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i don't want to have sex but he does
hi im only 15 and my boyfreing wants to fuck me
should i do that or just give him head.
personly i dont want to do nether wat should i do
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If you don't want to do either tell him straight out. It is your choice and if you say no then its no. If this boy cares for you he will stay with you regardless of your answer.
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If your boyfriend is pressuring you to do these things then he does not deserve you. I suggest that you tell him NO firmly and if he still continues to pressure you then do what you feel, but personally I would break up with him. every girl in this world deserves someone that will treat her with respect and love and care not a guy that only wants you for your body.
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If you don't want to do either you don't have to do either. Don't have sex with someone because they want you to. If he pushes the issue, dump him. Relationships at 15 years of age do not last long and are not meant to be anything really serious.
Assert yourself. Pushing for sex is at absolute best extremely rude and insensitive and at worst can lead to rape and sexual assault. Do not tolerate it, it's not your job to control his urges, it's his. If he won't control himself and act like a decent human being you should show him that people who aren't decent human beings don't get to have girlfriends and move on to someone who treats you with respect.
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If your not ready for to do something, and this includes sex, then you should not do it. When it comes to sex no means no. If you are forced or compelled to provide sex for someone; that is the definition of rape, even if in the end you consent. Which by the way you are not, by law, you are not old enough to consent to having sexual relations.
If you're feeling that by not providing your boyfriend some form of sexual relief; IE: Head, handjob, intercourse, he will leave you. Then he is not in love with you he lusts for you.
Teenage boys from the time puberty strikes them searches for sexual relief. It is a hormonal thing, hence the term horny. In searching for sex teenage boys very much confuse lust and love.
If all this boy wants is sex and will leave you if he doesn't get it, then let him go for he does not have the proper respect for you.
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If you're not ready to do either, then don't do either.
I can hear you saying "But I love him and I want him to stay!" I know, I know. But wanting to keep a guy interested is no reason to become sexually active.
When you become sexually active, you open yourself up to all sorts of emotions and risks. Even with just oral sex, there's the risk of STI infection, which can last forever. If you're having sex, you risk both STI infection and pregnancy.
I'm not saying that you need to wait until marriage to have sex. Just wait until you know that you're with the right guy and that you're ready. If he's not willing to wait for sex, or if he keeps pressuring you, he's not worth dating no matter how wonderful he is in other ways. By caring more about when he gets a little action than he does about you being happy and comfortable, he's showing that he doesn't respect and care about you. That's not the right person to share a gift like sex with.
So if he won't back off, find someone who will be willing to wait, because you're worth it :)
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If you aren't comfortable with either than that's FINE. Don't do anything you aren't ready for or wanting just to please someone. In the end you have to live with a decision--not him. Tell him that you aren't ready. He should respect that and if he doesn't than it's clear indicator you're with the wrong person. If he loves you he'll understand.
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