully digest your food as your body will be shutting down into sleep mode and all the carbs will be stored as fat.
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My hair is extremely long and straight, and I recently took four inches off of it so the tips reach around the middle of my back. I'm a dancer, so I can't go too short, but I want to make it seem shorter by making it wavy. I heard curling irons can be damaging to hair. Is there another way to get my hair into waves? (link)
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I think you can get some kind of mousse but with your hair being naturally straight it probably won't work. Straightening irons are ok in small doses and you can by spray to spray on your hair before you use the tongs to protect your hair from the heat.
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I have a really hideous color on my nails right now because I decided to let my friends paint my nails- but let's not get into that. I really need to remove the polish off of my nails, but I don't own a nail polish remover and my parents aren't going to drive out now to get me some. Is there anything natural or DIY that will get this polish off my nails? (link)
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By painting another layer of any colour over the top and waiting a couple of seconds you can wipe it all off with cotton wool or a tissue as the wet nail varnish will make the dry wet if you see what I mean! It will probably take a couple of gos on each nail.
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Well I have a party on Friday and it is a pool party.. but I am also just starting my period... I know I can use a tampon.. but I am afraid it will leak.. will it? and should I use it? (link)
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If your period is very heavy then use the strongest tampon but just don't stay in the pool for that long-there is nothing stopping you from getting out of the pool every now and then and checking to see if you are ok-and don't wear white! You should be fine and change your tampon as soon a s you get out of the pool.
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What can I do to help myself get over an unforgotten loved ex, and move on with a new one, without feeling like I'm just with the new person to make the other one jealous, or hurt? My ex treats me like crap no doubt about it, thats gotten so bad that him and I can't even remain friends, but getting with this new person that I've known for a long time, practically 5 years will be very strange because I've known the person for so long. People are telling me to follow my heart, but my heart is leading me wrong. What can I do to help this matter?
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I had a really bad break up with my last boyfriend. He hit me and said if I ever broke up with him then he would make my life hell. I broke up with him and he made my life hell. I started seeing this other guy six weeks later. Do you want to go out with this guy because you like him as more than a friend or just to make your ex jealous? If it's just to make your ex jealous then don't do it because you will be playing with his feelings. If this guy makes you feel special, looks after you etc then its just what you want. He will make you feel secure, wanted, and help you regain the self-esteem you will have lost by going out with your ex. By being with him it is also more than likely that he will help you get over your ex quicker. If you get confronted by your ex, however mean he is to you , you have to keep a brave face and tell him that you are happier than you have been in ages, nothing he can say or do can hurt you anymore, so tell him to get over you and go and find another girlfriend. you are worth so much more than this so as soon as you get him out of your mind and your life, the better. Good luck and I hope you find happiness with this new guy
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