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19 England
I hate uni, ive been here since sept, i just feel like im invisible especially in my block in halls (dorms) :(
i just hate it.
my boyf is in the same city which is awesome but, my family live a good 90 miles away.
but i do love the city im in.
i just dont like uni. my dorm friends. i dunno they just make me fell like shit and i dont think they know it.
I wanna know what to do about this. (link)
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Friends are nice to have there's no disputing that. However, you aren't there to make friends and have everyone like you. Your focus is on studying and making something out of yourself.
Keep proceeding on that path as half the people you know now will be in your rear-view mirror or permanently forgotten afterwards. Put it into perspective like that.
It seems to me that this is a foregone conclusion. If you love the city and you have a supportive boyfriend that lives there than MOVE IN with him and share the rent. Either that or find your own apartment or move in with family if you have a car. Do what makes you feel best.
When it comes to people making you feel like shit nobody can do that unless you give them the power. They probably have no idea that something they did or didn't do was interpreted that way.
If people make you feel that low than don't get involved with them.
If you constantly feel depressed where you didn't before it's okay to admit being overwhelmed. Seek support for it and perhaps talk with a professional to see if there's anything they can do to ease the anxiety and feelings of helplessness.
We can't make decisions for you but rather suggest ideas. You have to figure out for yourself how to continue university but to be happy and away from the negativity of living there. Let me know what transpires in my inbox.
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Here it is in a nutshell-
I've liked this girl for a while. She's funny, selfless, pretty, etc. The one friend I confided this in is telling me that she strongly believes that she likes me back. Apparently, she is happier when I'm around, hugs me a lot, and is pissy to everybody but me. I haven't noticed any of these things, plus, as far as I know, she's straight. Now another one of my friends is saying the same thing. I just can't imagine her actually liking me back. She is way too good for me and it just would be too good to be true. I'm not pretty, I have way too much baggage, and I'm a nerd. Plus, I've heard her say that she likes a guy. I want to believe my friends but I'm really skeptical. Please help? (link)
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First things first the priority ought to be on fixing your self-esteem. Nobody can love you nor can you love them without condition until you stop looking at yourself through a dirty window pane.
How do you know you're not pretty? Who put that idea into your head? Who says you're a nerd either? Be careful what you identify yourself as or you will forever have problems because of it.
You may be gorgeous and everything she wants for all you know. You have several problems here. The BIGGEST is you don't know if she's gay or not. That's huge because if you made a move and she wasn't and was only being friendly...
As for your friends TRUST ME I've recently had people tell me the same things you have been told only to find out the person we're both straight didn't want anything to do with me in that sense or afterward.
You can only trust yourself. Find out from her whether she's with anyone or not. She may bring up a guy. If you think she's straight she probably is.
You can mention to her that you're glad to have supportive friends because you aren't and see the reaction. If your gut tells you to be skeptical than be that. It's keeping you safe. I would just be FRIENDS now and settle for that and wait and see if anything evolved naturally. That way you don't miss out on a friend and don't humiliate yourself either.
As far as baggage goes no matter who you end up with leave it behind you as you don't need it. The past is the past and cannot be changed but it can't influence now or the future unless you give it the power to. Live in the moment and proceed ever forward and never back.
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If ur boyfriend masturbate then gets it all over his hands then touches ur bum with his hand could I get pregnant ? Xxx (link)
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NO. Pregnancy occurs from vaginal intercourse or semen making contact with an egg. This is the wrong body part for that to happen.
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Ok, so my boyfriend wants to finger me and its gonna be me and him's first time and I haven't even started my period yet is it ok for him to finger me?? Oh and he is 16 and I'm 15, Thanks. (link)
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If you are concerned about it talk to your doctor about why your period hasn't arrived now that you are 15. Rule out anything medical with it. Most likely it's hereditary and being a late bloomer goes in your family.
As far as the second question all this is really is a form of masturbation. No doubt you have done that yourself and totally nothing at all wrong with it. In this case he's the one doing the touching etc. Menstruation has zilch to do with it. Totally separate. If you're okay with doing it than fine but if not tell him. Either way you can't possible harm yourself at all.
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A layed down a few minutes ago and crossed my legs but felt pain on my vagina so I took a look at it and there is a small bump that is quite sensitive. I don't masturbate that often and have never had sex. It is mor eof a bubble than a bump though. It looks like it should be able to roll right off but it hurts. Please help quickly because I have school tommorow! Thanks. (link)
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http://isabellasnow.hubpages.com/hub/Vaginal-Blisters-and-Sores
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As the title says, I have the android and I hate it. The battery is terrible, at the end of a 7 hour school day of me going on twitter and texting for one study hall it is at 4%. My high school graduation is on June 6th and I am having a party for graduating where I intend to get a macbook for college and an iPhone. I saw on the apple site that the regular 4, the one I want, is only 99 dollars but I don't know if that'd be before my Sprint switch over and everything because I'm not ready for an update just yet. My other phone was an android and I got another android before the iPhone came to Sprint, my dad has had his phone for about 4 years and he didn't intend to get a new one at the time so I used his upgrade. Well now, he is looking for a new phone and I would like to get the iPhone, as one number is only ready for an upgrade, I think that it'd make sense to give my dad my android because he would only use it for texting and he could just turn the data on internet off, and then I could get the iPhone4s for 200 on the Sprint site. However, if that fails, am I correct in seeing 99 dollars for it on the apple site? Or is that just the phone? Anybody who has done this or knows, please help me out. Thanks! (link)
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Don't buy ANYTHING until you have read this. I want you to get the RIGHT phone. The phone you see advertised for $99.00 STAY AWAY FROM. It's the LAST model of the I Phone called a 4. It doesn't have any of the latest features, is not fast on the Internet at all and doesn't hold the amount of data or songs the new one has.
The I Phone 4S is the latest I Phone and comes is 16GB, 32GB and 64GB of storage. For a student like yourself the 16GB is perfect, you'll need a data plan for the Internet and there's enough space for 16GB for the majority of your I Pod library. It operates on a 4G network.
The 16GB I Phone 4S typically goes for $160 down. That's what you pay when you buy one in store, online etc with a cell provider. Then on top of this you have to pay monthly whatever amount your data plan is going to be.
Upgrades are a pain in the ass. Providers rope you in usually for three years and then tell you what you can and can't upgrade to after a period of time. It's damn near impossible for them to allow you to have an I Phone 4S without getting out of your current contract with a huge penalty. Your dad has to phone them and ask if you can upgrade or not.
If you are buying an I Phone 4S do it at an Apple Store or their web site. They'll set it all up for you with whichever provider in store Best Buy tends not to know much about Apple products and will sell you damn near anything as they're all on commission and Apple is not.
Also, while it hasn't been officially announced the I Phone 5 which was Steve Job's last project is rumored to be better than any version of the phone. Persistent rumors are out there about it being announced if not released before Christmas. Something to consider either way.
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s it weird that i just want to wear regular panties? all of my friends wear thongs like all the time now and they keep telling me i should to...but thongs look really uncomfortable i dont want anything stuck up my but im totally comfortable wearing my normal bikini panties...shud i try wearing thongs? (link)
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It's really your decision which to wear. If you feel comfortable not wearing them or thinking they would be uncomfortable for you than don't. These kind of underwear actually trap in moisture etc. so a lot of women can develop certain infections down there or so I'm told and read.
I guess if you want to know what it feels like to wear a thong and see if it's something you like the only thing to do is try one out. If you hate it then you'll know it isn't your deal. Just because it's right for your friends doesn't mean it is or should be for you. That said don't be scared to find out for yourself and wear one. After all, it can't hurt you to figure it out.
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I'm a 16 year old female who was sexually abused two weeks ago, and knows about the pain and awful trauma that follows. My abuser is in jail, and I feel good knowing he won't do it again. Last night, a 19 year old guy kept on asking me to have sex with him, and he was very inappropriate and not giving up, even after I told him I was a virgin. He later apologized when I told him I was calling the police, cuz he was really scared. I feel if I don't tell on him, he might actually hurt other girls, and I don't want to take responsibility for that. But he didn't actually do anything. Should I tell on him? I don't want to ruin his life... (link)
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You don't want to ruin his life? Back up here. That's what he's looking to do to yours or some other girl. Likely he already has and if he hasn't telling an adult will stop him. He needs help and must be shown this is no way to be behave.
He could be violent otherwise or take this one step farther or too far if adults don't address this. Some secrets are wrong to keep. This is one of them.
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i get very depressed a lot. my doctor says i have a mood disorder. i think im bipolar but he is the doctor. he hasn't found the right dosage of medicine for me yet. i tried to kill myself with pills a few months ago. i dont want to do it again. can anyone give me tips for how to deal with depression. (link)
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Start by telling your doctor this stuff. He needs to know that you tried to kill yourself and must be called immediately is drugs aren't working. He can't fix things unless you tell him what really is happening. That's the best tip I can give you. Follow his advice to the letter and tell him exactly what you have been feeling and let him adjust medication or diagnose from it.
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I'm a teenage girl and I want to get a clear face :) I've tried many different things such as; proactiv, salt water, clearasil, garnier,tea tree oil. None of them have worked!
If you know any thing that actually helps get a clear face! (and please not just 'drink lots of water and have a good diet' because i already do that)
I want like products or natural remedies that actually work please!! :)
Thanks! :D x (link)
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There is a reason none of these products have worked for you. They all lack prescription strength medication that eats away at the acne (literally) and keeps it from returning.
You will be continually frustrated until you see a family doctor or better yet a dermatologist who can give you a prescription for it. Follow that regiment and sooner rather than later your face will permanently clear up. Nothing else contains the medicine your face needs. Most family doctors have samples they can give you when starting. You need to go this route.
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so my best friend (along w/ some of our other friends from college) went on a road trip. we all got super drunk. when we got to a hotel me and my best friend got our own room (we are both girls btw) and were sharing a bed. she kept asking me to rub her back so i did then she asked me to rub her leg and i did. i was so wasted, my had accidently lingered too far up her shorts and i noticed she was super super wet, so i slipped my hand in and started to finger her. i know she enjoyed it she started moaning so loud. i fell asleep while i was fingering her, before she reached completion and she woke me up to make me finish. once we were done i went to sleep. its been two weeks and we haven't spoken about this. what should i do to clear the air? does this mean i am a lesbian? also i am college age if that helps at all... (link)
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I wouldn't bring it up unless she does. Odds are she's embarrassed about what transpired it, doesn't understand it or cannot process it. She's asking herself the same questions you are.
If you 100% are attracted to guys and not girls than this doesn't change your orientation. Chalk this up to sexual curiosity while drunk and not in control of what you were doing. Same thing as far as enjoying it in the moment. One experience like this does not a lesbian make. As long as it never happens again I wouldn't worry.
If she comes to you to talk just let her know you were inebriated and aren't interested in doing anything like that again. Above all right now don't feel any guilt or shame about it.
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my shy crush always looks at since 6th grade. now i'm in the 7th grade and he's moving this year and i never got to talk to him or anything :( (link)
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This doesn't have to be one of those what could have been scenarios. Make the most of the time you have now. He's not gone yet and even if he did move you could still work things out. As long as he's not moving to Russia or something rather than the same city nothing a car won't fix.
You need to be direct and just own up to the facts. Let him know you were too afraid to do anything. Tell him you always felt this way and then agree to at least hang out and have fun or to try a relationship in the time you have rather than not and see if despite the move it can continue. I'm sure your parents won't mind the distance.
Something deep down is telling you that you need to at least tell him and to pursue this on some level. Obey your gut as at the very least you'll feel relief for having said something rather than always holding on to it. You both need that.
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Hi guys, does anyone know anything about a 2006 Dodge Nitro? i have been looking into Dodge Ram 1500, and the Nitro but my father tells me that the Nitro may have bad reviews. If anyone owns one or knows someone who does, could you please tell me what's the pro's and cons are? And how much miles to the gallon they get? and also , approx. how much it is to fill the tank? Thankyou!! (link)
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You need a book called Lemon Aid. While the 2012 book will focus on that model it does mention previous years and common problems experienced with that year's model. I don't know if it's online anywhere but a library will yield the 2006 book with a full out review. If buying a car and especially a used one that book is the standard go-to before buying anything.
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Is it possible for me to pop my cherry while i was riding a horse? i mean my pussy bled and stuff but could this have popped my cherry? My boyfriend will rape me if he finds out that my cherry is popped so i really need to know! i might just kill myself. (link)
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What the hell are you doing with a guy who threatens to rape you for any reason? That's NUTS. You need to tell an adult about this threat and get as far away from him as possible. That's not a sane thing for anyone to remark.
The fact is tampon usage, masturbation, sports inclusive of horse back riding can do it. It doesn't mean you aren't a virgin. You are one until intercourse takes place. Believe me you're with one scary SOB and your family needs to deal with this.
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my sister and i got into this huge argument and i am 23 years old but i am M r. and she beat my head in to the floor until she made my nose all bloody and some of my teeth fall out and my back hurts and it's been almost a week since it happened is it to late to press charges for assault since they say my mind is like an 11 year old would they put charges on her for child abuse? If I go to the hospitable for my back would they automatically call the police since i am Mr.? (link)
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Child abuse NO because you are an adult but ASSAULT you better believe it. It doesn't matter intellectually if you are 11 and physically 23. The law is the law. If she left you blooded and with teeth missing tell an adult you trust and have her charged.
Although this happened a week ago no limitations have/will pass soon. You can have her charged right now, tomorrow, this week but shouldn't wait to do this. The quicker the better.
If you were under 18 the hospital would call in the police but because you're 23 if you didn't tell the hospital how the injuries happened and that she assaulted you police wouldn't be involved. You should go to the hospital have them see the injuries and ask to speak to an officer about who inflicted it.
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I have recentyy got my brake pads, and rotor changed on both front wheels. So Sears changed them with new ones and as part of their due diligence they had to replinish the break fluids and do wheel alignment. I was impressed with their caring nature.
But soon, I realised a problem. Since these changes, my car 'refuses to drive straight' instead it 'pulls to the right'
I went back to Sears and they were delighted to see me. They did the alighnment and told me that the alighnment numbers are within the Fords acceptable range? Now they saying that one of the Calipers is sticking to the rotor. Since only one caliper does not completely release the rotor, and the other one does, the car pulls to the right. They indicated the pistin in the caliper is Faulty. So I quickly asked them to change that and they promised, the car will not get pulled to one side. Ok, this all got done yesterday evening. This morning I realised the car is still pulling to the right?
My questions are as follows.
what other variables could be causing the problem.
Since safety is involved, would it be wise of me to get a second opinion? Mind you I have paid Sears over $800, already. And before I checked in my car for the new 'Ball joints' to be replaced, my car was NOT pulling in any direction as there are even wear on all tyres.
Has sear NOT captured some fundermental problems in this case?
I am completely novice to 'Car Mechanics'.
But I need some help with the probable causes so it can be addressed.
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Have it looked at by someone else. If something is wrong that Sears didn't do correctly than you can get compensated as all work is backed up. If I were you I would only take it to a Ford dealer this time. They know what condition a 2001 model should be in and cause for problems.
If Sears did a wheel alignment this would have to mean that they weren't properly aligned before. Typically, 9 times out of ten when a car pulls to the right or the left it means one thing. The car was in a front-end crash be it a fender bender or something worse that screwed up alignment.
So, in theory when Sears went in they re-aligned everything and unearthed a problem you likely never knew of if in fact your not the first owner of the car. Sure, there could be other reasons but this is the big one with cars that pull like that. Most likely a wrap up you don't know of. Have them run the VIN number as that will tell you a lot about the history.
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Okie this is really embrassing but how do u make a guy cme faster when we have sex my bf tkes like 20 min to cum which idk but i havent got him to cum when i give him a blowjob i mean after a while my neck and mouth hurt and i want to make him cum faster how i have tried nibbling using my teeth putting ice in my mouth nothing worked i need help fast!!! (link)
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Do you know if he's on any kind of medication for an illness of any severity? A lot of medications carry sexual side-effects making it harder for climax. Also, certain illnesses like diabetes for instance can cause it. If this appears to be why have him talk to a doctor.
The other thing is nerves and fear be it irrational or not associated with the act itself. In some cases it could be certain positions even that make it difficult for him. Whatever you do stick in there with him as it's not his fault.
We can't give anything bordering on technique or how-to for obvious reasons but if you know how to seek out answers there are different things you can do that don't result in the jaw pain you mentioned.
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My mom coughs and spits up mucus everytime we go walking around the park in the morning. She has diabetes, glaucoma and she has had pneumonia. She coughs a lot and spits up mucus but she does it a lot after we walk in the morning. She coughs and spits up mucus when she smells smoke or smoke from food or when its hot she starts coughing. Is it because she used to have pneumonia or that she smokes? (link)
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This is the farthest thing from normal. She needs to see a doctor. I'm not one and nor are anyone affiliated with this site. We couldn't begin to tell you what the issue is and nor would we want to as wrong medical advice can have bad consequences.
Any time fluids or something is coming coughed up like that is a concern. It could be for a variety of reasons from benign to even life threatening. What it is indicating is a problem that is severe enough to be looked into pronto. Have her see a doctor or visit an emergency room to figure out what's happening and why. Better to be safe than sorry as this isn't something normal.
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hi im only 15 and my boyfreing wants to fuck me
should i do that or just give him head.
personly i dont want to do nether wat should i do
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If you aren't comfortable with either than that's FINE. Don't do anything you aren't ready for or wanting just to please someone. In the end you have to live with a decision--not him. Tell him that you aren't ready. He should respect that and if he doesn't than it's clear indicator you're with the wrong person. If he loves you he'll understand.
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I'm so sorry for the length. I just really need help.
Hello! So, I have a problem with my body. I'm a girl but it has nothing to do with puberty.
Ok, you see... I've had this treatment 2 times now. It didn't hurt a lot during the first time, but it hurt worse the 2nd time. But then, I had a surgery on it.
I have to do the treatment(not the surgery) again, and i'm afraid it'll hurt worse.
What do I do? I'm scared and I don't want to do this! I told my parents I don't want to, but they said "This is your last visit. You HAVE to do this. You are almost done." But they don't know how much it hurts! Well, my mom had this treatment before...
Please help! This stuff is happening very soon!;( (link)
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You never stated what the surgery was for, what treatment you are having nor why a lot of pain. I can tell you one thing if it's to save your life or any treatment involving surgery or invasive in nature their hands are tied.
Even if they didn't want it for you there's laws requiring them to agree to it. The bottom line is that this is the last round and you made it. Endure it one last time and then you are done.
There's a reason why doctors feel you need this so as hard as it is to accept they wouldn't be making you do it for no reason or if there was another option. It's okay to be scared shitless over a medical procedure that is difficult to understand and endure. Talk to your parents and doctors as doing so may make it less stressful.
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