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Question Posted Tuesday July 3 2007, 10:40 am

if your boyfriend cant get it up does it mean hes not attracted to you?
also if he cums real fast, will he ever get better?

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*Kate* answered Tuesday July 3 2007, 5:08 pm:
1] He could just be nervous for a number of reasons, such as, lack of experience or fear of getting caught. However, try not to make a big deal out of it, he's not doing it on purpose and saying things like "I don't turn you on?" will only make him upset.

2] It usually gets better, its very common for young guys to cum fast, mainly due to lack of expierence.

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MAK answered Tuesday July 3 2007, 12:31 pm:
Well, if he is a virgin, or had sex only a few times in his life, he could be just nervous. As for cumming really soon, its because this pleasure is so new to him that he is already very sexually excited, and it doesn't take much to set him off.

The more you guys do it, the more ummm.. "endurance" he will have, and he will last a lot longer.

As for the nervous part, make sure you guys are in a comfortable setting while having sex, where you don't have the fear that someone will barge in on you. Also giving him a blow job or a handjob will help a lot too.

Ps. For the other people who said that he can't get an erection because he thinks you are unattractive is complete crap. He's dating you, and he wouldn't have asked you out/said yes (if you were the one to ask him out) if he wasn't attracted to you.

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Xenolan answered Tuesday July 3 2007, 12:27 pm:
(1) The most likely reason that he can't get it up is nervousness. If he weren't attracted to you, the relationship probably wouldn't have reached the point where the state of his erection would matter. In addition, you wouldn't be having the second problem you describe.

(2) Climaxing too fast is a result of inexperience and, again, nervousness. He's probably just too agitated to take it slow. This is something that will probably improve over time. Women almost always take longer to reach orgasm than men; he just needs to be willing to put in that time and make sure that your needs are being met. Help him by giving him guidance on what feels good to you. Also, consider that just because he's fired off one shot, it doesn't mean he's done. Next time he's early to the finish line, see if you can work him up for another lap.

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ammo answered Tuesday July 3 2007, 12:27 pm:
No, actually it doesn't mean that at all. A number of things can be the cause, one of the primary being pressure or stress. Both can have a big effect on a guys ability to have an erection so I wouldn't worry about it being him not attracted to you. Quite frankly if he wasn't attracted to you he wouldn't really be with you, would he? Ignore the other two replies - they were short sighted and quite frankly personal opinions as opposed to facts.

As for the cumming too fast, that is one thing they were right about. Being inexperienced is generally the cause of this and with time it should improve. If it doesn't there are ways to prolong the experience using foreplay/oral as well as using condoms. There are a specific type of condoms that are thicker than the 'normal' ones (I believe they are extra protection condoms as they don't split as easily) and these may help to cause less friction during intercourse so as to help your boyfriend last longer during sex. Overall though he should improve over time. :]

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runawayxlove answered Tuesday July 3 2007, 11:06 am:
hey, well i talked to my guy friend and he said that thats true. he says for girls that he doesnt find attractive, he cant get it up for. yes, its possible for a guy to get better. the cumming really fast comes from inexperience with sex (only having sex once or maybe twice), or just being a virgin totally.


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Antnorwe answered Tuesday July 3 2007, 10:45 am:
Yes. it means you are hag of a women who would probably be ore at home in a cess pit.

and the thing about his speedy ejaculation is that he is probably a virgin.

is his name by any chance westy?

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