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Q: okay, so heres the deal. i want to lose weight, maybe like 20 pounds-ish [im like 165 right now] by spring break, or sometime around there.

i dont have access to a gym or anything, but at my house i do have an ab lounge, a total gym, a treadmill, and a weight lifting machine thing [[its called the "weider pro" or something.. it has three arm workout things, and one leg thing]].. and i know my mom has stretch band things, and like two 2-pound weights..

so basically what i am asking, is what kind of work out things can i do to get more in shape and everything.. that can include going for runs or whatever outside.. but any suggestions? please & thank you
well i think cardio atleast 30 mintues a day is great. and if you wanna tone your arms or something, you can get like two or three pound weights and run with them. cruches are very good too. the ab lounge is great. the one at my gym is very cool, so i suggest do like a bunch of cruches after cardio. if you wanna start off with sort of diet, i hav one that's really helped me loose weight, and i've only been on it for like three days, and I already see the difference. eat oatmeal with every meal. and uyoucan hav it w/ a salad or with vegetables if u want. do this for about a week. if you want to continue it, you can, but don't forget to exercise. the more exercise you do w/ it, the better. lets seee,,, ooooo yea dont forget that you hav 2 get off the oatmeal slowly, so what you can probably do is don't just stop eating it right away, start eating it maybe 2 meals a day the next week instead of three, etc. drink lots of water too hope i helped, and good luck (:

Q: theres this guy who i really like and i might be hanging out with him over holiday break. hes really flirty with alot of girls though so i dont know how he really feels like if hes interested in me or not. but if he were to put moves on me or try to make out with me and hook up should i or not. i know its my decision but im not looking for a hook up type of thing like yeah i would be fine with that for a little bit but in the end i would want commitment not just a hook up thing. i dont have any idea what to do. and i dont want to just not do it to totally turn him off. please help me! thanks.
i think you're thinking about this too much, don't worry. if you want to hook up with him, you will know. you're feelings will tell you. You will also know what type of guy he is. Don't just be a hook up because it's no fun. I remember this one time, I was at a party and this drunk guy came up to me and kissed me, after we had been dancing. Now, I'm not much of a drinker, actually I don't drink, but he had been drunk before and a week later, he was with some other girl. Now it wasn't like I really liked him, but even though I tried to push him away, and it wasn't like i really really liked him, I felt kind of bad and kind of used, and I wouldn't want the same thing to happen to you. So, you should just becareful. I kind of knew that he was kinda weird so it didn't really suprise me. He kind of just came up to me, but you know he wants something more if he talks to you, and makes it a little more romantic

xoxo

Q: 15/f
there is this guy who i am really good friends with-
and i like him and he likes me
and i can tell he is going to ask me out soon from what he and other people tell me
the thing is, he was the type of friend who i could tell annything about me, up intill i told him about my past permiscuous-ness. now he talks to me about sex a lot and sais things like "i bet you wanna bang me in the autotorium tomarro", witch makes me uncomfortable.
im OK with talking bout sex to him, but we talk about it so much im starting to wonder if he only likes me because he thinks im going to do something with him.
im trying to find a way to ask him that question but im kindof scared to, because i like him a lot
i dont really know how to word the question either
so can you guys please help me?
thanks
guys love women that stick up for themselves, they find it kinda sexy, so don't be afraid to stand up for yourself, just kinda be like..... why are u always talking about sex? i know a guy that's like that and he always talks about that, but it's kinda even worst because he talks about himself well i'm not even gonna go there, but just ask straight out

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Q: Hi I'm a 12 year old girl. I'm friends with this one 15 year old guy and we ride the same bus, go to the same school and live in the same development. We are really close friends and sometimes I feel like he thinks I'm not there and other times I feel like he really likes me. What should I do?
well, thers hints that you have to look for. if he enjoys having conversations with you, than we're off to a good start. believe me, sometimes boys get confused and shy the same way that us girls do. sometimes we have to ignore them, but then again, sometimes we have to help them out a little. i guess the best way that you could figure out this is by dropping UNOBVIOUS hints but still a little revealing. like you could look at him and smile at him but don't like do anything like go grabbing for the hand because thats his job. but little things like that and if he gets all friendly, than you have your answer

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Q: Hi I'm a 12 year old girl and I like this 13 year old guy. I feel like I like this one kid in my homeroom and in my team classes and I can't tell if he likes me at least a little bit. What should I do?
well, sometimes its difficult to tell because boys tend to be shy. if you don't believe me, you can see for yourself. i never believed it until the other day at a party this guy was telling me about it, so yes, boys also have problems about being shy with girls. well, if you want, you can talk to him and maybe drop a few hints and if he gives u a few hints, kind of go along with it. maybe he's just shy because he doesn't know if you like him. hope everything goes well.

xoxo

Q: i want to make a new sn.
what do you guys think about paddingtonbear###?
is that wierd?
that is adorble!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i love it. hmmm well maybe for the numbers u can put your birthday or you could just put 123 also

Q: So theres this girl who used to REALLY like my boyfriend. Once she told me she hated herself for letting him go and she will always have a place in her heart for him. Well My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months and I know he has no feelings for her but it bugs me when she tries to talk all cute to him. The weird thing tho is that I want to be her friend. I talk to her alot and we plan on hanging out. I hate her when she talks to my boyfriend and I'm jelous of her for some odd reason but then I want to be her friend. Is that weird?
i don't think that its werid. strangely, i kind of have the same problem as you, accept backwards. you see, i've like this guy for years. but, he has a girlfriend. for some odd reason, i want to be her friend. maybe its because we feel that if we become closer
to this person, than we'll have more trust in them, and that we're lacking trust in them because they're with our man. lol. well, i don't think it's weird. good luck! xoxo

Q: I know no one can really tell me what to do. Its a "my choice" kinda of thing, but I need input.

I have a boyfriend and we'll call him Tom. Tom when we first started to go out, was nice to me and treated like a princess. Now that we have been together for a longer time, hes not. Tom behind my back to my friends calls me a bxtch, whore, slut, dumbaxs & anything else you can think of. Tom will tell my friends that they can't talk to me anymore, so now I'm down to like 5 friends when I use to had alot. He hung up on me last night on the phone and then today when I said something to him about it, he was all nice to me again.

What's the deal ? Should I break up with him ? I kind of want to, but I dont want to hurt him. I know me being happy is important but I shouldn't go around hurting his feelings should I ? ANY advice would help me alot. So thanks.
first of all, i know that it may seem that he was really nice to you at first and everything, but if he is a jerk now, then he was never really a nice guy. i noe that its very sad, but people have coverups and sometimes we get to know someone for who they really are not. so, i doubt that he could have just turned mean, he just had a fake identity before. for the friends that listened to him, they aren't you're true friends because they should not have listened to him. i don't mean for that to sound mean at all, but they definatley are jerks and deserve to hang out with eachother, because i don't think they deserve to be hanging out with nice people like you. but, it also depends where you are finding out this information. how is it that you know he is calling you all of these things? did you hear it from the friends that are turning your back on you, because if you are it seems to me like they are not a very trustworthy source. they are just as bad. so, what i say is try to think of where you are hearing this from. if you know you are getting it from a direct source, than i say that you should not be afraid of hurting him because he is definatley hurting you and he is doing something terrible to you. if you think that there is more to this story than meets the eye, you have to find out where its coming from because maybe tom really has nothing to do with this. hope everything turns out well. xoxo

Q: Ok im 14/m and im in grade 9. Theres a girl I like whos in my class i dont know if she likes me or not. She always walks over to me and starts a conversation with me and other people say that shes all over me. I dont think she likes me because she always changes the subject when I ask for her msn or number. If she liked me wouldnt she have given me it? Do you think she likes me?
sometimes girls do that because they want to play hard to get. she prolly likes you

Q: You know in the gym places, they sell those pills that kill fat. I dont know the name in English sorry about that. Anyways, I work out a lot but I have a lot of fat on my body and everybody insists that this fitness aid, the fat killer (not its real name) causes no damage on your health at all. Its not like its hormones or steroids or anything. Should I proceed or not?
I am huge, I work out a lot, never ever consumed anything before, I am 110 kilos and do 60 pull ups every day and run for 1 hour every single day. I am pretty much the strongest person I know, and the biggest.
i know how you feel because sometimes, you just wanna lose some weight, and nothing works. but, pills have always tended to be a bad idea. my mother took pills and she weighed about 110 lbs but wanted to lose a few pounds. she did but she almost had to go to the hospital. if you're really looking into something like that, there are shakes and things, and teas. i've heard that weight loss teas are pretty good. but don't take pills. hope i helped. *muaz* xoxo

Q: Last night I had a horrible dream. In my dream, my boyfriend left me for my best friend. We got into a little argument, he broke up with me and started dating her. I was heartbroken. I couldn't sleep after I woke up. It is really bothering me. I like this guy so much and I don't want him leaving me for someone else especially my best friend. What could this dream mean if it means anything?
THAT'S REALLY SCARY BECAUSE I HAD THAT SAME DREAM LAST NIGHT BUT IT WAS DIFFERENT WE WERE IN A CAR. anyways, i think maybe subconsciously, we are worried/stressed, and our fears tend to come out in our dreams. i'm sure there's nothing to worry about. i didn't tell either of them because it'd just be awkwad lol but talk to another one of your friends about it because sometimes when we say our dreams, and we get them off our chest, we tend to feel better. hope i helped. *muaz* xoxo

Q: I need advice!!! I am really really impatient about like everything!!!! How can I learn to be more patient in situations like waiting for something I am excited for or even just waiting like 20 minutes for something? Thank you!!
i don't know if you are reigious or not but if you are, you can always pray. that's what helps me. you can also like listen to music or something. also, just think of like nice things. just calm down and kinda think of something like the ocean waves crashing against the shore. or just any other things like that you can think of. it really helps! xoxo

Q: my dad's offering to buy me a used car. what are some cute cars that aren't too awfully expensive?
well, you can get a toyota, like those little ones. my cousin has one that's like white and it's super cute. and you can always get the voltzwagon beadle. hehe

Q: I am 13/f and REALLY skinny, but I have somewhat big hips and very long legs. I need maybe a size triple 0 with a 34" inseam and size 1 in hips! Does anyone know how to get very long, slim, flare jeans with big hips? Thank you in advance!!!
abercombie's jeans are always nice fitting. but, ask the people that work there when you go. the thing is, when you put on jeans, you have to get them through your hips first, and if you get it smaller, you'll have trouble getting them on. so, you could always get the size 1 and then put a cute belt. i noe what you mean tho, i have a similar problem, but with shirts

Q: if i drink a glass of water, before & after ever meal.. intill August 24th & walk 2-3 miles everyday... is it possible to lose atleast 5 pounds?

- i also, have like a weird metablism, i lose weight quickly.

so do you think its possible?
& if its not.. what are some good diets? That you lose weight quickly?
kthnxs for yerr help
drink as much water as you can. trust me, water is addictive, so the more you drink, the more water you want! make that the only thing you drink. for dinner, i don't suggest skipping it but maybe what you can do is having something light like a yogurt or jello with fatfree whipped cream. for lunches, eat like salads and maybe a little chicken. because u do need protein. and jogging. put on music and jog

hope i helped
*muaz*
xoxo

Q: 14/f
ive only had cavities like, once before but i was really little so i dont remember anything

anyway i have 2cavities in the back of my mouth, on both sides, and i have to get them fixed in a couple weeks

im freaking out! im like really scared cause i dont know what to expect...

if someone could like, walk me thru what happens, or like how much it hurts?...i would appreciate it ALOT, ill rate all advice

thanks so much
it is not that bad. it actually doesn't hurt that much. i'm not sure quite how to explain it, he just fixes it lol. but, don't worry about it! i hope i helped. *muaz* xoxo

Q: i told my friend i was afraid to die naked and now she makes fun of me. what should i do? :(
ask her "how would u like it if i made fun of how (her fears here)"? maybe she'll understand

hope i helped
*muaz*
xoxo

Q: I really need to know about high school. i am soooooo scared about it. in the movies, they make high school seem like hell. i know it won't be like the movies but i think it will be bad. i go to high school in one year for the first time. is it bad? or am i making it seem this bad? thanks!
well, i'm going to give you my honest opinion. high school is not going to be fun unless you make it fun! you have to make of it what you can. trust me. i know because i didn't have fun, but i'm making it worth my while this year. just have fun! make it fun for you!

hope i helped
*muaz*
xoxo

Q: ok. this past year i got really dark circles under my eyes. i never had them before. and i know i didnt get them from heredity because noone else in my family has them. i have no allergies so it wasnt caused by that. and i get plenty of sleep. i get somewhere between 8-12 hours at the most. i have used cover up and you can still see them.

and that old thing where you freeze two spoons put them over your eyes... didnt really work for me...

i just dont know how to get rid of them.
and i want to either get rid of them or like just lighten them up.

i have tried alot. im trying to see if i can get rid of them without purchasing any lotion or creme.

so basically im asking how do i do that?? how do i get rid of the circles?

and like the guy i like sorta likes me. i think. but he wont go out with me because of my eyes. he thinks that i look like im on drugs.

and your probably gonna say oo then hes not worth it. you shouldnt go by looks. but most guys by me do go for the looks. so i have to look good to get someone where i am. and i dont mind. i just need to get rid of the bags!!!


please help!!
well, i have a similar problem. i have dark circles and i don't know where they came from. but, you get plenty of sleep. it could possible be from stress. sometimes, we don't realize the stresses that we have, but they are in the back of our mind, and we're not thinking of them, but they're there. well, i don't know what other natural remedies there are, like the freezing of the spoons, but, you can try getting a mask. if not you can get a recipe for how to make a mask online and put it on your face and under your eyes. also, you can use cucumbers. or you can get two bags of tea and put them over your eyes

hope i helped
*muaz*
xoxo

Q: well i really like these 2 guys but the one guy broke up with me and his life is really messed up but hes willing to take me back and the other guy is soo nice and sweet but i like the other guy more. im a 13 year old female.
well, go with whoever you love more. i mean, even tho the other guy has a messed up life, you might be able to help him. but when you say *willing to take you back*, just please don't ever think of degrading yourself about a guy. it's so totally not worth it. just make sure that whoever you pick treats you well and makes you happy

hope i helped
*muaz*
xoxo

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I started this column when I was 15 years old, so you'll notice that the advice has gotten better and better. I've always been interested in counseling and I started this column to gain experience. But, I found a lot more than that. I found a support system of caring and loving people. I received a degree in child development and currently working towards becoming a school psychologist. So, I hope you can feel confident in trusting me with your questions. This is more than just a fun site for me. I look back on my own questions from years ago, and I laugh when I read about my problems at 16. I've really come a long way! I'm relatively young, but I've had several experiences in life that have aided me in helping others. I hope to use those experiences for the greater good and help others who are not in their ideal situation!

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