My boyfriend .. I don't him not to get his hopes high. I'm on birth control and have been for months. I told him I wasn't going to have sex with him for 4 months or so.. even then, there would be no guarantees that I would say yes. He understands this. I THINK he will ask in a month or two.
I'll have sex when I'm ready. I won't be pressured into it either. I refuse to have sex already in a 5th month relationship. we are rather sexual at times... but that's not what our whole relationship is about.
so i'm just wondering..
Your first time experiences? I'm rather small in that area and i'm afraid that it will feel like he's trying to break/TEAR me. I've seen his dick and it seems so big in my eyes and i can't IMAGINE his head going in at all! When he fingers me, when he tries to enter first, it somewhat hurts but once he's inside.. it doesn't.
Is there enough room inside for a penis to stretch? or would it be a noticeable tight feeling INSIDE?
Any ways to make make me feel a bit comfortable? pillows? lube? yes, i already told him a condom is a MUST or he's getting nothing.
First off I applaud you on your statement "If he can't wait, I don't need him"
Now, I am also small in that area, and had the same worries as you. It probably will feel a little bit uncomfortable the first couple of times, but it does stretch inside. You've mentioned that it hurts a little when he fingers you, and that is normal, If you are wet enough down there it really shouldn't hurt that bad. Having him finger you will help a lot. Have him start with one finger and then move to two, this will help strech out the opening. Do the same before you have sex for the first time, and it shouldn't hurt as much.
I think that the condoms that are already lubricated work really well, but if you do decided to use non-lubricated ones, make sure you use an approved product that won't break down the latex. Just tell him to go slow when you start, and have him agree that if it hurts too bad that he will stop.
Kate
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okay, so this boy really likes me and we've talked alot over the summer and he wants to go out with me when i get back from vacation. hes a lot more experienced then me and ive never had a real boyfriend before. ive been asked out many times but ive just been able to say no. i really like this kid and i was wondering what to say when he asks me out. like do i say, yes, yeah, of course? what? please help!!! i rate high for good answers!
Well this depends on your personality and his. Also how he asks you can be a factor.
For example my boyfriend got down on one knee and presented me with a ring he had just folded out of paper and said "So, Do you wanna date me?" So I said "Of course!"
If he asks if you'd like to go somewhere with him you can say "I'd love to"
Otherwise you can say whatever feels right. There is no real right answer here, it all depends on how it feels, but a simple "Yes" will work just fine.
Good Luck!
Kate
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here is the thing.
lately i've been going through a hard time.
one of my friends (whos a guy) has been there for every step of the way.
i told him not to worry about me.
but he said because he knew i wasnt alright then he worried about me.
and monday he worried about me all day.
even though he was with his crush.
and i told him to just have fun but he couldnt focus.
i sent him an IM saying call me when u see this and an hour later i guess. he came home..and then a half hour later i can came back online.
and he asked what was wrong.
and i bascially was really mean to him.
and bitched and told him f-u and he got mad at me..and then i cleaned it up with something i wrote. then today i found out i had got my period.
which is probably half the reason why i acted that way on monday night. so now i feel really bad. but if i apologize idk if he will accept it.
because when i mess up i say sorry a lot. and im so lost. =[.
any ideas? should i flat out say i got it? we tell each other everything. and he understands girls really well.
thanks. sorry i know it may sound confusing.
This guy seems to really care about you, maybe even more than as a friend. Just say something like "I'm sorry I yelled at you the other night. I know you were only trying to help, and I shouldn't have taken everything out on you" You could tell him you were PMSing but he might take that as you are only making excuses. I hope it all works out for you.
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whats the best love song you know?
Not a crummy old one but one that kids would listen to today
Here in your arms by hellogoodbye
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How do I stop my friend from having sex with the same guy over and over?
In short....you can't.
I know that it is hard to watch someone you care about make mistakes, and even harder to watch them make the same ones over and over again, but sometimes you just need to sit back and let your friends make their own mistakes, and learn their own lessons. It's tough, but when its all over resist the urge to say "I told you so!" and be there for her when she needs you the most.
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here is the thing.
i became best friends with one of my best friends in 7th grade.
this coming year we will be seniors.
she moved to another district at the end of 8th.
but we are still very close. though she is a half hour away.
she told me her dreams and how she wants to go to college and such.
shes been dancing and doing soccer for years.
this past friday me and my friend were trying to make plans since we havent seen her since september.
and shes all "im trying to get high" and crap..and all we could do is be like WTF?! we didnt know how to react to her stupidity. and we werent sure to yell at her. hate her or be mad at her. the next day she came online and apologized to me and said she didnt remember shit from the night before online. and that she was sorry and she regreted it. and how she didnt mean to do it and such. and swore she would never do it again. the today i was talking to my friend and she said how our friend came to her and all about her problems and that she was upset because people were being arses... yet what she pulled the other night was pathetic and how my friend was all WTF and wanted to make her regret it so badly yet didnt know what to do.
i dont know what to do. >_<
we have that kinda friendship where we sat 2 tables away and our tables hate the others table. so we got into hating each other but we didnt know why...and finally we broke free and just happened to be sitting at the same table with 1 of our friends. so we learned that we were stupid and we became really close.
so im not sure if its worth yelling at her and what not half of me makes it seem like she is sorry and she regrets it yet half feels like she doesnt.
and do you know by any chance any song lyrics for this type of situation?
thanks!
sorry it was so long.
It sounds like she could just be doing it all for attention. Since she doesn't live nearby you wouldn't know if she was actually doing drug or not. She probably just said it and then when you and your friends reacted the way to did, felt bad, and had to go along with the story anyway.
If you do know for sure that she did do drugs, I'd tell her not to do it again because you don't want to be involved in that sort of thing. Explain to her that you care about her and don't want to see her mess up her life.
As for song lyrics..maybe "I can do better" by Avril Lavinge...I'm not at home right now, but when I get home I'll see what else would work and edit this answer for you.
Kate =]
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i`m a 16/f.. almost 17. i have sex with my boyfriend, and we use condoms, and he even pulls out. my parents have no idea we're having sex & would completely flip out if they knew. i want to go on birth control - because i have really long periods & because i get very very bad cramps. will birth control help with those? & also, if i tell my mom i want birth control for just cramps, and the doctor asks if i`m having sex - what should i say? if my mom is in the room, i don't want to say yes.
so, what should i do? also, does birth control make you gain weight?
You should be able to go into the doctor's office alone and your mom can wait out in the waiting room. It depends on the laws in your state. In Pennsylvannia, Where I live, My mom just had to write a note to the doctor saying she had permission to treat me, and I can go alone. You can just say "no" but the doctor only asks that question so she knows if you need to be tested for STD's.
Some people gain weight and others don't. Like the other side affects it usually subsides after 3 months of use.
Kate
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i have a few stretch marks on my inner thighs... and i dont understand it. im not overweight or anything. so why do i have these? and how do u get them? from losing weight, gaining weight, both? And finally, how can i get rid of or reduce the appearance of them?? thanks!!
You get strech marks from gaining or losing weight or even by growing. I have some on my inner thighs too, and so do many other people. Over time they will fade from the redish purple to a lighter color, mine are not really noticible anymore. You can use over the counter medicines to reduce the appearance of scars, but I think they are a waste of money and don't really work, so just wait it out.
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alright so last night i asked my boyfriend if he was ever in love and he said yeah and i was like do you still have feelings for her? and he was like i always will but its was over along time ago and always will be.
so in a way that got me thinking would he ever love me?
or always lover her?
what if she ever came back, would he leave me for her?
even though it was along time ago.
This can be tricky. I think that people always still have some feelings for people they once loved, because I believe that once you fall in love, you can't not be in love with that person. Since he said that the relationship was over along time ago and always will be, he doesn't have any intentions to be with her again. He probably does still care about her, but the thing to remember is that he is with you, not her.
He is able to love you just like he loved her, just maybe he was hurt in that relationship and needs time before he says that he loves you. At least he is honest and open about this, instead of just saying he loves you without any meaning.
Kate
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hey everyone. does anyone know who sings that remake of time after time? thanks in advanced ♥
That song has been re-done a bunch of times, but I think the one you are thinking of is done by Quietdrive.
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So at the end of the school year i because friends with this girl named alex.. me and alex became pretty close and we hang out alot... and talk on the phone liek everyday...In becomeing friends with alex i met this girl named Kelsey.. me and kelsey began to talk and it was one of those thiongs where it was liek instant trust and we started to tell eachother everything... well alex and kelsey got into a huge fight bacause alex said kelsey was to clingy..and there friendship kinda stopped... and when i told alex i was going to hang out with kelsey she seemed liek upeset about it and was like "shes goign to cling to you and shes goign to make it a battele between her and i to see who hangs out with you"
I kinda feel in the middle of this fight and i dont know what to do .... i really wanna be friends with kelsey.. but i kinda of seel that i have to be soly friends with alex because idont want to make any1 mad.. i would like to be friends with both of them but i dont know if that will work!!
What do i do!!??!?
Just explain to both of them that even if they don't want to be friends you can still be friends with both of them. And Don't listen when they talk crap about eachother. Don't tell one what the other said about her either, that will only start more drama. It is possible to remain friends with them, and who knows maybe they will work out their differences and become friends again.
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if your boyfriend cant get it up does it mean hes not attracted to you?
also if he cums real fast, will he ever get better?
1] He could just be nervous for a number of reasons, such as, lack of experience or fear of getting caught. However, try not to make a big deal out of it, he's not doing it on purpose and saying things like "I don't turn you on?" will only make him upset.
2] It usually gets better, its very common for young guys to cum fast, mainly due to lack of expierence.
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ok so my boyfriend and i have been together for a year on thursday (next week) and this is what we're going to do, but i wanted to know if it seems weird or anything...
we were gonna go out to dinner at our fave restaurant (don pablos) and go see a movie and get each gifts and stuff... but instead, we both just got back from a cruise, so time is dwindling down to go shopping, so we decided to do this: there's this place like 20 minutes from my house called 'the promenade shops at saucon valley' they have lots of stores, a red robins and some other smaller places to eat, and a movie theater. it's like an outdoor mall and is really cool. we were gonna go there and go to red robins, and catch a movie. but before eating and the movie, we were gonna go shopping for each other but together... like pick stuff out for each other, but together. for a few reasons, one cause we'll both be there so we'll be sure we like it, two cause it's alot easier, and its just more convienant. now is that weird or strange? i think it's okay but i just want some opinions =) THANKS ♥
by the way we're both 16 and he has his liscense but no car... but he can probably get one to use for the date lol
I think that is so cute. I would love to do that with my boyfriend. It would put our two favorite hobbies together, eating and a movie for him and shopping for me!
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14/f
I've been on a lower fat/low calorie diet for a number of months now, but it seems like since about a month ago it hasn't been working, like my body is storing everything and I can't get pounds to come off anymore, no matter how low my caloric intake is. And I exercise from 20-60+ minutes per day. (yesterday i only had 1300 HEALTHY calories and worked out more than usual, but today I woke up and i was 3 pounds heavier) :[
I've heard about Alli, the weight loss pill, and I really think that it could help me. I understand how it works and everything but I'm not sure if it's safe. Because all other weight loss pills are recalled for being harmful, after they've been out for a while.
My mom is SO against weight loss pills because she thinks they're all bad and unsafe, so how can I get this Alli without her knowing, or how can i convince her to get it? Will pharmacies sell over-the-counter pills to minors? I can't even drive.
If not alli, can you please reccomend some other weight loss pill/supplement that might help me?
ps: i know i'm just 14, but my body has finished developing and i'm as tall as i'm ever going to be. so that might be a factor?
any advice appreciated. thanks.
That drug is only made and been tested on people over the age of 18. No research has been done on its use on children.
Diet pill usually do not work, however Alli was a perscription drug for many years before the FDA decided it would be sold over the counter. I would suggest talking to your doctor about losing weight, and even asking their opinion on this drug. Then if they say it would be alright to use, go ahead.
Don't go behind your mother's back to get this, it will only make her mad when she finds out, and she will find out. Ask her to help you make healthier choices when it comes to eating, or ask her to go on walks with you instead.
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i don't know what to wear for my sister's graduation...
they said dress fancy but obviously not steal the grads' thunders by looking more fancier than grads
but i do have this nice black cocktail dress that i barely wear, but just have for occasions like this, should i wear the dress with heels or just go casual in jeans or shorts? help plz, thanks~
I think it would be okay to wear the dress. I wore bermuda shorts and a white tanktop to my boyfriend's graduation, but his was outside. I'd say wear what you want as long as it isn't too casual, so the dress would be fine.
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Ok so some chick stole my gf's ipod. now are vice principal says if she can tell us the serial number, he can get it back, but the probleam is we're not sure how, we searched apple.. com but couldnt find anything. does anyone know a way to get the serial number if you don't actually have the ipod with you
Check the box and if all else fails have her parents contact the principal, they hate hearing from parents.
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Hi! Me and my ex b/f broke up because i wasn't feeling him anymore. Then we became friends and he stills cares about me and wants to get back together. I don't think i like him as much as he likes me though. He also tried to talk to my friend, but we was broken up at the time. But he appolized and admitted he was wrong but i dont know if i should get back together with him. What do ya'll think?
If you weren't interested in dating him then and you still feel the same way now, don't date him again. If you do like him and think you can fix your problems with the relationship then give it another chance, but please don't play games with his heart.
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Are you supposed to wear a bra to sleep or not?
I don't think so because it's uncomfortable to sleep in them and I read somewhere that your boobs needs to be bra free for a sertain number of hours on the internet long time ago.
My friend said that though if you don't wear a bra your boobs will get saggy.
bra or no bra?
It makes no difference if you do or if you don't. Some people feel uncomfortable wearing one at night, while others feel more comfortable wearing one. Your boobs won't get saggy if you aren't wearing one.
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i heard this song last night and i don't know what it is. i really liked it too!
it starts off as like an instrumental part for maybe 10-15 seconds. then the first line is "i never thought i'd die alone". the band sounded like blink 182 or +44. i heard it on a rock radio station.
does anyone know what it is?
It's Adam's song by Blink 182
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okay so to start of im 17 years old female. anyway im 17 and i have been for the last 5months my mom will not let me do anything and im so sick of it i had to come in at 10:30 pm like im a baby or something its friday night and all of my friends are out drinking but no i have to be home by 10:30 i cant go out to partys and drink because i drive i cant even stay out past 11 on the weekends im going insane..!! some one please help
First off it is illegal for you to be drinking. Second I think that 10:30 is pretty reasonable, I don't drink, I don't do drugs. My parents always know who I am with and on school nights I have to be home at 10 pm. I think you are being selfish and immature. Your mother is only doing what is in your best intrest and maybe one day you will be mature enough to thank her for not letting you screw up your life
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