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19/f
my boyfriend moved in with me and my parents in August. My parents gave him 6 months to save money and find a place of his own (his mother left him homeless, some mom!) so he is suppose to move out on Valentines Day.
Well finding an apartment he can afford is hard. There are some low income apartments behind my house, BUT he is first on the waiting list; she just said its rarely people move out, or get evicted so it could be a while before a place opens up. My mom told me that my dad isn't kicking him out, so he can stay here until an opening happens. My dad plays mind games. He's verbally abusive; he says that he is kicking him out after his 6 months are up, and it isn't his problem. Which I understand. But my boyfriend hasn't looked anywhere else because of what my mom has told him.
Well, Valentines Day isn't that fiar away, and there are apartments for 575 a month and he cannot afford that on his own. We have looked at trailors, and other apartments and that is the cheapest.
I'm in college to become a Labor and Delivery Nurse, and I have a parttime job, but at my job there is no way I could even help him out with everything. I refuse to let someone i love and care about be homeless again. We have been together for a year and a half; and if I have to I will get a second job.
I am just so stressed; idk what to do! He is so scared of being homeless again; and i hate seeing him hurt.
I'm so sorry its so long, but I need some advice. I just am at a dead end, and idk where to go from here.
Thank you. (link)
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What you should do is you and your boyfriend should sit down with your mom and dad and come up with a plan. Maybe come up with a plan until he finds another place to live. Maybe he can do chores around the house or even pay a little room and board while he lives with you guys. I'm sure if you talk to your mom and dad about it seriously they would help out. I'm sure they won't kick him out if he has no place to go. Talk to your parents and see what you guys can come up with. In the mean time make sure he is looking for a place everyday and don't give up. Stay positive! :) Good luck!
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Okay first off I am 20. I have two children. I am a stay at home mother. No smoking drinking or anything.
My pain in my hands are if I am folding laundry my hands hurt so bad like an ache that I cant finish the laundry I have to do it later. I can look at it and feel the pain. If I get cold my wrists, ankles knees hurt so bad. Tonight has been the worse even to the point of my bawling. I can usually can a hot bath and the pain goes away. Most of it has gone away but it still hurts and tonight I had my husband wrap my legs in a blanket and he said my legs wasn't even cold. My legs sometimes jerk a little on their own.
I don't have health insurance nor can I afford a doctor appt. Yes I have tried to get health insurance threw the state they say we make to much. but after our bills we barley have enough for gas. I know you are not doctors but maybe you are someone or know some one with the same symptoms. (link)
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It sounds a like it like arthritis to me, my friend had similar aches and pains with her knees and her legs. She has had it since she was 13. Another part of it sounds like a circulation problem. You say when you get cold that your wrists start to hurt. My feet get really really cold due to bad circulation which in return brings a lot of pain into my feet as well as cramping and even sometimes my feet freeze up.
I guess the best thing to do would to be take some aspirin and maybe use a heating pad those tend to help. I would suggest doing the best you can to find a clinic in your area or finding out more about a doctor. I'm not a doctor but the symptoms you are experiencing I have definitely heard of. I hope you find out what's wrong and I hope you find a solution. Feel better!
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i've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half he's 20 and i'm 18... well i can't trust him at all he's out drinking with his friends every weekend and as much as i speak to him he doesn't respect that it bothers me.. He refuses to let me see his cellphone and his excuse is "there's a lot of porn on it" and i know this is kind of silly but he keeps adding these really attractive girls on facebook ones that he's never met before it makes me feel insecure and he also doesn't want to change his relatioship status to let people know that he has a girlfriend. What does all of this mean? is he not serious about our relationship? (link)
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I know you don't want to hear this but he isn't a good guy. You need to move on. First off there needs to be trust in the relationship, now I'm not saying you have the right to go through hsi phone but if he's being shady about where he's going that's not trustworthy. If he's only speaking to you just a bit and you've told him time and time again that it bothers you and he hasn't changed than you need to walk away. As much as it sucks you have to. I know exactly what you're going through I really do and it hurts it really does. If he keeps adding girls on facebook and not wanting to tell everyone he's in a relationship than this is not a relationship you should be staying in. When a man is in a relationship with a woman and cares about her he will shout it from the rooftops so why wouldn't be announce it on facebook?
He's not serious about you and that means you should move on. Why would you want someone to treat you like that and disrespect you like that? You don't deserve that you deserve better. I had a guy who wasn't respecting me and I walked away. Years later he told me he made a mistake and he regrets it well tough for him! You should know your worth and know that you deserve better!
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My boyfriends name is matt what is a cute nickname to call him? (link)
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You can't really pick a name for your boyfriend it jsut kind of happens. Don't analyze a nickname just let it happen. I call my boyfriend usually the cliche names such as 'sweetheart' 'babe' 'baby' 'hun' or by his name. If I'm angry I'll call him by his full name :)
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Valentines day is coming up,and my girlfriend is INLOVE with poetry, and she told me it would mean the world to her if i made her a poem, and im so clueless, i dont want to let her down but at the same time i dont know how to write poetry, i love her so much and i dont wanna let her down, can someone help me on making a poem? :/ please =/ i know this is like rude of me but i really do need help. any small poem wud be great were both 18 .. thank you guys so much. (link)
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If I help you with a poem than its not really from you. The whole thing with poetry is expressing how you feel about her. So brainstorm think of something you love about her. Is it her smile? Is it her kindness? Does she have beautiful eyes? Write about something you know. You love the girl so write about how much she means to you and how much you care about her. I'm sure whatever you come up with she'll love you for it! Good luck!
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I left him and now im living with regret,,,i want him back,,but my friend told me that he has a g.f now,,and he is in love with her,,but also heard that he was playing with her,so i dont know the truth,,but if that's true, i mean hez playing with her,,that i have chance with him again,,then i need to win him back,,Plzzzz help me!!how can i have him back?
PS:there's a little problem though :S im not talkin to him,,its been like for 4-5 months now!! (link)
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Take it from someone who has made that mistake! I was with this guy for about 6 months and I got mad one day and broke up with him he was devastated and didn't talk to me for 4 months. I was upset and I knew I made a mistake because he meant so much to me. I called him and called him. I told him how sorry I was and that I wanted him back. Point is you can talk to him if you want and tell him how you feel but he might have moved on. I looked on the internet a lot for 'how to get your boyfriend back' and there's no real way to get him back. If he still cares of course he'll come back.
After I had been calling the guy over and over I finally stopped. I knew I made a mistake and moved on. He came back and told me he missed me and that he wanted me back. Life is too short so if you want to tell him how you feel do it. You have to remember though that there is a possiblity that he could say 'no'. I'm a person that is VERY hopeful and I believe in love and I believe that there are second chances. Remember if you do get back together no more breaking up either end it or work it out. So go talk to him and tell him how you feel. I hope this works out for you!
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My gay relationship has recently ended and now I don't know which sex I want to be with. I'm male and I'm attracted to girls physically but not for sex and I'm not attracted to lads but like the sex. This was my first gay relationship now I don't know what I want. I'm so lonely and really confused please help . (link)
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Well maybe this is the time to play the field see what your options are. Think about what is going to make you happy. Flirt a little. It's okay to not know what you want and maybe since you're single this is the time to figure out what you really want. I went through a period where I was trying to figure out if I liked guys or girls. I think everyone goes through a time where they are experimenting and such. I weighed the pros and cons and thought about what I really wanted. Point blank you have to be happy with yourself first so don't assume that when you find someone they will make you happy because thats not the way it works. 'Happiness comes from within' and that's the honest truth. Be patience and think about what is going to make you happy! Good luck!
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I'm REALLY weird when you get to know me, but that takes a few weeks...Before you kinow me too well I'm really shy. I like this guy and I don't know if he thinks I'm super weird and it's a turn off or something. I make really loud noises at lunch with my friends, throw food at each other occasionaly, and we LOVE making scenes in the hallway. But nothing too big. :) So how much weird is too weird for a guy? Thanks!!! (link)
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I think everyone has a weird side there's no such thing as 'normal' people and there never has been! I was told I was weird because I use to make funny faces and would make people laugh. I guess it depends on the guy but my boyfriend thought I was cute and entertaining. He and I have the same kind of humor anyways. In the end the guy should like you for you! Good luck!
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I am now 18 and my gf is 16.
Now it;s been 5 months since we started dating.And we've been really close and we ARE going good.But now there's something in my mind which has been a big problem for me.My gf used to have a FB account.But last December she deactivated it due to some issues with her parents.But she had recently activated it and it took like 1 week for her tell me what she did.But actually I have her password but she doesn't know that.And I've been checking her messages.She does have a lot of contacts with guys'not like me.It's not that I dont trust her but those guys they ve been like flirting with her.I know that she loves me alot too.Then recently she has given her mobile number to this guy who likes her and all.And then she told me that this guy has been texting with her.But she lied to me telling that she didnt give her number to him but somehow he has found it,But she did give him her number.I know that.Actually we are so in love.And we are crazy about each other.But still I have these problems too.I cant ask her about them too.But I ve told her once before about something else which came up before.sometimes I feel like she is totally different from the person who is with me when she is not with me'or when she is on the phone with me.Now I can't talk to her in the way I used to do with all these doubts.And when I see her messages I kinda get angry + jealous.So I need advice!.I mean how to react on this issue.(I dont think that I ll be able to talk to her about this) (link)
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Well by not talking you're not going to get anything fixed. So basically what you are saying is that you have a problem but you don't want to fix it. By saying that you aren't helping yourself, her, or this relationship.
From what you described it sounds very shady what she is doing. And you need to confront her on it. A relationship is also suppose to be about communication and about trust. If your girlfriend is talking to a guy in a friendly way then I wouldn't worry about it too much. If the guy is talking to her in a flirty sort of way then I see a huge problem with that. You NEED to talk to her. Whenever I have a problem with my boyfriend I talk to him. And whenever he has a problem with me he talks to me about it.
Although another thing I find not 'trusting' is you having her password and logging on and looking at her stuff. Does she know you have it? That's a little shady and I think you should come clean with that as well.
Relationship = Trust + Communication
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I physically feel an ache in my chest and a burning in the pit of my stomach, accompanied by nausea. I feel jittery (probably from lack of sleep.) I haven't been sleeping well, infact from friday night to last night Ive only had 2 hours of sleep. I'm having a bit of a nervous breakdown do to, having to explain to a unknown person on the bus about what gender I am and in their words, "why I go to extreme lengths to make it difficult to read." That bothered me the most, then I was called out to be a liar and mentally ill, as well as homosexual. Which are in no way remotely tied to the reasons I dress androgynous. I accept the fact that God made me as the sex he intended to. Is it so wrong to want to view myself as either male or female? I just feel like I'm the child that was caught playing with the wrong gender inrolled toy, and yelled at to reinforce the roles I need to take up on as being born of that gender. Now I don't want to leave my home. I feel like all eyes are on me, and like they all for some reason are either 1 disgusted or 2 dissaprove. Please, any "possitive" advice welcomed. I feel pretty jaded from everything, and it seems like I just worked up the courage to feel comfortable in my own skin and finally be able to dress how I want, but now in a fracture of a second it just all seized to exist... (link)
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Be YOU! I don't understand why society is trying to make us into 'normal' people. No one is normal everyone is different. And you shouldn't be shut down because you are different. For a long time I was silenced and its only recently that I've used my voice. People are afraid of what's different. Peopl are afraid of what they don't know. And it may seem hard right now but the more and more you use your voice and dress the way you want to the more you'll feel more in your own skin.
People are so quick to judge and especially when they don't even know you. Don't let them get you down and don't even pay attention to them. I also realized life is too short for the small stuff. Good luck!
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I'm 19/f, and my boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half now. Our relationship has been exceptionally great, and he means a lot to me. I told him I love him and I initiated losing my virginity to him, which is a big deal to me. But, apparently I've been feeling like something's missing in our relationship, because I've crushed on other guys WHILE I'm already in a relationship. About 9 months in, I started to notice another guy. I guess it could have been considered emotional cheating, but I didn't do anything to pursue those feelings. I was honest with my boyfriend about it, which I still think was the best thing that I could have done in that situation. We stayed together, talked it out, moved past it, and the crush I had on the other guy faded. My boyfriend doesn't trust me much now, and I (obviously) understand why. But now, 16 months into our relationship, I'm noticing another guy and it's just become overwhelmingly confusing! I can't control it, and it sucks. I know I'm not being fair to my boyfriend, and so for the past 3 days, I've barely been able to eat, sleep, or stop crying because I'm so confused about why this keeps happening. I know that my current boyfriend would be the best overall choice for me out of all of the guys I've noticed, but I also feel like there's no way that I should be in a relationship with ANYONE if this is going to keep happening. What should I do? (link)
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I think you need to take sometime to yourself and figure out what's best for you. Sometimes what we want isn't exactly what we need. I was in a relationship with a guy for a year and a half myself but I was in love with another guy. Some ssy that's wrong but I didn't know what to do at the time. While I was in that relationship I kept thinking about this guy. The relationship ended for me, and I pursued this guy that I was so much in love with. I believe if you want to be with someone that there is a common bond that can't be broken. I might look at guys now but no one compares to my boyfriend. My boyfriend and I have a deeper connection than any other guy could give me. My boyfriend knows everything about me and really cares about me.
You have to figure out what you want in the end. If you keep looking at other guys and wanting to see things further than maybe its best you go your seperate ways. You're younger and its okay if your boyfriend isn't the one right now. You also mentioned that your boyfriend doesn't trust you and thats not good for a relationship. Trust needs to be present in a relationship for it to work. Good luck and I wish you the best!
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How do I customize my Advice Column like the columnist "AdviceMistress"? (link)
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Not sure what you mean! Are you talking about the format of my profile?
Go into Column settings
Then Approve Public Styles
And I have chose the style called 'Your Space'.
I wanted to make my profile fun, so design or creat your profile which ever way you like. By the way I think for me I might need to change my format soon I'm getting a bit tired of it.
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My friends talk about me behind my back, and they end up dissing me for this other girl.
Ok, so here's the deal:
Me and this girl(Lucy) used to be the BESTEST of friends back in elementry school. But, after I met 2 other girls,(Hannah and Mya) she has been trying to seperate all of us. Now, Hannah and Mya diss me for Lucy! We ALL have all the same classes together. So, how do I get them to hang out with me again? (link)
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Well what's your deifnition of a friend? A friend is certainly not someone who is going to talk behind your back. Yes you may have some fights here and there but a friend will never hurt you. Oprah has always said 'love never hurts' so if you have some hurting you they don't really care about your feelings. Don't you want to find friends who are good to you and treat you well? What I would do is confront them and ask them what's going on. If they keep 'dissing' you then I would stay away from them and find some new friends. Good luck and I hope it works out for you!
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Just before Christmas I met a guy at a party and we hit it off. Over the Christmas period we were both at home from university and for weeks we talked all the time. He made it clear that he liked me and when we got back to university we started dating. At first, I was very hesitant to get into anything serious and he was the one pushing for a relationship. Now it seems that the roles have reversed because he is suddenly telling me he thinks we need 'space'. This has come after spending nearly every day together for the past three weeks. To all intents and purposes, we are a couple and we have both agreed not to see other people.
I'm hurt that he is suddenly putting the brakes on. We've both made it clear we want a relationship and we are effectively in one, so I'm confused that he wants to 'cool it down' now. I'm tempted to cut my losses and end the whole thing because my last relationship recently ended with me getting hurt and I don't think I could deal with a repeat so soon.
What should I do? (link)
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I think you need to follow his request. And you too should think about what you want. Is there a reason that he wanted to have his own space? Did you call him a lot? Did you hang out all the time? It's difficult having a relationship in college. Think about it for awhile and give him some space. Talk to him about it and tell him what you want. Don't run away for fear of getting hurt. If you truly care for him and fight for the relationship. If you don't think this relationship is worth it move on!
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If your gf is away at college and has guys of one her friends sleeping in her room with her and her roommate and she cuddles with him would you look at it as cheating or something to be mad/hurt about? Or if they slept in the same bed? Guys and girls opinions are good (link)
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I don't know if you can necessarily call that cheating but yeah I would definitely be mad about that. The ONLY cuddling that should be done is with your significant other no exceptions. And as for sleeping in the same bed that's not right either. When you're in a relationship with someone its about being with that one person.
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Hi I'm a 19 year old male. I just got hurt/used by this girl and have been hurt in the past numerous times so my opinion here might be kinda biased so looking for some other opinions. I feel like everytime I log onto Facebook or hear girls talk there something about guys being jerks and hurting them and there being no good guys left out there. Well I recently thought of it this way I'm sick of being hurt by girls and I'm sure other guys are too so maybe that's why there's no good guys out there? Because girls use and hurt and take advantage of the good guys that want to take care of you like me and then complain that we are jerks and asses and that's all you have to go to. Maybe if a girl didn't say she liked you and wanted to date and sleep with another guy a week later and hurt you when hour a nice guy and want to respect them but in turn you get screwed over every guy wouldn't be a jerk or a ass? I'm just curious to what others think or agree with me on this. (link)
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I don't think it has anything to dow ith gender I think it really depends on the person. Yes there are many girls that go after the 'bad boys' because its drama and its exciting. Even if the guy hurts us we still go abck for me. For guys there is always that one girl who knows how to pklay with your heart and wants to see how far you'll go. And then all of a sudden the girl leaves, leaving you with this feeling of what did you do wrong, right? It's the person. Yes there are always going to be people out there that play games with hearts. I like to think there are still good people out there who are looking for love. I stopped looking for the bad guys when I knew that it was pointless. Was it fun? Yes but to a certain point but then I realized if I'm really looking for a relationship I need to stop being so damn picky and choose someone based on personality. It's not all about looks and I feel that's what people are most interested in when they are younger. I know it seems hopeless now but you will find her, maybe change your outlook or maybe even look for a girl that isn't necessarily your type.
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I am sixteen. My boyfriend and I are going to be together for six months on February 4th. I have a lot planned out for our special day: a movie, dinner, and a gift. I'm giving him an acoustic guitar, because all he ever talks about when we go to my godmother's (who owns a lot of guitars) is wanting an acoustic guitar. I plan on getting it for cheap but in good condition. I also plan to give him a book I made him. I write a lot, and so I wrote down from my view how I felt about him before, all the events that happened throughout our six months, and how I felt about him, as well as all the things I love about him. I am usually a big gift-giver, but usually I run out of ideas. He is also a very creative, thoughtful person. We get along great and have a few skirmishes here and there, but overall we have a good trust and a strong relationship. He's really sweet and kind and I can be myself when I am around him. I just love feeling comfortable. But we do have our flaws as a couple, and individually. I'm insecure, paranoid, and I get very mad easily. He can be very dumbfounded at times, and tends to say a lot of things that are very hurtful, but does not mean to make it seem this way.
However, he expressed he did not know what to get me for our six-month anniversary. It hurt a little, because I listen attentively and knew exactly what to get him. But for me, I actually have to say things to him promptly instead of dropping hints easily. Now, I have a question. I'd prefer you not be too harsh with me, but do I have a right to be upset about this? It upsets me that he doesn't listen. I mention things I've always wanted before, and sometimes it just gets to the point where I say something and he doesn't even respond, and I go to class feeling like shit some days, but that barely happens anymore. I told him to forget about giving each other gifts since it's such a struggle for him to find something I want, even if I give him several hints. It hurts. Any advice, and am I being too sensitive or nit-picky? Thanks. (link)
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I can understand where you are coming from completely but then again guys are good with hints. When you want a guy to do something you got to tell him to do it. It's VERY rare you'll find a guy who actually knows what to do. My boyfriend is good sometimes and other times I have to write it out for him. It doesn't make me love him any less but it irrtates me. No relationship is going to be perfect and what I have learned is that you can't plan things they just happen. My boyfriend treats me like a queen and he really does care. All that should matter that day is that you two are celebrating your relationship and what you mean to each other. It shouldn't be about the gifts or bought the better gift. It should be about the fact that you care about each other and that you enjoy spending time together! Congrats to the both of you! :)
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Im applying to colleges, and soon i have to make a decision. me and my boyfriend of a year and a half are taking a break until i decide on a college, and if i end up in the school he attends, we will probably get back together. I just need a clear head for my decision. It may be stupid, but i asked him what his idea was on getting with other people during this break. He assumed we WOULD get with other people. that bothers me a lot. He said the only reason he would want to is because hes gonna be rushing a frat and theres going to be pressure and because out of like fear that im going to leave him in the end (or some sh*t like that). I'm just annoyed. am i justified in being annoyed... like i probably shouldnt have asked but i didn't think he'd want to be with anyone else. ah i dont know i just need someone to tell me if i'm crazy or not. i know tomorrow im going to explain why it makes me mad, but i dont really have a rationale. we WOULD be on a break.. so we would essentially be single.. but it'd only be like a month until i find out where i'm going and it could be with him...... IDK just need some words of wisdom. thanks (link)
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A break is essentially a breka up!
A lot of people have various definitions of a break, but thats my definition of it. What some couples do is they make rules to follow on the break like what can they do and what can't they do. Some may argue you that if you are the one to put your relationship on a break then you can't really be mad at him for going to be with other people. I can understand why you would be upset and why you would want him to stay single. Maybe sit with him and talk about this and talk and out with him see how he feels about it. You never know until you talk to him or maybe you need to figure things out and make up your mind. You are basically asking him to wait until you figure things out and that in a way isn't fair. I say talk to him and figure things out!
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Hey guys so my boyfriend and i usually hangout friday nights becuase of our crazy scheduals. But recently im seeing that hes low on cash and such. So i guess i try to pay for the food and such most of the times. (He doesnt have a job anymore becuase of school, but he tries to work with his dad sometimes) anyway, i feel like im always the one paying and im basically broke after that! Lol. I really dont mind. Basically what im asking is if you guys know places where we can go that are not that expensive? Yes i know the movies. But i mean other than that. We usually go to the movies or to eat at a fastfood resturant. I just want ideas so it doesnt get boring going to the same places. So where do you go with your boyfriend/girlfriend/friends on a friday night!? Oh i dont really go to clubs or bars or anything like that. But any idea would be helpful! Thankyou :) (link)
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Well something that maybe cheaper is getting something from redbox or netflix and watching it at home. You don't have to go out. I like saving money so every once in awhile my boyfriend and I will stay home and watch movies and eat pizza or something. Sometimes I even make him dinner! It's just a thought instead of going out all the time and spending your money. Therefore you can save your money and plan a day when the two of you can go out on a date.
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Hey, this question is something that I get a lot and used to get quite frequently because my best friend is a guy. I just want to know what your feelings are on guy/girl friendships. Do you think they can just be friends forever? Will they eventually fall for one another? Will sexual tension get the best of them? I've heard them all, my friend and I have been best friends since third grade and are now seniors in high school and everyone, even outside our circle of friends thinks that some day, some how, we are gonna date because guy/girl friendships are impossible. I disagree, as does he. What do you think? (link)
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You can be a guy and girl and just be friends! People are so stereotypical and maybe even hope that it might happen. My best friend is a guy and we've been best friends for 10 years. We use to get 'when will you date?' 'are you going to get married?' and all that over stuff. At first it pissed me off and then I thought who cares what they think? I know he's my friend and that's all he'll ever be. I'm not attracted to him like that if anything he's just like a brother to me. Ignore what people may say!
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