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He wants space
Just before Christmas I met a guy at a party and we hit it off. Over the Christmas period we were both at home from university and for weeks we talked all the time. He made it clear that he liked me and when we got back to university we started dating. At first, I was very hesitant to get into anything serious and he was the one pushing for a relationship. Now it seems that the roles have reversed because he is suddenly telling me he thinks we need 'space'. This has come after spending nearly every day together for the past three weeks. To all intents and purposes, we are a couple and we have both agreed not to see other people.
I'm hurt that he is suddenly putting the brakes on. We've both made it clear we want a relationship and we are effectively in one, so I'm confused that he wants to 'cool it down' now. I'm tempted to cut my losses and end the whole thing because my last relationship recently ended with me getting hurt and I don't think I could deal with a repeat so soon.
What should I do?
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I think you need to follow his request. And you too should think about what you want. Is there a reason that he wanted to have his own space? Did you call him a lot? Did you hang out all the time? It's difficult having a relationship in college. Think about it for awhile and give him some space. Talk to him about it and tell him what you want. Don't run away for fear of getting hurt. If you truly care for him and fight for the relationship. If you don't think this relationship is worth it move on!
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Why don't you just ask him what's up? If you both are mature, college students, you should be able to discuss your status and come to some sort of agreement.
You also state that you have been together non-stop. Maybe it's too much of a good thing? There is also the possibility that after spending so much time together, he has gotten turned off by something you do or say.
But the bottom line, is you deserve to know exactly what to expect. Listen closely to his answer and accept what he says. If he acts all vague after you ask, it may be wise to just cut him off until he can treat you with the respect you deserve. But you won't know what you're dealing with until you ask:) Hope this helps.
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People can want to be in a relationship but that doesn't always mean they are ready to be in one. It sounds like the guy really does like you but wants to focus on his schooling. It can be pretty difficult to juggle the two, If he wants a break then I would put it on hold for awhile. If he isn't available then he's just not available, It's your call to whether you should move on or not as I don't think it's really healthy to put yourself on hold for someone else availability. Remember, You have a life to live too and you need to do what is best for you.
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