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my friend and i had a weird sexual encounter, now what?
so my best friend (along w/ some of our other friends from college) went on a road trip. we all got super drunk. when we got to a hotel me and my best friend got our own room (we are both girls btw) and were sharing a bed. she kept asking me to rub her back so i did then she asked me to rub her leg and i did. i was so wasted, my had accidently lingered too far up her shorts and i noticed she was super super wet, so i slipped my hand in and started to finger her. i know she enjoyed it she started moaning so loud. i fell asleep while i was fingering her, before she reached completion and she woke me up to make me finish. once we were done i went to sleep. its been two weeks and we haven't spoken about this. what should i do to clear the air? does this mean i am a lesbian? also i am college age if that helps at all...
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Sexual orientation is not a three choice option. Most people are not entirely one orientation, but have a severe preference or can only connect emotionally to one gender.
Sexual experimentation is normal and harmless. If you feel the air needs to be cleared, bring it up. If it's going to be an elephant in the room you should bring it up. Before you do, figure out if it was something that just happened, if you're interested in exploring things with girls more (with or without her), or whatever it meant to you. That way if she's wondering about it you're prepared to answer anything she has to ask you about it.
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I wouldn't bring it up unless she does. Odds are she's embarrassed about what transpired it, doesn't understand it or cannot process it. She's asking herself the same questions you are.
If you 100% are attracted to guys and not girls than this doesn't change your orientation. Chalk this up to sexual curiosity while drunk and not in control of what you were doing. Same thing as far as enjoying it in the moment. One experience like this does not a lesbian make. As long as it never happens again I wouldn't worry.
If she comes to you to talk just let her know you were inebriated and aren't interested in doing anything like that again. Above all right now don't feel any guilt or shame about it.
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It makes you a normal young woman who had an experience that you may or may not have enjoyed (you don't mention if you did or not).
Lots of people experiment sexually during their lifetime. It doesn't make you one orientation or another, just like eating hummus for dinner one night doesn't make you a vegetarian. If you did enjoy it, that doesn't mean you're a lesbian. It means you had fun with a cute girl, making her happy.
As for clearing the air, she is your best friend. Mention it when you two are alone, and tell her what you feel about it. If she's uncomfortable with it, leave it at that.
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