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So my boyfriend fingered me for the first time today and it HURT. What can I do to make it more comfortable?
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Like anything else sex is a learned experience. Also anything two people do together requires communication, sex is no exception.
Now if it is possible that your boyfriend is inexperienced in these matters he could have been to rough . Most boys learn from watching porno movies or reading porno magazines. Unfortunately these films and stories all have one theme; which is to stick his fingers in the girl and use them as he might use his penis. Now if the girl is vaginal in nature this is fine. But many girls are clitoral in nature and need to have there clitoris stimulated. Also if you are experienced his sticking his fingers in you are going to hurt just as much as if he had put his penis in you.
Lack of communication is the killer of romance and first sexual contact between two people. If your a virgin or have not had much sexual contact then you need to communicate this to your partner. If he is being to rough and you are not enjoying what is happening tell him so. Slow him down , teach him how to love and make love to you.
We are all different and have different likes and dislikes. How is he or anyone suppose to know what a partners likes and dislikes are if you don't at the very least attempt to show them. This goes equally for the males.
If you do not know what you like and don't like. Go in your room, close and lock the door, undress, get in bed and make love to yourself. Your entire self. Let your hands play with your entire body. Find out for yourself what feels good and does not feel food. Yes this is called masturbating and there is nothing wrong with it. Not only does masturbating relive your sexual tension but it allows you to learn about your bodies pleasure centers. The same is again true for males.
Once you know how you like to be pleasured. You can then teach your partner and have a much more enjoyable sex life.
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Hey there,
Okay this is completely normal especially if you haven't already broken your hymen. The other alternative is your boyfriend could have been a bit rough and perhaps tore or scratched you inside. It takes some getting used to. A lot of stretching out and such. Your boyfriend needs to get to know your body and understand what works for you. So play around a bit (there is nothing wrong with it) and find out what feels good for you. That way you can show him the next time to make it less painful and more comfortable.
Some people just don't enjoy fingering Myself included.
You may have to be stimulated before hand. Have your boyfriend rub your clitoris first and then try fingering. Do a lot of touching and kissing maybe try oral. anything to help relax you. If you 're stressing over it hurting then you are just going to tense up and chances are it will.
Try different techniques and things will start to feel better. It's a case of practice trial and error :)
Good luck hope this helps
Much <3
Jess 18/f
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