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My boyfriend .. I don't him not to get his hopes high. I'm on birth control and have been for months. I told him I wasn't going to have sex with him for 4 months or so.. even then, there would be no guarantees that I would say yes. He understands this. I THINK he will ask in a month or two.
I'll have sex when I'm ready. I won't be pressured into it either. I refuse to have sex already in a 5th month relationship. we are rather sexual at times... but that's not what our whole relationship is about.
so i'm just wondering..
Your first time experiences? I'm rather small in that area and i'm afraid that it will feel like he's trying to break/TEAR me. I've seen his dick and it seems so big in my eyes and i can't IMAGINE his head going in at all! When he fingers me, when he tries to enter first, it somewhat hurts but once he's inside.. it doesn't.
Is there enough room inside for a penis to stretch? or would it be a noticeable tight feeling INSIDE?
Any ways to make make me feel a bit comfortable? pillows? lube? yes, i already told him a condom is a MUST or he's getting nothing.
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you will probley be nervous so you wont be to wet. lube is proably a very good idea. have him finger you a little before, to loosen you up. then just make sure you tell him to take it slow, he can wait, you arent going anywhere. it will be a bit painful. missionary {lying on your back) for your first time is the best position. have him hold your hand or something that helps relax you while he works it in. good luck.
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I'm not going to lie to you, the first few times can really be painful. The most important thing is to have him go slow and give your body time to stretch and adjust to having a penis in there.
Lube might help with making it easier to get his penis in there, but it won't exactly make it less painful. Really the best thing to do is to take it slow and give yourself time to adjust.
The first few times you have sex, you will be extremely tight. You might want to try mounting him the first few times you have sex so you can steadly lower yourself onto him at a pace you are comfortable with.
Try not to think too much about the pain and you should be fine. You'll adjust to it within a few tries.
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I totatlly agree with Kate... I am like exactly like you! So don't worry everything will work out fine, just take your time and don't do anything that you are not ready for. Good things happen with time.
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First off I applaud you on your statement "If he can't wait, I don't need him"
Now, I am also small in that area, and had the same worries as you. It probably will feel a little bit uncomfortable the first couple of times, but it does stretch inside. You've mentioned that it hurts a little when he fingers you, and that is normal, If you are wet enough down there it really shouldn't hurt that bad. Having him finger you will help a lot. Have him start with one finger and then move to two, this will help strech out the opening. Do the same before you have sex for the first time, and it shouldn't hurt as much.
I think that the condoms that are already lubricated work really well, but if you do decided to use non-lubricated ones, make sure you use an approved product that won't break down the latex. Just tell him to go slow when you start, and have him agree that if it hurts too bad that he will stop.
Kate <3
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