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Sudden relapse into; insecurity / stress / depression
I physically feel an ache in my chest and a burning in the pit of my stomach, accompanied by nausea. I feel jittery (probably from lack of sleep.) I haven't been sleeping well, infact from friday night to last night Ive only had 2 hours of sleep. I'm having a bit of a nervous breakdown do to, having to explain to a unknown person on the bus about what gender I am and in their words, "why I go to extreme lengths to make it difficult to read." That bothered me the most, then I was called out to be a liar and mentally ill, as well as homosexual. Which are in no way remotely tied to the reasons I dress androgynous. I accept the fact that God made me as the sex he intended to. Is it so wrong to want to view myself as either male or female? I just feel like I'm the child that was caught playing with the wrong gender inrolled toy, and yelled at to reinforce the roles I need to take up on as being born of that gender. Now I don't want to leave my home. I feel like all eyes are on me, and like they all for some reason are either 1 disgusted or 2 dissaprove. Please, any "possitive" advice welcomed. I feel pretty jaded from everything, and it seems like I just worked up the courage to feel comfortable in my own skin and finally be able to dress how I want, but now in a fracture of a second it just all seized to exist...
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Your pain is just a result of your stress. I know this because I have it as well. I may be in a different situation but my pains are the same. So I'll tell you the things I do and hope they''ll help you too:
1.Go to a positive environment.
2.Talk about it with someone you trust.
3.Cry(when you do someone should be near you otherwise you'll just get extra sad).
(If you're angry too:
1.Smash it out (I know this sounds ridiculous but it works)
2.Talk about it.
3.Shout insults at who you're angry at.)
I hope this will help you!!
And know this after rain comes sunshine,so everything will be alright!
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Be YOU! I don't understand why society is trying to make us into 'normal' people. No one is normal everyone is different. And you shouldn't be shut down because you are different. For a long time I was silenced and its only recently that I've used my voice. People are afraid of what's different. Peopl are afraid of what they don't know. And it may seem hard right now but the more and more you use your voice and dress the way you want to the more you'll feel more in your own skin.
People are so quick to judge and especially when they don't even know you. Don't let them get you down and don't even pay attention to them. I also realized life is too short for the small stuff. Good luck!
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It is unfortunate that we as a whole tend to reject and scorn that for which we do not understand. While we have become much more liberal, as a society, towards Gays and Lesbians when it comes to other Gender identities we may as well live in the stone age.
I apologize for the person(s) who addressed you and called you a liar. They had no right to speak out on something they were totally ignorant of. You have as much choice at picking your sexual identity as they had at picking there's. This is how you were born. This world would be a better place of we were more tolerant of others.
Forget about this person and what others in the future may say. We are becoming more tolerant. To become more tolerant we need to learn about differences in all people not just sexuality. To do so we need to interact and learn from them.
I know what happened hurt you, you shouldn't have been hurt as the person who spoke up was an intolerant ass. We need people who are different, for any reason to be strong and come out and teach the rest of us the how and the why. So we can understand and be more tolerant.
It is not just sexuality that we are intolerant of. For example the Wright brothers were considered to be fools with their flying machine. Today the majority of the public has no problem stepping on a plane and in a few hours being halfway around the globe. As we learn we become more tolerant. Gays and Lesbians have been teaching us and we have become more tolerant. We have a long way to go but we are in a better place today then a decade ago.
If you are comfortable with who you are; to hell with everyone else. Go out and enjoy life. If someone asks; educate them.
I hope I have helped.
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Here's my advice: print out the advice of the person below me and GLUE it to your refridgerator! That sure helped me with what I'm going through right now.
And another thing to add: picture yourself with a bubble surrounding you. It is your confidence. If anyone tries to get close enough to pop it, you ignore them and walk away singing. It's a really good way of blocking people out if you focus. I hope we helped!!!
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I know this is really hard, but ignore those jerks. If you ignore them, eventually it will stop. Also, most judgmental people are insecure about themselves and just try to take it out on others. They cover their imperfections by pointing out others. Who cares about what all these other people think? You certainly shouldn't. Being able to ignore them will only make you a stronger person. As long as you are happy with the way you are, NOBODY ELSE'S OPINION MATTERS. God made you the way you are, unique and beautiful in ways that other people aren't. Find that courage you had that made you feel comfortable about yourself and use that to boost your confidence. It will be so much harder for people to bother you if you walk around with your head held high with confidence in yourself. Here's a quote by Christopher Morley that you should remember: "There is only one success - to be able to spend your life in your own way." To me, this means not letting other people get in the way of your happiness and success. I really hope this helped and made you feel better :)
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